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but it's certainly a pattern that there's always someone taking their bad day out on you, even if it's constantly someone else this is literally exactly why structural oppression is more than just individuals being vile, and queer people really should understand that

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it's a similar dynamic to being trans among cis people, and every week another one takes their bad day out on you, and if you complain about it, they all rush in to tell you you can't blame this individual one because from them individually, it's such an isolated incident, it can't be a pattern!

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And then the "come on, be reasonable, this particular individual is having just one bad day, just one in a whole year!", which sounds reasonable for that individual in isolation, becomes "you have to be okay with someone taking their bad day out on you for every day of your life"

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Emily @emberyl.bsky.social · 23/09/2026

The thing about the 'bad day' is that if you've a big enough account, you can have a completely different individual take out their bad day on you every day of the year, even if they all individually only do it once a year. It only takes 10% of your followers doing this if you have just 4000!

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the government putting minorities in an ever-tightening cage with ever-increasing stresses so the public can be entertained by how they stress out and fight each other? why I never!

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Emily @emberyl.bsky.social · 23/09/2026

The fact that cis people will always search for ways to link transness to sexuality says a lot about how cis society views gender as being all about sex.

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I'm a lesbian why would you bring up crushes on Italian girls are you trying to cause everyone psychic damage

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Hurray my irrational biases are culturally sensitive

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oh I absolutely have to see that then

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Emily @emberyl.bsky.social · 21/09/2026

It's funny because I associate Italy more with pasta, and pizzas more with American college students

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yeah the only thing that maybe sort of helps me a little in that situation is trying to get into a different headspace, usually with pictures and sounds and smells that remind me of when I was in a different headspace, or just passing out

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Emily @emberyl.bsky.social · 19/09/2026

That's also why it's impossible to appease them; any evidence that reality is bending to their will is just encouragement for them to go further.

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Emily @emberyl.bsky.social · 19/09/2026

Exactly, they fundamentally believe reality itself must and should bend to their will, and they will self-immolate taking everyone around with them before ever admitting otherwise.

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Emily @emberyl.bsky.social · 18/09/2026

We have listened to our customers feedback and then we listened to our investors and they assured us you'll all love the genital warts after you get used to them so we decided to force you to get used to them!

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Emily @emberyl.bsky.social · 17/09/2026

I have an idea for this that has historically proven to be the most effective measure for stopping the guys with the guns from just killing everyone, it's called society, you'd think the billionaires would've heard of it since it's what made them rich

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Emily @emberyl.bsky.social · 17/09/2026

mhm I don't hate the software, I hate that a bunch of billionaires got in cahoots with lawmakers and decided they could just steal all of the world's intellectual property and then sell it back to people as if was now theirs, I hate that they're lying about how useful it is to force it on everyone

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Emily @emberyl.bsky.social · 16/09/2026

In university I took an extra one-hour class on 'writing papers' and it was basically the teacher drilling into us for an hour to read a lot of papers

Emily @emberyl.bsky.social · 13/09/2026

the audacity of men actually surprises me less than this apparent less object permanence than a goldfish, does he still believe that his teachers lived in the school building?

(These narratives can always reach the heartwarming conclusion that it's quite possible to combine imagination with adult responsibilities - because that was never the problem! We don't just 'forget' to play, we get taught imagination and creativity are 'girly' and therefore to be disparaged!)

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The problem with modern capitalism is that it's too bigoted to actually make money ... not the biggest problem with it but still it's a problem

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Society loves narratives about what a shame it is that children's play and imagination inevitably disappear in the face of the responsibilities of adulthood and jobs, and I've come to believe this a deliberate cover of the fact that it's mostly the enforcement of 'adult' gender roles that does this.

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Meet the man leading the fight for trans rights! In one paragraph at the end of this article where we interview three leading transphobes! All women ofc so we can paint the man as a misogynist.

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Emily @emberyl.bsky.social · 10/09/2026

oof Vivi that's a rough choice to make either way, sorry you have to!

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yeah I always thought this was a thing that Sometimes Happened and it says a lot about people when they wanna turn it into the thing humans Always did

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Emily @emberyl.bsky.social · 09/09/2026

- game asks me for 'age verification' - "ah damn guess I won't be playing it" - just asks me to self-report my birth year that term has really been poisoned

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Emily @emberyl.bsky.social · 09/09/2026

Women will really be like "I'm just a girl" while being the most breathtaking astonishing individual you've ever met.

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Emily @emberyl.bsky.social · 07/09/2026

"ADHD is so severely under-diagnosed in women! -- oh I mean... in AFAB people! cause clearly I wouldn't want to presume I know anything about the 7-dimensional alien mystery that is trans women but I'm just gonna assume trans men's experiences are the exact same as cis women's!" 🙃

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Emily @emberyl.bsky.social · 07/09/2026

The CDU tried to halt the rise of the AfD by going hardline on immigration themselves; this instead halved the CDU while boosting the AfD. Now nobody knows how to stop them, clearly we've tried everything and we're all out of options. I guess the only answer is to become more hardline on immigration

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Emily @emberyl.bsky.social · 06/09/2026

I would almost think this has the secondary goal of prepping society for the idea that women should not be allowed to make their own decisions and that men should make them for them, but why would anyone do such a thing?

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Emily @emberyl.bsky.social · 06/09/2026

I am shocked, shocked that the people zealously defending it do so out of a mortifying fear of admitting that they once upon a time liked something cringe for a brief moment (reading)

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Emily @emberyl.bsky.social · 05/09/2026

trans ppl: I know, they know, that's why they're using it to blindspot you while they destroy liberal democracy cis ppl: nuh-uh, impossible, messing with the fundamental boy & girl particles can only happen in a completely alternate reality that by definition can't ever have anything to do with me

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Emily @emberyl.bsky.social · 05/09/2026

trans ppl: hey they're undermining science and law to go after us, you care about those things right? cis ppl: is this about messing with the timeless natural laws of the cosmos and all creation? the fundamental unchangeable boy particles & girl particles? I can't stare at that too long, it's scary

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Emily @emberyl.bsky.social · 04/09/2026

saw it and brain went: they implemented an actually useful feature???

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Emily @emberyl.bsky.social · 03/09/2026

I was just thinking now I want to write some Grizzled cynical night elf veteran of a thousand wars and wide-eyed idealistic draenei paladin looking to make a name for herself.

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Emily @emberyl.bsky.social · 03/09/2026

What no they were made to stare wide-eyed at the night elf huntress who's leaning in so close and whisper in a confused voice "... girls can do that? with each other?" as her tail brushes against the huntress' hand and hold on I'm being told these things aren't mutually exclusive

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and people definitely underestimate how it can change dynamics a lot - specially if it's not just the two participants but also other people they're interested in or who are interested in them or... sigh

fair, my point is more if you've already been friends for years, it's something you can actually judge fairly accurately, whereas the sex that makes friend groups implodes tends to be borne from haste or underestimation

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't is really quite possible to have sex change nothing if you've been friends for years and years, but that is the opposite of using sex to build kinship

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and appreciate your friends cause nothing is more discouraging than trying to build friendships and repeatedly getting it made clear that your value is an order of magnitude less than people who do put sex on the table, it creates a self-perpetuating cycle where everyone learns sex is a must

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Very true, people who read tend to read everything, and the best way to get their attention is to advertise your work as at least somewhat similar to (or inspired by, or in dialogue with, etc) something they've already enjoyed - and the fastest way to turn them off, to hate something they've enjoyed

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and yet it never seems to lead to a push to take the profit motive away from medicine, always a push to take the medicine away from women, for some reason....

no doubt all these men would be arguing you should be able to share it in public since it would have no material effects on their lives /s

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'beliefs' that are simply a license to be horrible to people without consequence? say it aint so

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I appreciate the inherent humor in 'reasonable corporation'. If only we didn't have courts that had already redefined "theft" when it comes to corporations as "anything that might possibly cost them profit for some nebulous reason at some nebulous point in the future according to their own claims".

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