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Nicolaas Stulting @nicolaasstulting.bsky.social · 10/10/2026

It is a very good day today, to aim for balance, harmony, peace, love, and creativity. It seems like those valuable things are all much more possible with positive effort, good energy, and a sensible way of looking at life. It is actually a healthy mindset every day, but especially today...

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Nicolaas Stulting @nicolaasstulting.bsky.social · 21/02/2026

Personally, I believe that opposing racism and all forms of hate is currently the most important thing to do. I believe this is true for several reasons. Firstly, I feel it is a moral imperative. Human beings are all actually so similar that it is truly wrong for any humans to persecute others...

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Nicolaas Stulting @nicolaasstulting.bsky.social · 11/09/2026

Today is a good day to remember that if everyone you love is safe and happy that is all that truly matters. Give them all a hug, and tell them they are valuable to you, as it is the people that you love who matter most in this life.

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Nicolaas Stulting @nicolaasstulting.bsky.social · 10/10/2026

Writing so much these last few months, has helped me to understand that five pages a day is going to be more than four hundred pages in three months, which is really good to know. I am easily writing five pages a day every day, so that is good really. Of course, writing good pages matters too...

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Nicolaas Stulting @nicolaasstulting.bsky.social · 09/10/2026

Although the message still resonates for me, I do have to laugh about how simplistic my worldview was when I was thirty-four. Things change and things stay the same. My worldview is still pretty simplistic... youtu.be/FDbnlbi63yI?...

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Not Dead Yet by the Unnormals

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Nicolaas Stulting @nicolaasstulting.bsky.social · 08/10/2026

Made some decisions today, about spending the next year in a very peaceful and friendly, extremely liberal town, while I write two novels and record some new music. It seems like a healthy choice for me right now. Books do not write themselves, so you do have to schedule the writing in, I suppose...

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Nicolaas Stulting @nicolaasstulting.bsky.social · 02/10/2026

It is a strange thing with perspective, when you know that you have had the very worst day that you could ever possibly have, then all other days seem less serious, and all other obstacles seem less daunting, and all of life itself is viewed through that lens, that it will never be that bad again.

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Nicolaas Stulting @nicolaasstulting.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

When someone that you truly care about seems to be having a mental health crisis it can be very difficult to figure out how to help them, especially if they seemingly refuse help. Nonetheless, it is important to offer to help, because they are having a crisis and you do truly care about them.

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Nicolaas Stulting @nicolaasstulting.bsky.social · 26/09/2026

There is something seriously wrong with our society. In America it is actually very difficult to measurably improve the quality of life for a disabled person without messing up their status as a disabled person. Disabled people definitely deserve a sensible quality of life. Our society is very sick.

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Nicolaas Stulting @nicolaasstulting.bsky.social · 22/09/2026

Sometimes people can be confusing with communication, but if you look at the consequences of whatever choices they make it is usually easy to see what they fully intended and definitely wished to create with their own personal energy. It is usually obvious, although not always healthy or sensible...

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Nicolaas Stulting @nicolaasstulting.bsky.social · 21/09/2026

Looks like after I sell the house I may spend some time at the beach, and probably do a little traveling for a while. It will be a much needed change for me after the last few months. It seems like a good opportunity to explore new possibilities in life. Sometimes endings really are also beginnings.

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Nicolaas Stulting @nicolaasstulting.bsky.social · 19/09/2026

Going from denial to acceptance with a loss takes time, but with time, serious effort, lots of reading books related to the issue, lots of journaling to get feelings out, and a serious focus on the necessity to make that journey, it really is possible to start feeling the acceptance wholeheartedly.

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Nicolaas Stulting @nicolaasstulting.bsky.social · 17/09/2026

I woke up today feeling really happy, happier than I have in a very long time. I got some truly great news last night, and a longstanding extremely complicated problem that I had no clue how to solve got completely solved by somebody else, which is awesome!..

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Nicolaas Stulting @nicolaasstulting.bsky.social · 16/09/2026

Two months into this new chapter of my life, as of this morning, and it is going pretty well, all things considered. So far, so good. Adapting to change is really an important thing, so in this instance I really have been actively trying to adapt in the most positive ways possible, which has helped.

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Nicolaas Stulting @nicolaasstulting.bsky.social · 13/09/2026

Sometimes, when you really think through some problem that has been bothering you seriously enough to require a great deal of thought, you do end up with a pretty simple solution, in that the reason it seemed unsolvable was because you were not understanding that it was not your problem to solve.

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Nicolaas Stulting @nicolaasstulting.bsky.social · 12/09/2026

Drawing this morning with conte and charcoal pencils. It is refreshing to enjoy creating artwork that is not on screens these days, just like I am really enjoying writing with pencils on paper. It is funny how different the experience really is, and how using screens does not actually feel as good.

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Nicolaas Stulting @nicolaasstulting.bsky.social · 11/09/2026

Looks like I am on track to be moved out by the first week of October, which is wonderful. I am really looking forward to living in a new town after so many years here. I am excited to go to all new places, meet all new people, and finally have the healthy new beginning I have been working towards.

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Kamala Harris @kamalaharris.com · 11/09/2026

25 years have passed since September 11, 2001. A generation has grown up in the years since, but our responsibility to remember has not changed.

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Nicolaas Stulting @nicolaasstulting.bsky.social · 10/09/2026

I have known truly valuable human beings who definitely never get access to proper mental health care, and some of them are actually on disability for their mental health issues. The actual coverage our government provides for that is deficient and truly unacceptable for meeting such serious needs.

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Senator Andy Kim @kim.senate.gov · 10/09/2026

Today is World Suicide Prevention Day. Our mental health is so important – everyone should be able to access the support they need, whenever they need it. You are never alone. Get help and learn how to help a friend in need:

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Get Help with Mental Health Support

Get Help with Mental Health including Substance Abuse Services.

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Nicolaas Stulting @nicolaasstulting.bsky.social · 10/09/2026

“Settle for disorder in lesser things for the sake of order in greater things; therefore, be content to be discontent in many things.” — Anonymous I tend to embrace this idea. In the last few months I try to remind myself of this often as things move away from the negative and towards the positive.

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Nicolaas Stulting @nicolaasstulting.bsky.social · 09/09/2026

This is a remix of Dreams Decay, which is a song I wrote, performed on two guitar tracks and recorded with Audacity. The remix is intentionally less clean sounding, which I am enjoying today.

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Nicolaas Stulting @nicolaasstulting.bsky.social · 08/09/2026

"Unconditional love is a concept across psychology, evolutionary biology, and philosophy that refers to an active, selfless disposition toward the well-being and highest good of another, regardless of their actions and without the expectation of reciprocity." en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Uncondi...

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Unconditional love - Wikipedia

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Nicolaas Stulting @nicolaasstulting.bsky.social · 07/09/2026

In most circumstances, I try to forgive others when I do not believe they meant harm, or when they could not have realistically done better, or when they simply did not understand what they were doing. It feels way better to forgive, whenever possible. www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/fo...

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Forgiveness

Forgiveness is the release of resentment or anger. Forgiveness doesn’t mean reconciliation. One doesn't have to return to the same relationship or accept the same harmful behaviors from an offender. F...

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Nicolaas Stulting @nicolaasstulting.bsky.social · 06/09/2026

I learned a bit about this thirty years ago, and fall back on these ideas heavily whenever I find myself thinking I want something that I cannot possibly have, or wishing life was different in a way it cannot ever actually be. It is best to be realistic in life. en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Four_No...

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Four Noble Truths - Wikipedia

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Nicolaas Stulting @nicolaasstulting.bsky.social · 05/09/2026

I read this about twenty years ago, and the ideas about self still resonate strongly with me. Sartre definitely understood how we all see ourselves, and the complexity of that, which can easily lead to living in bad faith. It is better to live honestly with yourself. en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Being_a...

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Being and Nothingness - Wikipedia

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Nicolaas Stulting @nicolaasstulting.bsky.social · 04/09/2026

Of course, that also made me think of all of the valuable ideas of this man, who is definitely worth paying attention to. Any of his books are well worth reading, in my opinion... drgabormate.com/book/the-myt...

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The Myth of Normal - Dr. Gabor Maté

By the acclaimed author of In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts, a groundbreaking investigation into the causes of illness, a bracing critique of how our society breeds disease, and a pathway to health and h...

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Nicolaas Stulting @nicolaasstulting.bsky.social · 04/09/2026

I was thinking about this book today. I read it about ten years ago and thought his ideas about inner family systems and grown wounded children were very interesting. I seem to have misplaced my copy, or perhaps given it away to someone else who could use it... www.barnesandnoble.com/w/whos-reall...

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Who's Really Running Your Life? Fourth Edition

Barnes & Noble’s online bookstore for books, NOOK ebooks & magazines. Shop music, movies, toys & games, too. Receive free shipping with your Barnes & Noble Membership.

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Nicolaas Stulting @nicolaasstulting.bsky.social · 29/08/2026

Ten years ago, I had this whole plan to have a happy, healthy life that met my needs and desires holistically. There were some serious obstacles to the plan then, but I recognize that I am free to attempt such a thing a bit more sensibly now. It seems worth aspiring to, just as it did back then...

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Astronomy 🔭 @astronomy.bsky.social · 27/08/2026

A near-total ‘blood moon’ lunar eclipse will be visible across North & South America tonight

A full moon glows with a deep reddish-orange hue during a lunar eclipse, centered against a dark, starry night sky.

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Nicolaas Stulting @nicolaasstulting.bsky.social · 27/08/2026

Reading this slowly, as it was recommended by a few people in the past, and so I figure I should read it to understand those conversations better. It is apparently more controversial than I expected. Nonetheless, it is the last of the serious books on my list now... en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Bod...

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The Body Keeps the Score - Wikipedia

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Nicolaas Stulting @nicolaasstulting.bsky.social · 23/08/2026

I am definitely taking this opportunity now to focus on aiming a lot higher with my creative work, as there is really not much holding me back from being considerably more ambitious these days. I have time, energy, motivation, and the life experience required to be very serious with my projects now.

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Nicolaas Stulting @nicolaasstulting.bsky.social · 22/08/2026

I am now reading this to try to understand why things turned out so bad, when I really thought they would work out. It is helping me to understand a little, which is good. Understanding seems better than just being left with confusion and massive disappointment. en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Sev...

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The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work - Wikipedia

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Nicolaas Stulting @nicolaasstulting.bsky.social · 18/08/2026

It is amazing how when one really tries to organize one's life around constructs like this, but with all elements always necessary, including the cognitive, aesthetic, and transcendent needs as well, that the amount of time one spends on screens greatly diminishes... en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maslow%...

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Maslow's hierarchy of needs - Wikipedia

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Neil deGrasse Tyson @neildegrassetyson.com · 07/08/2026

ALIENS & WHALES ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ An excerpt from “Take Me To Your Leader: Perspectives on Your First Alien Encounter” neildegrassetyson.com/books/2026-0...

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Nicolaas Stulting @nicolaasstulting.bsky.social · 18/08/2026

I like this idea that AI generated content should carry a watermark or identifier of some kind, because it is an easy way to distinguish human made content, that generates incomes for skilled humans, and AI slop created from the brazen theft of copyrighted material, meant to pass for skilled work.

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Nicolaas Stulting @nicolaasstulting.bsky.social · 17/08/2026

Today marks the first month that I have been single in ten years, and it is going pretty well. I have certainly had much worse months in my life, by a lot. I had a relationship I valued with a person I loved and respected. That was important to me. Being single is also enjoyable. So far, so good.

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Nicolaas Stulting @nicolaasstulting.bsky.social · 16/08/2026

Spent a little time today learning about the structure of sonnets, and I really did have to look this phrase up, as I had no clue what it meant. It does seem fairly important now though, at least in relation to a fairly specific type of sonnet... en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Iambic_...

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Iambic pentameter - Wikipedia

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Nicolaas Stulting @nicolaasstulting.bsky.social · 13/08/2026

I am writing a lot these days. It is strangely funny that I currently like writing with pencil and paper in cursive more than any other way, since I write way faster like that, and make less errors. It is oddly timed with how many programs and apps want to learn from all we do, for some reason...

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MarySez @marysez.bsky.social · 13/08/2026

This is my day, my summer, my time

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Nicolaas Stulting @nicolaasstulting.bsky.social · 13/08/2026

I am trying to be patient with myself these days, as I lost a relationship of great value to me, and now I must recover and heal, which will take a long time. I did learn that the idea that a broken heart physically hurts is a true story. It can hurt for a week in my experience, but it gets better.

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Nicolaas Stulting @nicolaasstulting.bsky.social · 10/08/2026

A good friend suggested I read this a few years ago. I was a bit busy then, and it just ended up on the shelf for later. Having just finished it, I can see why it was an excellent recommendation. Thank you for suggesting it. www.melodybeattie.com/beyondcodepe...

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BEYOND CODEPENDENCY — Melody Beattie

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Nicolaas Stulting @nicolaasstulting.bsky.social · 01/08/2026

On another personal note, although the last three weeks were difficult for me, I managed to remain sober the entire time, which I am happy about. That means I get to still claim 9 years of sobriety in October. Sobriety suits me better truthfully, as drinking back in the day was truly bad for me.

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Nicolaas Stulting @nicolaasstulting.bsky.social · 01/08/2026

On a personal note, I appear to be single now after ten years with a truly lovely woman, who was very good to me right up until that last day. She was wonderful to be with, and I was very lucky to be with her. So, of course, I now plan to be quite singular for many years to come, for many reasons...

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