iiinova — where your digital self keeps evolving

Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 03/12/2024

the problem isn't that we don't know what we want to spend our time doing, it's that we don't *value* those activities if they don't clearly derive economic value

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 03/12/2024

I often hear friends lament they struggle with identifying what type of work they’d want to do if they had the freedom to do whatever they pleased they then proceed to share a list of meaningful activities they wish they had more time to do

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Paul Millerd @pmillerd.com · 20/11/2024

Good post by @cissy.bsky.social on her own journey with “good work” and open.substack.com/pub/moremyse...

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Finding our good work in the marble

redefining work and giving voice to our intuition

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 19/12/2023

I have immense gratitude for those who have seen me and allowed me to see myself more clearly, giving me the courage to write and share what's on my heart. I'm deeply grateful 🙏🏼 If this essay resonates with you, I'd be honored if you joined me in breathing life into these visions 🪄

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 19/12/2023

One year into writing More Myself and six months into my sabbatical, I feel more grounded and rooted in myself than ever — in large part due to being seen by others.

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 19/12/2023

Turning inward — taking our triggers, shadows, insecurities, and relationship dynamics into our own hands — and resolving our inner conflict day in and day out is the first step in walking the path towards collective flourishing.

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 19/12/2023

Building this world starts from within. I do “the work” so that I can find my way back to myself. I share it to create reference points for others so that doing the work can become an ordinary course of life.

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 19/12/2023

As a part of this vision, I'm excited to introduce a new series to the newsletter, A Call to Eudaimonia, and write my first book — more on both in the essay.

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 19/12/2023

It’s time to redefine modern day human flourishing, one essay and one project at a time.

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 19/12/2023

Starting in 2024, the newsletter will house all my work charting paths towards modern day human flourishing AND more intimate behind the scenes context on how I approach my inner work journey. My intention is to support others as they navigate their own course towards flourishing.

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 19/12/2023

As I enter this next season, I have grand ambitions of where we’ll go together. One of those dreams is to expand the newsletter to imagine a more beautiful and psychologically resilient world and begin to pave our way there.

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 19/12/2023

It’s time. I’m excited to share three updates on what’s ahead 🥁 1. I'm doubling down on my newsletter and adding a paid supporter plan 2. I'm introducing a series to the newsletter called A Call to Eudaimonia 3. I'm writing my first book (!) www.moremyself.xyz/glow-up

moremyself.xyz

More Myself is getting a glow up

Introducing A Call to Eudaimonia and I’m writing a book (!)

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 30/10/2023

we can spend a lifetime allowing invisible shoulds to drive our decisions, mistaking ambivalence for a fragile intuition and existential dread as a crisis bringing awareness to the ways we should ourselves allows us to make decisions from a place of self-trust moremyself.substack.com/p/should

moremyself.substack.com

A lifetime of should-ing

the case for an existential crisis

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 30/10/2023

my favorite weekly ritual is the Sunday wind down to wind up

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 26/10/2023

the first moments, minutes, hours, days of getting started are the hardest. you're up against the most inertia with no reference points to prove it's a worthy pursuit but the longer you work at it, the more data points you collect, the more confidence you build, the clearer the path becomes

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 25/10/2023

I've never considered myself an artist in any shape or form a result of holding my identities more loosely as of recent is that I got a random ping on Sunday that I want to express my parts (IFS) through cartoons. so now, I'm learning to draw cartoons turns out, it's really fun

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 23/10/2023

when you're met with a difficult decision, rather than intellectualize your options, try each scenario on imagine your world as if you've chosen the path you're leaning towards. how does that decision feel in your body? our bodies know. tune into that subtle inner wisdom

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 21/10/2023

on practicing embodying new identities with friends

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 21/10/2023

on motion & experimentation

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 21/10/2023

identity as a way of being, repeatedly

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 21/10/2023

this week's essay explores the fluidity of our identities: - adopting alter egos & building a wardrobe of identities - de-risking great ambitions through role play & experimentation - riding the learning curve & drawing inspiration from others moremyself.substack.com/p/role-play

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 21/10/2023

- prep tomorrow's calendar today - set out tomorrow's workout clothes tonight - map out the upcoming week's priorities on Sunday

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 21/10/2023

"take the thought out of it" rather than rely on tomorrow me to have the motivation to figure it out, today me is almost always in a better position to set tomorrow me up to move straight towards action vs deliberation

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 17/10/2023

learning to dance at the intersection of duality gives us the capacity to feel more deeply, relate more authentically, and express more wholeheartedly

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 17/10/2023

we're raised to believe there's a good and a bad, learning to think in black and white the reality is that there's beauty found in holding contradicting polarities

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 17/10/2023

many of life's most meaningful experiences are a blend of dualities: - moving to a new home: endings making way for new beginnings - building a business: faith in the face of uncertainty - running a marathon: endurance in defiance of pain

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 14/10/2023

the most meaningful healing can start in solitude and end in community

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 14/10/2023

the path towards healing is opening ourselves up to trusted others, allowing them to remind us of our shared humanity when we give ourselves permission to share the rawness of our human experience, we give others the permission to soften to the quiet traumas they grapple with

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 14/10/2023

when we don't allow trusted others in on our pain, we make space for shame and isolation to take root we are not evolved to carry all of our life's heavy burdens on our own

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 14/10/2023

trauma in all forms keeps us out of connection with others. when we experience disruptions to an existing sense of safety, it's easy to put up a wall we mistake hardening ourselves as strength when courage is found in shining a light on the disconnection we feel

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 14/10/2023

writing an essay be like

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 12/10/2023

grateful to the Chicago Marathon for a season that taught me how to run in solitude and alongside myself

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 12/10/2023

along the way, I learned how to come alive in ways I'd never felt before, adopting a new identity that was previously incongruent with who I believed myself to be it gave me the courage to set in motion sweeping changes in my life that I hadn't had the confidence to pursue

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 12/10/2023

I first started running marathons in 2018 as an attempt to escape my reality, choosing avoidance in the form of a marathon as I grappled with existential dread about my life and career

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 12/10/2023

on Sunday, I crossed the finish line at my 3rd major marathon in Chicago, marking the halfway point on my 6 world majors tour today's essay reflects on running marathons as an act of avoidance, coming alive along the way, and learning to run towards myself moremyself.substack.com/p/chicago-2023

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 03/10/2023

the real work begins when we start to visit and unwind these more meaningful negative events and create new reference points for our bodies to embody

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 03/10/2023

as we allow ourselves to feel uncomfortable feelings, we see how impermanent these reactions are with time, we notice that unrelated negative events that we've suppressed have become reference points we anchor to when we get triggered, intensifying seemingly small trigger events

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 03/10/2023

as you allow the derivative emotion to take up space in your body, get curious about why you may be feeling this way what clues are your emotions revealing? how does the discomfort show up in your body?

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 03/10/2023

rather than reacting to (and suppressing) your reaction, observe the derivative feeling and give it space to get bigger feel into it and accept it for what it is: an impermanent emotion

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 03/10/2023

the negative reactions we feel are often a derivative of the emotion we're *actually* experiencing say you're mad at a friend which leads you to feel guilty for feeling that way the feeling of anger is intensified by feeling shame and thinking you shouldn't be reacting this way

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 03/10/2023

IFS in three parts: - what does your head want? - what does your heart want? - what does your wallet want?

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 02/10/2023

as I've brought awareness around all the should-ing I do, I realized 99% of time, it stems from some nebulous societal pressure or conditioning that actually has no bearing on my life and for that reason, I'm expelling "should" from my vocabulary

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 02/10/2023

we live under an illusion we *should* do things that are misaligned with what we want to do the next time you think, "I should do [xyz]," ask yourself who or what is imposing that should on you if there's no meaningful rationale, perhaps it's something you *should not* do it

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 02/10/2023

happy first of the month from the hard things crew! kicked off the morning with an intention setting & plunge into the Bay here’s to a month of depth & community ⚡️

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 01/10/2023

you can either bet for or against yourself you may as well make the bet in your own favor

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 01/10/2023

"I can't drive in the city" are all the other drivers in this city *that* much better at driving than you? surely there are people who started out as a worse driver than you and improved with practice by getting behind the steering wheel

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 01/10/2023

"I'm not a good enough runner to run a marathon" are all the people who ever ran a marathon in better shape and more prepared than you? surely there are some people who started where you are and have gone off to cross finish lines

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 01/10/2023

there are 8 billion people on this earth. are you really less capable and less resourced than *all* the other people who are doing what you aspire to do? as soon as I started viewing life from this lens, it freed me from the scarcity narrative that I clung to for so long

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Cissy @cissy.bsky.social · 01/10/2023

we spend our lives wondering "why me?" when the more important question to ask ourselves is "why *not* me?" rather than viewing our aspirations from a lens of scarcity, thinking deeply about "why *not* me?" takes us beyond the limitations of our mind and anchors us in reality

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