The [negative] self talk is now part of the pattern. It's a protective layer on top of the pattern to make exploration harder. The pattern is one you've learnt or been taught in order to keep you safe and happy in life.
Gem Hill @SelfCare Backpack
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![If, deep down, you do things for other people because this is a role that was thrust upon you as a child, or young person, and it’s how you got positive attention [...] then this becomes a coping mechanism.](https://cdn.bsky.app/img/feed_thumbnail/plain/did:plc:e7cnt2rbyqs3pis7mvvazjvg/bafkreicdvtgzdhrlbd7uhy57hxk4i7d54g6xikza7hk4kbczorqugykofm)
![Sometimes [growth is] holding yourself in place as you learn to be comfortable being in a different kind of way.](https://cdn.bsky.app/img/feed_thumbnail/plain/did:plc:e7cnt2rbyqs3pis7mvvazjvg/bafkreig3sgsrumsuipohed6z2fltemxromsu7brs4663eo7djxchjx5wem)
