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Handle Too Long @handle-two-long.bsky.social · 2h

Even this week I somehow uncovered new info about the guy. A person on Instagram I knew followed my ex said the follow was only a Gridr-linked one and they haven’t actually met. So after all the bs about his ‘proudly monogamous relationship’, he managed to convince the guy that being open is okay.

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Handle Too Long @handle-two-long.bsky.social · 4h

After a couple years of pretend, everything was fair game to pulled out from under. Trips to Disney became 1 of them. He made it clear he would not travel there when international was so much more real. Of course his new supply is a Disney gay and my ex made it clear he planned trips with the guy.

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Osteo @mrboneboy.bsky.social · 08/10/2026

give it a taste

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NerdyAdam8 @nerdyadam8.bsky.social · 08/10/2026

Loaded him up with some of my special sauce and then took him to get Canes afterwards. 🐓 @sideshowblob.bsky.social

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PNW Twunk Wannabe @pnwtwunkwannabe.bsky.social · 08/10/2026

Your hump day dessert tonight 🍑👅🍽️

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Handle Too Long @handle-two-long.bsky.social · 07/10/2026

Anything I find out now is all ludicrous but very believable things that would make a person’s head spin. Contradictions, hyperbole, hypocrisy of the highest degree. He only knows how to mimic and ‘please’ in order to keep his foot in the door. Not having convictions let’s him be an amazing no one.

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altmanofmine.bsky.social @altmanofmine.bsky.social · 26/11/2025

Birthday cake is ready to be eaten

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Pup Gantry @graggo.bsky.social · 26/09/2026

Cage check at 30.000 feet

Chastity cage mirror pic in a very tiny airplane lavatory

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Handle Too Long @handle-two-long.bsky.social · 07/10/2026

Of course I learned, despite it being hurtful and hard to take, that he broke all of these ‘rules’. I watched him get the new guy ‘let him stay there as long as he needed’ when he first started the discard. In a townhouse. They got married and even professionally hyphenated his name at 11 months.

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Handle Too Long @handle-two-long.bsky.social · 07/10/2026

He told me he didn’t want his name to change, that he earned his degree with his name and was very proud of that. He told me he’d never move in with a guy sooner than 2 years. That you ‘have to know the crazy’ before doing-so. He said he hated townhouses and wouldn’t be caught dead in one. Rules.

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Handle Too Long @handle-two-long.bsky.social · 07/10/2026

Whenever he could, he used to pretend he was ready for me to propose. To hold my ring finger and wiggle it or put his I’m my closed hand. Whenever I got serious he started on about not marrying u til my ex wife isn’t dependent on me. (Years to go). I then heard he didn’t like the idea of marriage.

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Handle Too Long @handle-two-long.bsky.social · 07/10/2026

I just was handed a memory from Facebook about my relationship status and trying to include him in it over the years. He refused over and over and was very weird about it. The struggle and hope I went through to get him to add me made me try harder and yearn for the reward of his acknowledgement.

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Handle Too Long @handle-two-long.bsky.social · 06/10/2026

The asshole loved to ignore my feelings. He had a college hoodie he wore from his ex and despite me asking him not to, and providing him one of mine, he kept wearing it. For years after and despite repeated ‘requests’ he kept-on, knowing full-well it was something so simple yet so anger-inducing.

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Rob @robertjosephnsfw.bsky.social · 06/10/2026

Small to big

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Handle Too Long @handle-two-long.bsky.social · 06/10/2026

When he discarded me knowing full-well he had already got my replacement, he followed me onto the dating apps. He would look at my profile and how I described myself. Eventually I swiped left on him and you’d think it was the end of the world. This child thought he had a footing to use to shame me.

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Handle Too Long @handle-two-long.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

A roller coaster I thought was just a ’fun’ ride. I figured this give and take was just part of a relationship. I had a tough time with my ex wife and figured at least he was fun to have sex with. In reality, they both have issues. I have issues too. I‘m willing to try to evolve or change approach.

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Handle Too Long @handle-two-long.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

He needed me to live in his world of distortion. To not know what was real. To feel like I needed his approval to feel ok about myself. At the end he would complain that he wasn’t on my Insta CF, then complain when he was and when I posted thirst traps, then 😍 the next thirst post. 💯 confusion!

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Handle Too Long @handle-two-long.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

I gave and still give him far more grace than makes sense. People are seldom confused and usually know exactly what they’re doing. This man is always playing 4D chess. It’s impressive but pathetic at the same time. The energy that goes into juggling lies and fabrications must me so taxing on them.

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Handle Too Long @handle-two-long.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

I cried for this man. A LOT. I believed I was bad and failed and sacrificed what he gave. In reality all he ever did was take. He took my trust, heart, cock, financial contributions. After he was ‘gone’ he tried to break each of those things. Prevent me from using my dick and empty the wallet.

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Handle Too Long @handle-two-long.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

The self conscious fear he cast in my direction became my personal belief. He convinced me I was the problem. That I was unworthy of love. That I deserved to be discarded. The projection as he ran his smear campaign. The self-revealing, tattling diatribes and social whispers were so dumb and sad.

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Handle Too Long @handle-two-long.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

My ex simply couldn’t date a typical, proud, opinionated local gay. Not that he could land them either. He had so much distorted history with me. So many questions would come up. He used his separate friend group as a buffer for social acceptance during the breakup. Convinced them I was a bad guy.

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Handle Too Long @handle-two-long.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

My ex clearly saw me as a good target early-on. A new baby gay just out and confused. Eager. Desperate to feel normal. Malleable. I fell for the bait. Trusted everything. His new man was so similar. No gay social circle. A widower a year from losing his wife. Another baby gay. Vulnerable AF.

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Handle Too Long @handle-two-long.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

He would constantly future-fake. Promised plans for our house(s), pets for the kids, trips, sexual possibilities, MARRIAGE. All to no avail. What he did do was make promises that felt real enough to keep me in the hook. To believe he meant it. I was too blond to see the ball rolling down the road.

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Handle Too Long @handle-two-long.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

He didn’t want to be a real part of my family. He owns nothing to his name worth wanting. He doesn’t have collectibles or decorations. Just office supplies and textbooks. He can pickup & go on a whim. Like a college student. He doesn’t have cultural affinities, hobbies, interests. Just TV and Insta

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Handle Too Long @handle-two-long.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

I tried to convince him to be nicer to people. That his jokes hurt them too. He always doubled-down or ignored me. He likes being the mean girl. The one who doesn’t actually know his friends, just knows how to get them to do what he wants. They don’t really know him either. He’s a vagrant. Soulless.

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Blessed @blessed213.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

I’m just here to drop off some big dick, who ordered this large package? 📦

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Blessed @blessed213.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

Damn bro… 😱

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kennie404.bsky.social @kennie404.bsky.social · 30/09/2026

It’s happy to see u

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Manilla Ice @manillaice.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

Happy #sundaycumday oldie but a goodie w @angelick6669.bsky.social (my load was inside)

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GAYVIATOR ✈️⚜️ @quasargay.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

@itghey.bsky.social chose purple to start off with, now taking other color requests as I soak and listen to this rain 😌

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Handle Too Long @handle-two-long.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

He convinces people he’s fun, sweet and funny, and then stabs them in the back. He stirs up trouble where it doesn’t need to. Whispers in others ears to foment chaos. Invents things to light the fuse. Social manipulation as experiments and games. He once had frienemies come to a party just for fun.

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Handle Too Long @handle-two-long.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

He talked about everyone behind their back, yet any hint of criticism or negativity he heard about himself set-off World War 3. He couldn’t stand negative attention or criticism, socially or professionally. The idea that he wasn’t perfect simply didn’t compute. The man is a child in temperament.

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Handle Too Long @handle-two-long.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

He used to talk so badly about people behind their back. Made fun of a friend because she went on trips with us while her husband was the one working, spending his money. Call another guy Dick Cheese because of a supposed hygiene rumor. Criticize our close friend for settling to be with his bf.

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Handle Too Long @handle-two-long.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

He used to describe 100+ times with guys in Philly while we were together. Passed a building. ‘I got fucked there’. A hotel. ‘Hot daddy there’. Over and over. Yet he had a BF for 4 years before me and lived here 1 year. ‘Only’ when they were in ’fights’ or ‘on breaks’. Tattle-tale on himself I see.

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Handle Too Long @handle-two-long.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

He hated me having fun after he left. Having consensual, non-committed sex. Not hiding-from. Just fucking to feel good as a single guy. He ostensibly has never had sex while not cheating on someone else. His ex before me didn’t really fuck much and they ‘weren’t open’. With me we weren’t THAT open.

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Handle Too Long @handle-two-long.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

He gaslit so much. Projected a lot too. That summer he told me people were calling me ’the vulture‘. ‘Always looking for fresh meat’. Yet HE was the one with a new and old boyfriend simultaneously AND was on the apps too. So many friends have told me how he pursued them before and after ‘us’.

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Handle Too Long @handle-two-long.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

Another catfish instance was when he pretended to be someone on the grid, just randomly, and started berating me as soon as I got near the house and he was departing. Claimed I was a flake and all talk. Then blocked me after naming friends of ours and places we’ve been. Then he repeated in-person.

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