LiefdeSaves @liefdesaves.bsky.social · 01/10/2026October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Abuse has no gender, age, or "type." If you're living it quietly, you're not alone and it's not your fault. 000
LiefdeSaves @liefdesaves.bsky.social · 01/10/2026If you're being abused, you don't have to start with the police. Coercive control, intimidation, and fear at home are health issues too. 011
LiefdeSaves @liefdesaves.bsky.social · 29/09/2026I hope everything has a wonderful Tuesday. Remember to breathe, we got this!! 001
LiefdeSaves @liefdesaves.bsky.social · 25/09/2026These are safety strategies only, meant to help you get out and stay safe, never a reason to stay or a way of managing the relationship long term. If they start to feel like another version of walking on eggshells, that is a sign to reach out for support, not a sign to try harder. 000
LiefdeSaves @liefdesaves.bsky.social · 24/09/2026Wisdom Wednesday: What is at least one piece of advice you would give your past self that someone else might be able to utilize? 001
LiefdeSaves @liefdesaves.bsky.social · 23/09/2026Support doesn't have to look like grand gestures. Sometimes it's simply showing up, again and again, with a patient and open heart. If someone you love is navigating domestic violence, you don't need perfect words. You need presence. Listen without judgment. Believe them, fully. 000
LiefdeSaves @liefdesaves.bsky.social · 19/09/2026Here is a Friday reminder to listen to your body. You cannot heal if you don’t set time aside to recover and calm your very crucial nervous system. 001
LiefdeSaves @liefdesaves.bsky.social · 18/09/2026barbladd.substack.com/p/when-you-s...barbladd.substack.comWhen You Stand With Nazis…Exposing the hypocrisy within the Democratic Party 000
LiefdeSaves @liefdesaves.bsky.social · 17/09/2026You are not the reasons you stayed. You are worthy of love. You are worthy of safety. You are worthy of a life that feels like your own. Reach out whenever you are ready. We will be here. The Liefde Organization www.liefdesaves.org 000
LiefdeSaves @liefdesaves.bsky.social · 16/09/2026Domestic violence doesn’t happen solely to women, know the signs to protect the men in your life. 000
LiefdeSaves @liefdesaves.bsky.social · 15/09/2026Seems like I am getting younger..this seems worth burning through a rain forest to gather. My self esteem thanks the earth for using it’s vital resources. 000
LiefdeSaves @liefdesaves.bsky.social · 11/09/2026I cannot believe it’s been 25 years. It still feels like yesterday. Today, I hope we all take a moment to remember the many lives lost on September 11th and the many more in the years to follow. You all hold a special spot in my heart. 000
LiefdeSaves @liefdesaves.bsky.social · 11/09/2026Wishing everyone a peaceful New Year! May 5787 be less chaotic and filled with more love and light. Shana Tova U'metukah #RoshHashanah 000
LiefdeSaves @liefdesaves.bsky.social · 11/09/2026Before filing, talk to a family law attorney about confidential filing options, like a protected address. Never discuss plans on shared devices or with mutual contacts. Work with a DV advocate to time your filing safely. You don't have to navigate this alone. liefdesaves.org 001
LiefdeSaves @liefdesaves.bsky.social · 09/09/2026Domestic violence against men often stays invisible because it collides with expectations of masculinity and self-reliance. Recognizing male victimization as real and serious, without diminishing the experiences of other survivors, is a necessary part of ending domestic violence altogether. 000
LiefdeSaves @liefdesaves.bsky.social · 08/09/2026You don't have to wait until you're safe to start taking care of yourself. If you're still in an abusive relationship, there are small, real things you can do to ease the stress and quietly build toward safety, one step at a time. Your safety comes first, and you deserve support the whole way there. 001
LiefdeSaves @liefdesaves.bsky.social · 05/09/2026Before the barbecues and the last long weekend of summer take over here is a gentle nudge that you are allowed to rest! Below is a small guide to help you actually enjoy the break. Stay safe and remember you deserve a break from the hustle and bustle before summer ends. 000
LiefdeSaves @liefdesaves.bsky.social · 03/09/2026Too often we talk ourselves out of naming what's really happening. We minimize, excuse, and wait for things to change. All of which are common survival responses, not signs of weakness or poor judgment within us. 000
LiefdeSaves @liefdesaves.bsky.social · 03/09/2026I hope everyone is having a fantastic week thus far!! 000
LiefdeSaves @liefdesaves.bsky.social · 02/09/2026What are you doing to help break the cycle of abuse? Reach out, you don’t have to suffer or do this alone. Take the first step to ending the suffering for yourself and your children. www.liefdesaves.org #domesticviolenceawareness 000
LiefdeSaves @liefdesaves.bsky.social · 26/08/2026Another CE down. I am so honored to be able to attend this, as it’s mostly for attorneys. 000
LiefdeSaves @liefdesaves.bsky.social · 25/08/2026Hyperarousal is when your nervous system is stuck in fight or flight. It’s feeling like everyday moments are emergencies even when you're safe. Coping Techniques: 🌻Slow your exhale 🌻Name what's around you 🌻Pause before reacting www.liefdesaves.org 000
LiefdeSaves @liefdesaves.bsky.social · 25/08/2026Tonight, you don’t have to bring any of it to bed with you. Let it stay by the door. Rest doesn’t require you to have it all figured out, it just asks you to put the pack down for a while. www.liefdesaves.org 000
LiefdeSaves @liefdesaves.bsky.social · 24/08/2026Healthy relationships leave room for you exactly as you are, differences, disagreements, and all. Control works differently. 000
LiefdeSaves @liefdesaves.bsky.social · 23/08/2026Trauma can become identity when the nervous system holds onto pain long after the danger passes. You are not what happened to you. Healing means separating the experience from the self, replacing self-judgment with compassion, and rewriting your story around resilience, not just harm. 020
LiefdeSaves @liefdesaves.bsky.social · 21/08/2026Your body remembers what your mind tries to forget. Trauma isn’t just mental, it lives in the nervous system as fight, flight, freeze, submit, or reaching for help. None of this means you’re broken. It means your body protected you. Healing is possible. #traumainformed 000
LiefdeSaves @liefdesaves.bsky.social · 20/08/2026Domestic violence doesn’t look one way, and it doesn’t happen to only one group of people. It crosses every gender, age, income level, and background. The myths surrounding it keep people silent and keep survivors from getting help. #domesticviolence 000
LiefdeSaves @liefdesaves.bsky.social · 19/08/2026A trauma-informed attorney asks about fear and control, not just who started it. They know abuse can continue after separation. They treat a protective order as safety, never leverage. Their tone stays steady and respectful. You’re allowed to look for someone who makes you feel safer, not smaller. 000
LiefdeSaves @liefdesaves.bsky.social · 16/08/2026Fun fact: the Swiss cheese model was originally used to explain how disasters happen when multiple safety failures line up. Turns out that self-care works the same way, just aimed at protection instead of failure. #selfcare 043
LiefdeSaves @liefdesaves.bsky.social · 13/08/2026barbladd.substack.com/p/ai-in-medi... #AIinMedicinebarbladd.substack.comAI in Medicine: A Personal AwakeningMy rare disease, my desperation, and my breakthrough 010
LiefdeSaves @liefdesaves.bsky.social · 11/08/2026barbladd.substack.com/p/the-watche... #surveillancebarbladd.substack.comThe Watched Become the WaryHow Surveillance Can Erode Trust, Fuel Defiance, and Make Communities Less Safe 000
LiefdeSaves @liefdesaves.bsky.social · 11/08/2026Moral injury isn’t the same as trauma, though the two often travel together. It can show up as guilt, shame, loss of trust, or a quiet sense that the world no longer makes sense the way it used to. #moralinjury #domesticviolence #mentalhealth 000
LiefdeSaves @liefdesaves.bsky.social · 10/08/2026open.substack.com/pub/barbladd... #fraud #mentalhealth #psychologyopen.substack.comThe Grift Is Real, It's Everywhere, and It's Aimed Directly at YouIt's not stupidity. It's neuroscience. And once you understand the mechanism, you become dramatically harder to manipulate. 010
LiefdeSaves @liefdesaves.bsky.social · 10/08/2026The four responses below (fight, flight, freeze, and fawn) are the nervous system doing exactly what it was built to do: keep us alive. Understanding them is often the first step toward healing. www.liefdesaves.org #domesticviolence 001
LiefdeSaves @liefdesaves.bsky.social · 07/08/2026Ms. Trixie Mae is unwinding after a long day! #dogs 061
LiefdeSaves @liefdesaves.bsky.social · 06/08/2026Trauma isn’t always a single event. Sometimes it’s a car accident or a house fire, and sometimes it’s years of conditional love, silent treatment, walking on eggshells, or never feeling emotionally safe at home. Both leave marks. Both shape how we connect, trust, and cope as adults. #trauma 000
LiefdeSaves @liefdesaves.bsky.social · 01/08/2026Well said: youtu.be/dRIjYHVh5kI?... #DSAyoutu.beNew Rule: Commie By Your Name | Real Time with Bill Maher (HBO)YouTube video by Real Time with Bill Maher 000
LiefdeSaves @liefdesaves.bsky.social · 14/07/2026Ms. Trixie Mae and I are wishing everyone a wonderful Tuesday! #dogs 031
LiefdeSaves @liefdesaves.bsky.social · 04/07/2026Hamilton, Federalist No. 1, 1787: good government comes from “reflection and choice,” not “accident and force.” That’s why our system moves slowly on purpose. The friction is the safeguard. 250 years in, still running. Happy birthday, America. #4thofJuly 000
LiefdeSaves @liefdesaves.bsky.social · 03/07/2026Happy 250th Birthday, America. Have fun. Be safe. And remember that the thing that has always made this country worth celebrating is not what divides us, but what we choose to build together. #4thofjuly 000
LiefdeSaves @liefdesaves.bsky.social · 01/07/2026open.substack.com/pub/barbladd... #domesticviolenceopen.substack.comA Law That Is Trying to Catch Up with the Science of AbuseWhy Arizona's HB2995 is a watershed moment for survivors and what it reveals about how courts have failed them 100
LiefdeSaves @liefdesaves.bsky.social · 24/06/2026open.substack.com/pub/barbladd... #poetryopen.substack.comATTENTION, ATTENTION: We’re Falling into DissensionWhere there once stood a pond of great reflection, Now, I see only a pool of misdirection. Created so we turn all our attention Towards the invention of contention. “ATTENTION, ATTENTION!!” We better ... 000
