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Riles @riles.social · 23/04/2026

To me, transness just seems like another lifelong chronic illness that i have to carefully manage. I wish I could just be healthy without having to take medication for the rest of my life, and I long for normalcy. I don't think transness is a positive thing, it's just a thing we have to live with.

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Riles @riles.social · 15/03/2025

On the bright side, maybe a few dolls will switch to a better sport and avoid permanent injuries now.

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Riles @riles.social · 07/03/2025

You could stop fighting if you actually won

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Riles @riles.social · 04/03/2025

It just doesn't work for some people. I'm slender and around 99th percentile by height. It's a miracle when something at a thrift store fits. Ironically, $2000 designer clothes often fit me perfectly, but I can't build a wardrobe like that.

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Riles @riles.social · 04/03/2025

Genuinely do not know how to buy clothes in 2025.

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Riles @riles.social · 17/02/2025

How did you improve so fast? It took me a year to do anything but tumble down black runs. My partner rollerblades and she picked it up much faster. Do you do another sport that trains some of the same muscle memory?

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Riles @riles.social · 14/02/2025

When you s/trans// and forget the g

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Riles @riles.social · 25/12/2024

The swedish movie is better for a few reasons but especially because the American version pornifies a certain scene in true American fashion

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Riles @riles.social · 10/12/2024

Don't be silent when people in your life say hateful things, even if that's the easy path. Confront them. Tell them to stop picking on people with less social power than them. Tell them their "jokes" aren't funny. Don't date them and make excuses for their behavior.

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Riles @riles.social · 01/12/2024

Mysteries are based on limited information. As a GM, you can only limit information by telling your players "no" a lot, which doesn't make for a fun game.

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Riles @riles.social · 01/12/2024

This is how I got my start, and I owe a lot to the sysadmin who mentored me. I just don't know if this pipeline exists anymore. I'm a staff SWE at a FAANG-lite and getting offers isn't difficult. But I don't have a CS degree. I don't think they'd even interview a new engineer without a CS degree.

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Riles @riles.social · 01/12/2024

For a brief period, tech provided an unprecedented level of class mobility in the US. There isn't really an equivalent anymore. But if I was a young person now and I had the resources, I'd probably try to enter the medical field.

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Riles @riles.social · 01/12/2024

It's very difficult to mentor people into the industry because it's not the same industry it was when I started. My advice doesn't work anymore and if I was starting over in $current_year, I'd pick a different industry.

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Riles @riles.social · 29/11/2024

Moving out of Texas is one of the best decisions I ever made. My health and happiness skyrocketed after I left.

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Riles @riles.social · 26/03/2024

My trans gf and i are trying for a baby. No luck so far but we're still trying

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Riles @riles.social · 26/03/2024

Part of respecting your employees and treating them as though they matter is *paying them fairly*

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Riles @riles.social · 15/02/2024

It's so pretty! Sometimes i see pictures of Portland and wish i lived there until i remember that i already do 😅

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Riles @riles.social · 09/02/2024

Omg! I'm overdue to rollerblade the waterfront

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Riles @riles.social · 09/02/2024

Some girls want precision fermentation

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Riles @riles.social · 09/02/2024

If you don't ignite them all at once, the remaining members of a polycule will swarm you

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Riles @riles.social · 19/11/2023

I've been aggressively catcalled by large groups of them multiple times. My friend who lives downtown has been chased by them at night. I'm afraid to walk on the west side alone at night now.

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Riles @riles.social · 05/09/2023

Traveling is traumatic. How are you supposed to plan an outfit hours or even days ahead of time?? I have to pack my entire closet just in case.

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Riles @riles.social · 05/09/2023

How are you even supposed to stay pretty if you can't sleep a minimum of 10 hours a day?

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Riles @riles.social · 05/09/2023

I was desperate so I ordered estradiol from some pharmacy in Turkey or something. When I told her, she said she didn't want to be my primary care physician anymore. No regrets 😌

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Riles @riles.social · 05/09/2023

As long as you can hide it a little, you can still get away with transphobia in healthcare. A PA tried to gatekeep me and said I'd have to take spiro for 6 months before she'd let me take estrogen. It was a reality check that even the OHSU transgender health clinic isn't necessarily on our side.

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Riles @riles.social · 04/09/2023

You mean the interstate between Portland and Seattle that's exactly like every other interstate highway in the country? I drove it yesterday. It's not "some of the worst roads in the country", by a very big margin.

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Riles @riles.social · 02/09/2023

They roll up the carpet around 8pm in Portland, so it can be annoying if you're up at night. But that's the only real downside compared to other big cities I've lived in. In most ways it's pretty great.

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Riles @riles.social · 02/09/2023

I'd prefer platitudes over the alternative

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Riles @riles.social · 01/09/2023

She looks so cold 🥺

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Riles @riles.social · 31/08/2023