Yeah, the hyper-policing of colloquially "anthropomorphizing" language is mostly an attempt to try to make it extremely difficult to talk about the manifest capabilities of these systems, and sneak in controversial vulgar-reductionist views (e.g. the stochastic parrot "hypothesis").
I’ll say it; I think this is bad. I think there’s growing pressure to talk about AI in this kind of coded language that destroys understanding, rather than facilitating it. People want you to recite a list of its supposed weaknesses as a reassurance for themselves, not to inform others.