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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 27/07/2026
My granddaughter watched Peter Pan with me over the weekend. It was her first time. Me, I’ve lost count. I learn from her every time I sit with her. She really made me think. Here’s what she taught me grahamgoulden.com/2026/07/26/w...
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What Peter Pan Can Teach Us About Active Bystandership
This morning I’m sitting watching the original Peter Pan with my three-year-old granddaughter Arra.  It’s her first time seeing it. I’ve lost count of the number of times I’ve watched this as …
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 24/07/2026
The right cultures protect the good in people. The wrong cultures support the views of a minority of harm doers. Culture should be the focus for police leaders not just the task of policing. grahamgoulden.com/2026/07/23/t...
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The Wrong Question? Why “There Were No Opportunities to Spot Him” Misses the Bigger Issue
This blog focuses on the emerging story of PC Alan Greer, who, after an investigation after his suicide, has committed numerous sexual offences and attempted murder. See “Senior officers insisted t…
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 23/07/2026
Spent the day working with a range of Royal Navy leaders from HMS Raleigh helping them begin their #ASOne journey A curriculum developed to build safety and to help staff to intervene early to reduce harm. Great engagement and recognition around the power of the active bystander.
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 23/07/2026
It may be true that there was no single piece of evidence that would have predicted Greer’s horrific crimes. But focusing solely on whether someone could have spotted the offender risks missing the question: what culture surrounded him? www.bbc.co.uk/news/article...
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Police officer was violent rapist who attacked women over 14 years
The BBC can reveal that detectives have so far uncovered nine victims of PC Alan Greer but many more are anticipated.
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 05/06/2026
Such a foggy world just now. The #HenryNowak case has been used by many to drive a narrative. The reality is more human frailty under pressure. grahamgoulden.com/2026/06/03/t...
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The ‘Hidden Power’ in the room – Henry Nowak and the Importance of Peer Intervention in Policing
The tragic case of Henry Nowak has prompted significant discussion about police decision-making, assumptions, and accountability. Much of that discussion has focused on the actions of individual of…
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 04/06/2026
James has done a great job at reminding society to lean into communities who don’t so much require to be treated differently. More they require much more respect than they have received in the past.
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 04/06/2026
Listening to you speaking with @mrjamesob.bsky.social reminds me why I need to invest more time on this platform as opposed to the other. Thanks both.
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 04/06/2026
Hey folks. I’ve not posted here for an age. I want to come back and be around good people. Please remind me that actually the world is full of good people. Since we last met I have a grandson to go with my granddaughter.
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 03/01/2026
The importance of early action isn’t simply about knowing what to do, it’s more recognising that harm is taking place. www.bbc.co.uk/news/article...
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What images and videos tell us about why Swiss bar fire spread so quickly
How the blaze took hold with such ferocity, killing at least 40 people and leaving many more critically injured, is now a key focus for officials.
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 03/01/2026
Not been on this site for a while. Decided to give it a go again. So for starters. Took out my drone for some winter views. Love where I stay. In the country but close to the city. Have a great weekend folks.
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 22/09/2025
A timely reminder that 1. There’s a load of misinformation on here and 2. Police have since the beginning of policing found themselves in the middle of disputes. Let them get on with their job and stop using these types of films to further your hate.
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 22/09/2025
Someone suggested to me recently that bystander approaches don't work. I dug deeper and it was clear that the the training they provided wasn't motivating action. Heres why many bystander type approaches 'fail to launch' grahamgoulden.com/2025/09/22/w...
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When we act, everyone benefits
The use of bystander type trainings in organisations will have little or no effect when the message centres solely on protecting certain individuals or groups.  In likes of policing, the focus…
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 22/09/2025
Took a break but back. If you doubt what I do take a look. Oh and I got a tattoo r-login.wordpress.com/remote-login...
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 22/09/2025
Great points @mrjamesob.bsky.social Do the media drive our readings and focus or does society drive the agenda. I’m concerned about the number of cyber attacks just now. Are you? Do we need to be talking more about this topic? If we do would the media report more?
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 07/05/2025
Important words from Timpson. Focus requires to be on those around victims and those who commit harm. When a culture instils a responsibility to act science says they will act early when harm is seen. Peer intervention is a tool to be considered
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 13/04/2025
This weeks #SundayThread Every contact leaves a trace. Those in policing will recognise this saying. This principle is foundational in forensic science, as it implies that evidence is left behind in every interaction.
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 10/04/2025
I heard this piece earlier on the @mrjamesob.bsky.social show. It was emotional, raw, to the point and the sort of leadership that’s needed at this time. It made me stop the car and listen to every word.
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 09/04/2025
What if? In #Adolescence What if Jamie’s friend Ryan had the tools and confidence to stop his friend. In this blog i look at the drama through the eyes of the bystander. grahamgoulden.com/2025/04/09/f...
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Friends don’t let friends – the role of friends in preventing violence
Looking at an issue through a bystander lens provides another insight into a problem. When we think differently we help provide new ways to address the problem. To think differently we must first s…
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 02/04/2025
For me the learning from #Adolescence is for adults not the kids in school. Some suggestions 1. Parents remember the internet is a place not a thing. 2. Coaches/teachers role model respect/kindness 3. All, be curious & ask questions 4. All, Address misogyny quickly 5. Correct misperceptions
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 01/04/2025
Natasha is in the mark here. Adolescence has created a whole load of empathy in our society. It’s clearly a drama society needs to engage with but leave it out of schools. How we engage boys in these issues is so crucial. It’s not simply about educating. Engagement comes first.
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 30/03/2025
This weeks #SundayThread Snitches get stitches. I’m surprised I haven’t talked about this before. In a lot of my work I often ask groups to share the perceptions of people in orgs who report poor behaviour. I’m often met with terms such as snitch, grass, troublemaker.
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 28/03/2025
To think differently, learn to see differently. Seeing differently is a way of countering built-in tendency to sink in to the familiar way of seeing and experiencing. It may be hard but move through discomfort. Once there help others to do the same. Never force them.
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 24/03/2025
I wrote this to highlight a need for us to move beyond a good v evil discussion when talking about male violence grahamgoulden.com/2025/03/24/t...
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The Power Of The Situation – Part 2
I’ve written before using this title.  I applied it to a policing issue.  I wanted to use the same title to explore how the power of the situation plays out in many different issues. A fo…
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 23/03/2025
This weeks #SundayThread A need for role models. I read this week about the speech given by @GarethSouthgate at the recent #RichardDimbleby lecture. He talked about a need for role models for men beyond online male influencers.
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 22/03/2025
Radical action or evidence based responses. We know what works but we seldom follow what works Adolescence writer calls for 'radical action' not role models www.bbc.com/news/article...
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Adolescence: Netflix series writer Jack Thorne wants 'radical action not role models'
The writer behind the year's most talked-about TV show discusses the changes he hopes it will inspire.
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 20/03/2025
What if we invested in the right conversations on challenges faced by YP. The biggest influence on a person isn’t themselves it’s peers. We must help young people see that their views and stresses are shared by the many not the few. A ban creates fear but won’t stop the issue
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 20/03/2025
It’s also about giving young men the skills to be role models in their peers groups. The biggest influence on a persons behaviour isn’t themselves or the famous person. It’s their peers.
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 16/03/2025
John is spot on here. Mkte wirk needed to better engage boys on these issues. The topic of my #SundayThread today bsky.app/profile/grah...
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 16/03/2025
The power and influence of unity. The movement grows.
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 16/03/2025
This weeks #SundayThread Beware wolves in sheep’s clothing Matthew 7:15 Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing but inwardly are ravenous wolves. Last weekend I spoke with @matthew-wright.bsky.social about male influencers & their skill of sucking men into toxic conversations
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 14/03/2025
When addressing harm I’ve come to a simple conclusion. Calling out assumes the worst. Calling in creates the environment needed to prevent the worst.
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 09/03/2025
This is so true. The stress created in the world is leading to a lot of disregulated people out there. It is seen in different ways and includes how men see their lives. For me this is why we all need to 1. Be mindful of situation and 2. Work to better engage. Meet men where they are at.
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 09/03/2025
This weeks #SundayThread Notice - Decide - Act. In 1960’s 2 social scientists studied the actions of bystanders. What led people to move from a passive role to an active one. A 5 step process was identified. 1 Notice 2 See emergency 3 Take responsibility 4 Decide response 5 Act
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 08/03/2025
It was a pleasure today to speak with @matthew-wright.bsky.social on @lbc.co.uk about Andrew Tate. My view is we need a more positive conversation with men. Most don’t support Tate. Many don’t realise that their mates think as they do. We even managed to discuss right wing political strategy.
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 07/03/2025
Correcting misperceptions is key. The research suggests most men don’t support T@te but the way he’s portrayed suggests most men do. This starting point is a big mistake and actually leads men who don’t support him feeling they need to (to fit in)
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 07/03/2025
Spot on from Natasha. We need to support boys and young men. Many don’t support his misogynistic views. That’s our in
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 27/02/2025
We’ve seen this occur in what’s app groups in likes of police and fire. When we remain passive we signal acceptance. This may mean others move from watching to harming. It’s a progression and a consequence of one’s inaction.
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 26/02/2025
Jacob is spot on when he talks about planting seeds. Measuring success is hard but his work will be impacting on behaviours of others. Helping friends be better friends is key. @mrjamesob.bsky.social
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 26/02/2025
Powerful interview between @mrjamesob.bsky.social and Jacob Dunne who punched someone who died. Can’t help but think of the misplaced loyalty that often exists in male groups. Back up a mate no matter what. When we redefine loyalty we help prevent such events.
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 26/02/2025
Jason posed some excellent questions in this conversation. I really got a chance to open up the throttle and talk about something that is both misunderstood and underused. If curious grab a coffee and take a listen.
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 20/02/2025
James - that was a powerful report on Scotland’s badge of shame. I would recommend we all listen to this report and think what can we all do to look out for those at risk.
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 17/02/2025
IMO not a helpful comment from a former officer. Remember officers already have to report colleagues in such cases. More the question is how do Police Scotland motivate officers to act earlier as well as ensuring those who do report feel supported www.scottishdailyexpress.co.uk/news/scottis...
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Police Scotland branded 'Orwellian' over internal crack-down on misogyny
A former top cop raised concerns that it could be used by officers to settle scores by aggrieved staff
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 13/02/2025
As well as tools to act men unfortunately require to feel support from other men. Many men still wrong perceive that other men think. Correcting misperceptions is therefor crucial. I asked this of colleague Alan Berkowitz recently. youtu.be/HKwCfFJZJhg?...
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 02/02/2025
This weeks #SundayThread Caging The Gorilla. This week I’ve been skiing in France. The other night I found myself eavesdropping a fascinating conversation about human decision making when stressed. The men were fighter pilots. I introduced myself & we kept talking
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 31/01/2025
Safe out and safe in. Great weeks skiing in Val D’Isere with my daughter. So grateful for this time with her.
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 28/01/2025
When you look for helpers you will find them. When you find them you will be inspired by them. When you help you complete the circle.
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 25/01/2025
The power of kindness 1. You make someone else feel better 2. You feel better 3. People who see your kindness feel better and inspired to be kind. Circle complete
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 24/01/2025
The use of the term “knife crime” isn’t helpful. It focuses society on the weapon not the mindset. Yesterday’s sentencing of the young man for the murders of the 3 young girls for me highlighted a complete lack of empathy. www.bbc.co.uk/news/article...
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Axel Rudakubana: 'Evil' Southport killer jailed for minimum 52 years - BBC News
Axel Rudakubana is handed a life sentence for killing three girls and attacking 10 other people.
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 20/01/2025
Nicely put Mark. Do we reinforce stereotypes in our daily language. The human condition is complex enough without more confusion.
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Graham Goulden @grahamgoulden.bsky.social · 20/01/2025
Empathy is a key trait of moral rebels. This weekend #TheStarOfTheShow paused to remember the village snowman. Empathy isn’t innate, it can be trained.
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