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Dr Emily Cooper

@criminographer.bsky.social
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Senior Lecturer at the University of Lancashire. Geographer. Mum of four (two live in my heart). Tweets child loss, SUDC, PPA2 deficiency, sex work, sextortion/FMSE, fraud, policing, VAWG. #WIASN

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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 24/07/2026
Today I got an email that stopped me in my tracks. It was from the library,informing you of their temp closure. For a second, I could believe you were still here. It isn't their fault, probably one of the notifications I forgot to do.Seeing your name felt crushing & comforting 💔
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 22/07/2026
Your beautiful face was so full of mischief. This was the day you left a Hansel and Gretel trail of apples from the full bowl that I'd only just reassured Daddy were safe as you "only ate them cut up". I couldn't be cross. How you brightened up my days. I miss you so much. #grief
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 20/07/2026
It's these quiet, ordinary moments you miss the most. The weight of their body as they snuggle in, the tickle of their hair, how they all have their own unique way of sitting with you. Isabelle used to put her hand on my chest each time. What I'd give to relive this ❤️ #grief
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 14/07/2026
You helped us carry our broken hearts so much, Isabelle. I was just finishing your new room on this day in 2024. You only got 6 weeks in it before you died. I know you would be so proud to have your little sister in it, but it is all so unfair. 💔 #grief #childloss
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 29/06/2026
Isabelle, you made us all feel joy again when we were at our lowest. You were such a sweet, happy baby. I'm in such a grief hole. How is it possible you aren't here anymore? Your sister is in your room now. It's excruciating smiling at her joy knowing you should be in there too x
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 24/06/2026
2 years ago today, you got your first and only gymnastics award. I was so proud. You were fierce, strong and loved your life. I loved being a part of it. I am heartbroken to be waiting for your inquest. You deserved the very best of care. I wish I could have saved you. 💔
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 22/06/2026
Today I'm hiding from the grief on a lovely day off with my beauty, plus Stitch & Teddy. The weather has come at a good time as I prepare for the preliminary hearing for Isabelle's inquest on the 2nd. Painstaking wait for all the documents - trying to keep busy. #grief #childloss
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 20/06/2026
Thinking especially of the beautiful, precious baby in the news over here at the moment. I am finding the coverage really difficult and I know so many others will be too. He should have been adored and protected. 💔
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 16/06/2026
Sharing the little joys of a very Isabelle notebook, an unexpected free coffee, a really kind and generous Waterstones staff member and a lovely cafe work spot. ❤️ #dailyjoy #grief #childloss
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 13/06/2026
Just had one of those stomach lurch moments, that you aren't ever coming back.Almost 2 years on from the loss of you, and 4.5 years from losing Alexander, and they are still crippling. Your sister passed the age you were when you died last week. These milestones kill me 💔 #grief
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 08/06/2026
How I cherish these moments. Amongst the chaos of a Monday morning, I enjoyed a 3 minute breakfast cuddle. Looked at her little perfect toes and fingers. Tried to etch every sound and feel of her cuddle onto my memories. ❤️
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 03/06/2026
I remember this day so clearly. Poor F had a nasty ear infection and had screamed all day. The only thing that made him stop was seeing Alexander home from nursery. He was also holding Alexander's beloved Peter Rabbit. My boys. I'm heartbroken you aren't growing up together. 💔
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 25/05/2026
What's your grief coping mechanism? Mine is my solar light project. When Alexander was first buried, I couldn't bear the stone being in darkness at night.I struggle to go to the grave, but it is full of lights too. Our memorial garden space for them both is always bright now ❤️💙
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 22/05/2026
The preliminary inquest for our beautiful girl is 2nd July. I saw it whilst updating my calendar for a meeting - I'd been trying to forget about it whilst we wait. But it looms now. My stomach is in knots. But what is making it easier is a responsive and kind coroner's officer.🌻
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 17/05/2026
F is reading Charlotte's Web. He asked me what a word meant. I explain. Long pause. Sympathetic voice: "I think I'll look it up in my dictionary Mummy". Children are doing great things for my self esteem lately 😅😅
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 15/04/2026
F went riding for the first time for Isabelle 💙❤️ he was so brave, as he always is with everything he has to face. I get so much strength from him. His pony was called Fairy which we felt was very fitting.
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 14/04/2026
Happy 4th birthday beautiful Isabelle. How we love you, miss you and wish you were here to celebrate. We have been to an animal park and saw some wild horses in the New Forest. You would have loved it ❤️
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 11/04/2026
Thank goodness for the light and the laughter they bring ❤️❤️ this is her hiding by the way 😅
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 10/04/2026
Alexander stealing my coffee in 2021. I can still feel him sat there slowly sipping & his gentle presence. He was such a placid boy from the moment he was born. He had this way of calming you and keeping you present. How I wish he was here to help me ground while the world hurts.
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 07/04/2026
In 7 days, you would be turning 4. Instead of excitedly planning your birthday & awaiting you joining your F in school in Sept, we are preparing for your inquest. I wish I knew you as a 4 year old. You're so loved.We are horse riding on your day, something you never got to do. ❤️
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 29/03/2026
I just wanted to say a little about the inquest opening. I was the only one there in the court. I couldn't bear not going; I have to see this through from start to finish. The coroner doing it was so unbelievably kind and proactive in making this less painful for me.
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 25/03/2026
F has always had two Jellycat bunnies from birth, his favourites. When his beloved sister Isabelle died, he gave her 1 to keep when he said goodbye. I've searched high and low to find the right sized one so he has 2 again and finally have 💙 it's the little things. #grief
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 24/03/2026
I miss these days. I miss mothering you in the physical sense - finding those lost socks, tidying your toys only for you to get them out again, brushing your curls. I miss the mother before the pain. I miss your thumping feet and the way you said Mummy. I miss you Alexander. X
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 22/03/2026
On this day in 2023 we were in Australia trying to heal.On Thursday, the day the inquest into your death opened, it was 18 months since you died.18 months without your vibrancy, giggles, & cuddles that made everything easier. I still don't know how we go on. But we do. For you. X
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 19/03/2026
Dear Isabelle, today I should be looking forward to picking you up later & having some garden time in the sun. Instead, I attended court where the coroner opened your inquest because of significant concerns with your care.I love you & wish you here. 💔 www.lancs.live/news/lancash...
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 18/03/2026
My beautiful girl. The most gorgeous blue eyes, full of mischief, kindness and love. I'm so lost without you. X #grief #childloss
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 15/03/2026
What a privilege it is to have 4 small people call me Mummy/Mimi/Mama. I've had more Mother's days grieving than not. But I am still so grateful to have every day I've experienced with my 4 beautiful babies. Thinking of those who also find today so hard. 💙💙❤️❤️ #Mothersday
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 12/03/2026
Do you live in the UK and have you ever experienced sextortion? We are trying to improve investigation quality and support for victim-survivors. Please consider filling out our anonymous survey to share your experiences. Link here: uclan.eu.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_.... Please RT
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 12/03/2026
Do you live in the UK and have you ever experienced sextortion? We are trying to improve investigation quality and support for victim-survivors. Please consider filling out our anonymous survey to share your experiences. Link here: uclan.eu.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_.... Please RT
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 09/03/2026
Home safe yesterday and now various states of this ❤️💙 the airport was so emotional- so many families being reunited. F ran full pelt at me. Hoping for peace as soon as possible.
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 03/03/2026
Decided to try and block out the worries of the world and travelling home with a visit to the rainforest ❤️ the peace and tranquility was much needed. I even saw a lyebird and she was beautiful 😍
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 01/03/2026
Gosh the news is all so distressing. May end up being stranded here a while longer than planned, but feeling lucky that my family are safe (as am I). Thinking of everyone affected.
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 27/02/2026
Dear Isabelle, here you were on day one of Melbourne. I'm back here again today for you. I feel so empty without you and remember this moment so clearly. I was so scared of the glass caving in. Little did I know what we would face. But you taught me to embrace #dailyjoy again ❤️
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 26/02/2026
Rounded off part one of the Australia trip with a visit to Rottnest Island and the quokkas. So chuffed I managed to see some. Isabelle and Alexander would have loved how sweet they were and having a swim in the bays. Melbourne bound tomorrow.💙❤️
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 25/02/2026
Yesterday I met the wonderful Danielle, who has also lost her beautiful son and daughter to ppa2 deficiency. She was the first parent who reached out to us after diagnosis and will always be a very special friend. And she has roos across from her back yard! ❤️ #grief #childloss
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 23/02/2026
Dipping my toes in the Indian Ocean. Reflecting on the one and only time I got to dip Isabelle's toes which was in Australia too. ❤️ #grief #childloss
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 22/02/2026
Well I had my first creepy crawly on my leg experience. Didn't over react at all 🤣🤣🤣🫠
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 21/02/2026
A very special day seeing the roos again. My beautiful Isabelle would have loved it. I miss her so terribly and managing the anxiety and PTSD/grief is a daily challenge. Plenty of days still feel insurmountable without them, but today felt lighter ❤️
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 20/02/2026
Made it to beautiful Perth. I couldn't bring myself to post any photos of Singapore as I missed Isabelle so very much, and she would have loved the cloud forest and dinosaurs. I'm feeling very anxious about being here without her, but I made it. ❤️
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 17/02/2026
Off I go on my second Australia adventure. Missing my beautiful sidekick this time who was an angel on the planes, but determined to have adventures on both of their behalf. Couldn't resist this bracelet with the "my sun and my moon" charms. Always in my heart. X
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 16/02/2026
My girls. It's all so unfair. They were supposed to be best friends forever. Borrow each other's clothes, scrap over toys, and then look after each other through adulthood. 💔💔
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 15/02/2026
Child loss isn't just felt on the milestone days, where they are visibly missing. It's in the quieter daggers of the scooter ride home answering questions about why children die. The deleting of her profile from the gymnastics app. Not being able to say 'picking up my girls' 💔
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 09/02/2026
Getting ready for Australia without you is hurting so badly my beautiful girl. Our adventures will always be such precious memories. How you lit up my darkness. X #grief #childloss
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 05/02/2026
Today, 8 years ago, I became a Mum. You changed our lives immeasurably for the better, Alexander. What an easy and joyful entry into parenthood you gave us. We miss you every second of every day. Today is caterpillar cake and a treat tea for you. We love you. X
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 03/02/2026
Baby sister has started to show a real interest in our beautiful boy's photos. I'm so pleased, but my heart feels so heavy with the thought of telling her one day. His 8th birthday is coming up this week. How has so much time passed since we held you? Shared an ice cream? #grief
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 24/01/2026
Another precious memory of you Alexander. I wish I'd videod this. You just loved cars and vehicles so much. You would love the huge train track set currently taking over the house, and helping F to stop your sisters sabotaging it. I should be refereeing all 4 of you. 💔
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 22/01/2026
Trying to draw some strength from your beautiful face for another hard meeting today, Isabelle. Parenting you still in the only way I can. ❤️
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 22/01/2026
3 years ago, to mark the anniversary of burying Alexander, I booked a special trip with Isabelle to Australia. I'd always wanted to go & I promised him that I'd stop making excuses about things I wanted from life. Today I've just done the same in both of their honour. 💙❤️
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 21/01/2026
Yesterday marked 4 years since we buried you. I still don't know how I walked away that last time. How we took you on that last drive past the reservoir you always wanted to drive by. It still devastates me to my core that you're in a place that I'm not, Alexander. I love you. X
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Dr Emily Cooper @criminographer.bsky.social · 12/01/2026
Isabelle adored her little sister.Several times a day,she would put a cushion on her knee and tap it to tell me she wanted to hold her.They only got 9 precious months together.Our house should have double the noise. Double the laughter. In such a grief hole 💔 #grief #siblingloss
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