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At the end of the day every person deserve the kind of love and connection that allows them to be entirely themselves.

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It's important to have compassion for where that comes from, but compassion is not the same as tolerating this behavior. The conditioning and pain may explain the behavior but it will never excuse it. Keep in mind that healing is your partners responsibility, not yours.

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Yes, there's usually a reason behind it: insecurity, fear of abandonment, attachment wounds or toxic models of "masculinity". Many men were never taught to sit with their own emotions, so instead of managing their fear of losing you, they manage you.

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Roladex @roladex.com.au · 03/09/2026

Protectiveness and control from a male perspective get confused all the time, but they're absolutely opposites. Protection is rooted in care and it wants you safe and free to be you. Control is rooted in fear.

Autumn portrait of a shirtless man wearing an open shearling-lined denim jacket, standing amid bright red and orange leaves and gazing to his left, with a partially visible chest tattoo.

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But if they come with self-doubt, confusion or the sense that you're walking on eggshells, your body might actually be confusing excitement for insecurity. xx #securerelationships #datingadvice #nervoussystem #couple #relationship

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Past relationship trauma can make this even more confusing as it disguising anxiety as excitement if you've had a pattern of unsteady relationships . The real test is what comes with the butterfly feelings: if they show up alongside peace, emotional safety, and clear communication, you're good.

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But other times, that fluttery feeling isn't romance! It's your nervous system responding to feeling unsure. When someone runs hot and cold or is hard to read, your brain releases adrenaline, and that low-level fight-or-flight response can feel almost identical to attraction.

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Evie + Axel @evieplusaxel.com.au · 05/09/2026

Still feeling butterflies months into knowing someone? It can be normal, but check in with what those flutters mean. Sometimes they're a genuine spark, which is an extension of the early days of getting to know someone, fueled by excitement and strong chemistry.

Two people smiling and chatting at a small pink sidewalk café table, each with a coffee mug, seated by a window with a menu and a potted plant.

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Some people listen to respond and some listen to understand you. The second kind are rare and my favourite!

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Evie + Axel @evieplusaxel.com.au · 02/09/2026

Being truly seen is so rare that when it finally happens most people are unsure what to do with themselves. I think that the deep want to be witnessed fully is a base need for most people, and it's something I adore being able to offer. 🤍

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Evie + Axel @evieplusaxel.com.au · 30/08/2026

The dog at the cafe looked at my muffin and I almost handed it over. I've got a soft spot for Golden Retrievers. 😂🤍

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Evie + Axel @evieplusaxel.com.au · 29/08/2026

Most of us were taught that good intimacy should be effortless and natural, which is a bit like expecting to be fluent in a language you never studied.😉 Be curious, ask questions and explore. 🤍

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Evie + Axel @evieplusaxel.com.au · 26/08/2026

Take a moment to play! Laugh, dance, be silly! Tap back into your curiosity, creativity and play in every facet of your life and I promise you that you will see the ripple on effects. 🤍✨

Evie + Axel @evieplusaxel.com.au · 23/08/2026

What we do is also largely about giving people permission to be fully themselves, and most adults have not had that permission since they were younger, if ever.

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Evie + Axel @evieplusaxel.com.au · 22/08/2026

This goes for romantic and platonic relationships. 🤍

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Evie + Axel @evieplusaxel.com.au · 22/08/2026

Securely attached people report more trust and more closeness, and one thing they do differently is set boundaries clearly and kindly. A clear limit helps create safety in a relationship, as you can trust someone can be honest with you about their needs.

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Evie + Axel @evieplusaxel.com.au · 19/08/2026

"The bed's already made, the blue's below The water runs and the sun's aglow And shimmering in the river cold I jump in fast, from a height I fall And come on out to heated stone With you right there and we're all alone.."

A shirtless, tattooed man stands in a shallow river carrying a woman in a white dress across his arms, her head arched back and long hair trailing, framed by golden autumn trees reflected in the water.

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Evie + Axel @evieplusaxel.com.au · 16/08/2026

The couples who tend to thrive are having the uncomfortable conversations most people are avoiding. There is no version of deep intimacy that skips the uncomfortable talks about money, d-sire, life and expectations. It's essential for a loving and healthy partnership. 🤍

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Evie + Axel @evieplusaxel.com.au · 15/08/2026

Watching someone step into their full self is the best part of this work. x

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The Sex Worker Community Recognition Awards @swcrawards.bsky.social · 12/08/2026

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It's official... the countdown to SWCRA 2026 is on! Nominations are open and tickets to both the main event and the nominations party are up now! 🎉 We can't wait to see you all soon.

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Evie + Axel @evieplusaxel.com.au · 12/08/2026

We are made of stardust, the actual remnants of ancient suns, and we use this cosmic inheritance to remember the entirety of the lyrics of most alternative rock songs made in the 90s. 😂

Evie Elysian || Melbourne 🇦🇺|| Petite Paramour||FMTY @evieelysian.com.au · 10/08/2026

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There is no deadline on first time experiences. 🤍

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Evie + Axel @evieplusaxel.com.au · 09/08/2026

Compliment your partner on things they choose, not just things they were born with. Being told you're gorgeous is very nice, but being told you were impressed by the way they handled that hard conversation, lands on a deeper level. 🤍

Evie + Axel @evieplusaxel.com.au · 08/08/2026

Every couple has a bag of bags. Ours reached critical mass some time ago and we believe it now generates its own bags 😂

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Evie + Axel @evieplusaxel.com.au · 06/08/2026

From abandonment trauma to genuine excitement for your partner | E+A RawDog Podcast

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Evie Elysian || Melbourne 🇦🇺|| Petite Paramour||FMTY @evieelysian.com.au · 05/08/2026

Intimacy is not the same as closeness. You can share a bed, a mortgage and a calendar with someone and still not fully know them. Intimacy is letting yourself be understood and seen fully. 🤍 xx

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Evie + Axel @evieplusaxel.com.au · 05/08/2026

Ask your partner what makes them feel loved! We tend to give in the way we enjoy receiving it most ourselves, which may not always match with your partner. Learning to love someone in the way that feels best to them is a skill anyone can learn. 🤍

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Evie + Axel @evieplusaxel.com.au · 05/08/2026

Double standards and Inadequacy Wounding | E+A RawDog Podcast

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Evie + Axel @evieplusaxel.com.au · 04/08/2026

Why the most independent, in-control people are often drawn to submission | E+A RawDog Podcast

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Evie + Axel @evieplusaxel.com.au · 03/08/2026

Dropping this week! E+A RawDog Podcast Episode 5: Revealing our own Bucket Lists

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Evie + Axel @evieplusaxel.com.au · 02/08/2026

Novelty lights up the same parts of the brain that lit up when you first met, which is the scientific case for taking your partner somewhere neither of you has been. 🤍

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Evie + Axel @evieplusaxel.com.au · 29/07/2026

Real connection happens in the unguarded, slightly awkward, deeply human moments. When someone feels safe enough to be entirely themselves. 🤍