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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster

@slutphd.bsky.social
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Author of "Violated" and "Please Scream Quietly." Switchy rope daredevil, nascent podcaster, and rogue sociologist. MD/DMV area.

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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 12/05/2026
Check out my newest article in the magazine Contexts!
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 03/12/2025
New podcast episode is up! With @jasminesherni.com
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The Porn Industry Then and Now, Part 2: An Interview with Jasmine Sherni | Podcast Episode on RSS.com
Trigger warnings: vague discussion of sexual assault and sexual harassmentHaving gotten therapy from Jasmine in Part 1, in Part 2 Julie interviews Jasmine about her experiences with the adult industry...
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 19/11/2025
Listen to The Porn Industry Then and Now, Part 1--with Jasmine Sherni on @rss.com rss.com/podcasts/slu... @jasminesherni.com
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The Porn Industry Then and Now, Part 1--with Jasmine Sherni | Podcast Episode on RSS.com
Trigger warnings: discussion of sexual assault, sexual harassment, suicide and mental healthIn this episode, Julie talks with the amazing rising adult industry star Jasmine Sherni, discussing her (Jul...
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 09/10/2025
New podcast episode up on how to not drop at conventions!
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How to Manage Your Energy at Conventions | Podcast Episode on RSS.com
One of the most common questions people ask me is "how do you go to so many kink conventions without getting completely exhausted?" And my answer is always: it's definitely not a talent, it's a very c...
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 03/09/2025
New podcast episode is up! Part 1 of a two part conversation with ElsieXO and Jordan about keeping it hot in long term polyamorous kinky cohabiting relationships!
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Keeping It Hot in Long-Term Poly Cohabiting Relationships, Part 1--with ElsieXO and Jordan | Podcast Episode on RSS.com
TO BE CONTINUED (this episode cuts off in the middle of a conversation)In Part 1 of this two-part episode, Julie chats with her peeps ElsieXO and Jordan to try to uncover the secrets of keeping sex an...
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 13/08/2025
New podcast episode is up! Where's the Line Between BDSM and Self-Harm? #nssi #selfharm #psychology #sociology
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Where's the Line Between BDSM and Self-Harm?--with Cait and Siren | Podcast Episode on RSS.com
Trigger warnings: mental health, eating disordersIn this episode, Julie tackles a subject few have been brave enough to ask: what's the real difference between BDSM and non-suicidal self-injury (NSSI,...
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 31/07/2025
New podcast episode is up! #bdsm #kinklife #dominanceandsubmission #bdsmlifestyle
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Dominance/submission in Fantasy versus Reality | Podcast Episode on RSS.com
In this episode, Julie and her sub Artifiction discuss some of the challenges of moving from Dominant/submissive desires to actually translating those desires to relationships that can be manifested i...
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 19/07/2025
Him: "there's been a big pivot in my life, out of hacking and into rope"
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 18/07/2025
Currently waiting for my Southwest flight. Gate agents: please please give us your carryons to check free of charge. Everyone: fuck you, give us our free checked bags back.
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 16/07/2025
New podcast episode is up! #bdsm #kink #bdsmlifestyle
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On Co-Topping, with SugarAndPoison | Podcast Episode on RSS.com
In this episode, Julie and her co-top SugarAndPoison break down some the pleasures and cautionary tales of co-topping. While recounting some of their favorite scenes together, they discuss things to b...
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 02/07/2025
New podcast episode is a buffet of tidbits about #bisexual and #polyamorous figures from history #lgbthistory #queerhistory rss.com/podcasts/slu...
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Bi + Poly Figures From History | Podcast Episode on RSS.com
This episode provides a very brief survey of some interesting and occasionally significant figures from bisexual and polyamorous history, primarily targeting people who were born in the nineteenth cen...
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 23/06/2025
As someone who went to graduate school to study the sociology of birth control, I always think it's hilarious when romantasy novels exist in feudal societies where people can freely and reliably control their pregnancies 🤣🤣🤣
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 18/06/2025
New podcast episode is up! rss.com/podcasts/slu... #sociology #sexualassault #law #gender
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Part 2: Violated: Chatting about Our Book with Remy Green | Podcast Episode on RSS.com
This episode is a continuation of the previous one where Julie and Remy discuss their book, Violated: Sexual Consent and Assault in the 21st Century (with obvious trigger warnings for discussion of se...
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 08/06/2025
Bisexuals cover ourselves in rainbows for Pride because we're desperately trying to compensate for how much gay sex we're not having 😭😭😭🏳️‍🌈🌈🏳️‍🌈🌈🏳️‍🌈🌈🏳️‍🌈🌈
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 04/06/2025
New podcast episode is up! rss.com/podcasts/slu... #sociology #sexualassault #gender #legalsociology
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Violated: Chatting about Our Book with Remy Green, Part 1 | Podcast Episode on RSS.com
Picking up from an earlier episode where Julie read the first chapter of Violated, Julie (a sociologist) and Remy (a lawyer) discuss their book, Violated: Sexual Consent and Assault in the 21st Centur...
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 27/05/2025
I told Boyfriend that I was going to consult a pet psychic for my cats. He sputtered at me indignantly, then immediately created a note on his phone for "easy ways to make money with AI if engineering falls through" 😂😂😂
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 21/05/2025
New podcast episode is up! #sociology #gender #sexuality
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Musings about Gender and Sexuality with SugarAndPoison | Podcast Episode on RSS.com
Building on a previous episode about sexuality and gender (with Doug Robinson), this episode explores more ideas and themes around this weird and complicated topic. This breakdown includes things like...
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 16/05/2025
Ugh the total mindfuck of getting turned on reading my erotica while experiencing the absolute boner killer of having to cut words from it to meet the editorial requirements #writerlife #erotica
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 07/05/2025
New podcast episode is up! Chapter 1 of my book Violated rss.com/podcasts/slu...
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Violated: Sexual Consent and Assault in the 21st Century, Chapter 1 | Podcast Episode on RSS.com
In this episode, Julie reads the first chapter of her book, Violated: Sexual Consent and Assault in the 21st Century. Next month, she will have two episodes with her co-author Remy Green discussing th...
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 29/04/2025
Super mega theater nerd waiting around outside for like 20 minutes so I could video a few seconds of wild Broadway history in the making. Here's Tom Francis as Joe Gillis in this incredible production of Sunset Blvd. (sound on to hear the faintest sounds of singing)
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 29/04/2025
Any other theater nerds notice that it seems like Sunset Blvd's car has left the theater and driven across the street to Gypsy? (okay but seriously, both productions are incredible, go see them right now) #broadway #sunsetblvd #gypsymusical
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 23/04/2025
New podcast episode is up! Group sex--with Doug Robinson rss.com/podcasts/slu...
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Group Sex!--with Doug Robinson | Podcast Episode on RSS.com
In this episode, Julie and her friend Doug Robinson chat about some of the things they love about group sex (threesomes, foursomes, and moresomes). Whether it's enjoying the freedom that comes with em...
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 14/04/2025
When you nervously stand up in front of a room full of your peers and proclaim "this theory we've all been using" (minority stress theory) just isn't backed up by the data" and you expect lots of people to say "fuck you" and instead a lot of them are like "yeah!"
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 10/04/2025
New podcast episode is up! The BDSM/Polyamory and Neurodivergence Overlap
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The BDSM/Polyamory and Neurodivergence Overlap
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 08/04/2025
Him: "what do you mean I haven't resorted to crime yet? Crime was Plan A, but had to resort to work."
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 08/04/2025
The phrase "be gay, do crime" implies the corollary "be straight, do work"
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 01/04/2025
Recent conversation with a friend and colleague. Me: "when I went to a conference at Princeton last year, people were politely surprised that someone like me was now working at a startup. I told them our conferences were soon to be full of unconventionally[Cont] www.theatlantic.com/science/arch...
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 26/03/2025
New podcast episode is up! Audio of the first chapter of my book, Please Scream Quietly rss.com/podcasts/slu...
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Please Scream Quietly, Chapter 1 | Podcast Episode on RSS.com
Sadly, there's no full audio recording (yet!) of my sociological book on the American BDSM scene, Please Scream Quietly: A Story of Kink. But here's chapter 1, Introduction: Your Fantasy Is My Reality...
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 13/03/2025
New podcast episode is up! The Art of the Switch, with ElsieXO. rss.com/podcasts/slu...
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The Art of the Switch--with ElsieXO | Podcast Episode on RSS.com
Traditional BDSM culture has tended to ignore the artistry of being a good switch in favor of pure-dom/pure-sub identities and dynamics. Contemporary BDSM culture places a much higher value on switche...
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 26/02/2025
New podcast episode is up! Talking about erotica and erotica writing 😊 #eroticawriting #writingcommunity
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On Writing Erotica: Chatting with Artifiction
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 25/02/2025
That wildly confusing feeling when you wake up truly believing it's Wednesday, but it's not.
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 17/02/2025
The things people will do to spice up their sex lives after 26 years in a relationship 😂😂 Happy anniversary to my wonderful and crazy husband! ❤️ You can see the full clip here: www.sheer.com/slutphd #highheelfetish #urethralsounding #sounding #bdsm
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 15/02/2025
Paying the toll for posting political ranting by also posting beautiful rope stuff from this week. Me tying AK in the snow ❄️
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 15/02/2025
Do not assume that the recent government cuts are actually haphazard and random. They *might* be. But these are the steps in the authoritarian playbook: 1. Pardon your very illegal friends [check] 2. Undermine intellectuals, most importantly social scientists and their chief sources of data [check]
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 15/02/2025
"But Trump’s mass layoffs of federal workers could come back to bite him in economic data. The monthly jobs reports could start to show a slowdown in hiring, if not turn negative at some point after the February numbers are released." Oh APnews, bless your naivete... (Cont)
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 13/02/2025
A special double-episode podcast release today for Valentine's day! Two masc dom/fem sub stories, and two fem dom/masc sub stories, written and read by yours truly #erotica #podcast #smut rss.com/podcasts/slu...
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Slut PhD
-For adults only-Pansexual polyamorous kinkster, proud slut, and PhD sociologist Julie Fennell discusses some of the things near and dear to her heart and overanalytical brain. Expect lots of in-depth...
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 12/02/2025
For anyone looking for the storyboard image to my novel, Lit Erotique... This was the photo I created, but it's very NSFW, so I figured I'd just post it to my page instead.
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 12/02/2025
Byatt's Possession meets 50 Shades in my new manuscript, Lit Erotique--an erotic metafiction story that explores what happens when two queer polyamorous sluts fall in love. Two erotica writers try to break conventions of relationships and genre in this snarky and nerdy word-loving novel. #questpit
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 11/02/2025
I was interviewed for the Authentically Kinky podcast, and the episode just dropped! youtu.be/Zl1NS0di-k4?...
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Authentically Kinky: ipCookieMonster - The Slut Ph.D.
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 10/02/2025
Still seeking an agent to represent my erotic metafiction novel! The pitch: two queer kinky poly erotica writers in a long distance relationship push the limits of conventional love, sex, and genre. #amquerying #literaryagent #writingcommunity
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 05/02/2025
New podcast episode is up! Challenging Existing Constructions of "Sexual Orientation" with Doug Robinson #sexualorientation #sexualidentity #queer #pansexual #queersociology #sociology
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Slut PhD - Born This Way? Challenging Existing Constructions of "Sexual Orientation" (with Doug Robinson) | RSS.com
In this conversation between Julie and Doug Robinson, they unpack some of the quirks and challenges of defining and articulating more complicated "sexual orientations." Both of them feel like usual la...
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 29/01/2025
It troubles me on a philosophical, metaphysical, and scientific level that taking advil often helps my PTSD.
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 22/01/2025
New podcast episode is up! Alternative Masculinities: An Interview with Doug Robinson #sociology #masculinities #genderroles
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Slut PhD - Alternative Masculinities: An Interview with Doug Robinson | RSS.com
In this episode, Julie interviews playwright Doug Robinson about his experiences growing up and living as a gender non-conforming man. A pressing point in their conversation is the need for a social e...
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 20/01/2025
Him: "I'm always alarmed in erotica when they describe pussy as tasting sweet. It shouldn't taste sweet, that's *bad*. It should taste umami!"
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 20/01/2025
Aw thank you 🥰
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 19/01/2025
Me: "that was such a shitty threesome. The only good thing about it was the guy had this great playlist that introduced me to the Arctic Monkeys" #arcticmonkeys
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 16/01/2025
Her: "I don't know if I want to project all that grief and sadness onto someone else's genitals" me: "that's the advantage of group sex. There's so many people to share the load."
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 14/01/2025
K asked for bamboo torsions, so I gave them to her 😁 Rope: me, bottom: K #shibari #kinbaku #bondage
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 14/01/2025
A really important article speaking to the importance of trying to re-establish social connection and community
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The Anti-Social Century
Americans are now spending more time alone than ever. It’s changing our personalities, our politics, and even our relationship to reality.
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Julie Fennell/IPCookieMonster @slutphd.bsky.social · 11/01/2025
Some super badass (emphasis on the "ass") rope bottoming from ELW in my ropes last night #shibari #bondage #kinbaku
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