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Katy Higgins Lee

@tendingpaths.bsky.social

Katy Higgins Lee, MFT (she/her) Multiply Neurodivergent therapist and unschooling parent Neuroqueering Practicing anti-racism linktr.ee/tendingpaths

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Katy Higgins Lee @tendingpaths.bsky.social · 20/04/2025

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Katy Higgins Lee @tendingpaths.bsky.social · 17/04/2025

Full text of Jim Sinclair’s 1993 speech: philosophy.ucsc.edu/SinclairDontMou…

Excerpt from "Don't Mourn For Us",
a speech by Jim Sinclair, 1993:
"Autism isn't something a person has, or a
'shell' that a person is trapped inside.
There's no normal child hidden
behind the autism.
Autism is a way of being.
It is pervasive; it colors every experience,
every sensation, perception, thought,
emotion, and encounter, every aspect of
existence."
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Excerpt from "Don't Mourn For Us",
a speech by Jim Sinclair, 1993:
"It is not possible to separate the autism
from the person--and if it were possible, the
person you'd have left would not be the
same person you started with.
This is important, so take a moment to
consider it: Autism is a way of being.
It is not possible to separate the person
from the autism."
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Excerpt from "Don't Mourn For Us",
a speech by Jim Sinclair, 1993:
"Therefore, when parents say,
I wish my child did not have autism,
what they're really saying is,
I wish the autistic child I have did not
exist, and I had a different (non-autistic)
child instead.
Read that again."
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Excerpt from "Don't Mourn For Us",
a speech by Jim Sinclair, 1993:
"This is what we hear when you mourn
over our existence.
This is what we hear when you pray for a
cure.
This is what we know, when you tell us of
your fondest hopes and dreams for us: that
your greatest wish is that one day we will
cease to be, and strangers you can love
will move in behind our faces."
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Katy Higgins Lee @tendingpaths.bsky.social · 25/03/2025

A recent (edited) response to an email I received. While this is regarding advertising, I feel the same way about accounts that advocate for neurodivergent children because, as I’ve said before, we can advocate for neurodivergent children without using their images or telling details about them.

Text reads:
Thank you for reaching out and for the invitation to a paid partnership with (redacted). While your products look amazing, I am concerned about the video footage of children using your products that I see in many of the videos on your instagram account. I adamantly believe that images and videos of very young children should not be shared publicly on social media, especially for advertising products. Many of them have not given consent and, if they have given consent, are often too young to understand the implications of giving consent, since many of them are still toddlers. Also, although I currently reside in one of the three states that have implemented laws regarding child influencers, I am assuming that most of the families who have contributed video footage are not based in one of those three states, and I do not think that the regulations that do exist in those states are even extensive enough to protect children.
Thank you for the offer, but I am not interested.
Sincerely,
Katy Higgins Lee

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Katy Higgins Lee @tendingpaths.bsky.social · 12/03/2025

If someone describes themself as “gender critical” or “gender cautious”, they cannot be neurodiversity-affirming, despite their claims.

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Katy Higgins Lee @tendingpaths.bsky.social · 07/03/2025

Share your thoughts with the Governor at: www.gov.ca.gov/contact

To: Governor Gavin Newsom
I am writing to express my profound disappointment in
the opinions shared by you, Governor Gavin Newsom, on
your podcast episode yesterday.
The rights of the trans community are under attack by the
current administration, and this has already emboldened
people to treat trans people as less than human, as
evidenced by the recent brutal murder of Sam Nordquist.
As a public figure representing the state of California, you
have a responsibility to model being an ally, despite your
long-term career goals. Your comments show that
you do not recognize the danger of feeding the fire of
anti-trans extremism.
As a resident of the state of California for 45 years, I am
disappointed and fearful of the repercussions of your
remarks.
Sincerely,
Kathryn Lee

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Katy Higgins Lee @tendingpaths.bsky.social · 07/03/2025

Risk of sexual assault in bathrooms due to trans people?

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Katy Higgins Lee @tendingpaths.bsky.social · 28/02/2025

A stitch someone made with one of my videos went viral…And now it’s time for another round of people giving me unsolicited medical advice about a facial feature that is genetic and related to my ethnicity. 🙄

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Katy Higgins Lee @tendingpaths.bsky.social · 22/01/2025

Photo from @meemama on IG

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Katy Higgins Lee @tendingpaths.bsky.social · 20/01/2025

Well, shoot. It seems that I need a new video editing app, because CapCut is owned by ByteDance. Suggestions?

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