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Delaney @delaneyr.bsky.social · 26/04/2025

I grieve the ignorance I had before 2016 about the depth of racism and misogyny in those around me. I grieve feeling secure in the future. I grieve the days when I could solve their problems when my children were young. Your turn.

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Delaney @delaneyr.bsky.social · 26/04/2025

It’s so natural for me to normalize and validate grief, including non-death losses, for others. Then I deny, downplay, and hide from my own. Let’s face our grief together and sit with it bravely. I’ll share mine in a comment. #grief #grieving

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Delaney @delaneyr.bsky.social · 24/04/2025

I have not finished the book yet, so maybe John addresses this, but as I’m reading, I’m wondering if his OCD and fear of germs/bacteria was a problem while researching for the book? I could imagine it being triggering, although immersion can be therapeutic.

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Delaney @delaneyr.bsky.social · 24/04/2025

I really can’t relate, except maybe during Covid lockdown. Then I had the privilege to FaceTime and Zoom with friends and loved ones.

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Delaney @delaneyr.bsky.social · 23/04/2025

“I think the only way to meet the end is with curiosity. Not fear. not regret. Just a question- what now?” Alan Rickman #deathsky #deathdoula

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Delaney @delaneyr.bsky.social · 21/04/2025

That’s why I don’t think you should forget. You can use that knowledge to build healthy boundaries; that may mean going no contact. I recommend Desmond Tutu’s book about forgiveness. I’m still a work in progress.

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Delaney @delaneyr.bsky.social · 20/04/2025

Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself so thank you aren’t stuck carrying stagnant negativity. I believe in forgiveness, but not necessarily forgetting.

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Delaney @delaneyr.bsky.social · 16/04/2025

“Your life is an occasion, rise to it.“ —Mr. Magorium’s Wonder Imporium

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Delaney @delaneyr.bsky.social · 06/04/2025

Grief transcends all time and space. Grief is seeing your loved one’s favorite coffee cup in the cupboard. It’s in passing their favorite restaurant. It fills the empty chair. It starts as a a cacophony and settles into an echo. #grief #loss #deathsky

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Delaney @delaneyr.bsky.social · 02/04/2025

Such a great answer that emphasizes the need for planning and having end of life conversations with those close to us.

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Delaney @delaneyr.bsky.social · 02/04/2025

Thanatophobia, the fear of death, can involve fear of the process (pain), fear of the afterlife (or lack there of), fear of being forgotten, fear that life is meaningless, but if I’m being honest mine is rooted in FOMO. You? #deathsky #deathpositive

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Delaney @delaneyr.bsky.social · 02/04/2025

Thank you for the gift of 25 hours of hope.

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Delaney @delaneyr.bsky.social · 30/03/2025

Damn it, they only ask me to identify bikes or buses.

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Delaney @delaneyr.bsky.social · 30/03/2025

People often tell me that their grief makes other people uncomfortable. So they avoid social interaction. Isolation is the worst thing for a grieving human. Let’s all try to be the friend who can be comfortable sitting in the presence of someone’s grief. Our job is to care, not to cure.

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Delaney @delaneyr.bsky.social · 28/03/2025

I love that my inner voice switches to be @johngreensbluesky.bsky.social ‘s voice while I’m reading #everythingistuberculosis

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Delaney @delaneyr.bsky.social · 16/03/2025

Great article with very attainable suggestions. Thanks for sharing.

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Delaney @delaneyr.bsky.social · 14/03/2025

I have a 94 year old client who says she just wants to be helpful every day. Knowing this I always ask her advice or perspective on something and be sure to thank her for her help. It really is helpful, she’s learned a lot in her life!

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Delaney @delaneyr.bsky.social · 14/03/2025

An informal life-review through conversation can provide perspective for how to live out the last chapters of one’s life story. We only die once, but we live everyday up until then.

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Delaney @delaneyr.bsky.social · 14/03/2025

Through these conversations often internalized beliefs, or even fears will emerge.

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Delaney @delaneyr.bsky.social · 14/03/2025

I find it helpful to discuss with people about their experiences and understandings of death throughout their life. Talking about the losses they’ve lived through and funerals they attended can open the door to thinking about their own mortality.

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Delaney @delaneyr.bsky.social · 14/03/2025

There is no “right” way to die, hold a funeral, or grieve. When we engage in conversations about death we learn from each other, expand our ideas and understanding, and create a sacred space at the threshold between life and death. #deathsky #deathpositive

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Delaney @delaneyr.bsky.social · 14/03/2025

Death Doula and thanatologist. I love to discuss death, dying, and grief.

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Stephen King @stephenking.bsky.social · 10/03/2025

It's official: The lunatics are now running the asylum.

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Delaney @delaneyr.bsky.social · 05/03/2025

Ash Wednesday: the day where people walk around with a memento mori on their foreheads. #deathsky #deathpositive #mementomori #ashwednesday

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Delaney @delaneyr.bsky.social · 01/03/2025

And Dave Matthew’s wrote, “Grave digger, when you dig my grave, can you make it shallow so that I can feel the rain?”

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Delaney @delaneyr.bsky.social · 01/03/2025

Natural burials feel powerful and intimate in a way that helps me appreciate the circle of life and death. What are the options for green burial in your areas?

bellefontainecemetery.org

Green Burial Options - Bellefontaine Cemetery

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Hank Green @hankgreen.bsky.social · 28/02/2025

It took seeing adult bullies to understand that my childhood bullies didn’t even really want to hurt me, they just wanted to feel powerful and how I felt about it wasn’t even in the equation. I can’t imagine someone not outgrowing that, but apparently it happens quite a lot!

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Delaney @delaneyr.bsky.social · 28/02/2025

I feel that I would know it’s not the real person and be unsatisfied.

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Delaney @delaneyr.bsky.social · 28/02/2025

I’m glad you asked, a friend send it to me and I hadn’t thought to look it up. Ungfino is the artist and now I want to see more of their art.

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Delaney @delaneyr.bsky.social · 27/02/2025

Death in the arts shapes our perception. Is death inherently bad? Can death be kind? #deathsky #deathdoula #deathpositive

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Delaney @delaneyr.bsky.social · 26/02/2025

The days I see you bring out a drum are the days I know the music will be 🔥

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Delaney @delaneyr.bsky.social · 26/02/2025

If your deceased loved one created a chatbot to emulate themselves would you want to use it? Are you comforted by the thought of an AI surrogate of your loved one? Would this ameliorate grief or cause maladaptive grief behaviors? #deathsky #deathdoula #grief #bereavement

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Gabino Iglesias @gabino.bsky.social · 09/02/2025

Listen, things are fucked, but that doesn’t mean your accomplishments don’t matter. Wrote a book? Got accepted to a program? Recorded a song? One year sober? Whatever it is, share it. Maybe your joy will bring someone else a bit of joy, and we all need that.

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Delaney @delaneyr.bsky.social · 07/02/2025

Same after resomation. Too bad bone picking ceremonies aren’t worldly embraced. 💀🦴🥂

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Delaney @delaneyr.bsky.social · 07/02/2025

What you post is your online legacy. How you react, what you say, and all your digital footprints will remain as long as the hosting platforms do. Is this good or bad? #deathsky #deathpositive

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Delaney @delaneyr.bsky.social · 06/02/2025

The Dunning-Kruger Effect is stronger than The Force most days.

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Delaney @delaneyr.bsky.social · 04/02/2025

Thanatechnology is a conversation we need to be having with those nearing end-of-life. How do they want their digital remains- such as social media accounts, emails, blogs, and videos, handled?

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Delaney @delaneyr.bsky.social · 29/01/2025

There are choices beyond cremation or embalming. Alkaline Hydrolysis. Natural Organic Reduction. Green (Natural) Burial. Cryopreservation. What body disposition method appeals to you?

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Delaney @delaneyr.bsky.social · 29/01/2025

Great question. I’ve helped facilitate living celebrations of life. They are powerful.

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Delaney @delaneyr.bsky.social · 27/01/2025

I would love to have the resources to start a community grief garden. Not only would it provide opportunities for individuals to acknowledge and actively process their own grief (including non-death losses), but it would bring people together to support each other’s grief in community.

talkdeath.com

Navigating Loss by Starting a Grief Garden

Grief gardening connects me to the awe and the magic of energy, which is undeniably everywhere in a garden.

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Delaney @delaneyr.bsky.social · 27/01/2025

The “Reviled Robot” must be about a new Tesla product.

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Delaney @delaneyr.bsky.social · 25/01/2025

For anyone interested in the science of grief I highly recommend the book “The Grieving Brain” by Mary-Frances O’Connor, PhD

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