Suman @suman.bsky.social · 29/04/2023it is so draining to engage with people who think i’m arguing or personally attacking them every time I try to solve an issue or express my emotions. it creates mental exhaustion. if someone can’t tolerate you asking clarifying questions and sharing how you feel, keep your distance. 0151
Suman @suman.bsky.social · 26/04/2023Having a mom who still looks out for you even as a grown adult is truly a blessing 271
Suman @suman.bsky.social · 24/04/2023I avoid eggshell type of relationships, can’t express yourself, can’t be yourself, can’t ever be straight forward, can’t be comfortable, can’t talk like adults, can’t be heard, can’t respond with love without it turning into something negative… 1141
Suman @suman.bsky.social · 24/04/2023I do think if you really like someone you naturally just won’t be interested in anybody else 040
Suman @suman.bsky.social · 24/04/2023i don’t think your parents should meet your partner till you know this is the person you actually want to settle down with & get married to. i’m so big on that. i can’t bring just ANYBODY to my parents. 030
Suman @suman.bsky.social · 24/04/2023A soulmate is not going to know how to automatically handle you. BUT….A soulmate is going to learn and grow with you through your flaws and insecurities. A soulmate will choose to stay when things get tough. They will look for solutions & communicate instead of running & quitting. 000
Suman @suman.bsky.social · 24/04/2023cheating is unforgivable in my book, but that’s just me. i don't want you anymore, i'm never going to look at you the same, i'll never be able to trust you again, my guard is always going to be up & i'm going to make you pay for it every single day and that's not a sane way to live. 040
Suman @suman.bsky.social · 24/04/2023aftercare in relationships in general isn't discussed enough. if we get into a huge fight or disagreement, there needs to be aftercare. if we have some wild sex, there needs to be aftercare. if we have a series of super deep conversations, there needs to be aftercare 020
Suman @suman.bsky.social · 24/04/2023for relationships to last you really gotta see your partner’s point of view of things .and be considerate. And be willing to grow. people can learn from their mistakes it’s all about compromises, communication & understanding . 110
Suman @suman.bsky.social · 24/04/2023Dating someone who gives you,, best friend vibes, good laughs, deep conversations, great sex, reassurance & loyalty >>> 120
Suman @suman.bsky.social · 24/04/2023“Hey babe, imma be really busy today and can’t talk much, but i love you and i will hit you up as soon as I’m available to talk” 🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢🟢 020
Suman @suman.bsky.social · 24/04/2023Giving me the bare minimum and acting like its top tier is the biggest insult ever. 011
Suman @suman.bsky.social · 24/04/2023I think when you’re transitioning from being a people pleaser to someone with more boundaries it’s so weird, because it’s hard to tell if you’re being mean or if you’re just listening to your own feelings because you’re so used to this & only thinking about others 120
Suman @suman.bsky.social · 24/04/2023normalize seeing someone's lack of effort as their lack of interest in YOU and your lack of importance to them regardless of what they tell you or how much you love them 100
Suman @suman.bsky.social · 24/04/2023Bro, you can’t get mad at your partner for expressing what upsets them..... Even if it isn’t deep to you, it may be a serious matter to them. Genuine consideration is always key. 010
Suman @suman.bsky.social · 24/04/2023I like dates. I like healthy communication. I love room to grow. I like quality time. I like reassurance. I like reciprocated energy. 000
Suman @suman.bsky.social · 24/04/2023If we date, we both gotta push each other to become a better us 000
Suman @suman.bsky.social · 24/04/2023Getting a gift from someone based off of details they've learned about you from just listening, is top tier 120
Suman @suman.bsky.social · 23/04/2023I’m definitely a “they can have you” type of person idc. I’m not competing 080
Suman @suman.bsky.social · 23/04/2023We grown af, talk to me & address the issue instead of acting weird 060
Suman @suman.bsky.social · 23/04/2023I like talking shit out.. I love clarity, let’s communicate & fix things, that’s maturity 080
Suman @suman.bsky.social · 23/04/2023It’s kinda cute when someone says they miss u.. like damn you into me frfr😭 010
Suman @suman.bsky.social · 23/04/2023Missing somebody who’s not alive is an indescribable type of pain 010
Suman @suman.bsky.social · 23/04/2023I only like sex when i'm in love.. casual sex does not interest me in the least 010
Suman @suman.bsky.social · 23/04/2023I wanna be in love with someone who is mutually obsessed with me 000
Suman @suman.bsky.social · 23/04/2023I'm such a "why?" person, I want reasons, I need to understand 010
Suman @suman.bsky.social · 23/04/2023To be vulnerable with somebody and not feel stupid after >>> 000
Suman @suman.bsky.social · 23/04/2023Heavy on…I ain’t even mad at you. That’s just who you are. That’s your character. You’ll never change. Be that, but I won’t ever deal with it again 010
Suman @suman.bsky.social · 23/04/2023I got betrayed while moving with pure intentions, I will never forget that 020
Suman @suman.bsky.social · 23/04/2023I’m wayyy too young to be feeling like i’m done with love and dating😭😭 020
Suman @suman.bsky.social · 23/04/2023Me finding u attractive is one thing, but me wanting to get to know u, being excited to see u & wanting u around me is another lol 010
Suman @suman.bsky.social · 23/04/2023Don't abuse my soft spot for you, it can fade away real quick 000
Suman @suman.bsky.social · 23/04/2023A perfect relationship isn't actually perfect at all, it consist of two people learning how to love each other. You’re supposed to build not leave 000
Suman @suman.bsky.social · 23/04/2023Imagine if someone learned your love language just to treat you right and make you feel loved properly 021
Suman @suman.bsky.social · 23/04/2023Starting a friendship before getting into a relationship >>> 000
Suman @suman.bsky.social · 23/04/2023Don’t want a perfect relationship, I just want someone that tries as hard as I do 010
Suman @suman.bsky.social · 23/04/2023Being attached to a person who can’t love you properly is one of the hardest feelings to shake 040
Suman @suman.bsky.social · 23/04/2023When they give you reassurance because they know you’ll overthink >>> 010
Suman @suman.bsky.social · 23/04/2023To crave a person’s presence instead of their body is the purest form of intimacy 020