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Lighthouse Full of Posies @poseylighthouse.bsky.social · 20/11/2025

After 20+ years in therapy I only discovered IFS this year. In a small pilot study, 16 weekly sessions left 92% of participants no longer meeting PTSD criteria. Not a cure-all, but the results are hopeful. Healing is possible. 💭 www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapy-t...

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Internal Family Systems Therapy

Internal Family Systems (IFS) is an approach to psychotherapy that identifies and addresses multiple sub-personalities or families within each person’s mental system. These sub-personalities consist o...

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Lighthouse Full of Posies @poseylighthouse.bsky.social · 19/11/2025

If you experience abuse in any form, plan your exit now. It only escalates 💙

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Lighthouse Full of Posies @poseylighthouse.bsky.social · 19/11/2025

Barry Goldstein on harmful outcome cases. These are extreme decisions where the alleged abuser is given custody and a safe, protective mother who is the primary attachment figure is limited to supervised or no visitation. Saunders says these decisions are ALWAYS wrong and based on flawed practices.

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Harmful Outcome Cases: Risks and Opportunities

Harmful Outcome Cases: Risks and Opportunities by Barry Goldstein & Veronica York

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Lighthouse Full of Posies @poseylighthouse.bsky.social · 14/11/2025

@johnfugelsang.bsky.social Ok I listen to your podcast the next day. And I know you weren't the host (not sure Max Burns @), but in case other listeners heard this or God forbid david in california is here--- can we stop referring to Matt Gaetz victims as "little hookers" ?! are you fucking serious

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Lighthouse Full of Posies @poseylighthouse.bsky.social · 12/11/2025

@theanthonydavis.bsky.social Did you just refer to the Clinton/Lewinsky scandal as a consensual relationship between adults? I'm not taking away from the differences between Trump and SA of minors, but adults or not there was a power imbalance and it was harassment and coercion at best. Just sayin.

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Lighthouse Full of Posies @poseylighthouse.bsky.social · 12/11/2025

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Elizabeth Cronise McLaughlin @ecmclaughlin.bsky.social · 30/10/2025

Virginia Giuffre’s family just put out a statement about how an ordinary American girl who was abused and trafficked finally brought down a prince, and I am in tears. www.bbc.com/news/live/cn...

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Prince Andrew stripped of 'prince' title and will move out of Royal Lodge

He will now be known as Andrew Mountbatten Windsor - Buckingham Palace says

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Laura Chapin @laurachapin.bsky.social · 20/10/2025

Before Obamacare, being a woman was a pre-existing condition, including coverage denial for domestic violence, contraception, pregnancy, and certain cancers. You could be charged more for insurance premiums just for being female. It was called a 'gender rating'.

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Mia Ives-Rublee @seemiaroll.bsky.social · 17/10/2025

Johnson doesn't think domestic violence is serious.

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Qasim Rashid, Esq. @qasimrashid.com · 21/10/2025

This is Jesse Mack Butler from Oklahoma. Butler r*ped two teen girls over a period of 9 months, nearly killed them by strangulation, which was recorded on video. Butler was convicted of 11 counts of r*pe and sexual assault and was sentenced to 78 years in prison. But he will serve 0 jail time 1/2

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Allison Gill @muellershewrote.com · 09/09/2025

Remember what depreciation is as Epstein associates use it to describe a young girl: the systematic allocation of the cost of a tangible asset over its useful life, accounting for its gradual loss of value due to wear and tear, age, or obsolescence.

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Lighthouse Full of Posies @poseylighthouse.bsky.social · 10/09/2025

Making Domestic violence great again? Ugh

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Lighthouse Full of Posies @poseylighthouse.bsky.social · 03/09/2025

This! Always trying to drown out the truth. With literal noise.

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Lighthouse Full of Posies @poseylighthouse.bsky.social · 21/04/2025

From: @womenscoalition.bsky.social "Two high-profile stories in the news this week involve Custody Crisis cases: the Florida State University mass shooting and the attempted murder of the Pennsylvania Governor." womenscoalition.subs... #ChildAbusePreventionMonth #DomesticAbuse #MeTooFamilyCourt

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FSU Mass Shooter Was Taken & Alienated from Mom at 10-Years-Old

And: Attempted Murderer of Gov. Shapiro Had Primary Custody

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Lighthouse Full of Posies @poseylighthouse.bsky.social · 20/04/2025

If you're stuck in isolation with someone abusive, message me about my make up, if I still sell it? I'll know to keep checking in. Ask specifically about my eyeliner and I will ask what your address is, so I can send you a free sample, so I can contact authorities for you. 💖 Stay safe!

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Lighthouse Full of Posies @poseylighthouse.bsky.social · 19/04/2025

I'm so sorry if I've added you more than once in the last few days! I ran into issues following people from starter packs and just had to reset everything. So I'm carefully reviewing and adding each back one at a time to make sure it’s done properly to avoid the spam/bots. Thanks for your patience!

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Lighthouse Full of Posies @poseylighthouse.bsky.social · 18/04/2025

Right?! And wow yea I feel like Lundy should be a household name. He is around here, but his work is SO impactful 💙

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Lighthouse Full of Posies @poseylighthouse.bsky.social · 18/04/2025

I just created this bluesky 2 days ago. But if you/she are on meta, facebook.com/LiHFP is the page that I've worked on for years with similar resources. I hope to be able to build something similar and as helpful as OMB now. Thankfully there is a growing community of survivors and advocates. 💙

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Lighthouse Full of Posies @poseylighthouse.bsky.social · 18/04/2025

That is the truth! I have less than a month now until my youngest turns 18... which I know is the exact reason the situation has started escalating for us personally again. But also how I am finally able to start talking about it all openly.

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Lighthouse Full of Posies @poseylighthouse.bsky.social · 18/04/2025

If she hasn't already come across this page, it has a ton of resources. I have no affiliation with it, she was just one of the very first to start speaking out as I was going through my own family court hell. I have a lot of other good info on my Facebook as well.💙 www.onemomsbattle.com/resources

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High Conflict Divorce Resources - Divorcing a Narcissist — One Mom's Battle

Educating yourself on Narcissism or divorcing a narcissist is the most important thing that you can do. By predicting what is coming next, you remove the “shock value” from the narcissistic attack.

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Lighthouse Full of Posies @poseylighthouse.bsky.social · 18/04/2025

I'm so sorry. My children are essentially grown, and yes sadly no matter how much you try to keep the peace in those situations, the abuse never ends. 💔

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Lighthouse Full of Posies @poseylighthouse.bsky.social · 18/04/2025

From my understanding she was a victim of abuse and it was her effort to protect him from the father and stepmother... which is sadly all too common 💔

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Lighthouse Full of Posies @poseylighthouse.bsky.social · 18/04/2025

SO true! His abusive behavior and tactics (particularly the DARVO and gaslighting) are SO predictable. I know it's a big reason he and MAGA are so triggering for so many of us 💔 We personally survived coercive control and violence, and now have to experience it all again with the whole world. 💔

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Lighthouse Full of Posies @poseylighthouse.bsky.social · 18/04/2025

That's the plan! I started on Facebook in 2018. Despite protecting my anonymity there, it got into the wrong hands and is no longer private. So I openly published an article for the first time on 4/16 and created this shortly after. I'm building again now from the ground up, so stay tuned 💙

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Lighthouse Full of Posies @poseylighthouse.bsky.social · 18/04/2025

I'm so sorry! How horrible 💔 I'm so glad you survived 💙

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Lighthouse Full of Posies @poseylighthouse.bsky.social · 18/04/2025

I created this Bluesky on 4/16/2025—the same day I published my first article on Medium. I’ll likely repost some content here that I previously posted [anonymously] on Facebook. Please bear with me as I build from the ground up now. It’s a bumpy road adjusting to openly speaking about these things.💙

For years, I’ve discussed domestic abuse from a faceless platform. My advocacy began intentionally quiet — I avoided personal references and refrained from naming anyone (including myself). Instead, I focused on the issues as a whole. My efforts have been aimed at supporting fellow advocates, professionals, allies, and survivors.

Recently my privacy was compromised without my consent and without any warning. The sense of security I once found in obscurity is no longer intact. The very reason I stayed nameless was to avoid backlash — but it came regardless. So while this exposure wasn’t my decision, I am choosing to reclaim my voice in the process, even as I navigate the uncertainty of fully embracing the shift.

So here I am now, writing under my real name — not because it’s safer, but because anonymity didn’t offer any lasting protection. Hiding hasn’t ever helped.

Visibility definitely carries risk — but staying silent doesn’t eliminate that, and certainly comes with its own burdens too.

I’m not here to talk about my trauma history for clicks, it’s not about me at all. It’s about pointing out the failing systems, identifying the patterns that perpetuate harm, and providing the support and information I once needed — so others can access it when it matters most.

So this is me — no longer in the shadows. Not because I’m no longer in fear, but because I refuse to let fear determine what I say — or what I stay silent about — ever again. I am Jamie Harris Posey, and I’m a survivor of domestic violence. More importantly, I’m committed to using my own wreckage to help others navigate a path to safety.

Use your pain. Show others how you have overcome your suffering. Become a beacon of hope. We are all lighthouses built from the bones of broken ships. We can keep others from crashing.

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Lighthouse Full of Posies @poseylighthouse.bsky.social · 18/04/2025

Sadly, this is not uncommon among domestic terrorists. The majority of mass shooters in this century also have a history of family violence.

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Lighthouse Full of Posies @poseylighthouse.bsky.social · 18/04/2025

I'm sorry to hear that 💔 Just know you're not alone!

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Lighthouse Full of Posies @poseylighthouse.bsky.social · 16/04/2025

"Even for those who aren’t religious, Easter can be a lighthearted celebration centered around kids and community. But for others — especially in households affected by domestic violence or child abuse — Easter, like many holidays, can become a time of increased danger and pain."

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Easter Isn’t Always Sweet

How Holidays Can Hide the Pain of Domestic Violence and Child Abuse

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Lighthouse Full of Posies @poseylighthouse.bsky.social · 16/04/2025

"...I refuse to let fear determine what I say — or what I stay silent about — ever again. I am Jamie Harris Posey, and I’m a survivor of domestic violence. More importantly, I’m committed to using my own wreckage to help others navigate a path to safety. "

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About – Jamie Harris Posey – Medium

About Jamie Harris Posey on Medium. Lighthouse Full of Posies https://www.facebook.com/LiHFP.

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