Yes, actual trauma. My son went most of his childhood believing we were constantly LYING to him, because we would say, "I told you X!" and he didn't remember. He could not narrate his school day in order, or read a book. The world was a Kafkaesque irrational place that seemed to hate him
for fucking REAL. the depth of trauma for those undiagnosed with ADHD is real. not just the way we feel like we're constantly failing (because everyone is telling us we are) but not understanding WHY because we have no context to understand other people aren't struggling with the things we are.