iiinova — where your digital self keeps evolving

ok yea so going back to the OP, the operative questions are: 1) who do i think i will be cocreating a life with in ~20 years? and how do i decide if a new friend has crossed that threshold? 2) how much energy should i be putting into those relationships v. pursuing and developing new ones?

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micheal phelps (weed) @yea.bsky.social · 07/05/2023

ofc there are many other good ways to organize people socially, and i am talking about something really ambitious and unpragmatic (possibly unrealistic) but this is basically what i’m trying to create

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micheal phelps (weed) @yea.bsky.social · 07/05/2023

but afaict this is how you generate cohesive scenes. there needs to be socially enforced obligations to show up (opt-out vs. opt-in), and a clear sense of ingroup (who is really a part of it, and who is just adjacent)

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micheal phelps (weed) @yea.bsky.social · 07/05/2023

eventually you need to enforce (both personally and as a group): - a degree of exclusivity, and - expectations of commitment this is subversive to mainstream social culture and also can appear “cultish” from the outside

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micheal phelps (weed) @yea.bsky.social · 07/05/2023

lots of ppl want to live in tight knit community w their best homies. and i think during covid this went mainstream. but it’s really really hard to implement as adults, esp w social and romantic relationships that are incompatible/external to the community

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micheal phelps (weed) @yea.bsky.social · 07/05/2023

so the question that follows is: how do you populate your life with a network of people who represent those things, and [IMPORTANT] are committed to doing it with you and each other over a period of literally ~decades~

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micheal phelps (weed) @yea.bsky.social · 07/05/2023

“community” and “belonging” are 👍 and for me it’s basically settled that life is about shared experience w people you love and trust (+ who can support/challenge/stimulate/care for you)

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micheal phelps (weed) @yea.bsky.social · 07/05/2023

a possibly misguided but interesting criteria to index my priorities: how do i spend the most volume of meaningful time cultivating relationships w people who i will actually try to build a life with

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micheal phelps (weed) @yea.bsky.social · 06/05/2023

ideological capture is distinct from having strong conviction but they can look pretty similar on the outside

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micheal phelps (weed) @yea.bsky.social · 05/05/2023

if i’m being honest i never understood the appeal of red velvet cake

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micheal phelps (weed) @yea.bsky.social · 05/05/2023

the names bin ladin. obama ben laden

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micheal phelps (weed) @yea.bsky.social · 29/04/2023

ok i gonna take the account in another direction

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micheal phelps (weed) @yea.bsky.social · 29/04/2023

had to pump the brakes on tittys which slowed my roll a bit. may be time to face the music tho. i don’t think big titty anime girls are gonna take off here. perhaps the concept was ahead of it’s time

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micheal phelps (weed) @yea.bsky.social · 29/04/2023

nah i’m good fam. reporting for duty 🫡

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micheal phelps (weed) @yea.bsky.social · 22/04/2023

i really liked the dancing anime money printer meme

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micheal phelps (weed) @yea.bsky.social · 22/04/2023

we like the money printer brrrrrr

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micheal phelps (weed) @yea.bsky.social · 22/04/2023