Our first “foursome” with D didn’t go as planned. Here’s the real story of nerves, ice-breaking, my first proper M/M experience, and what happened after I came.

Discover how to become a confident dominant woman and keyholder. Real advice on taking control, setting rules, chastity, contracts, and making the dynamic work for you and your partner. No one-size…

Discover how to become a confident dominant woman and keyholder. Real advice on taking control, setting rules, chastity, contracts, and making the dynamic work for you and your partner. No one-size…

Sometimes the sexiest thing is knowing when to call in the professional who fits just right.

I figured it was just another overpriced gadget that would collect dust after a week. But Jon kept bringing it up… so one day I decided to secretly buy the damn thing for his birthday. My evil plan…

How does conflict in D/s relationships compare to vanilla ones? A clear side-by-side look at what stays the same and what changes when power exchange is involved.

Conflict happens in every relationship. Learn why arguments start, common triggers, and how to recognize healthy vs unhealthy patterns in this introductory guide to relationship conflict.

Conflict happens in every relationship. Learn why arguments start, common triggers, and how to recognize healthy vs unhealthy patterns in this introductory guide to relationship conflict.

This is just our normal. No scenes, no role-play, no on/off switch. It’s 24/7. Everyday talk about dinner or work flows straight into “I can’t wait to make you lick my asshole.” The filthy and the ordinary blend so naturally it barely feels dirty anymore.

Who makes the first move when things turn steamy in a threesome? We reveal the truth from our real experiences, whether it’s spontaneous heat-of-the-moment passion or a planned seduction, who usual…

Who makes the first move when things turn steamy in a threesome? We reveal the truth from our real experiences, whether it’s spontaneous heat-of-the-moment passion or a planned seduction, who usually initiates, and exactly how we go from hanging out to all three of us tangled together in bed.

Last Saturday the three of us headed back to our local monthly kink get-together at the bar, and it was exactly what we needed... low-key, relaxed, and genuinely enjoyable. We hung out for hours, had a couple of drinks, had some really good conversations, and once again closed the place down. There’s something comforting about being in a space where everyone understands the lifestyle.

Most people think great kink happens with perfect matching fetishes. Spoiler: that’s fantasy. Real kink is about getting creative when your desires don’t line up and discovering it can actually mak…

Already floating in sub space after an intense weekend, Michele introduced me to a new level of nipple torture with spiked clover clamps. The pain was exquisite, the endorphins intoxicating, and the connection between us electric. Here is how these nasty little toys took me even deeper.

Life has taken some unusual twists in the last few years. As I sit here with my coffee today, I’m reflecting on a recent trip to the doctor that represents what I hoped for when we re-entered the local social scene. It’s a story about health, honesty, and the beautiful complexity of new relationships.

As I allowed myself to be more comfortable with this concept, I started realizing that other things about guys turned me on, too: I began to "appreciate" nice looking cocks. And I was okay with it... even when I started feeling the urge to do more than just look. But it was all just fantasy talk.

Most people think great kink happens with perfect matching fetishes. Spoiler: that’s fantasy. Real kink is about getting creative when your desires don’t line up and discovering it can actually make things way hotter.

Last Friday I had to remove my njoy Pure Plug 2.0 before catching a flight to see Michele. Reflecting on a week of being plugged, deep sub space, and the joy of finally reconnecting in person.

Why I get ridiculously turned on by teasing and denying my husband’s orgasms - the real reasons this woman craves control, how it deepens our intimacy, and why he will never fully understand how wet it makes me.

I used to have strong cuckold fantasies. Now that I’m actually living them with Michele, those fantasies have shifted. Instead of dreaming, I get to remember… and sometimes push through moments I didn’t expect. One night in particular taught me how real her control is — even when I didn’t want to obey.

I told him to get the heavy stainless steel one that we affectionately call "Big Boy" and pretty much makes him whimper every single time. I gave him his instructions: get on all fours on the floor beside the bed, face down, ass up, camera.

Wondering if chastity without a cage is ‘real’ chastity? Exploring orgasm denial, mental control, and whether hardware is required.

Last night Michele looked at me and simply said, 'You have a small penis.' No context, no warmup, just the truth. This morning over coffee I realized it doesn’t degrade me… it actually frees me.

For those of you looking to hear about my hot sexy experiences at the club… this is going to be a little bit of a different post than you’ll most likely be expecting. My time at the sex club was fairly tame for most of the night… except for one part.

I know we've written about what it was like in the club in previous posts but it's worth taking you through some of it again. You read something similar in John's post about his first impression. The moment we walked through the doors of the club, you could almost feel the energy. Right to our left, on one of the St.

Contemplating whether or not having your girlfriend show up with a cum filled pussy is better than her keeping her husband denied.

I was sitting here this morning enjoying my coffee and starting thinking about praise. Not the fancy kind — just the simple, straightforward stuff that shifts the whole mood. A genuine “good boy” can be sweeter than any tease. Come have a cup and tell me: do you like giving it, getting it, or both?

Our first time at the club felt oddly normal. People doing their thing openly, no big shows, just real kink happening in plain view. We wandered, watched a mix of scripted scenes and raw energy, then found our own moment on a bench. She took charge, I surrendered completely, and strangers watched. Being exposed, caged, and owned in front of others hit hard. Deeper submission, hotter pain, stronger connection. It amplified everything we already live. We learned a lot and are craving more.

Read our honest, steamy account of our first time in the "sex area" at a BDSM sex club as a throuple - voyeurism, public teasing, edging, and more.

You are allowed to be comfortable in your own skin. Every inch of it. The soft bits, the wrinkly bits, the bits that jiggle when you laugh. Self-love isn’t about chasing some airbrushed, Instagram-…

We all have thoughts and feelings and impressions from what the three of us experienced together and our first experience at the BDSM party and the sex club.

OwnedsubJohn Feeling vulnerable with anyone can be intimidating. Handing someone the power to decide exactly how you will feel and what you will experience feels terrifying. You have zero control over what they might do with that power.

As I was sitting here enjoying my dinner, I starting thinking... So Cheesy! Holy shit! IS THAT MY BOYFRIEND'S BROTHER IN LAW? Did my my boyfriends brother in law just walk in here? Oh my fucking god! Here we are sitting in this little Irish pub in the middle of the city we live in. My heart just sunk and I thought I was going to fall out of my chair as I just told my husband that John's brother in law just walked in and is standing 50ft away at the bar.

Sometimes I feel inadequate. What if I'm not enough? Not strong enough. Not stern enough. Not assertive enough. Not strict enough.

I've been feeling a little bit disconnected from my kinky side I if things lately.

Having a safeword, and the trust that goes with it is what allows us both to push our limits a little. I know that if something is going too far I can use my safeword to pause what we are doing to evaluate.

There is an incredible feeling when she tells me to get his cock ready for her. I love being the fluffer.

After 5.5 years away, we dove back into the local kink community with a welcoming meetup that went way past bedtime. Laughter, new friends, exchanged numbers... and the electric morning sex that followed. A candid look at rediscovering connection in our poly dynamic.

Melissa and Tom had met Bethany at a party that was thrown by a mutual friend. It wasn’t just any party, though… it was a “kink party.” These parties were tame by most standards – just a bunch of like...

Hoping to connect with local kinksters through munches and events. Excited for the journey to Colette Austin. Building fun, real kinky friendships in Central Texas!

Boyfriend shares his real cuckold experience: submissive to Michele, cuckolded by her husband. No bulls here just mutual submission and her desires fulfilled.

Exploring tease and orgasm denial within ethical non monogamy, power exchange, and female led relationships. A personal look at anticipation, trust, and evolving intimacy.

The Story Behind Our Chastity and BDSM Lifestyle Blog What began more than a decade ago as Monkey in a Cage Chastity Blog has grown and evolved right alongside our relationship, our family, and our un...