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OnlySky @onlys.ky · 20/03/2026

No man is an island: Tip of the iceberg, by @deedee-redletter.bsky.social Sex abusers like Jeffrey Epstein exist in an ecosystem of impunity that enables them. #epsteinfiles #crime #inequality onlys.ky/tip-of-the-i...

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No man is an island: Tip of the iceberg

Sex abusers like Jeffrey Epstein exist in an ecosystem of impunity that enables them.

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OnlySky @onlys.ky · 20/02/2026

Nobody calls it “Kissfest”, by @deedee-redletter.bsky.social Practical tips and advice for how ethically non-monogamous people can improve their sexual safety game. onlys.ky/nobody-calls... #sex #relationships #publichealth

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Sexual networks: Nobody calls it “Kissfest”

How non-monogamous people can improve their sexual safety game.

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OnlySky @onlys.ky · 06/02/2026

Sexual networks: Theory and research, by @deedee-redletter.bsky.social Knowing the structure of our social (and sexual) interactions lets us design effective public health policy. onlys.ky/sexual-netwo... #sex #publichealth #relationships

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Sexual networks: Theory and research

Knowing the structure of our social (and sexual) interactions lets us design effective public health policy.

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OnlySky @onlys.ky · 30/01/2026

That was fast: Malus ex machina, by @deedee-redletter.bsky.social AI research is accelerating, and the new "agentic" AIs just might be truly conscious. How scared should we be? onlys.ky/malus-ex-mac... #ai #technology

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That was fast: Malus ex machina

Have we created truly conscious AIs, and how scared should we be if we have?

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OnlySky @onlys.ky · 09/01/2026

That was fast: Why machines are heartless, by @deedee-redletter.bsky.social LLMs don't have emotions, however convincing their simulations of them may be. To put it another way: sorry, your chatbot girlfriend doesn't love you. onlys.ky/why-machines... #relationships #ai

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That was fast: Why machines are heartless

You can't have a relationship with a chatbot that doesn't have emotions and can't grant or deny consent.

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OnlySky @onlys.ky · 19/12/2025

The future of sex education: Internet sex culture, by @deedee-redletter.bsky.social If we don't teach our kids about sex, they're going to learn from internet porn, and that's way worse. onlys.ky/the-future-o... #sexed #internet

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The future of sex education: Internet sex culture

It's better to teach kids age-appropriate sex ed than to have them learn from the internet.

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OnlySky @onlys.ky · 12/12/2025

The future of sex education: Academic environments, by @deedee-redletter.bsky.social Teenagers are having sex, no matter what. Teaching them how to do it well and wisely helps them have better experiences, and also protects them from predators. onlys.ky/the-future-o... #sexed #education

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The future of sex education: Academic environments

Better sex ed both helps and protects young people.

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OnlySky @onlys.ky · 09/12/2025

The future of sex education: Sex training, by @deedee-redletter.bsky.social Cutting the Gordian knot, or why some things can only be learned by doing. onlys.ky/the-future-o... #sex #relationships

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The future of sex education: Sex training

Some things can only be learned by doing.

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OnlySky @onlys.ky · 24/11/2025

Sex shamans: Intro to emotional alchemy, by @deedee-redletter.bsky.social Providing care to others can help us learn to better accept care for ourselves. onlys.ky/intro-to-emo... #sex #relationships

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Sex shamans: Intro to emotional alchemy

Providing care to others can help us learn to better accept care for ourselves.

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OnlySky @onlys.ky · 17/11/2025

A rose toy by any other name, by @deedee-redletter.bsky.social How sex can be part of a mindful strategy of personal healing and growth. onlys.ky/a-rose-toy-b... #sex #relationships

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Sex shamans: A rose toy by any other name

How sex can be part of a mindful strategy of personal healing and growth.

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OnlySky @onlys.ky · 12/11/2025

Sex shamans: The revolving bedroom door, by @deedee-redletter.bsky.social We can view the endings of romantic attachments as a completed project rather than a failure. onlys.ky/the-revolvin... #sex #relationships #lgbtq #polyamory

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Sex shamans: The revolving bedroom door

We can view the endings of romantic attachments as a completed project rather than a failure.

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OnlySky @onlys.ky · 29/10/2025

Depathologizing difference: STI stigma, by @deedee-redletter.bsky.social We should reject the just-world fallacy and stop stigmatizing diseases that are easily treatable. onlys.ky/sti-stigma/ #sex #relationships #health

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Depathologizing difference: STI stigma

We should reject the just-world fallacy and stop stigmatizing diseases that are easily treatable.

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Deedee Redletter @deedee-redletter.bsky.social · 18/10/2025

New "Sex in the Future" on OnlySky! onlys.ky/drive-dispar... #sexInTheFuture

Site header: OnlySky
Article title: "Depathologizing difference: Drive disparity"
Tagline: "We'll all have more happiness and fulfillment when we can recognize individual differences in sex drive."
Byline: Deedee Redletter

Site header: OnlySky
Excerpt:
Sex in the future will become more varied for more people, as increasing negotiability (both on apps and IRL) prompts self-discovery and exploration in the populace at large, leading to a renaissance of societal and personal sexual self-acceptance.

I've mentioned before that I'm non-disordered hypersexual, which means that I have an enormously high sex drive but I'm also in complete control of it. I worried for years that if I ever satisfied my drive, I would become despondent and isolated. I worried I would try to use sex to fill a hole, and wind up sick of sex with nothing but a bigger and emptier hole to show for it. (I am exercising positively Australian levels of pun control here.)

Section header: "A sex analogy from Doritos"
Excerpt:
Like continuing to eat Doritos after you've stopped "really tasting" them, continuing to fuck after the point of satisfaction genuinely is empty, unfulfilling, and unhealthy. At a certain point, it can even meet psychological criteria for compulsive, obsessive, or otherwise maladaptive/disordered behavior. When this happens, it's called "hypersexuality disorder," and because we almost never talk about non-disordered hypersexuality, we usually just call it "hypersexuality." This unfortunately leads to the impression the disordered hypersexuality is the only kind.

I've been professionally evaluated for this, and it's not an obsession, fixation, addiction, or compulsion. I just like to fuck a lot, and I'm completely in charge of my drive at all times.

Site header: OnlySky
Excerpt:
That's future I think is worth fighting for. Worth building. Worth sticking around to see. Satisfying my drive helps me care about the future, because I'm not distracted by misery in the present. And I want to be clear here: it's not "lots of sex" that I credit with this positive change in my life. It's the right amount of sex for me. I'm not saying sex is a panacea; I'm saying that having one's drive satisfied is beneficial, and not having that is a problem.

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OnlySky @onlys.ky · 14/10/2025

Depathologizing difference: Drive disparity, by @deedee-redletter.bsky.social We'll all have more happiness and fulfillment when we can recognize individual differences in sex drive. onlys.ky/drive-dispar... #sex #relationships