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Charles Duhigg

@cduhigg.bsky.social
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Writer at the New Yorker Magazine, and Random House. Find me at charlesduhigg.com

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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 03/07/2026
Vulnerability is not crying on someone's shoulder, it is the moment you share something they could judge you for and watch how they respond. When they withhold judgment instead, your brain registers it as safety.
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 02/07/2026
When a conversation is going well, your breathing, heart rate, and even your brain activity start to sync with the other person, a phenomenon neuroscientists call neural entrainment.
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 01/07/2026
Teachers are now being trained to ask one simple question before any difficult conversation: do you want to be helped, hugged, or heard?
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 26/06/2026
I've toured the world, written bestsellers, and spoken about communication on the biggest stages — and the conversations I think about most are the ones with my kids.
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 24/06/2026
Super communicators don’t just talk better, they listen differently. They ask more questions, and prove they’re listening.
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 23/06/2026
The mentor who changes your career is probably not someone you already know. And the only thing standing between you and that relationship is a focused, specific ask.
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 22/06/2026
Communication is a superpower. And Supercommunicators aren't smarter or more charismatic, they have just thought a little deeper about how to show up in a conversation.
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 22/06/2026
Wanna get healthy? Try Fibermaxxing! And surgically implanting goat testicles into men's bodies! (And, you know, other stuff like eating vegetables and walking 5,000 steps a day). A new Science of Better newsletter! Link and signup in my bio.
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 19/06/2026
Most people treat a willpower failure like a character flaw. But science says it's just data, and the moment you start treating yourself like a scientist running an experiment, everything changes.
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 18/06/2026
Not negotiating your salary costs you over $1 million across your career. That is not an opinion, that is what Carnegie Mellon and Harvard researchers found. Negotiation is a learnable skill, and most people never even try.
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 17/06/2026
Most people avoid asking deeper questions because they assume it will feel awkward. The reality is that people often want to be asked real questions because it gives them permission to feel genuinely seen.
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 16/06/2026
Procrastination is not a time management problem. It is an emotional regulation problem, and the moment I understood that, everything about how I work changed. #CharlesDuhigg #Supercommunicators #ProductivityScience
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 15/06/2026
Vulnerability isn’t oversharing. Neuroscience shows that trust, persuasion, and deeper connection are built when vulnerability is met with curiosity instead of judgment making vulnerability the foundation of meaningful communication.
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 12/06/2026
Change is not always fast and it is not always easy, but with time and effort almost any habit can be reshaped — and that changes everything. #CharlesDuhigg #PowerOfHabit #HabitChange
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 11/06/2026
Champions do not do extraordinary things — they do ordinary things so automatically, so fast, that no one can stop them, because winning is just a habit they have already built. #CharlesDuhigg #PowerOfHabit #HabitChange
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 10/06/2026
On the mornings you exercise, you eat healthier, spend less money, procrastinate less, and even do the dishes earlier — and none of it is a coincidence. These are keystone habits, and they mean you do not need to fix everything at once, you just need to find the right habit to start.
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 09/06/2026
Communication isn’t just about exchanging information it’s about creating connection, trust, and emotional alignment through something neuroscientists call neural entrainment.
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 05/06/2026
Until you know what kind of conversation you want and what the other person needs, you are already at a disadvantage.
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 04/06/2026
Your morning routine shapes far more than your schedule - it influences your mindset, emotional state, and the decisions you make. The ARC method (anticipation, relaxation, and connection) is a framework that helps you start your mornings with more intention, clarity, and emotional balance.
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 03/06/2026
The quality of your relationships is shaped by the questions you’re willing to ask. The right question can increase trust, empathy, and how deeply people listen to each other. #CharlesDuhigg #Supercommunicators #CommunicationPsychology
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 29/05/2026
Vulnerability in conversation doesn’t make you weak. It actually signals confidence, status, and influence when used intentionally. The real power move is refusing to let vulnerability be weaponized.
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 28/05/2026
The difference between a good conversation and a forgettable one comes down to one move: asking a deep question and then answering it yourself. Reciprocity is what turns a conversation into a real connection. #CharlesDuhigg #Supercommunicator #CommunicationSkills
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 27/05/2026
Every conversation is actually three conversations happening at once: the practical, emotional, and social. Once you learn to spot which conversation you are actually in, everything shifts. #CharlesDuhigg #Supercommunicator #CommunicationSkills
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 26/05/2026
Great communicators don’t guess what people need - they clarify by asking whether someone wants help, empathy, or just to be heard. #CharlesDuhigg #Supercommunicators #CommunicationPsychology
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 25/05/2026
Every single one of us was born to be a great communicator. The work is just learning how to access our communication instincts more consistently. #CharlesDuhigg #Supercommunicator #CommunicationSkills
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 22/05/2026
Exercise is a keystone habit — and once you start, something remarkable happens: you eat better, spend less, smoke less, and show more patience with the people you love without even trying. #CharlesDuhigg #PowerOfHabit #HabitChange
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 21/05/2026
80% of the time when you laugh, nothing funny actually happened. What your brain is doing instead is reaching for connection — telling the other person you are engaged, you are with them, and you want more of whatever this is. #CharlesDuhigg #Supercommunicators #CommunicationScience
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 20/05/2026
You cannot extinguish a bad habit — you can only change it, and that one shift in understanding is what makes all the difference. #CharlesDuhigg #PowerOfHabit #HabitChange
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 19/05/2026
The person you remember most after a great conversation is rarely the one who dominated it. They're the one who made you feel like what *you* said actually mattered, and that is a skill, not a personality trait. #CharlesDuhigg #Supercommunicators #CommunicationScience
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 18/05/2026
Ask deeper questions, prove you're listening, and repeat back what you heard: three simple shifts that will instantly change the quality of every conversation you have.
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 16/05/2026
Learn more at bit.ly/4dchLYW
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 15/05/2026
Thank you to @FindingMastery and @michaelgervais for having me on the podcast! It was a WONDERFUL conversation. Listen now! bit.ly/4dchLYW
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The Psychology of Being a Super Communicator | Charles Duhigg
Charles Duhigg, Pulitzer Prize-winning journalist and bestselling author of The Power of Habit and Supercommunicators, returns to Finding Mastery for another conversation with Dr. Michael Gervais. A timely, science-backed look at why so many of our conversations break down, and the small shift in attention that changes almost every relationship you have.
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 14/05/2026
Asking a stranger "when was the last time you cried in front of someone?" might be the most powerful conversation you ever have. I've found that deep questions are the fastest way to create real human connection. Try this experiment and watch what happens.
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 13/05/2026
When a habit takes over, your brain literally powers down — and the moment you learn to identify the cue and the reward driving that behavior, change does not become easy, but it becomes so much easier. #CharlesDuhigg #PowerOfHabit #HabitChange
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 12/05/2026
Most workplace conversations fail not because people are bad communicators but because everyone is having a completely different conversation. Here's a guide to breaking down how to read the room, prove you are listening, and connect with the people that matter most.
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 11/05/2026
Every habit can be changed once you understand the simple brain mechanic behind all of them. Whether it's quitting overeating, becoming a runner, or dropping a years-long bad habit, the science makes it possible. #CharlesDuhigg #Supercommunicator #HabitChange
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 08/05/2026
The easiest way to end any conversation at a party is to say "I have to go but before I do, can I ask you one more question?" — because that one line makes walking away feel like a compliment. #CharlesDuhigg #Supercommunicator #CommunicationSkills
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 06/05/2026
I've spent my career studying the science of habits and the research is clear — any habit can be created, any habit can be changed, and you have the power to become exactly who you want to be. The life you want is not out of reach, it's one habit away.
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 05/05/2026
It's never been easier to do too much. If you feel overwhelmed, or have trouble focusing your ideas, you need this book by a great friend, @DavidEpstein. It's called Inside The Box, and it's all about how constraints actually make us better. Buy it today!
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 27/04/2026
Mentors can make a huge difference. But how do you find one? How should a mentor help a protégé? What are the tactics that make the relationship work? Science has some answers. A new newsletter from The Science of Better!
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Mentors can make a huge difference. But how do you find one? How should a mentor help a protégé? What are the tactics that make the relationship work? Science has some answers.
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 24/04/2026
I pulled together the most compelling research I found on money behavior for a practical guide that will change how you think about your finances. You do not need more money, you just need to start paying more attention to it. #CharlesDuhigg #Supercommunicator #PersonalFinance
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 22/04/2026
Effective communication is not about saying the right thing — it is about recognizing what kind of conversation is actually happening and matching the person in front of you. #CharlesDuhigg #Supercommunicator #CommunicationSkills
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 21/04/2026
Some habits don't just change one behavior, they change everything. People who exercise in the morning tend to eat better, spend less, and procrastinate less, without even trying to.
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 20/04/2026
A super communicator isn't the funniest or most charismatic person in the room. They're just the one who makes everyone feel heard.
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 16/04/2026
One skill — making people feel truly heard — is worth more than all the charm and wit in the world. #CharlesDuhigg #Supercommunicator #CommunicationSkills
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 15/04/2026
The hardest conversations don't get easier by avoiding the awkwardness. They get easier when you name it upfront. Simply saying "this might feel uncomfortable, but I think it matters" changes everything about how the conversation goes.
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 14/04/2026
The simplest way to make someone feel heard is also the most underused. Ask them why, reflect back what you heard, and then ask if you got it right. Most people never make it to that third step.
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 13/04/2026
Interior decorating tips (from science!) for people who know nothing about interior decorating. A new newsletter from The Science of Better!
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 07/04/2026
Most of us think we laugh because something is funny. But 80% of the time, laughter has nothing to do with humor. It's how we tell someone we want to connect with them.
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Charles Duhigg @cduhigg.bsky.social · 06/04/2026
Nearly half of what we do every day isn't really a choice. It's a habit running in the background. The good news is that once you can spot the cue and the reward driving a behavior, you can change it.
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