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Solaire 🔜 GATEway FATE 🐏 @solairelunaire.bsky.social · 23/07/2026

as berlin fanfest is coming up this weekend, a heads up that persephius / ren publicly stated he was attending before. there is no reason to believe he‘ll change his habits of forming relationships via camaraderie at cons, leading to abhorrent abuse. please watch out for each other, stay safe!

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Solaire 🔜 GATEway FATE 🐏 @solairelunaire.bsky.social · 18/06/2026

ran into a tumblr post about how predators in spaces that care about social justice operate, and i'm haunted by how PERFECTLY it describes ren/persephius/byletri's behavior and how other bullies like him operate. please keep this in mind for the next time this inevitably crops up again as a strategy

post by angrygirlcomics-prime:

predators in sj spaces know exactly what they’re doing.

They post intensely personal shit to get people on their side. They post sob stories. They might pick and choose people to “befriend”, well-intentioned people who are often victims of trauma themselves who seek these spaces bc they believe them to be safe. Of course, intensely personal stories and sad stories and picking friends are not exclusive to abusers, obviously! But then it escalates.

They will use buzzwords about their identity when called out (“I’m a xyz, I can’t possibly be abusive!”), or further play victim, or even accuse OTHER people of abuse (“YOU’RE BULLYING ME! Stop bullying me!!!”). They will get other people to cosign their bullshit. They’ll publicly do extreme things to get people to sympathize with them, such as threaten self harm. Their stories sound completely outrageous yet we still believe them bc many in those spaces are well intentioned and will give benefit of the doubt (not bad things to have innately) because they want everyone to feel welcomed (again, not an innately bad thing).

Abusers in sj spaces rely on the silence and discomfort of other people who do not want to accidentally be on the “wrong side” in order to keep perpetuating their abuse. They shout down and accuse anyone who calls them out on certain statements or mistakes as bullies and will probably employ terms like “tone policing” or some other sj buzzword. They rely on the fact that you’re probably second guessing your instincts because this person seems like a perfectly legitimate “socially aware” “progressive” person who knows all of the right terms and things to say, even if the way and context in which they say these things has massively fucked up implications.

Abusers in sj spaces and in general have no boundaries: they will dominate the space, make themselves into a perfect image of the “kind” of person the space is “supposed” to be for, and roll with it from there.

We cannot just straight up believe everything we’re told on the Internet. Even in this age of oversharing, ESPECIALLY in this age of oversharing, when people make themselves look vulnerable in order to exploit other people. I am especially worried that young and impressionable people will get the sense that the only way to be a “good person” is to throw their support behind people like this, people who talk the right talk but might post unsettling and upsetting shit.

I beg you please, PLEASE be careful. If someone’s words make you feel uncomfortable, you have the right to not engage. You have the right to stay away, even if other people are trying to guilt you into interacting with this person. You should NEVER FEEL GUILTED INTO DOING ANYTHING FOR ANOTHER PERSON. Social justice should NOT be created through guilt and fear.

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🌙 @clearsoul.bsky.social · 17/06/2026

last thing about persephius: when he inevitably comes back, which he will probably try to do, do not let him back in. considering i knew him in 2018 and hes seemingly not changed (and his behaviour predates me by a few years), i think we are past any benefit of the doubt that he can grow.

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kaz @shibakaz.bsky.social · 17/06/2026

Reminder that abusive people like Ren who are internet and attention addicted have a habit of trying to come back into a community (often under a new name) a few weeks or months after getting busted and deactivating. Stay vigilant and if you spot him trying to come back, let people know.

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peachyyteas.bsky.social @peachyyteas.bsky.social · 17/06/2026

it looks like persephius/byletri/ren deactivated but it’s important to remember his victim’s words. he will try to come back. we cannot allow this repeat abuser to come back to fandom spaces

My only remaining wish in all of this mess now is that all of
FFXIV and the greater Internet as a whole will remember you as the infamous perpetrator of 650+ pages of heinous emotional abuse, and will never allow you to participate in fandom again. You don't deserve the privilege.

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paige 💌 @ghoulvalentines.bsky.social · 17/06/2026

Like I say this because looking at the name and not the behavior is why Ren got away with this for so many years. He was manipulative, yes, but not everyone was being actively manipulated in little friend groups.

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paige 💌 @ghoulvalentines.bsky.social · 17/06/2026

When an abuser deletes from socmed it is FAR more important to remember their behavior than their name. A name can be changed. People can make new socmed accounts. The behavior does not change. Pay attention to people's actions and listen to your gut.

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chris❗️ @clowngoo.bsky.social · 16/06/2026

a response was made by ren, so i am going to respond here. first i would like to say that i do not want reparations. i would very much prefer if you made donations to some local shelters/charities that focus on helping black women. i will link some i found today at the end of this thread.

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chris❗️ @clowngoo.bsky.social · 16/06/2026

here is an actual response to what was directed at me and the end segment:

to respond to the ‘speaking canto’ in front of me, i do not mind it being spoken around me, but in the context of your colorism and flexing your more culturally chinese upbringing, it made me feel like shit. I am empathetic to being raised with bigotry that is very hard to unlearn, but with the things you have done to the ffxiv community and others that came after me, i do not have any real reason to believe you have changed or learned anything from your therapy. I hope you really do though, one day.

to add more detail about the person talked about at the end of the document response;

this is the same person he claims stalked me. they are someone who i consider a great friend now & i cannot believe you are pinning this on them. disgusting. we have spoken about what happened after we connected and we are fine. they are not a stalker. we have mutual friends who knew we split from me, so i am very sure if they eventually heard it, it was bc of me. i will not name specific names since no one else needs to be dragged into this but i am sure you know which friends we shared that i would have told, since you made me lie to him to scare said 'stalker' because you knew they were hanging out irl and that said friend was 'loose lipped when drunk' so he would pass along the info that you were 'in town' to give your other victim a panic attack. the discussion we had when we did run into each other at anyc17 was actually just them fully apologizing, even for things that were not even their fault, bc of their intense fear for what you would do to them or me. I was only scared during this interaction because i knew if i didn’t do what you advised after running into them it would not be pretty.

and to further stand by this person, i truly thought i was a terrible person for even entertaining the idea that i was not the only problem in our relationship, but then i talked to them after we ran into each other a year later and we actually became friends. when we befriended each other, we realized that what you did to me, you did to them, and then others. they are one of the most kind hearted people and most considerate. they are one of my good friends and i will stand by them. i am more infuriated with how you treated them than anything you have ever done to me. i do not want 'reparations'. you have to take accountability for years of abuse and torment you put them through, and now trying to pin this blame on them at the end of your 'accountability/apology'. it's revolting. i try to keep my responses to things like this neutral but genuinely what you have done to them makes me sick and angry. We actually never talk about you. You are not a frequently brought up topic, only when we first talked about our similar experiences in the abuse you put us through. They are not an obsessive stalker, but someone who was terrified of you coming after them again, and they are traumatized by the things you put them through. But they are also the only good thing to come from the situation, and i am grateful only for that. You can try to blame them, but through years of friendship I know what the truth is and who truly was a victim in this situation. I will stand by them and i do not accept your apology, and i fully stand with the response from your unnamed victim who posted the 600+ page document. Leave us alone. We do not need to be ‘saved’ or wary of them.

Please do not contact me directly, or try to reach out through any mutual friends/etc. I want to move on from this finally after getting to share my experience and I do not want to hear about you or anything from you anymore.

I would prefer you just donate the reparations money to the charities/shelters i have found here that are based in your area:

California Black Women's Health Project
https://www.cabwhp.org/donate.html

CA Black Women’s Collective Empowerment Institute
https://www.cablackwomenscollective.org

Bay Area Rescue Mission
https://www.bayarearescue.org/?form=FUNSMQGDZHU&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=23638107019

Safe Horizon
https://www.safehorizon.org/giving/?cid=701UK00000LYWUcYAP&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=23812480780

Here is a page with a list of multiple places you can send your money and support:

https://www.bwopatileleads.org/ca_black_women_organizations

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fearne @ gateway soon 👀 @almandines.bsky.social · 16/06/2026

Remember how like a week ago we were all talking about how walls of text meant to flood you with problems to overwhelm you and force you to be unable to answer everything at once is an abuse tactic? Remember how we acknowledged that a big part of the problem is manipulation of therapy language?

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Mila 🌸 @deathflare.bsky.social · 16/06/2026

If you're gullible enough to believe the guy who continued to obsessively monitor everybody who ever unfollowed and blocked him, who faked strokes for sympathy, who created sockpuppets every time he faced anything resembling a consequence for easy sympathy, you're not a safe person yourself.

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Mila 🌸 @deathflare.bsky.social · 16/06/2026

I can confirm this as someone who spoke at length with the person mentioned privately. I am utterly repulsed by the fact Ren tried to drag this person into the situation and blame THEM for his actions, especially having heard myself what he put them through. He's not sorry; he never has been.

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starless 🌌🦊 drowning in FEFW @irlhange.bsky.social · 16/06/2026

seconding this, and also: unless you are one of his victims, it is NOT YOUR PLACE to "accept his apology" and welcome him back. It's not about you. You don't get to decide the harm he did to others is "forgiven" just because you, personally, feel his apology is enough. It's not our place.

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✨Aedric✨ Writingway on AO3 @necromeowncy.bsky.social · 16/06/2026

hey. hey, look me in the eyes, FFXIV community. We are not allowing an abuser to come back. You never have to accept the apology of someone who hurt you or your friends. Promise me.

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🌸 pink thang 🌸 @bunnalien.bsky.social · 16/06/2026

i haven't read the "apology" myself and don't plan to bc frankly i'm too employed for that but this is just another part of the pattern of abuse lol

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seph @astridrennier.bsky.social · 16/06/2026

i dont even have to open that doc to know that byletri aint fucking sorry and nothing about him will change just based on the text in the post linking the doc stay fucking gone asshole

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Kili🌟🔞 @kilieit.bsky.social · 16/06/2026

If you have abuse triggers - please be aware that it seems a serial abuser (byletri) has released an "apology" today and it's exactly what you think take care and blacklist/avoid everything you think you might need to, nothing of value lies on the other side. ❤️‍🩹

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˖⁺ ☁⋆ ୭ 🕊.⋆｡⋆༶⋆˙⊹ @winter.etheirys.social · 16/06/2026

be loud. make it a POINT to not associate with him, even by proxy. dangers like ren need to be excised like tumors. you do not give it a pathway back in, no matter how narrow, how weak. GIVE ABUSERS NO QUARTER. PROTECT YOUR PEOPLE.

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G’raha Tia @grahaxiv.bsky.social · 16/06/2026

I wasn't going to say anything bc I've been out of the XIV sphere & I would prefer to stay out of drama, but this needs to be said. The apology Ren published is nothing but self-serving, defensive and unacceptable. This is not taking accountability for your actions & the harm you've caused.

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Ren [7.56 ❗] + 🎮 FFXI: WoTG @drakesbane.vanadiel.network · 16/06/2026

i am not reading that damn apology letter. all i ask is that ren/persephius/byletri should shut the fuck up. your apology is hollow, and its not enough to undo the pain you have caused to the people you have hurt.

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🌸 pink thang 🌸 @bunnalien.bsky.social · 16/06/2026

yes this is about ren "the most chronically online guy who's perpetually 'on hiatus'" persephius. words don't mean shit; actions do. dude's gotta remove himself from online fan spaces until he can genuinely learn to interact with people in a healthy manner

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Solaire 🔜 GATEway FATE 🐏 @solairelunaire.bsky.social · 16/06/2026

tried to read the ren/persephius apology to glean any possible truth or good in it. all it demonstrates is that he‘s made a convenient fiction of the idea that he WAS a bigot and WAS an abuser, and ignores the fact that he HAS BEEN bigoted and abusive to others since. there’s nothing to trust there.

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Eliza Fustel @elizafustel.etheirys.social · 16/06/2026

lrt important to remember that persephius did NOT apologize for all the horrible shit he's been doing until literally all this started

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Julie sas brutus @smuggestsage.bsky.social · 16/06/2026

Statement from the person mentioned at the bottom of the doc. If you don't know what I'm talking about, perfect. They have not read it, but are aware of the usual claims that are made. They don't want to be contacted and I am not to convey any responses to them for their mental health 👍

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Momo @heyheymomo.bsky.social · 11/06/2026

Perhaps in this era of AI slop it’s extra important to me to show that my drawings are human made so I will embrace them being scribbly sloppy and zany more

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morse @morse.whiskystudios.net · 07/06/2026

We have GOT to stop downplaying patterns, or serial abusers like ren persephius and fuckin weirdos like jay fragments will continue to thrive.

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chris❗️ @clowngoo.bsky.social · 07/06/2026

Here is an account detailing some of the things I dealt with while being with with Ren in 2017. I have more I can share about certain instances but for now this is what I'm able to share publicly. It's really sad he has so many other victims and I hope all of us can finally move on and truly heal.

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Cawwine go Gateway FATE🫧 @callinemachine.bsky.social · 07/06/2026

What frustrates me about the response to him taking this long and this many targets is that even before his abuse victim disclosed traumatizing private information, we should have been able to recognize his behavior for what it was: harassment. Harassment of the "right" target is still harassment.

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SarahSyna @sarahsyna.bsky.social · 07/06/2026

Last I'll talk on the matter but the thing you need to understand about people like Persephius is that there is power in being seen as a victim. Not in being a victim, but in being *seen* as one.

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SarahSyna @sarahsyna.bsky.social · 07/06/2026

Kind, compassionate people, the kind abusers like him target, they will give so much space and understanding to victims, because they are good. Abusers understand this, and they will use it as a weapon. If you're the one wronged then you're always in the right, your feelings are more valid, etc.

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chris❗️ @clowngoo.bsky.social · 07/06/2026

i never expected to publicly say anything about this, but i finally can now. ren is my ex (2017). i am not the person mentioned here, nor is the stuff i faced nearly as bad compared to op of the doc, but he is a really bad person to get entangled with & i have experienced bits of what op dealt with.

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Mila 🌸 @deathflare.bsky.social · 07/06/2026

"this is JUST AS BAD as what he did to his victims" please shut the fuck up. genuinely. these burners show up like clockwork every time he faces anything resembling a consequence. you cannot be this naive.

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kat 👑 @asteria.blog · 07/06/2026

the content of the burners is vile and triggering for many, and despite the actions seen in the doc we obviously don't condone hate speech and homophobic slurs as a response to it. this is unfortunately a common abuse tactic to silence the victims and try to regain the old narrative, don't allow it.

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kat 👑 @asteria.blog · 07/06/2026

i'm not going to assume the burner accounts following a lot of xiv users ARE ren, but just be very wary if a post is made in the future putting the blame on a victims or more for making burners to harass and throw hate speech towards him to recenter him as the victim in this. we cannot allow that.

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Aymeric De Borel @deborel.bsky.social · 06/06/2026

//As a heads up: I work in/with behavior health and cannot overstate this: This account and the details therein are some of the most genuine and transparently presented documentations of abuse I have read in a long time. It can/will trigger those with a history of domestic abuse or general abuse. +

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peachyyteas.bsky.social @peachyyteas.bsky.social · 07/06/2026

regarding the ren/byletri/persephius situation: do not offer this abuser the benefit of the doubt. his abuse and intimidation tactics have not changed since 2019. this is a dangerous person to allow into any fandom space, where he will continue to mine for people he can exploit and abuse.

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