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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · 24/09/2025

Coercive control escalates overtime leading to severe psychological harm. Without early intervention those experiencing it will become increasingly entrapped & isolated. My ABC framework enables early detection of red flags, allowing timely support before the abuse intensifies.

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · 23/09/2025

Early intervention is critical in addressing coercive control due to its progression and cumulative impact. My ABC framework facilitates early recognition and response by raising awareness and reducing stigma. A: Appearance B: Behaviour C: Conversation

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · 19/09/2025

Coercive control subtly starts off as care, charm charismatic, making you feel special, making you feel safe, warm and loved. It puts you on a pedestal for the whole world to see how lovely the perpetrator is. Telling a completely different story behind closed doors.

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · 19/09/2025

Good morning world 🌎 3 things about coercive control 👇 ❌ It's the thread that runs through domestic abuse ❌ It carries on even when the person has left the situation ❌ It is also used against professionals and practitioners ❌ It's a subtle incidious crime

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · 14/09/2025

I support @naturewatch.org and their Protect Animals. Protect People Campaign. The perpetrator I existed with stabbed our pet bird as a consequence for me - because I went to bed without him. Perpetrators hurt pets in order to gain power and control 🚩 naturewatch.org/campaigns/prot…

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · 11/09/2025

Being safe in an abusive situation is when we are still in the situation seeing exactly what the perpetrator is doing. Feeling unsafe in an abusive situation is when we've found the strength & courage to escape & we can't see what's coming next. #coercivecontrol #domesticabuse

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · 11/09/2025

They aren't your abuser/perpetrator. They are abusers. They are perpetrators. They don't belong to you, you don't own them and you owe them nothing. Let's change the script. Let's change the narrative. Let's change the language. #coercivecontrol #domesticabuse

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · 10/09/2025

I'm a survivor of domestic abuse, an advocate for Survivors of Domestic Abuse, a lived experienced speaker and a Coercive Control Consultant. Based in the Black Country but travel to have a coffee and conversation creating change around coercive control and its impact.

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · 03/09/2025

Do you work in social care, education or law enforcement and want to enhance your understanding and knowledge of coercive control, domestic abuse and its impact? I deliver bespoke training packages. Let's chat! 💻 samantha.strongerbeginnings@gmail.com bailiwickexpress.com/news/listen-i-…

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · 03/09/2025

Today I spoke to Justin Brooker, Australian Advocate for Domestic & Family Violence & Coercive Control I shared my lived experience & we spoke about coercive control, domestic abuse its impact Please share, so together we can raise awareness for others open.spotify.com/episode/7tAr...

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Episode 57 - Samantha Billingham, Coercive Control Expert & Consultant

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · 28/08/2025

If you are a business, company or organisation looking to enhance your understanding of coercive control, domestic abuse and its impact email me at samantha.strongerbeginnings@gmail.com to discuss your bespoke training package. bailiwickexpress.com/news/listen-i-…

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · 09/08/2025

🛑 The Government are testing the UK's emergency alerts system on Sunday 7th September at 3pm. ✔️ You can opt out of the emergency alerts if you are experiencing domestic abuse and have a concealed phone 👇 Here's how www.gov.uk/alerts/optin...

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · 09/08/2025

Remember, EVERYONE falls in love with the charming and caring partner and EVERYONE can never believe they are a cold and controlling perpetrator. #coercivecontrol #awareness #impact

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · 08/08/2025

I need your help please 🙏 Please share this post ❤️ If you are looking to enhance your understanding & knowledge of coercive control, domestic abuse & its impact please email me at samantha.strongerbeginnings@gmail.com to discuss your bespoke training package. Thank you 😊

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · 07/08/2025

Coercive control can manifest through isolation, where the perpetrator restricts the victims access to friends, family and support networks leading to feelings of loneliness and helplessness. #CoerciveControl #Awareness #impact

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · 04/08/2025

My passion is raising awareness of coercive control, domestic abuse and its impact, in the hope to equip, enhance and empower others. Thank you and your team @cateccles.bsky.social for your ongoing support 😁

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · 04/08/2025

What do you mean it's Monday already 🐔🤣

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · 03/08/2025

If we aren't talking about coercive control we aren't talking about domestic abuse, it's there at the beginning & it's there at the end . It's the thread that runs through domestic abuse. My passion is raising awareness of coercive control & its impact. youtu.be/LfSJkEfiybg?...

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Samantha Billingham | Navigating Coercive Control (PODCAST)

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · 23/07/2025

If we aren't talking about coercive control we aren't talking about domestic abuse, it's there at the beginning and it's there at the end. It's the thread that runs through domestic abuse. 💻 samantha.strongerbeginnings@gmail.com www.bailiwickexpress.com/news/listen-...

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · 17/07/2025

Remember coercive control & domestic abuse doesn't stop for the summer. Think of all the children & young people who will be exposed to & experiencing coercive control & domestic abuse during the holidays. Summer holidays do not cause domestic abuse 🚩

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · 17/07/2025

Most of the people wanting to create change in the domestic abuse sector are people with lived experience of the abhorrent crime. The people with the power to create change don't have lived experience of domestic abuse. To create real change, the two must come together.

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · 17/07/2025

Societies lack of acknowledgement to coercive control will never allow a resolution.

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · 16/07/2025

Coercive control impacts your future relationships and friendships as you begin to analyze and question everything.

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · 16/07/2025

Coercive control is pushing down on the accelerator, slamming down on the brake, making you fear for your life, whilst travelling to visit family, friends or attending a party as "the perfect couple", being asked, how was the journey? Oh fine thanks 🙂 #coercivecontrol

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · 15/07/2025

Coercive control v freedom Twenty something v forty something Existing v living Loving life. Loving me 🫶

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · 15/07/2025

How does the body language of a domestic abuse victim differ in public versus private settings, and what might these differences indicate?

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · 10/07/2025

Please share 🙏 I deliver bespoke training for businesses, organisations and professionals enhancing their understanding and knowledge of coercive control, domestic abuse and its impact. Please email me at samantha.strongerbeginnings@gmail.com for more details. Thank you 💜

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · 05/07/2025

For ages and ages I've been looking at bouquets of gorgeous sunflowers from afar, saying to myself, I'll treat myself one day. And that day is today 😍 I am celebrating me and all I have achieved so far this year 🥳 Loving life. Loving me 🫶

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · 01/07/2025

Coercive control is a process, a pattern, a punishment. It's never a one off, a mistake or about anger. It is deliberate, it is purposeful and it is dangerous.

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · 29/06/2025

Coercive control is a process and procedure. It's about power and control. #CoerciveControl #Awareness

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · 27/06/2025

Stop minimising survivors lived experience and start maximising professionals education and empathy #coercivecontrol #domesticabuse #Awareness #impact

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · 27/06/2025

If you're still asking, why don't you just leave, this is why 👇 Hanibur Masum, 26, launched the "ferocious" attack on 27-year old Kulsuma Akter after tracking her to a refuge where she had gone to escape him. news.sky.com/story/flatpl...

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Husband spotted 'smiling' on bus after stabbing wife to death found guilty of murder

Habibur Masum, 26, launched the "ferocious" attack on 27-year-old Kulsuma Akter after tracing her to a refuge where she had gone to escape him.

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · 27/06/2025

Domestic abuse doesn't start with a punch or physical violence, it starts with power and control.

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · 26/06/2025

The ABC checklist of coercive control 👇

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · 25/06/2025

This is a quote one of my SODA ladies gave me when describing coercive control. I shared it during my recent training session with @cateccles.bsky.social "Coercive control happens without you realising, but affects your whole life even after you've left the relationship" #coercivecontrol #impact

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · 23/06/2025

Proud to be supporting @naturewatch.org and their Protect Animals Protect People Campaign 🐾❤️ Raising the profile of animal welfare in the context of domestic abuse is crucial, especially when the connection between the two is often under-recognised.

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · 22/06/2025

When the perpetrators behaviour shows a pattern, that's when it becomes a problem. #coercivecontrol #Awareness

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · 22/06/2025

Putting a perpetrator on bail, giving them an "order to abide by" or giving them a suspended sentence tells me even though coercive control has been a crime for a decade it's still misunderstood. #CoerciveControl #Awareness

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · 21/06/2025

Strange how a perpetrator will always have a crazy ex, a mother who is an enabler and you will always have a friend who fancies them 🤷 #coercivecontrol #Awareness

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · 21/06/2025

As well as being caring, charismatic and charming, perpetrators of coercive control are clever. Not only do they manipulate the person directly experiencing this insidious crime but they also manipulate professionals, colleagues, friends and family members. #CoerciveControl

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · 21/06/2025

The behaviour of someone experiencing domestic abuse is noticed long before the behaviour of a perpetrator is noticed. Someone experiencing domestic abuse will stop texting, calling or going out but no one realises it's because of the perpetrators behaviour. #CoerciveControl

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · 21/06/2025

Coercive control can leave deep scars, without physical violence. It's a pattern of behaviour designed to control & isolatate. It's a pattern of behaviour preventing a person from living their life with a perpetrator gaining & maintaining control. #CoerciveControl #Awareness

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · 20/06/2025

In a country where coercive control is misunderstood, minimised and the maximum sentence is 5 years in prison, we have just handed perpetrators even more power. #AssistedDyingBill #AssistedDying

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