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Alec @alec.chloebond.com · 30/12/2025

"Kink Is" contributor GUDRUN: "BDSM gives me freedom and space in the head." "...I could finally let my guard down. I could finally relax in the head." "...run freely and not be hindered by the stern voices in my head. It was still, it was calm, it was good."

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Alec @alec.chloebond.com · 23/12/2025

@katesloan.com hitting the nail on the head relatably again in this most recent Dildorks podcast. I was recently communicating this in relation to ADHD and OCD. That it is when I can be focused on one thing. I still struggle to find any other ways to be "present" without distractions.

A screenshot of the Apple Podcast app showing The Dildorks episode "An Object Lesson" with auto captioning showing this quote: "Kind of funny how much when you think deeply about what it is that we get out of kink, a lot of it sounds like what people say they get out of like meditation or yoga sometimes. Like it's a quiet space in your brain where you can finally breathe and relax."

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Alec @alec.chloebond.com · 03/10/2025

Also RE: Tenga eggs: Maybe people are thinking they're the dissolvable material for Ovipositors?

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Alec @alec.chloebond.com · 03/10/2025

I couldn't not blurt this out: Unfortunately I think part of the "anal is an exception to sex" within religions may come from the horrible roots of "verifying the hymen" cultural practices and the hymen=virginity=purity=value=pure crap.

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Alec @alec.chloebond.com · 01/10/2025

Locktober is a great time to spend a few minutes and visit my Literotica short story "My Notes" - which has a heavy focus on chastity and denial. literotica.com/s/my-notes-c... The first two chapters also available as audio: literotica.com/s/audio-my-n... #locktober #literotica #audioerotica

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My Notes Ch. 01 - Fetish - Literotica.com

Wife surprises husband being adventurous with his desires.

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Alec @alec.chloebond.com · 21/08/2025

I couldn't help but think of the pig transformation scene from Willow - qnd with the OP of the transformation post being born in the 80s can't help but wonder if this was a origin-story/spider-bite for them: www.youtube.com/watch?v=JBFz...

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Willow Pig Transformation in Slow Motion

YouTube video by sam cookes

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Alec @alec.chloebond.com · 10/08/2025

1. Alway present whether active participant or just voyeur 2. Demi-aligned

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Alec @alec.chloebond.com · 08/08/2025

You're in this starter pack that has been getting shared - go.bsky.app/SraxHnC (at least how I stumbled upon you)

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Alec @alec.chloebond.com · 04/08/2025

It's been a few years now but just saw the pod I did got a republish: www.podbean.com/ew/dir-aip23... Now there's 4 kids, within the past week we celebrated 20 years since our first date, and are just about to depart on another cruise. Funny how cyclical life can be.

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The Secret Life of Kinky Parents: Alec Bond’s Sex Stories

37 pansexual heteromantic white cis male, in a monogamous relationship with his partner of 17 years. Topics mentioned:After dark pole classes, age play, anal sex, anxiety, Atlanta Georgia, auto fellat...

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Alec @alec.chloebond.com · 14/07/2025

I was very pleased to see notebooks - I should've expected your good taste after seeing mechanical keyboards in other posts. Good stationery appropriate to a task really does improve enjoyment.

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Alec @alec.chloebond.com · 15/06/2025

Had time to: yes absolutely; taken advantage of it: nope

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Oh Joy Sex Toy @ohjoysextoy.bsky.social · 10/06/2025

Getting on mental health medication can be a literal life-saver, but sometimes the side effects can be a tough pill to swallow. In this sweet, fictional comic, @beatormo.bsky.social looks at the challenges it can have on your sex life and ability to orgasm. www.ohjoysextoy.com/side-effects...

"Today’s comic is drawn by Bea Tormo, it depicts two anthromporhic characters, a pink and large, go lucky bear, and a green cat, who is our protagonist. Both characters are non-binary. The comic is colored in these beautiful pinks, reds, and greens with a bubbly charismatic style. The comic is a mix of autobiography, education, and a splash of fiction, all to do with SSRIs and their side effects. The artist is Spanish, and today's comic has a few small typo's and translation issues that were left in, as the text is all hand-drawn and a part of the aesthetic.

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Bear and Cat are sitting down in a coffee shop with little desserts and teas, and coffees sat in front of them. They are animatedly talking with each other with big grins.
Bear
'You look great! What a change!'
Cat
'Thanks! I feel better. Therapy was a lot of help to me.'
Bear
'You also take medication, don’t you?'

Cat puts their head in their hand and looks into their tea a little more deeply.
Cat
'Yeah.'
Bear
'How is it going?'
Cat
'Well… There are some side effects…'

Bear picks up their tea and twirls a spoon through it as Cat looks away and drinks.
Bear
'What type of side effects?'
Cat
'…Sexual type'

The camera pans and shows us a view from behind them, both little sweat, lines, and nervous motions float off of them both.
Bear
'Sexual? Like what?'
Cat
'Shhhhhh!'
Bear'Sorry!'

The camera flips back in front of them as we see Bear lean forward in a friendly, comforting way as Cat gently rubs their own shoulder
Bear
'I’m sorry, if you don’t want to talk about it, that’s fine.'
Cat
'I want to. But I feel uncomfortable complaining about nonsense with someone who has helped me so much.
I don’t know where to start…'"

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Winton Kidd🔞 @wintonkidd.com · 02/06/2025

The most fun part of making nsfw comics is getting to craft little moments like these 💕 All my wlw comics are on sale for the rest of🏳️‍🌈 Pride Month🏳️‍⚧️💕 I hope you enjoy! itch.io/s/153791/wlw... #comic #nsfwart

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Daniel Duke Windsor, PhD 🏳️‍🌈 @thedukewindsor.bsky.social · 15/04/2024

"Your life should not be a museum." "Being alive is as special an occasion as it gets."

An image of three screenshotted tweets. The original from user @hell_doe: "Thinking about the girl who bought me coffee from Texas and joked that I would have to ration it out for special occasions. My friend, I do not save my good things. Being alive is as special an occasion as it gets."

User Mike Hamilton, RIV tweeted a screenshot of the original tweet to say: "being alive is as special an occasion as it gets" fundamentally altered my brain."

User Oliver Darkshire quote tweeted Hamilton to say, "Ten years as an antiquarian, hearing nothing but "my relative kept these untouched in a box their whole life but they died and I don't want this stuff" has radicalized me. annotate the books. use the china. wear the clothes until they wear out. your life should not be a museum."

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Alec @alec.chloebond.com · 16/05/2025

...and in nerd-land it's an error for Out Of Memory, which also seems applicable to 3AM crafting :)

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Alec @alec.chloebond.com · 07/05/2025

Not miss, but reminisce.

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Alec @alec.chloebond.com · 07/05/2025

Urge to write a 5th installment of my romantic chastity erotica that I loved making - then hesitation - last update was (checks notes) on this day in 2022. Feels overwhelming to try to re-dig-in and remember where the story was going at that point in time - yet I can't just abandon it.

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jo ♡ @jovixen.bsky.social · 26/04/2025

A girlboss dreams of coming home to a clean house, dinner on the table, and her househusband wearing nothing but an apron #nsfw #gentlefemdom

A woman in business clothes stands behind a man wearing nothing but an apron, pushing him against the counter. Wrapping her hand around to the front, she says "dinner was delicious dear. Now I want you for dessert. You can clean up the kitchen later."

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Kate Sloan (she/her) @katesloan.com · 17/04/2025

NEW on the blog: Review: Seekheart Licker tongue-like toy girlyjuice.net/review-seekh... Occasionally a toy surprises me by making me come really hard when I didn't think it was going to be able to... This was one of those.

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Review: Seekheart Licker tongue-like toy

This tongue-shaped toy actually made me come. That may not seem like big news, especially for anyone reading this who happens to have gone down on me before, and therefore knows how much I like rec…

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Alec @alec.chloebond.com · 14/04/2025

Your progress is amazing; here though even your 'old' still has a fantastic charm to it that you haven't lost.

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Alec @alec.chloebond.com · 05/04/2025

Really cool to see something creative even if it isn't perfect. I was thinking your exact words right before I got to this: "I love when sex you companies take a big swing, innovation-wise" The price point is right in the sweet spot of safe-curiosity levels too. I thought it would be more!

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Alec @alec.chloebond.com · 28/03/2025

Great article; a sidepoint/head's-up: gq.com 's "Meet The Sexperts" section on that article (and your stand-alone contributor page <https://www.gq.com/contributor/kate-sloan>) are linking to your downed Instagram. IDK if you can but it may be worth them correcting if they can/willing.

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The latest tips and advice for men on style, grooming, fitness, best products, travel destinations and more. Find politics, sports and entertainment news.

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Alec @alec.chloebond.com · 25/03/2025

Now that I've heard the pitch I definitely will feel unfulfilled until I can read this.

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Alec @alec.chloebond.com · 30/12/2024

I thought that was a thing people only try to do in person with their intention to expect a "No, really! Feel!" as the response.

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Alec @alec.chloebond.com · 24/11/2024

Very true - I absolutely agree! My note at porn there is specific to things like "you're so wet for me" which is a wonderful and erotic thing to say/hear but I think jades some viewers perspective (it did mine in my youth).

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Alec @alec.chloebond.com · 24/11/2024

Mass & porn media pushed a narrative of wet/lubricated as indicators of feminine arousal to generations. I think there is fear from both sides of some couples of having "failed" some weird standard if they want/need assistance (regardless of its type).

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