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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 07/07/2026

Join our free live webinar with Toni Cardon, MSW, LLMSW, for an introduction to transgender identities, common terminology, gender dysphoria and euphoria, minority stress, and the basics of social and medical transition. Register now using the link in our bio.

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 29/06/2026

Need support but don’t have time for weekly therapy? I offer therapy intensives for individuals and couples who need focused help right away. To learn more about therapy intensives, call 248.399.7317 or email joekort@joekort.com.

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 25/06/2026

Before Pride Month ends, I wanted to remind you that there's still one week left to save 20% on all Side Guys merchandise. When I coined the term side, my goal was simple: to give gay men language for an experience that had always existed but often went unnamed. Shop the collection in my bio!

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 24/06/2026

A reader left this powerful Amazon review for Side Guys: It’s Still S//x Even if You Don’t Have Intercourse, and it means so much to me: “I FINALLY found a term that fits me perfectly! I was SO ashamed and went through lots of psychological self torment.” Purchase your copy at the link in my bio.

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 23/06/2026

Are hookups helping your loneliness, or helping you avoid it? I want to be clear: I'm not anti-hookup. Hookups can be fun, consensual, and a perfectly healthy part of gay life. Watch the full video on my YouTube channel linked in my bio.

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 21/06/2026

Not every man grows up with the father he needed. One of the greatest compliments I've ever received was being told I was an unfathered man who learned how to father others. As a therapist, I bring a lot of fatherly energy into my work, and I have directed that same energy to my niece and nephews.

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 20/06/2026

Today is National Public Display of Affection Day, and it raises an interesting question: are we becoming less affectionate in public? What do you think? Should affection be expressed more openly, or is it something best kept private? What is your preference?

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 17/06/2026

What if the problem isn't your relationship, it is s//sexual secrecy? It's S//x Education Month, and I can tell you that many couples come into my office thinking they're broken because of a fantasy, a kink, a s//xual preference, or a desire they don't understand.

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 16/06/2026

I had a great conversation with psychotherapist Tom Bruett, LMFT on his podcasts, “The Gay Relationship Podcast “ where we talked about kink, shame, s//xual identity, relationships, and the growing conversation around "sides." Listen now and let me know your thoughts.

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 15/06/2026

Allies should be quiet and let LGBTQ+ people do all the talking? I disagree. But this is what is said all over the internet from those in the LGBTQ community. The fear that allies are going to take over the conversation is largely misplaced. LGBTQ+ people need allies. We always have.

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 15/06/2026

Not sure what options exist when a client needs more support than outpatient therapy but doesn't require inpatient hospitalization? This webinar is for therapists and healthcare professionals who want a clearer understanding of the levels of care that fall in between. Register now in our bio!

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 12/06/2026

On June 12, 2016, 49 people were murdered and more than 50 others were injured at Pulse, an LGBTQ+ nightclub in Orlando, Florida. Pulse Remembrance Day is not only about honoring those we lost. It is also a reminder that violence, hatred, homophobia, transphobia, and biphobia still harm us.

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 11/06/2026

Pride Month is about more than celebration. It's about authenticity. That's why I've selected 3 of my Kindle books and discounted them by 40% throughout June! Pride is a good time to remember that. Link to my amazon store in bio.

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 09/06/2026

Pride Month is a celebration of authenticity, visibility, and being who you are without shame. Because Pride is about making room for every authentic experience, not just the ones people expect. Side Pride Everyone! Shop the collection, linked in my bio!

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 05/06/2026

VICE recently quoted me in an article about the health benefits of m@sturbation. Let me say it again: m@sturbation is s//xual health. What were the positive and negative messages you received and/or heard about m@sturbation growing up?

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 04/06/2026

Happy Pride Month. As a gay psychotherapist, I have spent my career helping people move from shame to self-acceptance. Pride reminds us that authenticity matters and that no one should have to hide who they are to feel safe, loved, or valued.

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 30/05/2026

The words people use to describe themselves are personal. For some, the word que*r feels affirming, freeing, and expansive. For others, it still carries the pain of being bullied, shamed, or called that word as a slur. Watch the full Smart Sex Smart Love conversation linked in my bio.

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 27/05/2026

I’m a psychotherapist and a content creator because I believe in psychoeducation. Let’s be clear: psychoeducation is not therapy, and it is not a replacement for therapy. It is therapeutic but not actual therapy. So yes, I will continue creating content as a psychotherapist.

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 26/05/2026

Sometimes the “other woman” in a gay man’s relationship is his mother. I know that can sound provocative, but I see it often.

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 22/05/2026

New video out now: Not Everyone Experiences Childhood Ab*se as Trauma — breaking down the difference between abuse and trauma, why not every person experiences lasting dysfunction from childhood abuse. Watch the full video on YouTube linked in my bio and let me know your thoughts in the comments.

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 22/05/2026

Childhood abuse is always abuse, and it should never happen. But not everyone experiences abuse as trauma in the same way, and that can be difficult or unsettling to hear. Link to the full video in bio.

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 21/05/2026

Throwback Thursday in honor of M@asturbation Month. I had Alex De La Cruz on Smart Sex, Smart Love to talk about liberating yourself from m@asturbation shame, and it was such an important conversation. Link to listen to the full podcast in bio.

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 19/05/2026

Recently, the U.S. Supreme Court upheld Tennessee’s ban on gender-affirming care for transgender minors in United States v. Skrmetti. For many LGBTQIA+ people and families, rulings like this are not abstract politics. May 17 is International Day Against Homophobia, Transphobia, and Biphobia.

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 18/05/2026

Four years ago, Grindr added “Side", a term I coined to their app. I was so pleasantly surprised. The term "Side" describes gay men who do not prefer anal sex and instead enjoy other forms of sexual intimacy, and Grindr accepted it as another sexual position. It is my proudest accomplishment.

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 13/05/2026

I always say, your an*s doesn’t have a sexual orientation. It doesn’t know whether it’s gay, straight, or bi. Watch the full YouTube video at the link in my bio. 🎥

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 12/05/2026

Join our free live webinar with David Ley, PhD, for insight into the characteristics of people who pursue these dynamics, common mistakes couples may make, and how therapists can support clients in navigating consensual partner-sharing with communication, trust, and care. Register now!

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 08/05/2026

New video out now: Is My Husband Gay or Trans If He Cross-Dresses? — breaking down why cross-dressing does not automatically define a man’s sexual orientation or gender identity, how gender play can show up for straight men, and why honesty, consent, and communication matter most in relationships.

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 08/05/2026

Cross-dressing does not automatically mean a man is gay or trans. Some straight men enjoy femininity, lingerie, makeup, or gender play because it feels erotic, playful, or exciting to express themselves in a feminine way. Link to the full YouTube video in bio.

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 06/05/2026

M@sturbation May is here! Most of us know m@sturbation is normal and healthy, but many queer men still think it “doesn’t count” as sex. As a s//x therapist I will tell you that is does count as s//x with yourself. Self-pleasure is a valid, meaningful, and healthy part of your sexual life.

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 04/05/2026

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 01/05/2026

“Bed death” is not just a lesbian issue, and it is not something that only happens to one type of couple. Gay, straight, and lesbian couples can all experience periods of sexual disconnection, lower desire, or difficulty initiating sex. Link to the full YouTube video in bio.

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 01/05/2026

New video out now: What Therapists Get Wrong About Lesbian and Gay Couples — breaking down why “a couple is a couple” is not always enough, how gay male and lesbian couples can show up differently in therapy. Watch the full video on YouTube linked in my bio.

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 30/04/2026

There is no shame in erotic orientation. Your fantasies and erotic interests are not something you need to punish yourself for. You can learn to approach them with curiosity, self-compassion, and a sex-positive mindset.

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 28/04/2026

15K subscribers on YouTube! Thank you to everyone who has watched, shared, commented, and supported the conversations happening on this channel. Here’s to continuing the work together. Subscribe to @DrJoeKort on YouTube through the link in my bio!

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 28/04/2026

Gay kids are often left to figure out who they are in silence. That silence can become shame. Watch the full Smart Sex Smart Love conversation with Ray Aubel, linked in my bio.

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 24/04/2026

When people hear “gay,” they often don’t hear identity. They hear sex. Watch the full Smart Sex Smart Love conversation with Ray Aubel, linked in my bio.

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 23/04/2026

A few of the books I’ve written over the years—each one focused on helping people better understand themselves, their relationships, and their sexuality. Click the link in bio to purchase a copy.

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 21/04/2026

Many men are taught from a young age to disconnect from their emotions, to avoid vulnerability, suppress feelings, and define masculinity in rigid ways. Doing this work isn’t about changing who you are. It’s about reconnecting with yourself so you can show up more fully in your relationships.

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 20/04/2026

Hookups are not the problem, but they can become one when they start replacing intimacy. Many people say they want a relationship, a partner, something meaningful, yet find themselves stuck in a cycle of quick, easy connections that never go deeper. Link to the full YouTube video in bio.

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 20/04/2026

April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month. Awareness is important, but so is understanding what real support looks like. We all play a role in creating safer, more respectful relationships.

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 17/04/2026

Boys are often taught to disconnect from vulnerability long before they become men, and that has lasting consequences. Link to the full YouTube video in bio.

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 17/04/2026

Many gay and bi men don’t grow up thinking they’re gay or bi. They grow up thinking they’re straight, because that’s the only identity we teach children to recognize. Full video linked in bio.

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 16/04/2026

Most relationship problems don’t actually start in the relationship. They start much earlier, in what you learned about love growing up. That’s not something you find in the right partner. It’s something you build within yourself.

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 14/04/2026

Ghosting doesn’t just happen in dating… it happens in therapy too. But avoiding the goodbye can reinforce the very patterns therapy is meant to help you break. Read the full article in the link in my bio.

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 09/04/2026

When your erotic desires do not match your partner’s, silence becomes the real problem. Read the full article here: www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/unde...

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 08/04/2026

Excited to be featured in Dan Savage’s latest Savage Love newsletter. I shared my perspective on trauma, bisexuality, infidelity, and what healing can actually look like. If you’d like to read this article, click the link in my bio.

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 03/04/2026

When a woman has one non-heterosexual thought, she’s fetishized. When a man has one, he’s stigmatized. Both are problematic. Sexual behavior does not automatically define sexual orientation. Not everything is about attraction. Link to full video on YouTube in my bio.

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 31/03/2026

I used to only be attracted to older men. Then one day, that shifted and I found myself attracted to younger men. Watch the full episode of Smart Sex Smart Love. Link in bio.

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Drjoekort @drjoekort.bsky.social · 31/03/2026

When you realize your partner has real limitations, it can be easy to focus on what’s missing. The question becomes, “Why can’t they just meet me where I am?” Link to the full video in bio.

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