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Nikki @nikkieneff.bsky.social · 12/06/2025

If you are on the struggle bus like me during these tumultuous times—don’t forget to take care of yourself. It’s okay that it is hard to watch and process. Because if it were easy to see, you wouldn’t recognize yourself anymore. That’s not weakness—it’s the most precious strength.

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Nikki @nikkieneff.bsky.social · 02/04/2025

Representative Stephanie Bice is showing the fact that she can’t be bothered to read emails sent to her AND that she’s just a lil ol racist white lady. I plan to send this email to every single subject option she has. Daily. Until I get a satisfactory response.

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Ms. Bice
Abrego Garcia was arrested by ICE on March 12 and sent to El Salvador on March 15, where his wife recognized him in a video showing the shackled and shaven prisoners being arrayed by Salvadoran authorities.
A federal judge already barred further removals under the Alien Enemies Act while proceedings play out in court. That decision triggered Trump to call for the impeachment of judges who have ruled against his administration. The judge, James Boasberg, is also weighing whether the Trump administration defied his order by deporting some Venezuelans to El Salvador after he demanded the March 15 flights be halted or turned around.
The administration contends that despite the
"good faith" error, Abrego Garcia is unlikely to face torture in El Salvador in part because the U.S. government made a broader assessment of El Salvador's intentions when it deported the larger groups of migrants.

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The Trump administration now says there's nothing it can do to facilitate Abrego Garcia's return to U.S. custody. The Justice Department is urging a federal judge to reject a petition by Abrego Garcia's attorneys to seek his return to United States custody, saying the Trump administration has no power to force El Salvador to facilitate that demand — and that the courts have no authority to issue such an order.
"This court should defer to the government's determination that Abrego Garcia will not likely be tortured or killed in El Salvador," Justice Department attorneys wrote. "Although the government erred in removing Abrego Garcia specifically to El Salvador, the government would not have removed any alien to El Salvador ... if it believed that doing so would violate the United States' obligations" under an international anti-torture treaty.
This is absolutely unacceptable. This is a direct violation of a court order. Chalking a man's life up to an administrative error and shrugging your shoulders that there is nothing to be done is the least American thing I have ever heard. Are you guys serious?!

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Why are we sending people with NO DUE PROCESS to El Salvador prisons where we have no recourse to bring them back if we find we have made mistakes because of the lack of due process-which is written into the constitution for everyone on American soil. Some of your colleagues seem to need that reminder, fyi.
This makes us look WEAK. This administration is admitting despite being the most powerful nation in the world, El Salvadoran prisons and the El Salvador president hold more power than we do.
I demand something be done. This is unacceptable. The judicial system is a part of the check and balances we have in this nation.
Deal with it. And not by defunding the judiciary as Mike Johnson proposed.

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Nikki @nikkieneff.bsky.social · 31/03/2025

Today marks one year without my soul cat, LucyFur. She took a piece of me with her a year ago. Losing her was harder than losing my parents (one to death and the other to going NC). She was there through all of it. Every now and again I catch a glimpse of her in the corner of my eye, though.

Close up picture of the face of a black cat with green eyes wrapped up in a white fluffy/faux furry blanket.

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Nikki @nikkieneff.bsky.social · 26/03/2025

If someone could explain to me how TikTok is a national security risk but cabinet heads and the VP talking war plans over signal on personal cell phones while accidentally adding a reporter and not noticing once isn’t that would be great.

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Nikki @nikkieneff.bsky.social · 14/03/2025

I stayed up to watch it 💜 I released a lot of things last night and feel like I need to recharge today, physically, emotionally, spiritually, mentally…all of them 🤣

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Nikki @nikkieneff.bsky.social · 14/03/2025

Knock on the door. Sales man starts in trying to sell me windows. In this economy 💀 Me: “I’m going to interrupt you and tell you no thank you” Him: “Ma’am is the owner of the house in?” Me: “You didn’t really think that would work did you”

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Nikki @nikkieneff.bsky.social · 06/03/2025

Dancing and smoke cleansing —some good ol incense 💜

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Nikki @nikkieneff.bsky.social · 28/02/2025

Even better, confirmed ICE protest in this conservative town 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

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Nikki @nikkieneff.bsky.social · 28/02/2025

Just drove past the high school in my conservative Oklahoma town (there is a church on literally every corner 🙄). There is a group of 100+ students with signs in English & Spanish —did not have time to catch what they said—but I did hear them chanting “F*ck Donald Trump!” I needed that today. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

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Nikki @nikkieneff.bsky.social · 28/02/2025

Watching Trump’s and Vance’s narcissistic abuse of Zelensky was hard. Zelensky is being punished for having the audacity to not bend to Trump’s will. Full stop. We are about to punish Ukraine for wanting sovereignty over themselves. My 10 year old has more emotional maturity than these guys.

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Nikki @nikkieneff.bsky.social · 27/02/2025

Same. But in Oklahoma, I know most of the people I encounter on a daily basis did vote 🍊. It’s horrifying. We are steadily trying to rebuild that trusted circle because how can you ever get past that this is what they wanted 🤯😭

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Nikki @nikkieneff.bsky.social · 25/02/2025

Healing is messy. You will uncover things you thought long healed that need attention. It just means you are building trust with yourself to honor and walk through those things. Grieving is messy. Trauma is messy. There is no “right way”. There is just your way. You are worthy of this work.

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Tears are a physical manifestation of energy. They are meant to flow. To be witnessed. To be acknowledged. They are a chance to hold space for your pain, for injustice, for loss. They are a portal for your grief.

Witness them. Thank them. Release them. Don’t force them to back in your body when they are screaming to come out. Honor them. There is magick in honoring yourself—allowing full expression of your mind, body, and spirit.

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Alt National Park Service @altnps.bsky.social · 19/02/2025

What the actual fuck?! America, it’s time to rise. When tyranny becomes law, rebellion becomes duty!

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Nikki @nikkieneff.bsky.social · 19/02/2025

If you’re in a red state, call your reps. They are trying to pass through some shady 💩. Especially if you’re in OK. They are trying to end no-fault divorce & bring in covenant marriage 😵‍💫. Call today!!! And also call and annoy your federal reps. Let them know you are informed and disapprove.

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Called Ms. Stephanie Bice to voice a litany of concerns about our democracy.

Don’t worry y’all. Her staffer ensured checks and balances are totes working and that 🍊 has honored all of the judicial orders.

When I asked how it was appropriate or democratic for the American President to truth social: “CONGESTION PRICING IS DEAD.
Manhattan, and all of New York, is SAVED. LONG LIVE THE KING!”(bold emphasis mine)—I got interrupted, told to have a nice day, and was promptly hung up on.

Anyway, call your reps and annoy them.

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Nikki @nikkieneff.bsky.social · 19/02/2025

While discussing dinner options my husband says, “We could work together to-” 🤣. Sir. I’m going to stop you right there. That sounds like way more effort than I’m willing to currently put in. Great news is that there are pizzas in the freezer 😉 I did make homemade soup for lunch though.

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Nikki @nikkieneff.bsky.social · 18/02/2025

After a two year hiatus, gardening is back 💜. My mom passed in 2023 when garden prep would normally start & it just didn’t happen. The year beyond that my dad went wack-a-doodle & after 8 months of that trauma, I didn’t have a 2024 garden season in me. The garden is making a 2025 comeback 💜💜

A black shelf of red solo cups (stacked two high with a marble between them so the first cup that has drainage holes can drain into the second cup), filled with soil and lit up with some garden lights and a shop light. It’s not fancy but it works.

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Nikki @nikkieneff.bsky.social · 17/02/2025

When you value and honor yourself—there isn’t an argument in the world that could convince you that you aren’t worth the effort of being treated with dignity and respect. It astounds me how quickly people revert to suggesting you just abandon yourself as a means to “fix a relationship”.

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There isn’t one event that results in going no contact with a parent. It’s death by a thousand cuts. And not just from the pain of going no contact and everything that led to that decision.

When you go no contact, the world clutches its pearls. You endure the never ending advice and judgment of people who believe they get to have input as to whether or not your boundary is valid.

It’s a wild ride. Today my mother-in-law tried to shame me for still not talking to my dad. I declined to receive that shame. Instead I said with conviction and passion for my own wellbeing, “I am worthy of being treated with dignity and respect.”

That made her very uncomfortable 🤷🏼‍♀️🤣

(Ends with a hands up/whatever emoji and a sideways crying laughing face emoji)

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Tallgirl6234 @tallgirl6234.bsky.social · 15/02/2025

He really is going page by page through Hitlers playbook

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Nikki @nikkieneff.bsky.social · 12/02/2025

Lil update: Y’all, this Yule inspired cleaner smells AMAZING!!! Slight vinegar on the tail end but mostly tree and orange. This lil potion brewed around 4 weeks. Diluted with moon water from the first full moon of the year. Looking forward to infusing my home with her magick. #WitchSky

Honey/amber colored liquid in two very large mason jars (gallon and 3/4 gallon size)

Liquid inside made of Fraser fir needles, orange peels, and cinnamon sticks soaked in vinegar for about a month and then strained out and diluted with moon water.

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Katie Phang @katiephang.bsky.social · 08/02/2025

Ooo this is a good one ☺️

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Nikki @nikkieneff.bsky.social · 08/02/2025

I live in Oklahoma and it is regrettably apparent how many live here. But yes, anyone who says this has not been paying attention.

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Nikki @nikkieneff.bsky.social · 08/02/2025

She could not take it off fast enough so I do think it was effective but perhaps too effective for my goal. 😆

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Nikki @nikkieneff.bsky.social · 08/02/2025

I made my MIL a hat and scarf for Christmas with the intention that she would feel the way she makes others feel when she wears it. She excitedly put it on and then almost immediately removed it. Haven’t seen her wear it once 🤣

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Nikki @nikkieneff.bsky.social · 07/02/2025

We cannot stand in our own strength and power if we are disconnected from ourselves. Breathe. Rest. Go outside. Feel the sun, bask in the moonlight. Let your toes touch the yellow, crunchy, cold grass. Today, I was met this cardinal couple. You are seen and loved and important. #WitchSky

Picture of my largely dead and crunchy backyard garden. Male cardinal in the bottom left corner, female cardinal in the top right corner perched on a wire arch.

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Nikki @nikkieneff.bsky.social · 06/02/2025

I was conditioned to believe self-respect was rude—because self-respect threatened my dad’s fragility. I know better now. I know boundaries are not rude. Not giving someone access to my attention or energy might be construed as rude by those who want access—but it’s just a boundary 🫶🏻

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I'm not listening to your words at this point.
I'm watching your behaviors and actions.
Your energy will clearly let me know if expending the energy to listen or even engage with you is worth the privilege of my energy.
I would rather be seen as rude than to abandon myself to the fragility of someone who thinks they are owed my respect.
We have been indoctrinated to be "nice" and to respect our elders and authority figures.
No. They can earn our respect. You don't owe anyone with the audacity to disrespect you or marginalized people your politeness.

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Nikki @nikkieneff.bsky.social · 05/02/2025

We need to hold our communities accountable and call out hatred. We need to be the whole problem. AND we need safe spaces of people we can trust and cry with and fight with and celebrate with. You have space here. I know the cost of standing up. I’ve paid it my whole life. Do it anyway. 🫶🏻

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Nikki @nikkieneff.bsky.social · 05/02/2025

Today was a hard news day. 🍊 & Musk are so triggering when you grew up with middle class versions of them. Seeing people still eat it up is like being that kid who wasn’t believed all over again. This time, though, I have found my people and that narrative is different. Thank you for that 🫶🏻.

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Nikki @nikkieneff.bsky.social · 01/02/2025

I planted some Johnny Jump Up violas (purple & yellow) once. They reseed every year and I love them so much 💜

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Nikki @nikkieneff.bsky.social · 01/02/2025

Y’all. My son was supposed to create a timeline of formative events for his “All About Me” assignment. I’m 💀🤣. He was born. His dog died. He got new dogs. His cat died. He got a new baby cat. They were all formative moments 🤷🏼‍♀️. Some highs and lows. He kept it real, real.

A timeline graph reflecting my son’s formative moments as follows:

He was born in July.
His dog died.
He got new dogs.
His cat died.
He got a new baby cat.

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Nikki @nikkieneff.bsky.social · 31/01/2025

Took my daughter (13) in to the dr for a lingering cough. They asked for her last cycle date. I laughed and laughed and told them no. Not with this admin. Not in this state (OK). Like y’all see what’s happening right? Drs need to stop asking unless it’s actually relevant to a diagnosis.

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Nikki @nikkieneff.bsky.social · 31/01/2025

If that fetus is far enough along that it is viable—it is a delivery and not some horror film act of murder. 🤯 We choose whether to provide life saving measures to older loved ones. Parents should have the right to decide to provide palliative care or life saving measures. Use some critical thinking

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Nikki @nikkieneff.bsky.social · 31/01/2025

Mr. Lankford. Your project 2025 is showing. Mr. Lankford is against palliative care for dying babies born from doomed pregnancies his state is mandating. Got it. Literally no doctors are killing viable babies. We already have laws against that. Full stop. That is murder. (Continued in comments)

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Nikki @nikkieneff.bsky.social · 31/01/2025

I was raised by a malignant narcissist father. Speaking up/out was never safe. But living in a world where my voice was silenced took away my only real power. I decided very quickly that I would rather be punished for calling him out than complicit in his hatred. Choose you discomfort wisely 💜

You are going to be uncomfortable speaking out and drawing attention to yourself. But you're also going to be uncomfortable not speaking out. You're going to think about how you had power in the moment even if that power was just to let someone else know they weren't alone.
You'll think about it all of the time.
Choose your discomfort wisely.
It's okay to be scared and do it anyway.

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Nikki @nikkieneff.bsky.social · 31/01/2025

I know we are talking government—but this applies. It will validate. It will give you tools. It will confirm that you aren’t crazy. This administration is so much more than narcissistic—but this is a start. You have power in this dynamic. Don’t let them convince you that you don’t. 🫶🏻

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It's Not You by Ramani Durvasula PhD: 9780593492628 | PenguinRandomHouse.com: Books

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Nikki @nikkieneff.bsky.social · 30/01/2025

You are not alone. It is their goal to demoralize you. If you can put the part of the population willing to call out stuff into freeze or flight or fawn they are a lot easier to control. Just breathe and ground and take care of yourself. Take a break from the news if you need to 💜

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Nikki @nikkieneff.bsky.social · 30/01/2025

Personally: Take care of yourself. You need it more now than ever. Ground. Breathe. Sleep. Stay informed and take breaks. Trust others will keep watch while you renew. Don’t lose hope. Stand firm. Trust your eyes and ears. Don’t listen to their words. Watch their actions.

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Nikki @nikkieneff.bsky.social · 30/01/2025

In person: Be the whole problem. Speak up. Be loud. Be a thorn in their side. Check people in your circles. Let them know that you see through them. Let them know you are surprised they align with these values. They will try to gaslight you. It’s in the playbook. Be prepared to stand firm.

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Nikki @nikkieneff.bsky.social · 30/01/2025

Don’t engage. Block. Move on. Protect your energy. I know. I want to argue, too. It’s just not worth it. They cannot be saved—at least not by you. They are on a path that will require a reckoning of themselves. You cannot do that for them. They might not even be able to do that for themselves.

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Nikki @nikkieneff.bsky.social · 30/01/2025

Me when I came to the meeting with the previous IEP, noted the proposed changes compared to progress, and asked for evidence as to why reduced services were being recommended. 😉

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Nikki @nikkieneff.bsky.social · 28/01/2025

My middle schooler asked me to round up all of our banned books. Looking at my 4th grader, I can tell you I don’t know 3rd grade me had any business trying to digest this without adult help which I can also 100% tell you I didn’t have. But I’ve had this since 1989 because I never wanted to forget.

Picture of then book: Anne Frank: The Diary of a Young Girl

Inside cover on the book inscribed: Mrs. Ryan, 3rd grade, Nicole (Me), Room 141

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