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Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 19/04/2026

My FINAL #Heartstopper series reaction is now up on YouTube! ❤️ youtu.be/GqbtlFVY5JA?...

YouTube thumbnail of Nick and Charlie from Heartstopper embracing with the text "Heartstopper Season 3, Episode 8"

Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 13/03/2026

NEW VIDEO: Let's talk Dan & Phil! Who are they, what are some of their best videos, and why do they me so much damn joy? Now up on YouTube! youtu.be/Rvmg4hB9u2c?... #danandphil #video

YouTube thumbnail of Dan Howell and Philip Lester posing in front of a London background with a "Top 5" trophy with Thom appearing on the right in the foreground.

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Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 26/02/2026

What's this? A new #Heartstopper reaction?! (Gasp.) Nick and Charlie have an intimate chat, the ghost of Sarah Nelson communicates via doors slamming and keys jangling, and Nick and the girls head off on a uni tour road trip. Now up on YouTube! youtu.be/9HE44MYWprQ?...

YouTube thumbnail of Nick, Tara, Imogen, and Elle from Heartstopper posing on a college campus with Thom looking thoughtful in the foreground - text reads "Heartstopper season 3, episode 8"

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Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 05/12/2025

NEW VIDEO: No heat and too many holiday onions! What does it mean? Great question. youtu.be/hxR4LD4A550?... #video #YouTube #queer #trans

Thom in a black hoodie on a blue background covered in snowflakes with the text "Ho Ho Oh No" and a cartoon onion (arms folded, looking smug) standing on a pile of onions (not cartoon).

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Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 13/11/2025

A pretty important video: Finally opening up about what's been going on with me this year and why it's led to such a drastic lack of content. (Also probably my most dramatic thumbnail thus far. :P) youtu.be/A2vwz9Duohs

Thom looking serious on a blue background with the text, 'What happened?"

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Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 01/11/2025

NEW VIDEO: A cozy watch-and-chat of the #Halloween classic, It's the Great Pumpkin, Charlie Brown! Let's talk Halloween candy, trick-or-treat traditions, and whether or not you would sit in a pumpkin patch all night to spend some time with your crush. :P 🎃 youtu.be/1JbQkneLt_s?...

Text: It's the Great Pumpkin, Charlie Brown Cozy Watch & Chat"
Picture: Linus and Sally in the pumpkin patch in the background, the movie's DVD cover on the left and Thom on the right smiling in a black baseball cap with a jack-o-lantern on it.

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Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 23/10/2025

Episode 6 of The Trans Life Podcast is now live on YouTube, Spotify, Podbean, and Apple Podcasts! What fictional characters helped you get through your childhood and teenage years? youtu.be/6cp1Z9_KwyM?... #trans #podcast #queer #lgbtqia

Blue and green background with Thom in front, characters from Star Wars, Peter Pan, Highlander, etc. beside him, text: "The Trans Life Podcast" "The Boys I Wanted to Be: Fictional Characters & My Trans Journey."

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Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 15/10/2025

New #Heartstopper reaction video, now up on YouTube! Nick and Charlie's amorous endeavors are interrupted by a David jumpscare, Tao confronts a slimy (?!) cucumber, and Tara is healed by dog cuddles. youtu.be/fB1YLB07ODg?...

YouTube thumbnail of Thom in front of Nick and Charlie lying in bed together in their school uniforms looking surprised with the text: "Heartstopper Season 3, Episode 7, 1"

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Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 26/09/2025

NEW VIDEO: What should you do with your trans loved one's pre-transition photos - keep them, edit them, delete them? Let's discuss! youtu.be/6CTDiv6ZNS8?... #trans #lgbtqia #trans101

YouTube thumbnail with the text "Trans 101: What should I do with my trans love one's pre-transition photos?"

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Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 10/09/2025

FYI, I'll be streaming at twitch.tv/thom_is_trans today around 6:30 PM CT - playing one of my favorite horror games, Paranormal Cleanup, with Simply Savina (@archangelsavina.bsky.social). Stop by to see us try to clean all the things while being hunted by malicious entities - fun times for all! :D

Paranormal Cleanup video game cover (four people dressed as janitors in front of three malicious entities with glowing red eyes) and the text: 6:30 PM CT, twitch.tv/thom_is_trans/

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Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 30/08/2025

I swear half of my waking life is trying to figure out how the song that is currently in my head got into my head in the first place. (Current Song: Edelweiss from The Sound of Music. No idea.)

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Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 26/08/2025

NEW VIDEO: Did you ever wonder how you should refer to a trans person when you're talking about them pre-transition? What pronouns should you use, what name, and why? That's what we're talking about in the first installment of what I hope will be a series: Trans 101! youtu.be/jHxPF5bXlYw?...

YouTube thumbnail: Thom looking thoughtful on a greenish-blue background with "TRANS 101" in large yellow letters behind him and "How to talk about a trans person's past" in a white bubble beside him.

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Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 15/08/2025

And finally, the third of my random flood of videos this week looks at something I've had on my mind for a while: Do books and other media about queer and trans people *need* to include trauma in order to be "realistic"? Let's discuss! youtu.be/SRFlI9hULa0?... #books #queer #trans #lgbtqia

Thumbnail for YouTube video entitled, "Do we need trauma in queer & trans stories?" Picture of Elle, Nick, and Charlie from Heartstopper (all looking serious) + Thom looking throughtful

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Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 14/08/2025

Part 2 of my S3E6 #Heartstopper reaction is now up! And unlike the last two videos, this one might actually not get blocked for copyright, hooray. :P Michael makes breakfast, Nick gets flustered by Jonathan Bailey, and Katy Newnham gets a firm spot on my shit list. Enjoy! ❤️ youtu.be/KJI7bTFK_3U?...

Heartstopper, Season 3 Episode 6, part 2 - thumbnail of YouTube video with Nick and Charlie talking to Jack Maddox

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Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 10/08/2025

I recently had the chance to talk to the amazing Jackson Bird about all things trans + finding joy in difficult times. It was such a good conversation, so definitely check it out if such a thing interests you! ❤️ youtu.be/86A1NhGzZI8?... #queer #trans #podcast

The Trans Life Podcast: Finding Joy, With Jackson Bird (episode 5)

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Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 21/06/2025

FYI, I'm going to be co-streaming over on Twitch with Savina (@archangelsavina.bsky.social) around noon CST today - definitely stop by if you're in the mood for some cozy chaos and horror-related shenanigans! twitch.tv/thom_is_trans/ twitch.tv/simplysavina/ #twitch #gaming #horror

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Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 21/06/2025

Tomorrow = Saturday 6/21, which I of course did not mention in the actual post.

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Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 14/05/2025

The next #Heartstopper season 3 reaction is now (finally) up on YouTube! This time we're looking at the second half of episode 5, "Winter." youtu.be/sdq8vsKN9rM?...

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Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 20/03/2025

Huge news! The audiobook for my coming-of-age trans YA novel, DREAMERS, is now officially out! It’s narrated by the very talented Zia Amador and is a beautiful interpretation of the characters and story that mean so much to me. Definitely grab a copy if you’re able! 🏳️‍⚧️ tjbaer.com/dreamers

Starry blue background with "Dreamers: a novel by T.J. Baer" audiobook cover and the text, "trans boys, romance, & dream-walking" + "AUDIOBOOK NOW AVAILABLE" "tjbaer.com"

Picture of smiling young man in glasses and a yellow beanie with the text "NARRATED BY ZIA AMADOR - amadorbilingualvoiceovers.com" on a starry blue background.

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Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 17/03/2025

It's Christmas time in #Heartstopper land! Part 1 of my reaction and analysis for episode 5 of season 3, "Winter," is now up on YouTube! youtu.be/v5MZJeAnxNs?...

Nick and Charlie from season 3, episode 5 of Heartstopper looking at a colorful Jenga tower with Thom superimposed in front. Text: "Heartstopper Season 3 Episode 5 - 1"

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Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 09/03/2025

A million years later, part 2 of my reaction and analysis to #Heartstopper 3x04 is finally up on YouTube! 🎉 Hands down my favorite episode of the season, and possibly the entire series. ❤️ youtu.be/WUpAYiG67jw

Nick and Charlie sitting on a couch at the mental health clinic gazing at each other with a smiling Thom superimposed over them on the right side. Text reads: "Heartstopper Season 3 Episode 4 - 2"

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Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 21/02/2025

My ghostly queer YA novel, REMEMBER ME, has officially been released into the world! You can find buy links and more over on my author website at tjbaer.com/remember-me "Sweet, heartfelt and real . . . Heartstopper with a supernatural twist." -Edward Underhill #newrelease #lgbtq #books #romance

Teal background with book "Remember Me" in foreground (boy in a red, blue, and gray sweatshirt in the woods looking at a ghost boy walking down the path ahead of him) with yellow text: "A boy who feels invisible meets a boy who's actually invisible... Available now!"

"Sweet, heartfelt, and real" "An adorably relatable ride through self-worth, ghost boyfriends, and first love." "A beautiful, heartwarming journey" "One of those stories that wraps around your heart" "Heartstopper with a supernatural twist"

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Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 06/02/2025

An amazing blurb for my new book, REMEMBER ME, from one of my favorite authors! ❤️

Dark teal background with gold glitter at the bottom. Text: "Sweet, heartfelt, and real, a touching ode to the powerful connections that carry us through everyday life. If you've ever wanted Heartstopper with a supernatural twist, this is the book for you. -Edward Underhill, author of Always the Almost and This Day Changes Everything." Book cover: "Remember Me, T.J. Baer"

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Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 22/01/2025

My ghostly queer YA novel, REMEMBER ME, is now available for preorder! You can find the links (plus a summary and excerpt) here on my author website: tjbaer.com/remember-me

Book cover for Remember Me (boy in a red hooded sweatshirt looking toward a ghostly boy walking through the woods) with the text: "A boy who feels invisible meets a boy who's actually invisible... Now available for preorder."

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Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 14/01/2025

My next book, a ghostly queer YA romance called REMEMBER ME, officially has a release date: February 21st! I'm so happy with the way this book turned out, so I can't wait for people to finally be able to read it. Preorder links coming soon! ❤️ tjbaer.com/remember-me

Book cover of "Remember Me" by T.J. Baer on a dark blue background with the text "A boy who feels invisible meets a boy who's actually invisible..." at the top and "COMING FEB. 21" at the bottom.

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Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 13/01/2025

Thank you so much! ❤️❤️❤️

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Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 04/01/2025

Oh my gad, a costream! @archangelsavina.bsky.social and I are planning to try our hands at two random horror games, School Labyrinth and Haunted Investigation, tomorrow (Saturday) around noon CST. Stop by and enjoy the chaos! :P Me: twitch.tv/thom_is_trans/ Savina: twitch.tv/simplysavina/

Graphic text: School Labyrinth & Haunted Investigation costream! SimplySavina, thom_is_trans, Saturday the 4th at 12PM Central.

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Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 02/01/2025

Now up on YouTube: Part one of my reaction & analysis for episode 4 of season 3 of #Heartstopper! youtu.be/gD-RFBrHmH8?...

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HEARTSTOPPER 3x4 Reaction & Analysis (PART 1)

YouTube video by thom_is_trans

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Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 22/12/2024

Looking at "best LGBTQ+ dating sites" to work on my forever-alone status and am a bit shocked by how many force you to choose a single gender to be interested in. *sighs in pansexual* Also v. not impressed by a site that offered the option "man seeking transgenders." So we're off to a good start. :P

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a man in a white shirt says heavy sigh in front of a group of people

ALT: a man in a white shirt says heavy sigh in front of a group of people

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Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 15/12/2024

Playing some Nuclear Nightmare with @archangelsavina.bsky.social and some other folks today around noon CST! We're going to die a lot and get scared a lot and possibly transform into monsters, so come hang out if that appeals to you. :P twitch.tv/thom_is_trans #horror #nuclearnightmare #gaming

Scary image of person in a gas mask in a snowy environment with the text "Nuclear Nightmare"

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Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 05/12/2024

I also feel compelled to mention that the initial post should say "laughing AT and relating to" and that should tell you all you need to know about me in general

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Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 05/12/2024

I’ve also come back with a “borderline indication” for autism, but we’re focusing on one thing at a time here, dammit 😅

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Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 05/12/2024

I think it never occurred to me before that I might have it since I had this very stereotypical view of what having ADHD looked like, which is also why I never realized I had OCD until very recently. It’s almost as if mental health education would be useful for the population at large or something~🤔

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Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 05/12/2024

Me, for years: *following ADHD creators on social media, laughing and relating to ADHD memes, relating deeply to ADHD friends' experience* Me: *finally takes an ADHD assessment* .............well, shit So yeah, the therapist and I will be discussing this in our next session for sure. 😅

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Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 27/11/2024

Thanks for letting me know about this! I didn't even know it was a thing. :O

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Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 26/11/2024

I did not know that - thanks for the tip! :)

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Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 26/11/2024

And I swear I'm going to be posting actual positive content on this account very soon, just currently going through this messy breakup with a toxic "X," but that should all be behind us soon. 😎

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Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 26/11/2024

Super love that my "I'm out" post on Twitter, intended for the folks who follow me on there to know where to find me, apparently randomly got a bunch of views and thus garnered the attention of the very people I am leaving that platform to avoid. So yeah, thanks for that, love that for me. :P

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Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 26/11/2024

So, pretty sure I'm officially done with That Other Site. I wasn't sure what was going to be the final straw to finally remove me from it completely, but hopping on there this morning and seeing Elliot Page's deadname trending? I just...no. No thank you.

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a man wearing a black and white sweater with #schitts creek written on the bottom

Alt: Gif of David Rose from Schitt's Creek saying, "I don't want any of that" while waving his hand around in a circle in front of him.

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Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 15/11/2024

Very much a new experience to be able to click on the Home tab of a website like this and not immediately be assaulted by awful opinions from awful people who don't think I should be allowed to exist. Praise be to Bluesky~

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Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 13/11/2024

I think it's important to be able to talk about mental health stuff (now more than ever), so hey, let's talk about OCD. youtu.be/DxDno2wS-O0?...

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Hey, let's talk about OCD (and mental health in general)

YouTube video by thom_is_trans

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Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 12/11/2024

How has it only been one week since election day - I feel like it's been about a thousand years 💀

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Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 10/11/2024

Time to get emotional over Kit and Joe's brilliant acting for the third episode in a row! My reaction & analysis of #Heartstopper season 3, episode 3 ("Talk") is now up over on YT~❤️ youtu.be/G7mSLp9eMd8?...

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EMOTIONAL DAMAGE (again) [Heartstopper 3x03 Reaction & Analysis: "Talk"]

YouTube video by thom_is_trans

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Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 09/11/2024

Going live in about an hour (9 AM CST) with some chill #Heartstopper coloring and chatting! Come hang out and disassociate for awhile! ❤️ www.youtube.com/live/bgSahgA...

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Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 07/11/2024

Just so you know, rewatching your Heartstopper reaction videos was a big part of what kept me sane yesterday, so seriously, thank you for that. ❤️

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Thom (T.J. Baer) @thom-is-trans.bsky.social · 07/11/2024

I figure I'll start posting more here perhaps maybe? It sure beats That Other Place.💀

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