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I bet they thought of it. They didn't do it because they wanted to protect the reputations of the Great Scientists who rode on her back.

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Anyone who is more focused on the injustice of how the consequences of their actions are restricting them from living their best life than on how they might mitigate the harms they've caused is not penitent. They are thinking selfishly about their own benefit, which is the mindset of a rapist.

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A point to ponder is just how penitent they actually are if they are seeking to step into their old life and patterns, and reclaim their old position. If a chomo tried to get a job as a little league coach, that would seem to be a pretty clear indication that they intended to reoffend.

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Oh yeah, the joys of the Hidden Curriculum, where we are just supposed to magically osmosis things from being near multigenerational academic families, I guess

Why is the rapist treated differently? Why do so many people assume that it is somehow "just" for them to be able to resume the same positions of authority, respect, and influence that facilitated their ability to commit rape in the first place?

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Promising people who have not raped anyone or committed violent crimes or abused their spouses or kids or employees or students, who haven't set a clear precedent for the danger they pose to anyone they have power or influence over. Few people bemoan a molester's restrictions from children.

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That means that the consequences of the rapist's actions is that he or she doesn't get to have a clean slate, doesn't get to return to their life pre-exposure, and yes, some of their "promise" will remain unrealized BUT HONESTLY WHO CARES? There are a thousand more promising people to replace them.

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Their victim does not get to start over with a clean slate. They live with the trauma, the consequence of their attacker's violence, forever. The LEAST society can do to help compensate them for what they went through in seeking justice is to make it unlikely their attacker will reoffend.

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I think it's important to separate the punitive from the pragmatic. We are humans and have a natural attraction to punishment and retribution. But a pragmatic approach is asking, should this person be placed in a context that would make it easy for them to re-offend? Often, that's the "clean slate".

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This is, to not put too fine a point on it, a version of the "Promising Young Man" defense of sexual predators. In my opinion, what it comes down to is the question of redemption and if someone who commits a serious transgression should have their slate wiped clean, vs. living with consequences.

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I got a new advisor, she's like "just do this one thing, it'll be fine" and somehow, it is. It just is. I probably am still overthinking the one thing but I think I'm landing in the ballpark anyway.

I had a VERY bad experience with an advisor because I couldn't understand the assignment and he couldn't explain it in a way I could understand :(

I knit scarves. Just scarves. Not even fancy ones, it's just a thing to do with my hands Halfway through I get bored with the yarn and start a new scarf with different yarn

This is SUCH an ADHD thing! Overthinking like a sumbitch all the time

LOL it would make a good metaphor

Hahahaha yes, this year I planted like 20 tomato plants and it is overwhelming

Like I notice that a lot of people out there will consider themselves knowledgeable about something if they've read a couple articles about it, while my AuDHD peers are over here like "well I did spend three months on a lit review but really I barely scratched the surface"

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Ohhh, the "when am I good enough to consider this an accomplishment?" question. I don't know how to answer that one, really. I think a lot of people with ADHD struggle with it. I also think that a lot of people who lean toward the Au part of AuDHD tend to overshoot the goal because of not knowing

I could just let all the tomatoes in my ambitious tomato garden rot on the vine and start something new instead of canning them, so my garden isn't really a blocker. I have lots of things I can just feasibly abandon, and maybe come back to or maybe not.

Same! I have hundreds or maybe thousands of unfinished stories, essays, projects, book ideas, research ideas, art pieces, etc. Some of them are blockers, but most of them aren't. Like my dissertation, I literally cannot move out of this phase of my life until it's done. It's a big blocker.

But somehow what I find at the end of it all is that if I let my mind take its own path on its own time, it always circles back around to my project, and it always brings something new with it that I don't think I could have made a connection to if I'd been actually trying.

Hopefully I'm not just uselessly blathering on about myself and some of this is useful for you. In terms of creativity, I'm really trying to learn to trust my process, which often looks like I'm doing fuck-all. Literally going down random rabbitholes about influencers I don't care about, etc.

I think the best motivator that works for me personally is "because when I finish this, I get to do something new".

That might not be very helpful. I often wonder how I have gotten this far in life. The WHY I should finish something is very abstract and not a good motivator for me. Because I am supposed to? F that. Because I've sunk a ton of time into it? Not motivating. Because it will make me feel good? Maybe.

Probably the one thing that has ever helped me finish anything is working on it when I'm supposed to be working on something else. Like I really don't want to do the task at hand so I go off and finish painting that 3-foot stretch of trim in the bathroom I put up 10 years ago and never finished.

Determining IF something should be finished and WHEN it's finished is hard for me. But for my dissertation project, "just do the bare minimum necessary every day" has at least helped me keep moving it forward. I have a lot of unfinished projects around the house and it's a wonder I ever graduated.

Ooohhhh yeah I know a lot about that. I will hyperfocus on my special interests for weeks to years until I know SO MUCH about a topic/craft/skillset and am very good at it, and then I lose interest You can probably imagine how that's going for me as a PhD candidate. But meds help a lot.

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I think there was a bit of generational gap there because I remember everyone being very stoked to be able to do that on a computer.

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They really are! Like it's an experience they missed out on but now they get to role-play it as adults while pretending it's a form of protest.

I made an AI of Drumpf being fat and dressed like a woman while licking Putin's feet ✊🙋‍♀️ *resist* 🙋‍♀️✊

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Nice White Liberal Ladies be like Ha, ha, I made fun of a Republican's name ✊✊✊ *activism* 🙋‍♀️😁💯

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For real. I did everything we were told we were supposed to do to improve our lot in life. I'm a "success story" except for the student debt that makes it impossible for me to save for retirement. I will most likely end life like I started it; in poverty.

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How many of us have that one (or more, if we are very lucky) person we think of every day? For me it was the older couple a few houses down who fed me breakfast and taught me Cribbage.

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