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Therapist, author, relationship expert who loves to write about communication, marriage, divorce, and stepfamilies. Contributor to The Gottman Institute blog. Her new book is "Let's Talk About Money," can be ordered here: www.movingpastdivorce.com

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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 10h
Overcome Fear of #Intimacy by Terry Gaspard www.gottman.com/blog/how-to-...
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How to Overcome Fear of Intimacy in Relationships
Being vulnerable with your partner is a component to a successful relationship. Learn how to overcome your fear of intimacy.
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 10h
Teenagers Taking Sides: A Painful Consequence of #Divorce movingpastdivorce.com/2017/07/teen...
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Teenagers Taking Sides: A Painful Consequence of Divorce - Moving Past Divorce | Counseling, Consulting & Seminars (RI & MA)
By Rosalind Sedacca, CCT I received the following question which poses many challenges related to divorce and parenting. While there is never a one-size-fits-all answer to relationship questions, I’m ...
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 10h
The Four Types of #Infidelity and How to Cope movingpastdivorce.com/2026/09/how-...
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The Four Types of Infidelity and How to Cope - Moving Past Divorce | Counseling, Consulting & Seminars (RI & MA)
By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW Infidelity is all too common and when it occurs it raises many questions. Should you stay? Can trust be rebuilt? Of all of the real-life stories of women interviewed for m...
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 10h
Tips for Keeping Romance Alive in Your #Marriage All Year Round movingpastdivorce.com/2024/04/tips...
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Tips for Keeping Romance Alive in Your Marriage All Year Round - Moving Past Divorce | Counseling, Consulting & Seminars (RI & MA)
By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW A good romantic and sexual relationship is built on a foundation of emotional intimacy and closeness. Many couples struggle to maintain sexual intimacy because they don’t ...
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 10h
How To Break Out Of The Pursuer-Distancer Dance by Terry Gaspard #relationships movingpastdivorce.com/2014/10/how-...
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How To Break Out Of The Pursuer-Distancer Dance - Moving Past Divorce | Counseling, Consulting & Seminars (RI & MA)
By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW While all couples need autonomy and closeness, many couples struggle with the pursuer-distancer dance and feel chronically dissatisfied with their degree of intimacy. A pr...
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 10h
We are all more blind to what we have than to what we have not. Audre Lorde
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 10h
8 Steps to Reclaiming Your Life After #Divorce movingpastdivorce.com/2026/10/8-st...
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8 Steps to Reclaiming Your Life After Divorce - Moving Past Divorce | Counseling, Consulting & Seminars (RI & MA)
By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW Let’s be honest, a divorce can shake your foundation and make you question your own judgment. You might find yourself second-guessing yourself because the breakup of a mar...
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 21h
#Narcissistic Entitlement: What You Can Do  movingpastdivorce.com/2026/08/narc...
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Narcissistic Entitlement: What You Can Do  - Moving Past Divorce | Counseling, Consulting & Seminars (RI & MA)
By Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT Narcissistic entitlement is the foremost trait people close to a narcissist complain about. Examples are someone who behaves like the normal rules don’t apply to them—someo...
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 21h
Overcome the Legacy of Your Parent's #Divorce By Terry Gaspard movingpastdivorce.com/order-daught...
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 21h
What Are The Long-term Effects Of Parental #Divorce On Children? movingpastdivorce.com/2013/09/what...
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What Are The Long-term Effects Of Parental Divorce On Children? - Moving Past Divorce | Counseling, Consulting & Seminars (RI & MA)
By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW What Are The Long-term Effects Of Parental Divorce On Children? Part 2 of a series: Children’s Adjustment To Parental Divorce: The Role of Conflict Today, more than 40 per...
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 02/10/2026
How to heal from #financial #infidelity by Terry Gaspard www.gottman.com/blog/financi...
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Financial Infidelity Can Put Your Relationship At Risk
Financial infidelity can be as harmful to your relationship as other kinds of betrayal. Are there secrets about money in your relationship?
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 02/10/2026
Tips for Keeping Romance Alive in Your #Marriage All Year Round movingpastdivorce.com/2024/04/tips...
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Tips for Keeping Romance Alive in Your Marriage All Year Round - Moving Past Divorce | Counseling, Consulting & Seminars (RI & MA)
By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW A good romantic and sexual relationship is built on a foundation of emotional intimacy and closeness. Many couples struggle to maintain sexual intimacy because they don’t ...
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 02/10/2026
How To Break Out Of The Pursuer-Distancer Dance #relationships by Terry Gaspard movingpastdivorce.com/2014/10/how-...
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How To Break Out Of The Pursuer-Distancer Dance - Moving Past Divorce | Counseling, Consulting & Seminars (RI & MA)
By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW While all couples need autonomy and closeness, many couples struggle with the pursuer-distancer dance and feel chronically dissatisfied with their degree of intimacy. A pr...
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 02/10/2026
8 Steps to Reclaiming Your Life After #Divorce movingpastdivorce.com/2026/10/8-st...
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8 Steps to Reclaiming Your Life After Divorce - Moving Past Divorce | Counseling, Consulting & Seminars (RI & MA)
By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW Let’s be honest, a divorce can shake your foundation and make you question your own judgment. You might find yourself second-guessing yourself because the breakup of a mar...
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 02/10/2026
Unpacking Emotional #Intimacy by Terry Gaspard movingpastdivorce.com/2026/01/unpa...
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Unpacking Emotional Intimacy - Moving Past Divorce | Counseling, Consulting & Seminars (RI & MA)
By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW One of the keys to long-term happiness in any relationship is emotional intimacy. After the “honeymoon phase” for a new couple wears off, the emotional bonds that hold par...
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 02/10/2026
Learn out to have successful "money talks" and achieve #financial health with your partner by Terry Gaspard movingpastdivorce.com.
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 02/10/2026
Without courage you can’t practice any other virtue consistently. You can be anything erratically—kind, fair, true, generous, all that. But to be that thing time after time, you need courage. Maya Angelou
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 02/10/2026
Fathers and Daughters: An Essential Bond After #Divorce movingpastdivorce.com/2013/11/fath...
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Fathers and Daughters: An Essential Bond After Divorce - Moving Past Divorce | Counseling, Consulting & Seminars (RI & MA)
By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW  The relationship a daughter has with her father is one that has a profound impact on her life. The breakup of a family often changes the dynamic of the father-daughter re...
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 02/10/2026
8 Things Great Single #Parents Do Differently (Than Their Own Parents) movingpastdivorce.com/2015/01/8-th...
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8 Things Great Single Parents Do Differently (Than Their Own Parents) - Moving Past Divorce | Counseling, Consulting & Seminars (RI & MA)
By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW In a culture where parents are bombarded with messages about how to be a good parent, it’s no wonder that many are left feeling dazed and beleaguered. Single parenting mak...
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 02/10/2026
The Four Types of #Infidelity and How to Cope movingpastdivorce.com/2026/09/how-...
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The Four Types of Infidelity and How to Cope - Moving Past Divorce | Counseling, Consulting & Seminars (RI & MA)
By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW Infidelity is all too common and when it occurs it raises many questions. Should you stay? Can trust be rebuilt? Of all of the real-life stories of women interviewed for m...
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 01/10/2026
Two people can look at the same budget and see different priorities. Chapter 4 of Terry Gaspard’s Let’s Talk About Money encourages couples to talk openly about the values behind those choices. Learn more: movingpastdivorce.com/lets-talk-ab...
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 01/10/2026
5 dating rules for #divorced dads by Terry Gaspard www.patheos.com/blogs/terryg...
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5 Dating Rules For Divorced Dads
Dating after divorce? Discover five rules for introducing a new partner to your kids while protecting your bond and supporting their emotional needs.
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 01/10/2026
Does your #stepchild trust you? by Terry Gaspard www.gottman.com/blog/does-yo...
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Does Your Stepchild Trust You?
As the stepparent in the family, you can earn your stepchild's trust. Learn how to define the relationship and build emotional safety over time.
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 01/10/2026
The Best Ways to Let Go of Resentment in #Relationships by Terry Gaspard movingpastdivorce.com/2022/12/the-...
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 01/10/2026
#Divorce Advice: 3 Tips to Help You Overcome Fear of #Loneliness movingpastdivorce.com/2018/08/divo...
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 01/10/2026
How Can I Heal from #Infidelity? by Terry Gaspard movingpastdivorce.com/2012/02/heal...
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Healing from Infidelity
Infidelity is all too common and when it occurs it raises many questions. Should you stay? Can trust be rebuilt?
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 01/10/2026
6 Ways to Let Go of People Pleasing #relationships movingpastdivorce.com/2026/03/6-wa...
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6 Ways to Let Go of People Pleasing - Moving Past Divorce | Counseling, Consulting & Seminars (RI & MA)
By Terry Gaspard, LICSW While it’s admirable to be a caring person, learning to accept and respect myself has helped me to set healthy boundaries and to say “no” without feeling guilty. For instance, ...
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 01/10/2026
Courage is what love looks like when tested by the simple everyday necessities of being alive. David Whyte
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 01/10/2026
Reality Isn’t What You Think! How Cognitive Distortions Harm Us movingpastdivorce.com/2018/07/real...
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Reality Isn’t What You Think! How Cognitive Distortions Harm Us - Moving Past Divorce | Counseling, Consulting & Seminars (RI & MA)
By Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT We all see reality through a personal lens shaped by our beliefs, culture, religion, and experiences. The movie Roshomon was a brilliant example of this, where three witness...
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 01/10/2026
5 Ways to Recognize and Cope With a #Narcissistic Partner movingpastdivorce.com/2025/02/5-wa...
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5 Ways to Recognize and Cope With a Narcissistic Partner - Moving Past Divorce | Counseling, Consulting & Seminars (RI & MA)
By Terry Gaspard, LICSW Ashley, thirty-seven, sat on the coach at my office and described the challenges in her relationship with her husband Kevin, age thirty-nine. They’ve been married for ten years...
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 30/09/2026
Order "Let's Talk About #Money" and learn why 50% of couples have incompatiable #financial styles by Terry Gaspard #money movingpastdivorce.com/lets-talk-ab...
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 30/09/2026
Are you lonely in your #marriage? by Terry Gaspard www.gottman.com/blog/are-you...
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Are You Lonely Tonight? Feeling Alone in Marriage
When you stop turning towards each other's bids for connection, it's easy to feel all alone in your relationship.
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 30/09/2026
Infidelity As Theft: Lisa Arends "What #Infidelity Steals From You" movingpastdivorce.com/2025/11/infi...
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Infidelity As Theft: Lisa Arends "What Infidelity Steals From You" - Moving Past Divorce | Counseling, Consulting & Seminars (RI & MA)
In a recent video by Lisa Arends on her YouTubeChannel, the wellness coach, teacher, and author of “Lessons From the End of a Marriage: A ‘How to Thrive’ Guide After Divorce” digs deep into the afterm...
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 30/09/2026
8 Conversations to Have With Your Partner #relationships movingpastdivorce.com/2022/03/8-co...
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8 Conversations to Have With Your Partner - Moving Past Divorce | Counseling, Consulting & Seminars (RI & MA)
By Susan Scott, Fierce Inc. Founder, and bestselling author When you’re finally ready to dive into your next relationship, remember that conversation is a driving factor to its success- whether you ar...
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 30/09/2026
8 Signs Your Partner is Good #Marriage Material movingpastdivorce.com/2023/12/8-si...
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8 Signs Your Partner is Good Marriage Material - Moving Past Divorce | Counseling, Consulting & Seminars (RI & MA)
By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW Unfortunately, it’s easy to overlook someone’s faults in the early stage of a relationship. Infatuation and chemistry can prevent us from seeing red flags even if they see...
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 30/09/2026
9 Warning Signs Your Marriage is Headed for #Divorce movingpastdivorce.com/2026/09/9-wa...
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9 Warning Signs Your Marriage is Headed for Divorce - Moving Past Divorce | Counseling, Consulting & Seminars (RI & MA)
By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW Truth be told, red flags usually appear fairly early on in a relationship that can signal eventual disaster if people don’t pay attention to them. Most of the couples I’ve...
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 30/09/2026
Action may not always bring happiness; but there is no happiness without action. Benjamin Disraeli
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 30/09/2026
How to Identify and Let Go Of a Toxic #Relationship movingpastdivorce.com/2025/03/how-...
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How to Identify and Let Go Of a Toxic Relationship - Moving Past Divorce | Counseling, Consulting & Seminars (RI & MA)
By Terry Gaspard, LICSW Jenna, 35, sat on the couch in my office and lamented about her toxic relationship with Trevor, 36, her boyfriend for over five years. She described his treatment as condescend...
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 30/09/2026
How to Overcome the Fear of #Intimacy by Terry Gaspard www.gottman.com/blog/how-to-...
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How to Overcome Fear of Intimacy in Relationships
Being vulnerable with your partner is a component to a successful relationship. Learn how to overcome your fear of intimacy.
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 30/09/2026
Opposites Attract But Can They Stay Together? #marriage movingpastdivorce.com/2024/03/oppo...
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Opposites Attract But Can They Stay Together? - Moving Past Divorce | Counseling, Consulting & Seminars (RI & MA)
By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW From the time I started dating at age sixteen, I’ve often found myself attracted to my polar opposite – for better and for worse. Likewise, I’ve counseled many couples who...
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 30/09/2026
Co-parenting After #Divorce - What NOT to Do! movingpastdivorce.com/2019/11/co-p...
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Co-parenting After Divorce - What NOT to Do! - Moving Past Divorce | Counseling, Consulting & Seminars (RI & MA)
I talked with Somerset County, NJ divorce attorney Katherine Wagner to find out what behavior she has observed in her clients that got in the way of moving on from the divorce and creating a new relat...
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 30/09/2026
7 Tips To Rev Up Passion After The Kids Come #marriage movingpastdivorce.com/2016/05/7-ti...
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7 Tips To Rev Up Passion After The Kids Come - Moving Past Divorce | Counseling, Consulting & Seminars (RI & MA)
By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW While it’s expected that intimacy will die down after a child arrives on the scene, if you make your relationship a priority, it doesn’t have to take a huge dip. After a b...
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 30/09/2026
Can a Planned Separation Bring Love Back to Your #Marriage? movingpastdivorce.com/2025/09/can-...
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Can a Planned Separation Bring Love Back to Your Marriage? - Moving Past Divorce | Counseling, Consulting & Seminars (RI & MA)
By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW Dear Terry, I’m a fan of your blogs and have come to the conclusion that my husband of fifteen years and I are at a stalemate. Honestly, he’s a great guy but we just have ...
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 29/09/2026
The Four Types of #Infidelity and How to Cope movingpastdivorce.com/2026/09/how-...
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The Four Types of Infidelity and How to Cope - Moving Past Divorce | Counseling, Consulting & Seminars (RI & MA)
By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW Infidelity is all too common and when it occurs it raises many questions. Should you stay? Can trust be rebuilt? Of all of the real-life stories of women interviewed for m...
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 29/09/2026
Creating a Child-Centered #Divorce: A Wakeup Call for Parents! movingpastdivorce.com/2017/04/crea...
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Creating a Child-Centered Divorce: A Wakeup Call for Parents! - Moving Past Divorce | Counseling, Consulting & Seminars (RI & MA)
By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Picture this: you’re getting divorced and you’re angry, resentful, hurt, or any combination of other painful emotions. You want to lash out at, or maybe get back at your soon ...
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 29/09/2026
6 Tips To Help You Cope With Being A New #Stepparent movingpastdivorce.com/2015/08/6-ti...
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6 Tips To Help You Cope With Being A New Stepparent - Moving Past Divorce | Counseling, Consulting & Seminars (RI & MA)
By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW When you remarry into a family with children, bring your own children, and/or have a child with your new partner, the challenges can be overwhelming. If you are unaware of...
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 29/09/2026
"Do one thing every day that scares you." Eleanor Roosevelt
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 29/09/2026
Does Falling Out of Love Mean the End of Your #Marriage? movingpastdivorce.com/2026/02/does...
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Does Falling Out of Love Mean the End of Your Marriage? - Moving Past Divorce | Counseling, Consulting & Seminars (RI & MA)
By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW The most common complaint of couples today is that they have fallen out of love. However, falling out of love usually did not occur overnight. Likewise, relationship repai...
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 29/09/2026
5 Ways to Strengthen Your Bond with Your Teen After #Divorce movingpastdivorce.com/2019/10/5-wa...
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5 Ways to Strengthen Your Bond with Your Teen After Divorce - Moving Past Divorce | Counseling, Consulting & Seminars (RI & MA)
By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Unlike younger children, teens are more likely to take sides during and after a divorce. It’s not difficult to understand why this happens. Teenaged children have been around ...
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MovePastDivorce @movepastdivorce.bsky.social · 29/09/2026
7 Ways to Stop the “Blame Game” and Lower Conflict With Your Partner movingpastdivorce.com/2025/08/7-wa...
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7 Ways to Stop the “Blame Game” and Lower Conflict With Your Partner - Moving Past Divorce | Counseling, Consulting & Seminars (RI & MA)
By Terry Gaspard MSW, LICSW You will disagree with your partner, that’s a given. But it’s not arguing with your partner that’s the problem, it’s how your differences are managed. Spending more time li...
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