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Dan Roberts @danrobertstherapy.bsky.social · 23/01/2026

Starting the weekend with my favourite walk. ☀️ I hope you have a relaxing weekend, whatever that looks like for you. #trauma #schematherapy #traumahealing #traumatherapy #partswork #mindfulness

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Dan Roberts @danrobertstherapy.bsky.social · 22/01/2026

We know from all the research that having a partner who is securely attached is deeply healing for people with an insecure attachment style. And if you’re anxious try to avoid avoidant folks when dating, as this is a classic combination and not great for either partner. 💚 #integrativetraumatherapy

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Dan Roberts @danrobertstherapy.bsky.social · 21/01/2026

If you didn’t get to have fun as a kid – perhaps growing up in a very academic, unemotional family – could you create opportunities for fun, frivolity and play in your life? Seek moments of joy, for you and your inner child, who is craving a bit more playfulness and childish silliness!

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Dan Roberts @danrobertstherapy.bsky.social · 20/01/2026

If you didn’t get seen and heard as a child, it’s important to surround yourself with people who get you. In some ways this is common sense, but iIf you have some friends who get you and others less so, spend more time with the first group, let them be the ones you are vulnerable with. 💫

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Dan Roberts @danrobertstherapy.bsky.social · 19/01/2026

Every kid deserves to be loved, cherished and allowed to flourish. If any of those things didn’t happen for you, that’s deeply unfair. I very much hope you can start getting some of those needs met now. ❤️ #trauma #schematherapy #traumahealing #traumatherapy #partswork

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Dan Roberts @danrobertstherapy.bsky.social · 15/01/2026

A metaphor that seems to resonate with my clients when their Emotional Deprivation schema is triggered, is like having a hole in your chest that can never be filled. But these needs can be met, over time, both by your wise, Compassionate Self and by fostering loving, supportive relationships.

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Dan Roberts @danrobertstherapy.bsky.social · 14/01/2026

If any of these core needs were not met for you as a child, that would have been painful and possibly caused long-lasting difficulties. It would have led to the formation of one or more schemas, which profoundly affect the way you think, feel and behave as an adult. ❤️ #trauma #psychology

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Dan Roberts @danrobertstherapy.bsky.social · 14/01/2026

Schemas are neural networks in the brain holding information, which comprises ways of thinking, feeling and beliefs. When the schema gets triggered, it can also influence your behaviour in all sorts of ways. And the schema that forms when we experience neglect is called Emotional Deprivation.

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Dan Roberts @danrobertstherapy.bsky.social · 12/01/2026

When you think of a child being physically neglected, it’s easy to understand what that looks like. It might be harder to understand a child experiencing emotional neglect, partly, as I often say to my clients, because this is about the absence of good things rather than the presence of bad ones.❤️‍🩹

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Dan Roberts @danrobertstherapy.bsky.social · 08/01/2026

With the louder, harsher Inner Critics, we often need to start by setting some boundaries. This takes a great deal of practice, because when you start responding to your Critic the impulse is to fight back – if they swear at you and call you names, you may want to shout right back at them.

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Dan Roberts @danrobertstherapy.bsky.social · 07/01/2026

One message I always give my clients is that Inner Critics are strong, stubborn and determined, because they are trying to protect you from a (real or imagined) disaster. They are not bad, just misguided. But, as with a real person, it’s not acceptable for anyone to shout or be abusive to you.

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Dan Roberts @danrobertstherapy.bsky.social · 06/01/2026

Most Critics try to motivate you with tough love: Try Harder! Do better! Push on through the pain! And their aim is also protective, as they want you to try harder so you don’t fail, get judged and criticised by significant others, then feel the hurt and shame that triggers. #innercritic #trauma

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Dan Roberts @danrobertstherapy.bsky.social · 05/01/2026

Genuine revolutions – changes that reduce the suffering in your life, while increasing happiness and contentment – take time. They are a process, not a Shazam! moment of instant improvement. Change is incremental, and it requires effort and determination, so we need to work at it. ❤️

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Dan Roberts @danrobertstherapy.bsky.social · 02/01/2026

Happy New Year! ❤️ This year, let’s try something different. Instead of resolutions that don’t stick, how about creating gradual revolutions that are, as the name suggests, genuinely life-changing. #trauma #schematherapy #traumahealing #traumatherapy #partswork #mindfulness

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Dan Roberts @danrobertstherapy.bsky.social · 31/12/2025

I appreciate every single one of you. I am so grateful for that and for all of you – thank you and wishing you all the love, happiness and serenity you so deserve in 2026 🙏🏼 #danroberts #integratedtraumatherapy #healyourtrauma

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Dan Roberts @danrobertstherapy.bsky.social · 30/12/2025

As the year draws to a close, I would like to thank you all for your kindness, support and lovely feedback this year. I’m also grateful for everyone who has purchased something from my non-profit store, which has helped me offer free or low-cost therapy and other resources to those who need them. 🙏🏼

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Dan Roberts @danrobertstherapy.bsky.social · 27/12/2025

Genuine revolutions take time. They are a process, not a moment of instant improvement. It requires effort and determination – change can be hard, so we need to work at it. But, crucially, it is also achievable, if we’re patient and put the work in.

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Dan Roberts @danrobertstherapy.bsky.social · 26/12/2025

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Dan Roberts @danrobertstherapy.bsky.social · 25/12/2025

From the bottom of my heart, I wish every one of you a restful, restorative, joyful holiday season. And for those of you feeling more dread than excitement about the holidays, sending love, warmth and metta from my heart to yours. 🎄❤️ #trauma #schematherapy #traumahealing #traumatherapy #partswork

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Dan Roberts @danrobertstherapy.bsky.social · 24/12/2025

If you’re not celebrating Christmas this year, for whatever reason, I would like to send you some non-festive, every-day-of-the-year love and the warmest of thoughts, because I know this time of year can be very hard indeed. ❤️ #trauma #schematherapy #traumahealing #traumatherapy #partswork

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Dan Roberts @danrobertstherapy.bsky.social · 23/12/2025

If you find Christmas a struggle, let’s imagine that the 25th is just another day. There is no more nor less reason to feel happy, excited, fulfilled or match up to some perceived way of living your life than any other day. We don’t need to find reasons to pile pressure on ourselves to be happy ❤️

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Dan Roberts @danrobertstherapy.bsky.social · 22/12/2025

If you didn’t get seen and heard as a child, it’s important to surround yourself with people who get you. If you have some friends who get you and others less so, spend more time with the first group, let them be the ones you are vulnerable with, to whom you reach out for support in hard times. ❤️

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Dan Roberts @danrobertstherapy.bsky.social · 19/12/2025

We cannot cut the Critic out of our psyche. It’s a fundamental part of us and is not going anywhere. So the question then is, how can we turn the volume down on this relentless inner judge? Helping them change that takes time, but I know from personal experience it is entirely possible.

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Dan Roberts @danrobertstherapy.bsky.social · 18/12/2025

Changing your Inner Critic is not easy. Start changing I am to You are. So, I am stupid becomes You are stupid. Then, we change from I don’t like myself, to A part of me doesn’t like me. This can make all the difference, because now there is a part of you being critical and another you who is not.

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Dan Roberts @danrobertstherapy.bsky.social · 17/12/2025

I now understand that my Critic was just freaking out. He was trying to motivate me to make better decisions… It’s just that his method (yelling in my ear all day) sucked. Once we start to get that the Critic’s intention is always good, it’s the first step in befriending them.

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Dan Roberts @danrobertstherapy.bsky.social · 15/12/2025

Most people I work with have an inner monologue dominated by their Inner Critic, which is relentlessly harsh, negative and self-lacerating. This is especially true for people who experienced significant trauma in childhood, because this always seems to lead to a critical, negative inner voice.

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Dan Roberts @danrobertstherapy.bsky.social · 12/12/2025

Starting the weekend off with my favourite walk. ☀️ If you are struggling right now, for any reason, sending love and strength from my heart to yours. #trauma #schematherapy #traumahealing #traumatherapy #partswork #mindfulness #integratedtraumatherapy #healyourtrauma

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Dan Roberts @danrobertstherapy.bsky.social · 11/12/2025

Your self is multiple, not singular. All cutting-edge therapies now embrace the idea of ‘multiplicity of self’, meaning your mind is made up of many different parts, modes, subpersonalities or whichever word is chosen to describe the different aspects of your psyche.

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Dan Roberts @danrobertstherapy.bsky.social · 10/12/2025

If you have experienced trauma, learning some simple, effective ways to help yourself when you are in ‘hyperaroused’ emotional states like being stressed or anxious, or ‘hypoaroused’ states like sadness, grief, shame or depression, is non-negotiable. ❤️ #integratedtraumatherapy #healyourtrauma

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Dan Roberts @danrobertstherapy.bsky.social · 09/12/2025

I have come to understand that all psychological problems have trauma and/or neglect at their root. Kids are so sensitive and have underdeveloped minds, brains, nervous systems and ways of coping with adversity. What is merely painful for an adult can be traumatic for a child. #therapy

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Dan Roberts @danrobertstherapy.bsky.social · 08/12/2025

Writing a self-help book is a great way to focus the mind and explore questions like: ✨ What do I believe about therapy? ✨ What has helped my clients the most? ✨ What seems like a good idea but doesn’t work well in practice? #trauma #schematherapy #partswork #mindfulness #therapy #psychology

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Dan Roberts @danrobertstherapy.bsky.social · 05/12/2025

The core idea in schema therapy is that we all have schemas – neural networks in the brain holding particular types of information. Think of a schema like a blueprint for how to respond to a particular event. We have thousands of schemas in our brains, most of which are incredibly helpful.

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Dan Roberts @danrobertstherapy.bsky.social · 04/12/2025

Stepping out for my favourite daily walk as a break from writing my self-help book, a small but vital ritual. These moments in nature help me steady my mind and reconnect with my body. 🌿 #mindfulness #therapy #psychology #mentalhealth #IFS #danroberts #integratedtraumatherapy #healyourtrauma

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Dan Roberts @danrobertstherapy.bsky.social · 03/12/2025

Try doing this often, because schemas involve quick and powerful neural pathways in your brain, which are hard to rewire. But we know they can be rewired, because most of your neural architecture is malleable and changeable, with consistent and repeated practice. ❤️‍🩹

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Dan Roberts @danrobertstherapy.bsky.social · 02/12/2025

A small glimpse of the growing stack of books I have read while researching my new self-help book, which was just sent to the printers! I’m pouring all of my learning into my new book, coming out next summer, and I can’t wait to share it with you. ❤️ #trauma #schematherapy #traumahealing

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Dan Roberts @danrobertstherapy.bsky.social · 01/12/2025

I bet if you asked your friends to describe you they would say you’re kind, decent, thoughtful, considerate, hard-working, caring, or some other positive attribute. You just need to see what others see when they look at you - which takes time, but is 100% doable, if you try. #partswork #IFS

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Dan Roberts @danrobertstherapy.bsky.social · 28/11/2025

Stop reading the news. Stop doomscrolling. I know it’s all looking dark and heavy out there, but that’s not all there is to life. There is kindness too. Goodness. Humanity. The life that exists all around us, not just through the distorted media lens. Have a lovely weekend. 💚

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Dan Roberts @danrobertstherapy.bsky.social · 27/11/2025

The Buddha called hatred a ‘poison of the mind’. I stopped using the word hate, in my thoughts and speech. And I felt a little lighter. A bit less angry, frustrated and tense. With less of a tendency to see everything through binary lenses of good vs bad, like vs dislike. 🙏🏼

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Dan Roberts @danrobertstherapy.bsky.social · 26/11/2025

At your core, is a compassionate Self, an inner resource that is kind and loving, with a drive to health that inherently includes integration – of all parts, not just the cute, lovable ones but every single part of you. ❤️‍🩹 #trauma #schematherapy #traumahealing #danroberts #integratedtraumatherapy

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Dan Roberts @danrobertstherapy.bsky.social · 25/11/2025

Depression is a natural part of the human condition, especially if you have experienced trauma. You are not weak, worthless, pathetic or any of the other horrible words you may use to describe yourself. You are a miraculous, multifaceted, unique living organism. ❤️

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Dan Roberts @danrobertstherapy.bsky.social · 24/11/2025

Your thoughts have a tremendous impact – on your emotions, your internal system of parts and the many biological systems in your body, such as your nervous system, hormonal system and musculoskeletal system. With time, try to make those thoughts kinder, gentler, more loving of yourself. 🧠 #trauma

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Dan Roberts @danrobertstherapy.bsky.social · 20/11/2025

However daunting it may seem, know that healing is always possible, of your internal systems of parts and your attachment system. ❤️ #trauma #schematherapy #traumahealing #traumatherapy #partswork #mindfulness #therapy #psychology #mentalhealth #IFS #danroberts #integratedtraumatherapy

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Dan Roberts @danrobertstherapy.bsky.social · 19/11/2025

Here’s a list of some of the most common managers – the ones I see in my clients (and myself) on a regular basis. Do any of them seem familiar to you? ❤️ #trauma #schematherapy #partswork #mindfulness #therapy #psychology #mentalhealth #IFS #danroberts #integratedtraumatherapy

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Dan Roberts @danrobertstherapy.bsky.social · 18/11/2025

As far as we know this is the one, precious life we all get. It’s not a dress rehearsal – this is it. There is too much beauty, too much wondrous experience available to spend your precious hours working yourself into the ground. 💫 #trauma #schematherapy #traumahealing #integratedtraumatherapy

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Dan Roberts @danrobertstherapy.bsky.social · 17/11/2025

Manager’s like to protect you, especially those little parts of you that got hurt. For example, if little you feels defective or not good enough, your managers might be highly perfectionistic, making sure you always get stuff done and get it done well, so no-one can criticise or judge you.

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