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Ilse Gevaert @growingwithilse.bsky.social · 14/09/2026

🎉 I'm so excited to share that my new article is published on INSPO's thought leadership platform! This one is close to my heart. 🔗 Read here: www.inspo.expert/blog/the-wor... #Neurodiversity #Neurodivergent #Twiceexceptional #Giftedness #NeurodiversityMatters

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Ilse Gevaert @growingwithilse.bsky.social · 06/09/2026

Why do neurodivergent people need more rest? Their brains work harder daily. On foggy days, your gifts aren't gone. You're state-dependent, not unreliable. 🔗 Read here: resilientminds.blog/everyone-nee... #Neurodivergent #NeurodivergentBrain #ActuallyAutistic #ADHD #RestIsProductive

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Ilse Gevaert @growingwithilse.bsky.social · 18/08/2026

You don't have to untangle this alone. Reach out. I'd love to help. ✨ (Link in bio). #Neuroplasticity #RewireYourBrain #MentalHealthMatters #EmotionalWellness #Psychology

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Ilse Gevaert @growingwithilse.bsky.social · 18/08/2026

If this feels hard at first, that's construction. Old patterns are wide, paved roads; they're easy to slip back onto. New ones start as narrow dirt trails. Every repetition widens the new path a little more. Consistency matters more than intensity, and missing a day doesn't erase your progress.

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Ilse Gevaert @growingwithilse.bsky.social · 18/08/2026

It's called neuroplasticity: every thought you think and every action you take strengthens or weakens a neural pathway. The circuits you use grow stronger. The ones you stop using, you will lose. Which means your patterns aren't permanent. And anything learned can be re-learned.

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Ilse Gevaert @growingwithilse.bsky.social · 18/08/2026

Your brain can change. At any age. For decades, science believed the adult brain was essentially fixed. That by a certain age, you were wired how you were wired, and that was that. We now know that's not true.

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CindyM: NeuroDivergent AuTist, MicroBloggin' @cindym.bsky.social · 12/08/2026

There is a Physiological-Psychological reason why it can feel like Fear negates Thinking Getting to know your nervous system from the inside; learn that you need to regulate it, manually;normies don't have to do that, but you do! Pay attention to your breathing, blood pressure pulse; you got this.

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Ilse Gevaert @growingwithilse.bsky.social · 12/08/2026

When fear takes over, it can feel impossible to think straight. In my latest piece, I break down how to handle overwhelming fear. 🔗 Read here: resilientminds.blog/understandin... #AnxietyRelief #NervousSystemRegulation #MentalHealthAwareness #TraumaRecovery #HealingJourney

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Ilse Gevaert @growingwithilse.bsky.social · 11/06/2026

We live in the most connected era in human history. And somehow, millions of us have never felt more alone. 🔗 Read here: resilientminds.blog/combatting-l... #MentalHealth #Loneliness #DigitalDetox #MentalHealthAwareness #Psychology

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Ilse Gevaert @growingwithilse.bsky.social · 17/05/2026

When you understand that the charm, the fun, the butterflies, they were the architecture of control, you stop being confused by them. You stop mistaking intensity for love. You start to see the whole picture. And the whole picture sets you free. #NarcissisticAbuse #CognitiveDissonance

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Ilse Gevaert @growingwithilse.bsky.social · 17/05/2026

What survivors often struggle to explain, and what the outside world rarely understands, is that they didn't fall for a monster. They fell for someone who seemed extraordinary. The abuse came later, layered in, sandwiched between moments that felt like the relationship of a lifetime.

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Ilse Gevaert @growingwithilse.bsky.social · 12/05/2026

If you're still wearing the mask most of the time, it’s because it kept you safe when nothing else did. The work isn't ripping it off. It's gently, slowly, learning that you don't need it as much as you once did. #mentalhealth #healing #Psychology #neurodivergent #masking

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Ilse Gevaert @growingwithilse.bsky.social · 12/05/2026

People don't mask because they want to deceive anyone. They mask because at some point, being themselves was met with rejection, and their nervous system never forgot.

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Ilse Gevaert @growingwithilse.bsky.social · 02/05/2026

Because feelings, even the ones that feel permanent, are not permanent. They move, they shift, they pass. Not because you forced them to. But because that is what feelings do when you stop fighting them. #MentalHealth #HealingJourney #SelfCompassion #MindsetShift #ThisTooShallPass

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Ilse Gevaert @growingwithilse.bsky.social · 02/05/2026

When life gets heavy, you don't have to find the silver lining yet. You don't have to be grateful for the weight. You don't have to find the lesson. You don't have to perform okay. What you do have to do is keep breathing. Keep your heart open, even when everything in you wants to close it.

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Ilse Gevaert @growingwithilse.bsky.social · 02/05/2026

Thank you for letting me know! SENG is updating their library. The article should be live soon. If not, I will upload it to the Resilient Minds Website.

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Ilse Gevaert @growingwithilse.bsky.social · 13/04/2026

Regulation isn't cold science. Sometimes it looks exactly like this: like warmth, like softness, like coming back to yourself.

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Ilse Gevaert @growingwithilse.bsky.social · 13/04/2026

You don't need a relationship to unlock it. You don't need to remember a happy moment or visualize a person. The capacity for love isn't stored in other people, it's stored in you, in your nervous system, waiting to be activated.

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Ilse Gevaert @growingwithilse.bsky.social · 13/04/2026

Oxytocin floods your system. Your amygdala, the part of your brain that scans for threat, becomes less reactive. Cortisol, your primary stress hormone, begins to drop. Your heart rate steadies. Your nervous system shifts out of survival mode and into something softer. Something open.

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Ilse Gevaert @growingwithilse.bsky.social · 13/04/2026

When you deliberately generate a felt sense of warmth, just the pure sensation of love spreading through your chest, your brain responds as if something real just occurred. Because neurologically, it did.

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Ilse Gevaert @growingwithilse.bsky.social · 13/04/2026

Your Brain Has a Built-In Feel-Good Button. Here’s How to Press It. Your brain can't fully tell the difference between feeling loved, and imagining it. Which means you can trigger oxytocin, drop your cortisol, and feel better in 60 seconds. 🔗 Read here: resilientminds.blog/your-brain-h...

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Ilse Gevaert @growingwithilse.bsky.social · 29/03/2026

It starts with one honest question: What have I been assuming that might not be true? Maybe you've assumed that vulnerability leads to rejection, so you keep your walls up and then wonder why connection feels impossible. It's a pattern. And patterns can be interrupted.

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Ilse Gevaert @growingwithilse.bsky.social · 29/03/2026

What actually creates change? Curiosity about a new direction. This is called cognitive flexibility: the capacity to shift your thinking, and approach a problem from a different angle. It's one of the strongest predictors of resilience and problem-solving. And it can be practiced.

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Ilse Gevaert @growingwithilse.bsky.social · 29/03/2026

Trying harder is not the same as trying differently. In psychology, this is sometimes called behavioral rigidity: the tendency to keep applying the same strategy even when the evidence is telling us it isn't working.

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Ilse Gevaert @growingwithilse.bsky.social · 29/03/2026

The brain is a pattern-recognition machine. It is wired for efficiency, not growth. The neural pathways we've traveled the longest are the most comfortable and the hardest to leave behind. So we repeat. Not because we're foolish, but because repetition feels like trying. It isn't.

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Ilse Gevaert @growingwithilse.bsky.social · 29/03/2026

Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. We laugh when we hear it. And then we go home and do the exact same thing we've always done and wonder why nothing changes. This isn't a character flaw. It's neuroscience. #mentalhealth #psychology #breakthepattern

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Ilse Gevaert @growingwithilse.bsky.social · 21/03/2026

Humor as medicine. (And no, not the kind that minimizes your pain.) The kind that lets you look at your own suffering and say : ”Okay. This is absurd. And I'm still here." Humor is one of the oldest and most underrated psychological tools we have. #mentalhealth #Psychology #cognitiveReframing

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Ilse Gevaert @growingwithilse.bsky.social · 08/03/2026

One of the cruelest ironies of abuse is this: the person who caused the harm rarely loses sleep over it. But the person who survived it often spends years drowning in shame. Understanding why is the first step to putting it down. 🔗 Read here: resilientminds.blog/why-survivor...

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Why Survivors Feel Shame. And Abusers Often Don't.

There is a painful, almost unbearable irony at the heart of abuse: the person who caused the harm rarely carries the weight of it. The person who survived it does. If you have lived through an abusive...

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Ilse Gevaert @growingwithilse.bsky.social · 18/02/2026

Anger can tell us a boundary was crossed. Sadness can tell us something mattered. Anxiety can tell us we’re facing uncertainty. Even shame can point to old wounds asking for care. The goal isn’t to suppress what you feel.  Feel what’s here. Help your body settle. Then choose your next step.

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Ilse Gevaert @growingwithilse.bsky.social · 18/02/2026

When emotions feel overwhelming, the instinct is often to shut them down, push them away, or judge ourselves for having them. But emotions are not the enemy. They are signals. 🔗 Read here: resilientminds.blog/how-to-deal-... #EmotionalRegulation #Psychology #MentalHealth

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Emotions: Evidence-Based Techniques to Cope

Feeling flooded by emotions? Learn evidence-based techniques to process emotions and enhance your emotional regulation.

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Ilse Gevaert @growingwithilse.bsky.social · 16/02/2026

If you’re feeling overwhelmed: • Limit exposure intentionally. • Name the emotion (grief? rage? helplessness?). • Remind your body: I am safe right now. • Ground in something physical: your breath, feet in the ground, cold water on your wrists.

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Ilse Gevaert @growingwithilse.bsky.social · 16/02/2026

The release of the Epstein files has left many people feeling raw. If you’ve felt anxious, unsettled, nauseous, angry, or unable to stop thinking about it, you’re not alone. But outrage without regulation leads to chaos. And chaos protects the powerful. Regulate first. Then demand accountability.

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Ilse Gevaert @growingwithilse.bsky.social · 12/02/2026

If you’ve felt “crazy” for noticing harm… You may be the one refusing denial. That’s courage.

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Ilse Gevaert @growingwithilse.bsky.social · 12/02/2026

Denial is a psychological defense mechanism. It happens when reality feels too threatening. So the mind unconsciously minimizes, distorts, or rejects it to reduce anxiety. In small ways. And in very large ones. #Denial #Psychology #Gaslighting #TruthTelling #LeadershipAccountability

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Ilse Gevaert @growingwithilse.bsky.social · 05/02/2026

When someone repeatedly accuses you of things that don’t fit, it’s worth pausing. Narcissistic personalities often project onto others what they cannot tolerate in themselves.  It’s how blame is shifted, and power is maintained. We see this in relationships, workplaces, and on a public level.

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Ilse Gevaert @growingwithilse.bsky.social · 04/02/2026

Executive functioning is one of those terms people hear often. Especially in conversations about ADHD, autism, giftedness, burnout, trauma, or learning differences. But few people are ever taught what it actually means. Executive functions are your brain’s “management system.”

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Ilse Gevaert @growingwithilse.bsky.social · 28/01/2026

Most people don’t ignore abuse of power because they’re naïve.  They ignore it because they believe in a fair world. 🧠 Our brains want things to make sense. This is what keeps people quiet for far longer than they should. #AbuseOfPower #Leadership #Psychology #Gaslighting #PowerDynamics

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Ilse Gevaert @growingwithilse.bsky.social · 20/01/2026

💡 What actually helps:  • Start with short pauses (30–90 seconds) • Choose active rest (walking, stretching) • Keep your eyes open if that feels safer • Press your feet gently into the ground for 10 seconds. • Relax the muscles in your body for 10 seconds.

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Ilse Gevaert @growingwithilse.bsky.social · 20/01/2026

Rest Isn’t Easy for Everyone For many people, rest doesn’t feel restorative. It feels unsettling, anxiety-provoking, or even dangerous. 🔗 Read here: resilientminds.blog/if-rest-feel... #Perfectionism #HighAchievers #RestIsHard #NervousSystemRegulation #BurnoutRecovery #ImpostorSyndrome

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Ilse Gevaert @growingwithilse.bsky.social · 08/01/2026

It’s not rudeness. It’s not arrogance. It’s not “bad social skills.” It’s often gifted cognition. Ever thought: “I’m social… just not like this.”  You’re not alone. #SmallTalk #NeurodivergentMinds #GiftedMinds

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Ilse Gevaert @growingwithilse.bsky.social · 08/01/2026

Years of hearing that you’re lazy can do real damage to the way you see yourself. So glad you challenge these internalized beliefs.

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