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R.L. Stollar

@rlstollar.bsky.social
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Child liberation theologian, child and survivor advocate. Learn more about my work: www.rlstollar.com. He/him.

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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 28/06/2026
I cannot stress enough the power of realizing that you are not alone. You are not crazy for thinking that aspect of church or God or the Bible hurt you so much. There is a reason it hurts—because it hurts other people, too.
vashtiinitiative.org
You Are Not Your Own: And Other Lies Evangelicalism Taught Me
Creative commons courtesy of Pixabay, Patrizia08. By Ryan Stollar “You best learn to live while you’re alive.” — Cloud Cult Healing from any trauma, but especially religious traum…
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 27/06/2026
This is like saying the once-rights of slave owners or husbands (property owner rights) are the same as the rights of enslaved people or wives (people once considered property by law). This nonsense is a brazen abuse of children's rights.
cowboystatedaily.com
Jonathan Lange: Parental Rights Are Children’s Rights
Columnist Jonathan Lange writes, “Every enforcement tool from the federal DOJ and DOE to the local school board should be protecting a child’s right to be…
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 27/06/2026
I once created a quiz where you must identify whether certain phrases are lines from the bestselling erotic BDSM novel 50 Shades of Grey by E.L. James or lyrics from Contemporary Christian Music songs. ...I retook it today and got so many wrong, lol.
homeschoolersanonymous.net
50 Shades of Grey or Contemporary Christian Music Lyrics? A Quiz
Oh come on, you’ve thought the same thing.
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ash blu @ashblu.bsky.social · 27/06/2026
this is a good article abt what our normal was. don't dissect us. don't rubberneck/gawk at us. let us be. we can't explain to your satisfaction & yet another 'omg i can't believe it' won't help. just stop. #Exvangelical #religiousabuse #childhoodtrauma #traumasurvivor
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Child Liberation Theology @childliberation.bsky.social · 27/06/2026
"Affirming children’s inherent rights and value... is a key part of empowering our contemporary communities to better love and protect children. Christians should affirm children in an unambiguous way."
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Using vs. Liberating Children: How Child Theology Differs from Child Liberation Theology
While deeply indebted to the Child Theology Movement, child liberation theology breaks from it in a number of important ways.
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ash blu @ashblu.bsky.social · 27/06/2026
can confirm. it caused me endless trauma, ptsd, nightmares, a fear of parenting my own kids. but i banished the exparents & broke the cycle. i don't care if they call me prodigal. i am free now. #Exvangelical #religiousabuse #childhoodtrauma #traumasurvivor
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 27/06/2026
I had a mazapán (Mexican peanut candy) latte today made by Sip Happens Coffee & Matcha! It was delicious.
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 27/06/2026
Lily's facial expression here is 100% meme. 🤣
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 27/06/2026
"Out of twelve pages of Gothard’s 'Road Safety' module, six are about car maintenance and contingencies and six are about what to do if you’re sexually assaulted while out driving."
homeschoolersanonymous.net
Bill Gothard Explains Road Safety (aka How Not to Get Raped)
Bill Gothard claims that a victim of sexual assault who does not cry out—who remains silent for whatever reason—is equally guilty with her attacker.
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 27/06/2026
In the Dobsonian-Trumpian worldview, a sexualized saying like “Daddy’s home” can serve simultaneously as the essence of the gospel promise, the essence of biblical parenting, and the essence of good government.
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When the Prodigal Son Returns Home With a Gun
Unless you are willing to look at the root of violence in your own families or respect the human rights of other families’ children, I cannot take your concerns about violence seriously.
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Child Liberation Theology @childliberation.bsky.social · 27/06/2026
"It’s important to create space for children not just to know that disobedience can be good and holy, but also to give them opportunities to practice."
uscatholic.org
Christianity should empower and liberate children
What would the church look like if we treated children as agents in their own lives, and allowed them to do their own theology?
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 27/06/2026
Twenty years ago, Reb Bradley penned an article called "Solving the Crisis in Homeschooling." The crisis? "Parents have graduated their first batch of kids, only to discover that their children didn’t turn out the way they thought they would."
homeschoolersanonymous.net
The History of Homeschooling, 1904-Present
A history of the modern U.S. homeschooling movement from 1904 through the present.
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 27/06/2026
Marvin Olasky did not make a singular mistake with Doug Wilson. It was one of many times when Olasky partnered with, platformed, and promoted Christofascists.
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When Marvin Olasky Platformed Doug Wilson
World Magazine was intimately involved with promoting Christofascism throughout Marvin Olasky’s leadership.
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Child Liberation Theology @childliberation.bsky.social · 27/06/2026
"Children are not mere creatures of parents. They are not projects or weapons. They are inheritors of God’s Kingdom, images of that God, and they are capable of prophecy, leadership, teaching, and theology."
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An Introduction to Child Liberation Theology
This is the first article in a multi-part series I am writing in 2022 providing an overview of child liberation theology.
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 27/06/2026
"The church wants to wash her hands of Bill Gothard — 'we never knew him!' — but the backers and supporters and poster children are still celebrated."
homeschoolersanonymous.net
I’m Tired of Talking About Bill Gothard and The Duggars
There will never be headlines for broken marriages and broken hearts, for eating disorders and suicidal depression.
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 27/06/2026
While I very much appreciate The Christian Post, JubileeCast, and The Roys Report covering Bill Gothard's heart attack and coma as well as crediting me for my corroborating screenshots, I find it odd that no one reached out to verify anything or even, like, give a heads up.
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 27/06/2026
The Roys Report covers Bill Gothard's heart attack and coma. "IBLP’s doctrines, particularly those on authority, sexuality, and suffering, became a blueprint for fathers and older brothers to sexually abuse their daughters and younger sisters."
roysreport.com
Institute in Basic Life Principles founder Bill Gothard reportedly hospitalized after heart attack | The Roys Report
Bill Gothard, the disgraced IBLP founder who taught millions of evangelicals, has reportedly suffered a heart attack and is in a coma
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Child Liberation Theology @childliberation.bsky.social · 27/06/2026
"Parents who refuse to acknowledge the harm caused by Christian authoritarian parenting risk alienating their kids long-term."
religionnews.com
Adults raised in the ‘Christian parenting empire’ of the ’70s-’90s push back
(RNS) — Leveraging social media, these parents and professionals aim to show that this parenting approach can result in trauma, estrangement and views of God as abusive.
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 27/06/2026
"We know that 'not all homeschoolers' are 'like that.' The culture we grew up in that is still alive and well IS 'like that.' If you’re not 'like that,' we’re not talking about you."
homeschoolersanonymous.net
If The Shoe Doesn’t Fit…
“Can we please just stop with the comments about how not all homeschoolers are ‘like that’? We get it.”
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 26/06/2026
This timeline repeatedly demonstrates that people from around the world, throughout different time periods and with different cultural assumptions, can understand the importance of protecting children and their rights.
rlstollar.com
An American History of Child Advocacy
This idea of child advocacy is not new, it is not partisan, it is not ideological, and it is not crazy.
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 26/06/2026
The relationship between Bill Gothard's Institute in Basic Life Principles (IBLP), including his homeschooling program the Advanced Training Institute (ATI), and Michael Farris’s Home School Legal Defense Association (HSLDA) has deep history.
homeschoolersanonymous.net
A Brief History of ATI and HSLDA’s Relationship
The warm camaraderie and partnerships between ATI and HSLDA extend beyond the direct relationships between ATI’s Wisdom Booklet developers (Gothard, Cannon, and Guthrie) and HSLDA.
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Child Liberation Theology @childliberation.bsky.social · 26/06/2026
"We must wrestle with the biblical texts, questioning and challenging them when they ignore the children they contain or justify violence against the children barely visible at their margins."
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Noah’s Flood and The Bible’s Unseen Children
The Bible is not a children’s book. If a child must learn about genocide, it should be in an age-appropriate and protective manner.
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ash blu @ashblu.bsky.social · 26/06/2026
yesterday i was struggling w guilt over the forgiveness aspect of things. it helped to read this today. i don't HAVE to forgive! it's ok to not be there. it was used to silence me for so many yrs. the system is rotten. #Exvangelical #religiousabuse #childhoodtrauma #traumasurvivor
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ash blu @ashblu.bsky.social · 26/06/2026
i have been learning since leaving, that my anger is valuable. it's something i teach our kids, broke the cycle. they are treasures. their anger is a teacher. i learn from it. sometimes i'm even angry at the exparents. #Exvangelical #religiousabuse #childhoodtrauma #traumasurvivor
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R.S.Knight @rsgreen30.bsky.social · 26/06/2026
It’s beyond comprehension that someone who never married, never had children, obviously had all kinds of odd proclivities… was viewed as some kind of parenting expert. The people who wanted to abuse just needed an on-ramp. This cat and Dobson gave it to them.
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 26/06/2026
"Gothard’s teachings didn’t stay inside IBLP. They seeped into schools, churches, families, homeschool communities and Christian culture."
rebekahdrumsta.com
The Forgiveness Gothard Taught and the Control It Created — Rebekah Drumsta
Forgiveness is supposed to be a meaningful, human practice. In Bill Gothard’s world, it became a rule. A requirement. A tool used to keep people compliant and quiet. For those of us shaped by IBLP and...
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 26/06/2026
Someone just said I must have laid low, but actually I broke numerous stories from that group and mentioned the group directly each time but I guess no one in the group noticed until today, lol. Thanks, Christian Post. 😉
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 26/06/2026
This is one of my favorite book passages. Encouraging children to feel their emotions is so important.
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 26/06/2026
Well, I finally got kicked out of Bill Gothard's supporters' private group. I actually cannot believe I lasted 12 years there with no one noticing. *peels off spy insignia* I had a good run. 🫡
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 26/06/2026
If you want to learn more about Bill Gothard's abusive teachings and practices, Homeschoolers Anonymous uploaded all of his Wisdom Booklets for free public viewing back in 2015.
homeschoolersanonymous.wordpress.com
Wisdom Booklet Archive Index
These versions are NOT intended for educational use, but for journalists and researchers who want to investigate the teachings of ATI in primary sources.
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Child Liberation Theology @childliberation.bsky.social · 26/06/2026
"When it comes to the adult-child relationship, we are still passionately insistent as a society that adults have the 'parental rights' to do whatever they want to their children."
baptistnews.com
What can we learn from children about being liberated from Kendomland? – Baptist News Global
To learn more about how children bring liberation from the Kens of Kendomland, I interviewed child liberationist theologian R.L. Stollar about his new book, The Kingdom of Children: A Liberation Theol...
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 25/06/2026
"[Bill Gothard's Umbrella of Authority] means it is nearly impossible for us to confront our abusers."
homeschoolersanonymous.net
The Bible Is Not Your Shield
It cannot be anymore plain, that committing abuse of any kind against a child is an offense that angers the God of the Bible.
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ash blu @ashblu.bsky.social · 25/06/2026
the umbrella method - which gothard invented? was popular in our growing up life. but it didn't protect me - the exparents WERE the abusers. i told on them in my book. real abuse prevention is when children have rights/dignity/freedom. #Exvangelical #religiousabuse #childhoodtrauma #traumasurvivor
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Child Liberation Theology @childliberation.bsky.social · 25/06/2026
"We’re seeing a robust attempt to define children as the property of their parents. That’s what’s at the core of censorship campaigns, bans on gender affirming healthcare, and the ongoing refusal to treat corporal punishment for what it is: assault."
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A Child’s Right to Feel: An Interview with Rev. Benjamin Perry
A culture that upholds and centers children’s emotions will be more just for all people.
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 25/06/2026
It is a long-established myth in Christofascist circles that rightly structured families are a form of abuse prevention.
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Families Are Not Umbrellas (And Other Myths About Abuse Prevention)
Gothard, MacArthur, and the many other rightwing advocates of patriarchal, nuclear families are dead wrong. Fathers, parents, and nuclear families are not magical umbrellas of protection.
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 25/06/2026
"ATI and Gothard continually pushed the idea that victims were, at least partially, at fault for their abuse."
homeschoolersanonymous.net
ATI’s “Sex Ed” Curriculum: Silencing Victims and Excusing Sex Crime
ATI and the Duggars’ philosophy can lead to serial sexual abuse because men are relieved of much of their responsibility for their actions.
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 25/06/2026
Media has begun reporting on Gothard's heart attack.
christianpost.com
Disgraced IBLP founder Bill Gothard reportedly in coma after heart attack
Bill Gothard, the embattled founder of the Institute in Basic Life Principles IBLP , reportedly suffered a heart attack and is in a coma, according to posts shared by members of a private Facebook
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ash blu @ashblu.bsky.social · 25/06/2026
the power of these people reaches farther than you imagine. it's their desire to reach into the furthest houses of power. it's how christian nat'ism took over. i talk abt this a bit in my book. i'm glad i got free. #Exvangelical #religiousabuse #childhoodtrauma #booksky #books #writers #reading
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 25/06/2026
No updates on Bill Gothard's health from his team as of this morning.
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 25/06/2026
"Gothard silently influences public policy across the country."
homeschoolersanonymous.net
The Political Reach of Bill Gothard: Jeri Lofland’s Thoughts
“With Bill Gothard’s ceaseless emphasis on authority, obedience, and chain-of-command, it should be no surprise that he is compulsively attracted to men (and more rarely, women) whom he…
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ash blu @ashblu.bsky.social · 25/06/2026
i hope one day his whole raft of teachings are forgotten in a dusty pile of rot. i grew up under his stuff - it is rotten/awful. it taught me to blame myself for so much. #Exvangelical #religiousabuse #childhoodtrauma #traumasurvivor
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 25/06/2026
"Bill Gothard’s cult creates a world in which abuse thrives in secret, and those that need help the most are silenced and shamed."
homeschoolersanonymous.net
Gothard’s ATI and the Duggar Family’s Secrets
The underlying principles and beliefs the Duggars have built their lives around actually help groom and shame victims, help hide grievous abuse, and even keep offenders from receiving needed help.
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Child Liberation Theology @childliberation.bsky.social · 25/06/2026
"Child liberation theology is not about abstract ideas but rather the simple yet radical act of treating children humanly and justly—something Rogers took seriously."
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Mr. Rogers and Child Liberation Theology
Child liberation theology is not about abstract ideas but rather the simple yet radical act of treating children humanly and justly—something Fred Rogers took seriously.
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 25/06/2026
"I want to stress just how widespread [Bill Gothard's] IBLP’s influence was within the Christian homeschooling world throughout my entire childhood and beyond. There were hundreds and thousands of families involved."
homeschoolersanonymous.net
10 Surprising Revelations in the Lawsuit Against Bill Gothard and IBLP
I want to throw into stark relief the extreme predatory nature of Gothard’s actions.
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 25/06/2026
Since we're all talking about Bill Gothard, don't forget the Home School Legal Defense Association (HSLDA) gave him their Lifetime Achievement Award just 4 years before he was accused by dozens of young people of sexual abuse—and never rescinded the award.
homeschoolersanonymous.net
HSLDA Gave This Man Their Prestigious Lifetime Achievement Award Just 4 Years Ago
And the 2010 “Gregg Harris” Lifetime Achievement Award goes to…
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 25/06/2026
All I can think about right now is how many children and young people's lives were devastated by Bill Gothard and his teachings. I don't hope he dies without facing accountability, but I do hope his coma is haunted by a terrifying chorus of his victims.
homeschoolersanonymous.net
Gothard Explains Why God Allows Child Molestation: Part One
It is never the job of a child to protect themselves from abuse. This job belongs to the adults in their life.
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ash blu @ashblu.bsky.social · 25/06/2026
i am not one to celebrate. but may he eventually rot and be forgotten.
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 25/06/2026
I have been a fly on the wall in a private Facebook group of Bill Gothard supporters since 2014. Here are screenshots from that group confirming Gothard's heart attack and coma.
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 25/06/2026
Disgraced homeschool leader and accused sexual predator Bill Gothard has reportedly had a heart attack and is currently in a coma in a hospital.
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 24/06/2026
Many homeschool alumni’s frustrations with Saxon Math relate to how it was taught: most alumni said they were required to teach themselves and also grade their own work.
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Why Homeschooled Children and Alumni Hate Saxon Math
Homeschoolers have a complicated relationship with math.
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