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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑

@jonygilborn.bsky.social
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60, gay and married on the Florida Gulf Coast

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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 18/09/2026
OK here we go from the uninspiring stacks yesterday to a layout that is a bit more interesting. There will be a solid border that will go around this.
Layout of the quilt squares.  Alternating light and dark blue in a grid.
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 17/09/2026
@ch1b19.bsky.social inspired me with his sewing project. Thank you!! I got my squares cut out today for my quilt. This has only been 2 months in the works... 30ish squares of each fabric.
An uninspiring picture of two stacks of fabric squares sitting on a mint green cutting mat.  On the left is a light blue with a darker gray square pattern.  On the right is a navy with light blue vertical stripes.
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 10/09/2026
Thanks to @sondheimslut.bsky.social for the heads up about vaccines being available in the US. Got mine this morning. It always seems iffy down here in Florida if they will restrict us from vaccines. Also featuring restoration of gay powers yesterday.
Himself with his left bicep forward wearing a gray sleeveless tshirt.  Featured are 3 Walgreens bandaids - red with white lettering.
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 06/08/2026
My personal trainer runs a quarterly themed challenge for his clients. The current theme is fantasy and here is the character he created for me. I love it!
My head superimposed on a graphic of man dressed in robes holding a large open time surrounded by books and papers.
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 20/07/2026
Inspired by @sondheimslut.bsky.social I imported my lastFM listening history into Topster to generate this graphic of my most listened to music since I started in 2008.
Screenshot from Topster site showing album covers of my most listened to music from lastFM.
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 18/07/2026
In the aftermath of my mother's death and spending two weeks in Ohio living out of a hotel room, I lost my fitness habit and put on what I am euphemistically calling my 'grief weight.' Today I had a great spin class and am getting started on reforming my habit. Such a challenge...
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 16/07/2026
I deleted my Hevy account. I made sure I was connected to my people in other places. It was incredibly helpful for a time but has recently become mostly an afterthought.
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 11/07/2026
I went to a grief support group today. I found it to be really helpful. Starting tomorrow, I will begin a daily practice of repeating the following in the bathroom mirror 20 times: I am a strong person. I can handle whatever comes my way today. We meet again next month.
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 24/06/2026
So not sure if this is a mistake or not, but ... During a bout of insomnia last night, I made my Instagram public and thirst followed a bunch of guys. I have not posted much over there yet. Still if you want to follow, I can be found at tonygene5842.
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 08/06/2026
Good news! I no longer have sleep apnea. Saying goodbye to my CPAP machine. Between weight loss, overall fitness and my recent sinus surgery, all symptoms have disappeared. This good news was needed.
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 30/05/2026
Home Sweet Home. Thank you to every one of you who have been so supportive of me over the last few weeks. It means the world to me.
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 29/05/2026
After 2 incredibly painful and anxiety-inducing weeks, I am headed back home to Florida.
Himself standing in front of a window at the airport.  What little hair I have appears to be standing on end.
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 27/05/2026
And it's another fucking rainy day in Ohio!
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 27/05/2026
Today is the last hard day of this trip - my mother's graveside service. I get to go home on Friday. It is good because I cannot stand much more of my father. He is self-centered and chooses criticism over gratitude. Family members have commented on how horribly he treats me.
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 20/05/2026
It is hard for me to write this because it makes it all the more real. My mother passed on today. I was sitting with her and it was the hardest thing I have ever done. My world has tilted now that she is gone.
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 16/05/2026
I posted this on Tumblr and thought I would share here too. 2 years and about 40 pounds separate these two photos. Also I now have a regular exercise routine and am managing my diet. I did not realize the change was so profound until I came across the first photo recently.
Himself in a hospital given smiling with a puffy face.  Sparse hair on top and a graying goatee.More recent photo with a slimmer face wearing a black shirt and blue jacket.  Hair is more sparse and goatee still graying.
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 15/05/2026
Up at 4:30 this morning. Sitting at my gate waiting for departure. My stomach is in knots with anxiety. Getting ready to do this thing.
Himself sorry can't pull my alt text together this amView from my seat if the rising sun
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 14/05/2026
So Mom has taken a turn for the worse and is days away from the end. I have an early morning flight tomorrow to be with her and deal with what happens next. I have graduated from buckets of tears to barrels of tears. 💦💦💦
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 11/05/2026
I enjoyed seeing everyone's posts about their mothers yesterday. Good and bad, it all moved me. I talked to my mom for a bit, but she couldn't keep track of the conversation nor who she was talking to. Here is a photo from happier times.
Young woman with shoulder length brown hair, bangs and a big smile holding a baby and sitting on a picnic bench.  Photo is faded and dates from the late 1960's.
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 02/05/2026
3rd ocular migraine of the day. A little worried that a full blown migraine is coming my way. First one was just after a really vigorous spin class. Second one was during the last act of a 4 hour opera. The sopranos always get to me. And now it is raining.
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 01/05/2026
Went to a fancy event tonight and got to dress up.
Himself smiling and dressed up in a black shirt and blue jacket.
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 25/04/2026
I made it through spin class this morning!!! First one in 8 weeks after my surgery recovery hiatus. I kept the pace all the way through. I got a little teary midway through because it felt so good and I was so happy to be back on the bike. I really missed this class.
Himself sitting in a car smiling wearing a blue sleeveless tee shirt
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 20/04/2026
It's been 6 weeks since my surgery and I am finally back to my fitness! My commitment per week is 2 gym days, 1 personal training day and 1 cardio day (usually spin class). I have missed it and my body has too. I am focused on rebuilding flexibility and muscle mass.
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 12/04/2026
Thank you everyone for your support this week. It means the world to me.
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 12/04/2026
Home and wiped out. Had tasty Culvers for dinner. Healthy eating can return on Monday. This week has been all about 'eat away your feelings' and for me that is a quick influx of chocolate followed by a bag of something crunchy salty.
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 11/04/2026
Thanks to my favorite Skyline authors who got me through this trip: @jordanlhawk.com and @stephenblackmoore.com. I finally read Cult Classic the last Eric Carter book and it did not disappoint! I keep buying Jordan L Hawk's back catalog when they go on sale. This trip I read Guardian Spirits.
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 11/04/2026
This has been a gut wrenching week with my parents. Buckets of tears as usual. Hospice gives my mom 6 months. My dad is even more annoying if that is possible. Glad to be going home but am Ieaving with a heavy heart. Dementia is a horrible disease. Excruciatingly painful for the survivors.
Himself standing at an airport bathroom sink dressed in dark colors.
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 06/04/2026
It's 3pm. Got up at 11, did some things and went back to bed. Still feel like death warmed over, but am going to see what coffee, a shower and Tylenol does for me.
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 05/04/2026
Sitting in the terminal wasting time and scrolling the sky with my content filter on and resisting the urge to see. I can look later once I get to my hotel room. Hope everybody had labeled their posts appropriately.
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 05/04/2026
There was weather in DC so we were delayed out of Sarasota. Finally got to DC just after 4. Missed my connecting and am now on a flight departing at 10pm. Just have about 5 hours to kill now. Travel, yay!
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 05/04/2026
At the airport on this Easter Sunday heading to Ohio to check in with my parents. Both are 88. Mom is in a nursing home with severe dementia and Dad is declining from living on his own. Anyway sorry to be leaving sunny Florida for a chilly week in the Midwest.
Himself sitting in an airport terminal with a blue T-shirt and navy jacket.
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 23/03/2026
3 weeks post sinus surgery and I set foot back in the gym!! I just stretched a little and walked on the treadmill for half an hour. If all goes well with aftershocks, I am going to try to do this every day this week. I am not yet cleared to lift anything heavy. Very excited to get moving!
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 14/03/2026
I went to a shindig tonight and got all dressed up. First time wearing hard soles shoes since moving to Florida nearly 5 years ago. I also got to wear this slick black shirt that we bought today to go with my suit. Will post the full body pic tomorrow.
Himself wearing a black shirt.with a collar.
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 12/03/2026
I have to say that it has been especially nice today for my birthday to fall on a Wednesday as this is my favorite day of the week here. The gifts just keep on keep on.
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 12/03/2026
So today I turned 60. I will post a photo tomorrow. It seems like a big number and at the same time I feel liberated to just be me without worry about what other people think - which was instilled into me by my father. Now I feel like 'Fuck it, I'm 60, I can do whatever I want!'
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 10/03/2026
8 days post sinus surgery and I saw my surgeon for a follow up. I learned that my septum was in an S shape. Now it is straight. And she did the dreaded vacuuming out of my sinuses and it was every bit as bad as I anticipated. BUT now I can breathe freely through my nose. BLISS!
Himself standing in front of the bathroom mirror wearing a gray long sleeve tshirt and with a strip of gauze taped under his nose.
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 04/03/2026
The bleeding has stopped. Yay! I no longer have to wear the nose wrapper thingie. Now the battle is against dryness. Mouth breathing as my nostrils are still blocked. Also I cannot smile due to the swelling in my face. Maybe tomorrow?
Himself with a grim expression which is actually an attempt at a smile.  Wearing a wide  vertical striped galabeya though you can only see the top half. Against a Willam Morris shower curtain.
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 03/03/2026
Before and After. I am in the throes of recovery from surgery yesterday. I had a deviated septum corrected and my sinuses vacuumed out. I will feel a lot better soon. For now, I have good pain meds.
Himself laying on a gurney in a blue patterned hospital gown.  Closed mouth smile.Himself looking a lot worse for wear.  Huddled in a nest of pillows and blankets. Wearing a strap across my face holding a gauze pad in place under my nose.
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 01/03/2026
I am having sinus surgery tomorrow morning. I have all of my post care supplies at the ready. I am not looking forward to the week ahead. However, after that I anticipate being able to breathe and smell in abundance (which is not the current situation).
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 28/02/2026
So life in Sarasota Florida today, hubby and I are crossing an intersection and this car comes roaring up. Hubby who does not take shit from anyone, stepped right into the intersection waving his arms and shouting for the driver to stop. Her reply, 'fuck you!'
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 05/02/2026
Circa 1983
Jim Palmer Jockey underwear ad from 1983.  He is standing with his right leg propped up wearing red briefs with white ringers.
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 26/01/2026
I am shutting down all of my social media except for Bluesky. It is an overwhelming time and I need to limit what I take in. The only way I can do that is by deleting the apps. So goodbye Reddit, Tumblr, and Instagram.
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 16/01/2026
So for my 60th birthday this year, I am going to get sinus surgery. Going the full tilt with fixing my deviated septum as well. In related news we are having a cold snap down here in Florida and my sinuses are giving me misery. It's just after 5pm and I am going to bed.
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 14/01/2026
Repost your home river. The Great Miami River in Dayton, Ohio.
View of downtown Dayton Ohio from the opposite bank with a light pole in the foreground.
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 12/01/2026
My gym personal trainer has now been out for 3 weeks. I have not lifted any weight this year. Today is the day that I separate my gym success from my trainer. I am my own accountability.
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 08/01/2026
Got my hairs (what little I have left) did. Gay powers restored.
Himself wearing a gray long sleeves T-shirt with an almost smile not showing teeth
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 06/01/2026
This was an interesting exercise. Did a lot of traveling for work and so covered a lot of ground.
Map of US showing states I have lived in (Ohio, Illinois, and Florida), and states I have visited.  I have not been to 9 states nor the territories.
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 01/01/2026
Thank you to everyone who posted all of their Christmas pics! I lived vicariously through you. Hopefully 2026 will be better, but this past year was just not a happy time. My mother is in a nursing home in Ohio and continues to fade away.
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 01/01/2026
Trimmed my beard for the new year!
Selfie in New Year's Day - much less scruffy.Selfie taken in 2025 with a bushy gray beard and mustache
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Tony Gene 🏳️‍🌈 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 @jonygilborn.bsky.social · 01/01/2026
My StoryGraph reading results for the year by genre - also for me not surprising at all. I read 30 books out of my goal of 50. And shout out to @jordanlhawk.bsky.social for being my most read author of the year!
Screenshot from StoryGraph showing my most read genres for the year: Fantasy, Historical, LGBTQIA+, Romance, Mystery.Screenshot from StoryGraph showing my most read authors for the year: Jordan L. Hawk, Bryan Camp, Uketsu.
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