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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 1h

I would really like to see the play! Also: stage managers RULE.

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 1h

I still read Bridge to Terabithia every couple/few years. I’ve never outgrown it.

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 3h

Banned book highlight: "Tuck Everlasting" by Natalie Babbitt. 🌿 Often challenged for themes of death, this classic reflects a core truth of doula care: mortality gives life meaning, and death is a natural cycle—not something to fear or censor. #BannedBooksWeek #DeathDoula #DeathPositive

Front cover of Tuck Everlasting: The Graphic Novel. The top text reads "NATALIE BABBITT'S TUCK EVERLASTING" in dark serif font, with "THE GRAPHIC NOVEL" centered beneath it. The watercolor illustration displays a warm sunset sky with a low sun over a lake. Tall pine trees frame the scene, with a cozy log cabin showing glowing yellow windows on the right bank. In the distance, two figures sit in a small blue rowboat on the water. The bottom text reads "ADAPTED AND ILLUSTRATED BY K. WOODMAN-MAYNARD".

Front cover of the novel Tuck Everlasting by Natalie Babbitt. The author's name is printed in large brown text across the top, above the book title in outlined serif letters. On the left is a circular emblem reading "CELEBRATING 50 YEARS - FOREWORD by Gabrielle Zevin". The lower half features a sepia-toned watercolor scene of a small red cabin surrounded by pine trees on the shore of a lake, with two dark silhouette figures in a rowboat on the water reflecting the red house.
Image 2: Tuck Everla

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 14h

Music has a way of holding our deepest memories and values. 🎶 Comment below with one song that must be on your life's final playlist. I’ll start with a banger that I’d love to take my last breaths to: open.spotify.com/track/5kguTo... #DeathDoula #LegacyProject #EndOfLifePlanning

Screenshot of the Spotify mobile app playing "Tonight, Tonight" by The Smashing Pumpkins. The media player interface displays the song title, artist name, album artwork, playback controls, progress bar at 0:20, and a "Switch to video" button. In the dark background, a shadowy figure wearing a top hat is framed against a star-filled night sky.

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 19h

Yes! I haven’t read it yet but it’s on my #TBR: The First to Die at the End might be a great pickup for you! It’s the prequel to They Both Die at the End. In it, two strangers’ lives begin to collide right as one of them receives the very first ever Death-Cast call. Hope this works for ya! 🤞

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 07/10/2026

As a #DeathDoula, I hold space for losses that society tries to ignore. Grief doesn't disappear just because it makes others uncomfortable. We honor the living and the dead by refusing to censor grief. If this (or any other) book has helped you navigate an unacknowledged loss, let me know

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 07/10/2026

Today's 2nd #BannedBooksWeek highlight: "More Happy Than Not", also by Adam Silvera. 🤍. It deeply explores disenfranchised grief: suicide loss, closeted heartbreak, and the urge to erase trauma. Banning books like this doesn't protect readers; it just isolates those carrying unspeakable pain.

Front cover of the book More Happy Than Not by Adam Silvera. The title is written in large, bold, light-blue sans-serif lettering stacked in three lines ("MORE", "HAPPY", "THAN NOT") across a textured, yellow background. A black spray-painted smiley face outline is visible behind the text. The author's name, "ADAM SILVERA", is printed in bold black text in the bottom-right corner.

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 07/10/2026

It also allows us to plan with intention, cherish chosen family, and live fully right now. As death doulas, our priority is to ensure that each dying person's story and identity are fully witnessed. 🤍 2/2 #DeathDoula #LGBTQ #DeathPositive

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 07/10/2026

Today's first of two #BannedBooksWeek highlights: "They Both Die at the End" by Adam Silvera. 📖 I love that this is on @en3myp1nkk.bsky.social annual reading list! Following two queer teens on their last day, it shows how facing mortality forces us to live with total authenticity. 🧵 1/2

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 06/10/2026

Glad to hear it and you’re so welcome! Happy to hear your thoughts when you’ve finished.

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 06/10/2026

Post 3/3 Frequently challenged for confronting sudden childhood loss, this classic shows how grief breaks us open. We can't shield people from loss—we can only walk beside them in it. My signed hardcover copy remains among my most valued possessions.

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 06/10/2026

Post 2/3 I remember that I had just turned 9 when my grandfather bought it for me on a visit to a small, local bookstore. Reading it moved me in a way I hadn't yet learned a book could, or that I even had words for at the time #BannedBooksWeek #DeathDoula #GriefSupport

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 06/10/2026

Post 1/3 For #BannedBooksWeek, I'll share titles that are often banned because their content presents inconvenient truths about death, dying, and grief. Starting us off, I'm nostalgic to share the most impactful book of my young life: "Bridge to Terabithia" by Katherine Paterson. 🌿🧵

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Queer Liberation Library @queerliblib.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

In 2025, 39% of challenged books represent the lived experiences of LGBTQIA+ people and people of color. This isn't just censorship. It's an attack on our communities! Read banned books. Help us continue fighting for equal access to knowledge. 🏳️‍🌈📚

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 04/10/2026

Not big on selfies (#GenX lol) but with a birthday on the horizon, why not? Working with mortality teaches you to wear bright colors, celebrate getting older, & savor being right here, right now. Grateful for another trip around the sun! ☀️ #SundaySelfPortrait #DeathDoula #EndOfLifePlanning

A close-up selfie of a bald man with a neatly trimmed silver beard and goatee, looking warmly into the camera. He wears unique glasses with blue, red, and yellow geometric frames, earlobe plugs, and a vibrant peach, teal, and grey botanical-print shirt. The background shows a bright, cozy room with tiled floors and several green house plants in the sunlight.

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 02/10/2026

Have you talked with your loved ones or chosen family about your end-of-life healthcare preferences? Where are you in the process?. 🤍 #endoflifeplanning #deathdoula 1️⃣ Yes, all set & documented! 2️⃣ Started the conversation. 3️⃣ Not sure where to start. 📊 Show results

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 01/10/2026

AZ legally permits biodegradable shrouds, water cremation (aquamation), and recently, human composting (natural #organic reduction). Choosing these leaves a profoundly lighter footprint. Have you considered an #eco-friendly legacy? 🌿 #deathpositivity

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 01/10/2026

Post 1/2 In Arizona, green burials skip embalming fluids and vaults, allowing bodies to naturally return to the earth. But that's not the only eco-option available to us here. 🧵 #greenburial

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 30/09/2026

Currently reading Briefly, Perfectly Human by Alua Arthur, and the quote deeply resonated with me. It captures the heartbeat of why I want to do this work: everyone deserves to be truly seen and valued, especially as they approach the end of life. 🤍 #deathdoula #bookstagram #amreading

A square text graphic on a warm gold to dark brown gradient background. Framed by thin borders and large quotation marks, white text reads: "You are seen. You are heard. Your life matters. Your death will too." Below the quote, smaller text reads: "Alua Arthur, Briefly, Perfectly Human".

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 29/09/2026

Common question: Do I need a doula if I already have hospice? Hospice provides essential medical, nursing, and clinical care. Doulas offer non-medical emotional, practical, and holistic support—working alongside hospice to keep your wishes centered. 🤍 #deathdoula #hospice #endoflifeplanning

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 28/09/2026

3/3 If one of these would be helpful for your current situation, go to www.reverentridge.org (linked in my bio) to reach out. No requests through DMs, please! If you know someone else who could benefit, please tag them or share this thread! ✨ #GriefSupport #Legacy #Planning

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 28/09/2026

Post 2/3 I can give away exactly ONE of each of these services this month: If you or someone you know will be passing: 📋 1x Planning Session 🌳 1x Legacy Project Support Session If you and others have recently suffered a loss: 🤝 1x Family Support Session #ProBono #DeathDoula #EndOfLife

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 28/09/2026

Post 1/3 October is around the corner and that means new space for pro bono work is available! If you or someone you love needs a little extra professional support right now, I can help. AND - all these services work well as online meetings, so you don't even need to be in/near Phoenix! 🧵👇

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 26/09/2026

Lured by #nostalgia, my wife and I invested 15 cents each for a piece of Bazooka bubblegum while we were out today, mostly to see if there’s still a #comic in each piece. Good news: there is! Bad news: pretty sure AI is writing them now. #Dammit, @bazookajoe! Is nothing sacred? #AIFails 🙈🙅‍♂️

A small, slightly crinkled Bazooka Joe comic wrapper resting on a brown speckled countertop.
Text and Content Description:
Header: "SERIES 4: 34 OF 46" alongside the title "BAZOOKA JOE and his GANG™" featuring a portrait of Bazooka Joe in his eye patch and cap.
Comic Panels:
Panel 1: Two figures in a small red rowboat near a massive ocean liner call out, "AHOY! CAN WE COME ABOARD?" A voice from the ship shouts back, "NO! GET OUT OF HERE!"
Panel 2: Bazooka Joe points towards the ship and asks, "ARE YOU THE CAPTAIN OF THIS SHIP?" A voice answers, "NO!"
Panel 3: The figure in the small rowboat stands up and shouts, "THEN SHOW RESPECT FOR YOUR SUPERIOR I'M CAPTAIN OF THIS SHIP!"
Fortune Box: "FORTUNE: YOU ARE ABOUT TO MAKE A DISCOVERY THAT WILL BE OF HELP TO YOU LATER IN LIFE."
Footer: "ENTER THIS CODE AT BAZOOKAJOE.COM ➔ 36900906"

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 26/09/2026

Post 2/2 They may feel ashamed for grieving, or even gaslit into thinking they “shouldn't be so upset”. So let’s just agree: grief doesn't require social permission to exist. The absence of someone else's approval doesn't make the loss less devastating to experience. #griefsupport #deathdoula⁠

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 26/09/2026

Post 1/2 So to recap: disenfranchised grief is real. It matters to name it because its pain is often compounded by a lack of validation. The grieving person doesn't just lose something or someone; they also lose access to the rituals, support systems, and social permission that help them heal.🧵

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 25/09/2026

A quiet moment at the threshold of day. Simply sharing the sunrise is a reminder of how natural transitions can be when we allow ourselves to sit quietly and witness them. Are you creating space for quiet moments in your week? #DeathDoula #GriefSupport #Sunrise #QuietMoments #CatsOfBluesky

A silhouette of a cat sitting on a windowsill, gazing out a dark multi-pane grid window at a soft sunset sky. Outside, silhouetted palm fronds, trees, and streetlights are visible against a gradient of warm orange, yellow, and blue twilight.

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 25/09/2026

As an death doula, I hold compassionate, non-judgmental space for all your losses. You shouldn't have to justify your grief to deserve support. We'll finish this series tomorrow with a look at why naming it matters, and what the emotional toll looks like. 3/3 #deathdoula #queergrief #griefsupport

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 25/09/2026

What does disenfranchised grief look like? • Loss of chosen family or non-traditional partners • Miscarriage or pregnancy loss • Death of an ex, friend, or estranged relative • Pet loss • Loss of health, identity, or safety. Every type of loss deserves space to be felt. 2/3 #grief #lgbtq

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 25/09/2026

Not all grief gets a card, flowers, or a funeral. Disenfranchised grief happens when society doesn't recognize or validate your loss, leaving you to mourn in silence. Your pain is real, even when the world doesn't name it. 🧵 1/3 #disenfranchisedgrief #griefsupport #deathdoula

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 24/09/2026

Did you know that different types of grief exist? One form is disenfranchised grief, which happens when a loss isn't socially acknowledged or validated. Tomorrow, we'll dive deeper into what this looks like. 🕯️ #griefsupport #deathdoula #disenfranchisedgrief

A graphic with white text on a gold and dark brown gradient background framed by thin gold borders and large quotation marks. The top text reads: Not all grief is acknowledged with cards, flowers, or a funeral. Some grief isn't acknowledged at all." The bottom italicized text reads: "Disenfranchised grief refers to a loss that isn't socially recognized or openly validated by the world around us.

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 23/09/2026

Vigil support can include: ✨ Soft lighting & gentle sensory comfort 🎶 Calming music or guided breathing 🕯️ Honoring personal rituals & identity 🛡️ Shielding the space from stress In other words, we provide a soft, steady anchor when time slows down. 💙 #vigil #griefsupport

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 23/09/2026

Post 1/2 What is a death vigil? During a person's final hours, an end-of-life doula helps hold space and craft a peaceful physical & emotional environment. We manage the room atmosphere so loved ones can focus entirely on connection and presence. 🧵 #deathdoula #endoflifecare

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 22/09/2026

I hope that story and the humor your family uses to cope continue to serve you all well as you grieve. And yes, expected is still hard! Take care of yourself and don't let anyone tell how to grieve. Good intentions are often not and platitudes rarely help. 🕯️

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 22/09/2026

Did David ever realize what he said? And how did you control yourself lol...?

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 22/09/2026

Our culture shrouds death in mystery. Let's pull off the shadows together. If your question is too personal, DM me. #deathdoula #endoflife #griefsupport

A graphic with white serif text on a warm gold and dark brown gradient background. The text reads: "Talking about mortality isn't easy, but having a safe, non-judgmental space to ask questions makes all the difference. What's one question about end-of-life planning you've always wanted to ask? Drop it below. No question is too small."

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 20/09/2026

The insight here - well it’s what #poets do best and in this case, uniquely. #Bravo

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 19/09/2026

Amazing work! Death salons led by Black, brown, and LGBTQ+ doulas are creating safe spaces to discuss mortality, grief, and end-of-life care. By addressing cultural stigmas, systemic barriers, and traditions, they’re helping marginalized communities embrace death on their own terms. 🌿✨

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 19/09/2026

As a humanist, I’m not a traditionally prayerful person, but I’d make an exception in this case if it helped your hopes be true. 🤣

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 19/09/2026

💯💯💯💯 true! He was brilliant. Period.

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 19/09/2026

Post 2/2 Filing your documents with the AzHDR ensures doctors & loved ones can access your care preferences in an emergency. You don't need a lawyer to complete them—just a notary or witness. Seem too complicated ? A doula can help you talk through your options! 📋 #advancecareplanning #arizona

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 19/09/2026

Post 1/2 3 essential advance directive documents every adult needs: ✅ Healthcare Power of Attorney ✅ Living Will ✅Mental Health Care POA In AZ, access free forms online (tinyurl.com/cjsc24pv) and upload them to the AZ Healthcare Directives Registry (AzHDR). 🧵 #endoflifeplanning #deathdoula

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Life Care Planning | Attorney General's Office

Life Care Planning is an important task for all of us, whether young or old, healthy or facing challenges. Through increased awareness and access to information, Arizonans of all ages can make their c...

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 18/09/2026

A #deathdoula supports many facets of end-of-life planning: legacy & life review projects, vigil plans & bedside care, & other non-medical needs. There’s nothing morbid about this kind of planning. It makes this difficult but inevitable transition easier for the dying and their circles of care.

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 18/09/2026

There are a few different paths to making a will, depending on where you are located and how complicated your financial situation is: online services, directly with a lawyer or estate planner, or using DIY templates.

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 18/09/2026

Did you know? Death doulas and hospice teams aren't competitor. We’re actually teammates. 🤝 Together, we combine medical expertise with continuous personal support for the dying and their circle of care. #DeathDoula #HospiceCare #EndOfLifeCare

Infographic titled "Myth vs. Fact: Death Doulas & Hospice Teams." The graphic clarifies that death doulas complement clinical care rather than replace medical staff. A comparison table highlights that hospice nurses handle medical care, pain/symptom management, and medications, while death doulas provide non-medical emotional, spiritual, and practical support.

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 17/09/2026

I’m trying to get a #deathcafe set up here in #Phoenix. Based on the evidence I can find, it’s been awhile since we’ve had one. Glad the one you attended went well!!

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 17/09/2026

Thanks, for this! Sounds exactly what @agawande.bsky.social described happened to Mr. Lazaroff in the intro to his book, #beingmortal. Now I know the term for it!

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 17/09/2026

6/6 My goal is to ensure your values, chosen family, and identity are honored at the end of life, free from pressure to conform to unaligned traditions. My calendar is open for free consultations (link in bio). That’s my story. How did you first hear about end-of-life doulas?

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Scott Burnam @reverentridge.org · 17/09/2026

5/6 I recently completed excellent training from #INELDA and am fully ready to put it into practice. I am eager to serve all people, with a specialized focus on supporting the LGBTQIA2S+, secular (agnostics, animists, atheists, humanists), and pagan (Wicca, Heathen, Druid, etc.) communities.

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