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![Picking Sides by Hien Pham published on April 22, 2025 for Oh Joy Sex Toy
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Hien Pham illustrates his comic with a simplified-realistic style with lovingly rendered hair details that sweep along his characters. He uses a full spectrum of colors and rich textures.
Narration: Dr. Joe Kort, a sex and relationship therapist, coined the term Side in his 2013 online article "Guys on the 'Side': Looking Beyond Gay Tops and Bottoms". To put simply, a Side is a gay man who does not prefer penetrative anal sex.
A series of dating profile cards fans across the page. There are three that take the forefront.
One card is titled, "HAIRY BOTTOM" and is pink and purple hued showing a selfie of a fat man with curly brown hair and a full short beard. The stats read,
Online
35, Single
Bottom, Vers, Oral
[obscured], 135kg
[obscured]
The middle card is labeled "SIDE BEAR", featuring a candid photo of a tall man with slicked back pink hair, rectangular glasses, and a neat full beard who is getting his cheek licked by a dog.
Stats:
Online
42, Single
Side, Oral, Fetish
185 cm, 120kg
"Lover of dogs and body h[obscured]
The third card peeks out from under the stack of profiles with the title, "TOP [eyeballs emoji] NOW". A short man with fluffy blond-dyed hair, circular glasses, and mutton chops beard poses in a summery suit, clearly in a group picture but he has cropped out the others so the focus is on him. The stats of that profile are obscured.
Narration: It's only within the last few years that the biggest gay dating apps have started to allow their users to identify as Sides.
Narration: It was on one of these apps that I first encountered the label, and it took me by complete surprise.
"Huh?" Muses a mildly surprised Hien as he looks at the phone that he holds in his two hands.
Full transcript: https://www.ohjoysextoy.com/picking-sides-hien-pham](https://cdn.bsky.app/img/feed_thumbnail/plain/did:plc:omrk7574omkidtfsspobq35w/bafkreig3scqsz7vh3z3giogazpzxur3kqckyosicpydyqzqwuv5aazo2py)
