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Hierarchy only exists in the minds of those who have not broken free of such illusions. whothefami.substack.com

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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 01/09/2026
You’ve gotta get creative during a recession. Hard times create strong men.Poker bankroll still climbing. Doesn’t look like much. Foundations if I keep my edge.Mental game is hardest. Up 1.5x, down to 0.75, climb back. Tilt, or breathe and bounce back? Poker is my bridge overseas. #MentalGame
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 25/08/2026
Walking through Phsar Chas, deep tech in my ears, fully into it. In rapport from the coffee meditations. Cheap African-print outfit. Effortless. At ease. Comfortable in Asia now. Confident. Enough Khmer to connect. Last time I felt this much flow was back in Australia. Something big has shifted.
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 24/08/2026
Walking messed-up Cambodian streets. Relaxed. Slow. In tune.No more closing my eyes. Meditate eyes open in the busy marketplace.Ten months in and I finally feel real rapport. Calm in the chaos. Like I belong.What I needed wasn’t to shut the world out. It was to open to it. #SoutheastAsia
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 21/08/2026
I struggle in workplaces because I’m too competent. Threat to people who don’t do the work. Everything’s going to be alright. I’m building something. Same feeling that took me from $2k to $100k in crypto. Last night 111111 in my poker chips. I’ll make it out alive. Let’s go. #NewJourney
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 19/08/2026
I’ve been travelling Southeast Asia and keep meeting Filipinos in Laos and Cambodia. Good English, happy, caring, sharp logic. Real assets. Yet they’re often exploited and treated as lower class here. There’s no logic in that. They deserve better. #Filipinos whothefami.substack.com/p/filipinos-...
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Filipinos Deserve Better
Strong, caring, logical, and still treated as lower class across Southeast Asia
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 16/08/2026
Sometimes I feel full-blown euphoria on a Tuesday and people look at me like I’m performing or just weird. I don’t think I’m the problem. This is what happiness looks like. It’s not a polite smile for your boss. whothefami.substack.com/p/this-is-wh... #Euphoria
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This Is What Happiness Looks Like
Full-blown euphoria on a Tuesday and the people who can’t meet it
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 14/08/2026
Relapsed and realised it’s not the worst thing. Something to learn. Poker was profitable but taxing and killing creative time. I’m 35, building a new life. Poker and DJing were the old world. Now writing and exploring music again, nu jazz, nu funk. Time to expand. #NewChapter
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 13/08/2026
"Top 3%, profitable, and done with the grind. Going to war three nights a week with people who don't even know how to smile is taxing." The games I love are waiting somewhere else. #Poker
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 11/08/2026
Why wait for Friday or New Year to have fun? Enjoying every day is a skill. Make a dumb joke. Compliment the bored girl at reception. Break the Monday-to-Thursday script. The world has enough weekend drunks. What it needs are coffee hooligans Mon–Thu, turning life into one giant celebration.
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 10/08/2026
Gestalt therapist told me to stay playful. In Phnom Penh the staff kept deflecting me and sending me on wild goose chases for a workspace that doesn’t exist. So I went upstairs, smiled, and rearranged the big furniture myself. They just stood there thinking “what the hell, this isn’t the script.”
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 08/08/2026
This will be my third shot at moving and doubling up my life. If it doesn’t work out I’ll try again because you must play through the downswings to win. Keep taking the right shots. There’s always another game. #risk
Go all in
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 06/08/2026
I try to go to bed early. I lay there tense. I can feel a war in the back of my head. The light in me wasn’t strong enough tonight and I felt spiritually attacked. #spiritualwar
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 01/08/2026
"I'm not perfect. I'm human. But I'm one person who is trying. Trying very, very hard. And that pisses some people off." I've fallen again. But I will rise once again. #Resilience
Man falling
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 28/07/2026
"Seriousness is a disease. So I threw a book together because it's fun, like a sandwich." I really am a writer. And this is not a short-term project. #AmWriting whothefami.substack.com/p/seriousnes...
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Seriousness Is a Disease
I threw a book together because it's fun, like a sandwich.
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 27/07/2026
"It's not about the coffee. It's a meditation, a ritual, and an anchor for someone travelling." Bad energy in the cup? I feel it, and now I have to drink it too. whothefami.substack.com/p/its-not-ab... #Coffee
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It's Not About the Coffee
Three things I look for, and why a morning cup is a meditation, a ritual and an anchor when you're travelling.
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 24/07/2026
"Have I become a glitch in the matrix? Zeroed out?" I'm a little lost right now, I must admit. But the path feels right. Being redirected. To I don't know where yet. #Limbo
Coloured Glitch
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 20/07/2026
"I realised I had nothing useful to say. Why say anything? What good will it do?" Learning the Southeast Asian art of silence. #Culture whothefami.substack.com/p/keeping-th...
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Keeping The Peace
A voice room, a rude stranger, and learning the Southeast Asian art of silence.
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 19/07/2026
"ADHD is not a disability. It's a different perspective and it's my edge." I ticked no. He ticked the box anyway. Now I need a doctor to say I'm fit to drive. #ADHD
Test
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 16/07/2026
"I woke up wanting to say, you can't stop me, I'm on a mission from God. But she already fled. The kitchen is mine." On a mission from God. #BluesBrothers
Chicago Draw Bridge
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 14/07/2026
"Why get stressed searching for the perfect place to sit when I can be here, watching the world move?" Coffee and cultural observation as mindfulness. #Mindfulness whothefami.substack.com/p/watching-t...
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Watching The World
Coffee and cultural observation as mindfulness, discovered in the markets of Cambodia.
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 13/07/2026
The greatest act of rebellion is to breathe. Stand up tall and walk slowly under the sun. Thoroughly enjoy your life. Be grateful for it amidst all the chaos that life brings. Walking slowly, listening to music, basking in the freedom. That is the biggest act of rebellion. #rebellion
Walking into sunset on a dirt path
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 13/07/2026
"Southeast Asia taught me all I really need is coffee, the safety of street food, genuine human connection, and an airport to get me out of dodge." Tired of being a walking money bag. #TravelWriting whothefami.substack.com/p/all-i-real...
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All I Really Need
Coffee, street food, genuine connection, and an airport out of dodge.
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 10/07/2026
"I'm not a problem. I'm just the scapegoat. And all we want to do is stand in the sun and shine." To say people with ADHD are misunderstood is an understatement. #ADHD
Goats running together
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 07/07/2026
"I let go of worrying about meditation. I just existed and watched." Something has shifted. I feel in sync with this city. #Mindfulness whothefami.substack.com/p/meditating...
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Meditating With My Eyes Wide Open
This morning I meditated with my eyes wide open at a coffee shop overlooking the market, many locals curious about me, I think simply because I sat still, observing for hours with a coffee.
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 06/07/2026
"It would be near impossible to meditate here. But I can watch this for hours." Motorbikes, vegetables, people bashing meat. A tiger shirt and African-patterned pants. #Mindfulness whothefami.substack.com/p/i-can-watc...
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I Can Watch This For Hours
Meditation is very important to me, but it can become rigid when slow travelling.
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 02/07/2026
"She told me I've got nothing. Really? Who has nothing? I'm sane. You're not. I walk. It's logistics." Losing everything? No. You've kept your sanity. #Resilience
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 01/07/2026
"I'm awake. I'm very fucking awake. And that's scary as fuck. Like one long acid trip that doesn't stop." Easy to ignore, because it's ugly. #Awakening
Health advertising behind the camera
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 30/06/2026
"I feel trapped here, and that's why I'm leaving anyway. Otherwise the vultures will pick my bones dry." 5:30am. Delirious. Sirens on the street. #SoloTravel whothefami.substack.com/p/the-vultur...
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The Vultures of Phnom Penh
I’m tired and delirious.
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 28/06/2026
"Everyone says to be yourself. But being your true self, that's really, really hard." Meditation can't solve this one. I'm grieving what I walked away from. #Authenticity
Walking alone
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 23/06/2026
"Let go of expectations. Be humble. Be open. Be patient. Something more behind these faded street food signs will reveal itself." The magic of cross-cultural connection. #StreetFood whothefami.substack.com/p/behind-the...
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Behind the Faded Street Food Signs
I've really been meaning to watch more of Anthony Bourdain and to read more of his work but from what I understand is I see what this man was trying to communicate on a much deeper level.
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 21/06/2026
The control, the anxiety, the fear, it isn't mine. I float through life with ease. Just here to make the coffee. #GreyRock
Cooking Pot Boiling Over
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 16/06/2026
I can turn a room on fire if I want to. But being alone is becoming more and more appealing. I'm fine being me. It's simple. #Solitude whothefami.substack.com/p/im-fine-be...
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I'm Fine Being Me
I’m the kind of guy who can turn a room on fire if that’s what I want to do.
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 10/06/2026
The more you grow, the harder it gets. I'll survive this. I always do. Why give me these gifts of perception? #Resilience
Eucalyptus trees
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 08/06/2026
Just being my fully weird self gives permission to others. And that's powerful. I didn't think I did much. But she felt seen. #Authenticity
Californian hippie barista making funny face
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 08/06/2026
Maybe, just maybe, I'll feel more comfortable in Bishkek. Or just freezing. Kyrgyzstan soon. whothefami.substack.com/p/wherever-i... #SoloTravel
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Wherever I Am, a Russian Makes Me Feel at Home
I’m sitting here writing and listening to Russians speak, absorbing the language.
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 02/06/2026
No PowerPoints. No Wi-Fi. Just genuine human connection. A bubble of protection. A bubble of peace. #Connection whothefami.substack.com/p/no-powerpo...
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No PowerPoints. No Wi-Fi. Just Genuine Human Connection.
Even in the most intense of Southeast Asian countries, among all the mistrust, once you step out of the Tuk Tuk and into a local street-food spot, everything changes.
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 01/06/2026
The vibe is heavy — but I'm leaning into it as a challenge. No passport. Romanian Minimal Breaks. Heading to the library. #SoloTravel whothefami.substack.com/p/riding-in-...
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Riding in a Tuk Tuk Listening to Romanian Breaks
Riding in a Tuk Tuk, listening to Romanian Minimal Breaks.
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 29/05/2026
I feel like a walking ATM with no passport, unable to sleep at night. I need the passport. I need to leave. #SoloTravel open.substack.com/pub/whothefa...
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I Want My Passport Back
I want my passport back.
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 27/05/2026
I collapsed their egos to teach them a lesson. But maybe I was just enjoying the dopamine. Now it's time to let that go. whothefami.substack.com/p/rattling-p... #ShadowWork
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Rattling People Became My Drug of Choice
Wow — it was like a drug.
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 26/05/2026
I'm actually on the tram to come and introduce myself right now. Going all the way. No other option. #Hustle
Man walking in the snow
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 24/05/2026
I'm not an ATM. And paradoxically, I am writing about this. It just is what it is. #SoloTravel whothefami.substack.com/p/im-not-an-...
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I'm Not an ATM
I'm disappointed!
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 22/05/2026
That's why I go alone, to be present and build bridges around the world. We are the world. #SoloTravel whothefami.substack.com/p/we-are-the...
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We Are The World
Solo traveling is total freedom.
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 21/05/2026
I’ve never been great at taking photos, but now I feel like I’m a photographer. Instead of a camera, I’m using my phone to type while capturing vivid moments in time, something I could never quite achieve with a camera. #writing
Polaroid Camera
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 18/05/2026
The same thing he wanted is now using that same skill against him. Walking like an emperor. Eyes focused. Tunnel vision. #Mindset
Chess
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 16/05/2026
No labels. No visible support. And nothing to stop me. Ever. Walked away. Didn't beg. Solved my problem. #Resilience
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 15/05/2026
I'm here, but I'm not. Yet I'm enjoying the detachment regardless. Further along the healing journey. And that's a great sign. #Healing whothefami.substack.com/p/last-night...
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Last Night in Phnom Penh Was a Blast
Last night, my first in Phnom Penh, was random and a blast — a walk in the park ended in a long adventure with new friends.
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 14/05/2026
I just said hello in their language because they're human too. Thank you for walking away now. whothefami.substack.com/p/women-aren... #Respect
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Women Aren't a Game They Are People
Hey bro don’t fist bump me women aren’t a game bro they are human just like me and you maybe they speak different languages why not get curious about others cultures.
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 13/05/2026
This is what happens when your vibes are high — you attract, as they say in Asia, same same. First night in Phnom Penh. Three on a motorbike. Ice cream by the river. #SoloTravel whothefami.substack.com/p/feeling-hi...
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Feeling High Vibes in Phnom Penh
Feeling high vibes in Phnom Penh — clean from addiction for two weeks.
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 12/05/2026
Make peace. Don't leech. I'm not a leech. I need peace. Battle tested. Tired. Ready. #Healing
Leeches
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whothefami.bsky.social @whothefami.bsky.social · 08/05/2026
You can work a 9 to 5 without being a 9 to 5er. We are going to the same place. But we are not arriving at the same destination. #Mindset
Girl walking in Sand Dunes
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