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Kyrus Keenan Westcott @thevibewithky.bsky.social · 19/09/2026

Introverts: what's the thing you need after a good day that people assume means the day went badly? #Introvert #TheVibeWithKy

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Kyrus Keenan Westcott @thevibewithky.bsky.social · 17/09/2026

Worth saying out loud: researchers are currently arguing about whether masking is even the right word for ADHD. The questionnaires came from autism research. A 2026 BJPsych editorial says the construct is not ready. thevibewithky.com/2026/09/15/... #ADHD

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ADHD Masking at Work: The Busy Disguise | The Vibe With Ky

ADHD masking at work often looks like over-preparing. Here is what the research says, why it delays diagnosis, and five ways to make the cost visible.

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Kyrus Keenan Westcott @thevibewithky.bsky.social · 16/09/2026

91.6% of 202 adults with ADHD said they conceal their traits at least some of the time. Self-report survey, not a population estimate. The part that stayed with me: people dismissed their struggles because they were covering well. Mylett et al., 2026 thevibewithky.com/2026/09/15/... #ADHD

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Kyrus Keenan Westcott @thevibewithky.bsky.social · 15/09/2026

Certain sounds and textures don't annoy me, they take the whole room. Someone biting their nails is one. That isn't fussiness. Some of us have a sensory channel with no volume knob on it. #ADHD #ADHDAwareness #TheVibeWithKy

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Kyrus Keenan Westcott @thevibewithky.bsky.social · 15/09/2026

Dr. Yemi Penn was my guest this week, and she reframed something for me. Some of the stories we tell about ourselves stay because they're familiar, not because they're true. How's that one working out for you? thevibewithky.com/2026/09/12/...

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No One Is Coming to Save You: Yemi Penn | The Vibe With Ky

Ky talks with Dr. Yemi Penn about why no one is coming to save you, how to question the story you inherited, and why that is actually good news for you.

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Kyrus Keenan Westcott @thevibewithky.bsky.social · 12/09/2026

Thirst that only shows up as a headache at four in the afternoon. A full bladder you notice when it is already urgent. Almost none of that has been tested in adults with ADHD. The research measures heartbeats. thevibewithky.com/2026/09/08/... #ADHD #Interoception

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Interoception and ADHD: The Late Signal | The Vibe With Ky

Interoception and ADHD is less settled than you think. Three of five studies found a difference. Read what that means for the signals you actually miss.

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Kyrus Keenan Westcott @thevibewithky.bsky.social · 11/09/2026

There's a whole guidebook for the brain that goes hunting for stimulation and the nervous system that gets overwhelmed by it. Navigating ADHD as an Introvert. It's on the site. #Introvert #ADHD #TheVibeWithKy

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Kyrus Keenan Westcott @thevibewithky.bsky.social · 09/09/2026

I've turned down things I actually wanted to do, before anyone even asked, just to save myself the deciding. That isn't being antisocial. It's a nervous system trying to protect its own week. #Introvert #TheVibeWithKy

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Kyrus Keenan Westcott @thevibewithky.bsky.social · 09/09/2026

Somebody told you the signal was obvious. You could not find it, so you filed that as evidence about your character. Researchers are still arguing about whether the difference is even there. Small samples, no agreement. thevibewithky.com/2026/09/08/... #ADHD #Interoception

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Interoception and ADHD: The Late Signal | The Vibe With Ky

Interoception and ADHD is less settled than you think. Three of five studies found a difference. Read what that means for the signals you actually miss.

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Kyrus Keenan Westcott @thevibewithky.bsky.social · 30/08/2026

For anyone who got their answer later in life: what's the thing you'd finally stopped trying to fix about yourself, right before you found out it had a name? #ADHD #ADHDAwareness #TheVibeWithKy

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Kyrus Keenan Westcott @thevibewithky.bsky.social · 28/08/2026

The task never got harder. It was always this many steps, always this much input, always this much starting. What changed is that somebody told you it was easy, and every stalled evening since got filed as evidence about your character. thevibewithky.com/2026/08/25/... #ADHD

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ADHD and Showering: Why It Stalls You | The Vibe With Ky

ADHD and showering: nobody has studied it directly. Here is what the sensory and effort research shows, and five low-friction things worth trying today.

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Kyrus Keenan Westcott @thevibewithky.bsky.social · 26/08/2026

There's a half-second after criticism where my body reacts before my brain sorts it. The sorting still happens. It's just slower than the flinch, and the flinch was never the verdict. #ADHD #ADHDAwareness #TheVibeWithKy

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Kyrus Keenan Westcott @thevibewithky.bsky.social · 25/08/2026

I went looking for research on ADHD and showering and found none. Not thin research. None. If you have spent years thinking you were the only one who could not explain this to yourself, part of the reason is that nobody wrote it down. thevibewithky.com/2026/08/25/... #ADHD

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ADHD and Showering: Why It Stalls You | The Vibe With Ky

ADHD and showering: nobody has studied it directly. Here is what the sensory and effort research shows, and five low-friction things worth trying today.

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Kyrus Keenan Westcott @thevibewithky.bsky.social · 24/08/2026

Leaving a party early isn't rudeness. Sometimes it's the only way tomorrow's version of you gets to function. I've slipped out of more pre-event things than I've stayed at, and the next day is always the reason. #Introvert #TheVibeWithKy

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Kyrus Keenan Westcott @thevibewithky.bsky.social · 24/08/2026

There was a long stretch where sitting still felt like failing at something. Brea Segger was my guest on today's episode of The Vibe With Ky Podcast. Her answer for where to start took four seconds: lie down for five minutes and do nothing. thevibewithky.com/2026/08/23/... #SelfTrust

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Why Do I Feel Guilty When I Rest? | The Vibe With Ky

Ky talks with embodiment guide Brea Segger about why rest feels like failing, and the five minute practice she gives everyone who asks where to start. Listen now.

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Kyrus Keenan Westcott @thevibewithky.bsky.social · 23/08/2026

Nobody tells you that after the answer arrives you'll have to re-read your own history. Same events, new explanation. That takes a lot longer than the paperwork did. #ADHD #ADHDAwareness #TheVibeWithKy

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Kyrus Keenan Westcott @thevibewithky.bsky.social · 22/08/2026

Introverts: what's the format that ruins an event you'd otherwise love? Not the people. The shape of the thing. #Introvert #TheVibeWithKy

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Kyrus Keenan Westcott @thevibewithky.bsky.social · 22/08/2026

A 2026 review looked for research on couples where one partner has ADHD. Not opinion. Studies of what helps. It found three. The reviewers said the information remains scarce. Nobody has the confident answer you have been looking for, and anyone selling you one is guessing. #ADHD #Neurodiversity

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Kyrus Keenan Westcott @thevibewithky.bsky.social · 21/08/2026

You do not have to believe your person is trying hard enough. You only have to believe that the thing they are working with is real. Everything gets easier after that, and nothing gets easier before it. thevibewithky.com/2026/08/16/... #ADHD

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Kyrus Keenan Westcott @thevibewithky.bsky.social · 21/08/2026

Impulse spending usually isn't about wanting the thing. It's about wanting the feeling the thing promises in about four minutes. Naming that has done more for my budget than any app. #ADHD #ADHDAwareness #TheVibeWithKy

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Kyrus Keenan Westcott @thevibewithky.bsky.social · 21/08/2026

Zeides Taubin and Maeir, 2024, interviewed thirteen women partnered with men who have ADHD. The researchers concluded these women should be recognized as caregivers. Thirteen people is thirteen people. But if you are the one holding it together, the strain is documented. #ADHD #Caregiving

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Kyrus Keenan Westcott @thevibewithky.bsky.social · 20/08/2026

What do you say at work when you cannot say you are scared? Michael Kopper did not tell anyone to be braver. He gave an actual sentence: I don't know what to do here, can you give me some ideas of how you handled it. thevibewithky.com/2026/08/18/... #Leadership

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Psychological Safety at Work, Honestly | The Vibe With Ky

Ky and Michael Kopper on psychological safety at work, owning a mistake, and going back for the parts of yourself you threw out. The Vibe With Ky Podcast.

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Kyrus Keenan Westcott @thevibewithky.bsky.social · 19/08/2026

What's a small thing that used to feel like a personal failing, until you found out it had a name and a mechanism behind it? #ADHD #ADHDAwareness #TheVibeWithKy

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Kyrus Keenan Westcott @thevibewithky.bsky.social · 19/08/2026

Amy Edmondson's 1999 study found that better-performing hospital teams reported more errors, not fewer. They were not making more mistakes. They were willing to talk about them. That is the whole idea behind psychological safety at work. #PsychologicalSafety

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Kyrus Keenan Westcott @thevibewithky.bsky.social · 18/08/2026

You are not obligated to keep the version of you that burned out. You are also not obligated to throw out the one who cared. Michael Kopper on the parts of himself he went back for, four years later. thevibewithky.com/2026/08/18/... #SecondChances

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Psychological Safety at Work, Honestly | The Vibe With Ky

Ky and Michael Kopper on psychological safety at work, owning a mistake, and going back for the parts of yourself you threw out. The Vibe With Ky Podcast.

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Kyrus Keenan Westcott @thevibewithky.bsky.social · 18/08/2026

Someone gets diagnosed at 47. They finally have a word for the thing that shaped their whole life. Then they spend the next year arguing with the people closest to them about whether the word means anything. The fight is almost never about chores. It is about being believed. #ADHD #LateDiagnosis

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Kyrus Keenan Westcott @thevibewithky.bsky.social · 17/08/2026

The hardest part of the gym isn't the gym. It's the shoes. Whatever your version of the shoes is, that's the actual task, and it's worth treating it like one. #ADHD #ADHDAwareness #TheVibeWithKy

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Kyrus Keenan Westcott @thevibewithky.bsky.social · 16/08/2026

For the introverts: what is something people misread about you constantly? Not the shy assumption, we all get that one. The other one, the specific one. #Introvert #TheVibeWithKy

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Kyrus Keenan Westcott @thevibewithky.bsky.social · 15/08/2026

The research found something strange. Higher ADHD symptoms predicted a wider gap between output and expectation, while predicting LOWER standards. So when disappointment hits, ask which thing moved. The bar, or the verdict. Usually it is the verdict. #ADHD #SelfWorth

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Kyrus Keenan Westcott @thevibewithky.bsky.social · 14/08/2026

What is a thing you assumed everyone found hard, until you learned they did not? Mine took an embarrassing number of years to notice. #ADHD #ADHDAwareness #TheVibeWithKy

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Kyrus Keenan Westcott @thevibewithky.bsky.social · 13/08/2026

Jamie Pastrano: there is no milestone for loneliness. Nobody measures it, so nobody plans for it. That is the whole problem in one sentence. What in your life does nobody measure? #Neurodivergent

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Kyrus Keenan Westcott @thevibewithky.bsky.social · 13/08/2026

I will reread a text I sent an hour ago to check the tone I already checked twice before sending. The message is fine. It was fine then. My nervous system has simply not been informed. #ADHD #ADHDAwareness #TheVibeWithKy

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Kyrus Keenan Westcott @thevibewithky.bsky.social · 12/08/2026

Some of us do not have a memory problem so much as a retrieval problem. The information is in there. It just refuses to show up when it is asked directly, and arrives unprompted at midnight. #ADHD #ADHDAwareness #TheVibeWithKy

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Kyrus Keenan Westcott @thevibewithky.bsky.social · 12/08/2026

I finished a huge project a while back. Months of work, real stakes, people watching. When it was done I felt nothing at all, and went straight to the next item like the last one had never existed. I used to read that as proof I was ungrateful. It is not. #ADHD

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Kyrus Keenan Westcott @thevibewithky.bsky.social · 11/08/2026

The scaffolding ends the year you graduate. School programs, services, that group of people who were just there every day. Nobody hands you a replacement. What replaced it for you? #Neurodivergent

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Kyrus Keenan Westcott @thevibewithky.bsky.social · 11/08/2026

Being an introvert is not a volume setting. I am not quieter than you. I am just running a shorter budget for rooms, and I would rather spend it on one real conversation than six polite ones. #Introvert #TheVibeWithKy

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Kyrus Keenan Westcott @thevibewithky.bsky.social · 10/08/2026

I always thought you make the friend first and the trust catches up later. Rebecca Matchett flipped that on me. If you do not feel safe in the room, you never get to the part where you make the friend. wp.me/pbz8aP-3gb #Neurodivergent

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Kyrus Keenan Westcott @thevibewithky.bsky.social · 10/08/2026

It is okay to hate your brain sometimes. Frustration at your own wiring is a reasonable response to years of unexplained friction. Hating it today and deciding you are a lesser person are different things. thevibewithky.com/2026/08/05/... #ADHD #SelfCompassion

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ADHD Guilt: Why You Hate Your Brain | The Vibe With Ky

Why ADHD guilt hits so hard, what the default mode network has to do with it, and five low-friction ways to work with your brain. Watch the full keynote.

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Kyrus Keenan Westcott @thevibewithky.bsky.social · 08/08/2026

I told a room in Austin to try scheduling fifteen minutes a day of doing absolutely nothing. Honest update: I am closer to an hour now. The length was never the part that mattered. Dropping the guilt was. youtu.be/7kPkjxVRxW4 #ADHD

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Kyrus Keenan Westcott @thevibewithky.bsky.social · 06/08/2026

Adults showing ADHD behaviours were rated less favourably whether or not the ADHD label was attached, across vignette studies in a 2026 review. People react to what they see, not the word. thevibewithky.com/2026/08/05/... #ADHD #Stigma

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ADHD Guilt: Why You Hate Your Brain | The Vibe With Ky

Why ADHD guilt hits so hard, what the default mode network has to do with it, and five low-friction ways to work with your brain. Watch the full keynote.

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Kyrus Keenan Westcott @thevibewithky.bsky.social · 05/08/2026

Your brain has a daydreaming system and a doing system. They are meant to take turns. A 2024 study of 84 adults with ADHD found altered connectivity between them, supporting the default mode interference hypothesis. Laziness has a literature now. thevibewithky.com/2026/08/05/... #ADHD

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Kyrus Keenan Westcott @thevibewithky.bsky.social · 02/08/2026

What is one thing from July you are proud of that would never show up on a to-do list? I will take small. Small counts here. #thevibewithky #mentalhealth

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Kyrus Keenan Westcott @thevibewithky.bsky.social · 02/08/2026

The hardest part of a good week is trusting it. Some of us learned that momentum gets followed by a crash, so we brace all the way through the good part and miss most of it. #thevibewithky #mentalhealth

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Kyrus Keenan Westcott @thevibewithky.bsky.social · 01/08/2026

For the people who got their answer later in life: what did you assume about yourself for decades that turned out to be wiring rather than character? #thevibewithky #adhd #adhdawareness

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Kyrus Keenan Westcott @thevibewithky.bsky.social · 01/08/2026

August 1 has a clean-slate feeling that July 31 did not, and nothing changed except the number. I used to think falling for that was silly. Now I just use it. Free momentum is still momentum. #thevibewithky #mentalhealth

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