There are a lot of parents focused on getting gentleness *for* their sons, but not expecting their sons to show gentleness to anyone else.
And that’s just male entitlement in liberal window dressing.
@poemsandfungus.bsky.socialWhen I was teaching, so many white parents were raising "gentle/sensitive" but selfish sons by asking for special treatment. "He was sad you didn't call on him today, could you call on him first tomorrow?" Always a lesson about using words, but never a lesson that sometimes it's other people's turn.