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Candice Helfand-Rogers

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Candice Helfand-Rogers @candicehr.bsky.social · 29/09/2026
Been thinking a great deal about men's silence this week - and wrote about it for @thestoryexchange.bsky.social: thestoryexchange.org/an-allegatio...
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An Allegation of Gang Rape, And Men’s Chilling Silence Surrounding It
As the investigation into a 2024 rape case involving several male Cornell University students is reopened, men’s silence becomes a factor once more, Candice Helfand-Rogers writes.
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Candice Helfand-Rogers @candicehr.bsky.social · 25/09/2026
Now live on the ol' Substack: Reflections on engaging with the five senses, in all the many ways we / I can. stayoffmybeat.substack.com/p/synesthesia
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Synesthesia
Returning to my senses - literally.
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Candice Helfand-Rogers @candicehr.bsky.social · 23/09/2026
If you feel like diving into some introspection... if you're looking for someone else who's also just trying to figure shit out. ♡ stayoffmybeat.substack.com/p/balancing-...
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It’s a Balancing Act
Reflecting on the autumnal equinox, a day that asks us to prioritize equilibrium - and to consider what throws us out of emotional whack.
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Candice Helfand-Rogers @candicehr.bsky.social · 16/09/2026
This year, @thestoryexchange.bsky.social's gift guide will feature women-run nonprofits that folks can make donations to as presents for the folks on their holiday shopping lists. Know someone whose work might be a great fit? Tell 'em to apply! thestoryexchange.org/women-nonpro...
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Women Nonprofit Leaders: Apply For Our ‘Good Stuff’ Gift Guide!
Would a donation to your nonprofit or charity make an excellent gift? Tell us why! Apply for possible inclusion in our 2026 holiday gift guide. Deadline: Oct 25.
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Candice Helfand-Rogers @candicehr.bsky.social · 11/09/2026
A little something on remembrance, and grief, and everything being nebulous - myself, most of all... all that can be found in the in-between: stayoffmybeat.substack.com/p/ghosts-inc...
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Ghosts, Including Me (?)
Extremely scattered thoughts on existing while ephemeral, had while walking around New York City on something of a haunted weekend.
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Candice Helfand-Rogers @candicehr.bsky.social · 10/09/2026
For @thestoryexchange.bsky.social, I took a deep dive into women's increased engagement with neopaganism. (Publishing this ahead of the release of #PracticalMagic2 is more happy coincidence than anything. 🙂 )
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New Moon Rising: More Women Turning to Neopaganism as a Form of Resistance
Before settling in to write this article, I held my tarot card deck in my hands and asked for a message to shepherd me along the process of pulling
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Candice Helfand-Rogers @candicehr.bsky.social · 08/09/2026
If you or someone you know used the Lindsay Clancy trial discourse to make broader statements about women's access to basic rights... I have some words in response to that:
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Candice Helfand-Rogers @candicehr.bsky.social · 05/09/2026
Something short, about what can be found when we face things we're afraid of. stayoffmybeat.substack.com/p/oh-deer
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Oh, Deer
Woodland creatures (and other things) that once frightened me - until I sat with them.
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The Story Exchange @thestoryexchange.bsky.social · 04/09/2026
Clancy was charged with three counts of first-degree murder in the deaths of her children.
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Mistrial Declared in Lindsay Clancy Case; Jury Unable to Reach a Verdict
Clancy had been charged with first-degree murder in the deaths of her three children. The defense argued that she was not guilty due to insanity. The case garnered national attention.
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Candice Helfand-Rogers @candicehr.bsky.social · 31/08/2026
Got up at 5 a.m. this morning to write my latest for @thestoryexchange.bsky.social - on Michelle Obama, empty nesters and parenting in general - so that I didn't have to leave my son on a screen while I worked... which feels somewhat relevant to note. thestoryexchange.org/michelle-oba...
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Michelle Obama Celebrated Her Empty-Nest Life. Cue the Meltdowns
Conservatives engaged in much hand-wringing when the former FLOTUS said she didn’t miss having kids at home. But plenty of moms can understand, Candice Helfand-Rogers writes.
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Mayor Zohran Kwame Mamdani @mayor.nyc.gov · 25/08/2026
This is truly heartbreaking. Dolly Parton was an extraordinary person and an irreplaceable champion of the working class. We are a better country because of her.
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Candice Helfand-Rogers @candicehr.bsky.social · 26/08/2026
Had to. 💔 Remembering #DollyParton for @thestoryexchange.bsky.social. thestoryexchange.org/heres-to-dol...
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Here’s to Dolly Parton, Who ‘Lived In the Light’
The country singer has died. She leaves behind a shining legacy through her bubbly persona and prolific music career – which are only dwarfed in size by her heart, Candice Helfand-Rogers writes.
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Candice Helfand-Rogers @candicehr.bsky.social · 23/08/2026
Continuing to write my way through it. ♥️ stayoffmybeat.substack.com/p/making-a-g...
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Making a Garden Grow
Tending to the soil itself, before planting anything new.
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Candice Helfand-Rogers @candicehr.bsky.social · 15/08/2026
Contemplations of a recent magical moment: stayoffmybeat.substack.com/p/winged-cre...
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Winged Creatures
On a series of visitors during a lakeside morning, and gratitude for having eyes and heart to appreciate them.
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The Story Exchange @thestoryexchange.bsky.social · 29/07/2026
The singer-songwriter disclosed that she has Parkinson's disease. But she's not letting it stop her.
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Carly Simon Reveals Parkinson’s Diagnosis – And a New Album
Despite numerous recent health complications, the “You’re So Vain” singer assures her fans that “I am still very much here.”
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The Story Exchange @thestoryexchange.bsky.social · 04/08/2026
Nikki Porcher is running to be the next Commissioner of Labor in Georgia.
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People Are Struggling to Afford, Well, Everything. Nikki Porcher is Running to Help
Porcher, who has worked for years on behalf of Black business owners, now hopes to assist all of Georgia's workers as the state’s next Commissioner of Labor.
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Candice Helfand-Rogers @candicehr.bsky.social · 03/08/2026
Wrote about imperfection (and also, I wrote a song): stayoffmybeat.substack.com/p/everything...
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Everything's Imperfect, And So Am I
On flaws, and safety... and a little song I wrote.
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The Story Exchange @thestoryexchange.bsky.social · 23/07/2026
Food-born illness #cyclosporiasis, largely found on contaminated lettuce, has made thousands of Americans sick – and women are carrying the bulk of the burden.
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How the ‘Poop Parasite’ is Causing Headaches (And More) for Women
Thousands of cases of cyclosporiasis have been confirmed throughout the U.S. – placing another undue burden upon the shoulders of American women.
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Candice Helfand-Rogers @candicehr.bsky.social · 22/07/2026
Felt another surprise singing "pull" recently...
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Candice Helfand-Rogers @candicehr.bsky.social · 21/07/2026
A little unapologetic pushback at "sorry," now live on @thestoryexchange.bsky.social: thestoryexchange.org/the-power-of...
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The Power of a Woman Who's Not Sorry
During a podcast appearance, actress Geena Davis recalled learning something crucial from an unapologetic Susan Sarandon. We all need that energy, Candice Helfand-Rogers writes.
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Candice Helfand-Rogers @candicehr.bsky.social · 12/07/2026
Some thoughts on the passing of Sen. Lindsey Graham, and how we discuss it: stayoffmybeat.substack.com/p/death-is-n...
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Death is Not Sacred
But before we "go," we do get to create our own legacies.
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Candice Helfand-Rogers @candicehr.bsky.social · 08/07/2026
Had some Graham Platner thoughts, which are now live on The Story Exchange:
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Candice Helfand-Rogers @candicehr.bsky.social · 08/07/2026
My latest on #Substack, about a beloved beverage (okay and maybe some other stuff, too). stayoffmybeat.substack.com/p/mint-snapple
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Mint Snapple
Or, what to recall when something you want goes away. (Spoiler: It'll still be okay.)
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Candice Helfand-Rogers @candicehr.bsky.social · 06/07/2026
Forgive me, but I had things to say about the TSwi-tuation... stayoffmybeat.substack.com/p/taylor-swi...
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Taylor Swift Should Know Better – And Saying So Isn't Sexist
Protecting privileged women from critique under the guise of feminist solidarity does little to help anyone, but does plenty to perpetuate harm. Besides... she can do better.
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Candice Helfand-Rogers @candicehr.bsky.social · 01/07/2026
On little internal tugs, over on Substack: stayoffmybeat.substack.com/p/to-begin-a...
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To Begin Again
Dipping a toe back in... perchance to swim, somewhere down the line.
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The Story Exchange @thestoryexchange.bsky.social · 23/06/2026
Protesters say they are tapping into “the courage of Iranian women, still confronting a dictatorial government by any means."
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Iranian Women Continue to Defy Hijab Laws – Despite Significant Risks
Throughout 2026, women living in the Middle Eastern nation have been pushing back against the oppressive Islamic Republic currently holding power, reports find.
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The Story Exchange @thestoryexchange.bsky.social · 29/06/2026
Singer Olivia Rodrigo is carving out space for her fellow women musicians.
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Olivia Rodrigo Announces an All-New, All-Women Music Festival
Proceeds from the event, called Daisy Chain Fields, will be donated to progressive charities that lift up girls and women, the singer added.
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Candice Helfand-Rogers @candicehr.bsky.social · 29/06/2026
A little something new to kick off the week - in which I give space to some of my recent post-breakfast thinking. stayoffmybeat.substack.com/p/italian-gr...
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"Italian Grandma Hands"
Noodling on the low-grade burn tolerance that's passed on from family kitchen to family kitchen — from mother to mother.
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Candice Helfand-Rogers @candicehr.bsky.social · 26/06/2026
For @thestoryexchange.bsky.social, I took a dive into the ways in which our social definitions of masculinity are hurting, even killing us (this includes men themselves) - and what's needed to make sure our young boys don't grow up to become part of the problem. thestoryexchange.org/the-work-of-...
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The Work of Helping Young Boys Grow Into Good Men
As someone raising a son in a world where hawkish, autocratic men win time and time again, I often ask myself: How do I keep him from following their lead? Experts have some ideas.
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Candice Helfand-Rogers @candicehr.bsky.social · 25/06/2026
Revisited an old #sermon of mine with some new eyes - now on Substack: stayoffmybeat.substack.com/p/when-kindn...
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When Kindness Stops Being Polite – And Starts Getting Real
A short sermon I wrote for a co-led summer service at First Unitarian. Written in 2023, with reflections and updates (and the fixing of one typo) from 2026.
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Candice Helfand-Rogers @candicehr.bsky.social · 22/06/2026
After watching a particularly loud corner of the internet fully melt down over the #AnneHathaway pregnancy news this past weekend, I felt pulled to write about the backlash for @thestoryexchange.bsky.social: thestoryexchange.org/anne-hathawa...
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Anne Hathaway’s Pregnancy Sparks a (Tired) Debate on Older Women’s Choices
The actress, now 43, announced that she’s having a baby. The public had much to say – because whatever older women do, it’s apparently wrong, Candice Helfand-Rogers writes.
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Candice Helfand-Rogers @candicehr.bsky.social · 21/06/2026
Before jumping into a day of celebrating the many amazing Dads in my life, I wrote a bit about greeting the #SummerSolstice moment... stayoffmybeat.substack.com/p/summer-sol...
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Summer Solstice at Dawn
Welcoming the time that asks us to bask in cycles, and growth, and that which we have made with our own hands — no matter what it all looks like from the outside.
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Candice Helfand-Rogers @candicehr.bsky.social · 18/06/2026
Reflections on a particularly poignant goodbye... stayoffmybeat.substack.com/p/portal-mom...
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Portal Moment
An end, and a beginning.
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Candice Helfand-Rogers @candicehr.bsky.social · 29/05/2026
A touching metaphysical experience, and the lessons it taught and amplified - now live on my Substack: stayoffmybeat.substack.com/p/listening-...
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Listening, Within and Beyond
How a commute and a rehearsal inspired an unflinching, ongoing look in the mirror.
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Candice Helfand-Rogers @candicehr.bsky.social · 19/05/2026
Every year, I oversee the all-hands-on-deck process of building of @thestoryexchange.bsky.social's Brilliant Business Ideas list, an effort designed to celebrate early-stage women entrepreneurs with innovative, exciting missions - and I love it each time.
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Candice Helfand-Rogers @candicehr.bsky.social · 05/05/2026
Just beginning to look into this article... any help folks could offer would be great, thanks!
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Rep. Melanie Stansbury (NM-01) @repstansbury.bsky.social · 14/04/2026
For all those still feeling the moon joy—Artemis II was brought to you by public schools and publicly funded science. Copy that! 👩‍🚀🚀💕 *All four astronauts went to public schools!
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Candice Helfand-Rogers @candicehr.bsky.social · 14/04/2026
At The Story Exchange, we're still thinking about the recent #NASA mission. In my latest, I sit with part of why humanity was so drawn in by the #ArtemisII crew's journey - which is, because they showed us who and what we are ALL capable of being. Read it below:
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Candice Helfand-Rogers @candicehr.bsky.social · 08/04/2026
Had some #AubreyPlaza thoughts... stayoffmybeat.substack.com/p/the-aubrey...
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The Aubrey Plaza Pregnancy Backlash is as Hypocritical as it is Misogynistic (and Gross)
The actress announced she’s expecting a child. But her ex died by suicide just over a year ago, some complained in response. Let’s look at how men handle illness and death in partners.
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The Story Exchange @thestoryexchange.bsky.social · 07/04/2026
The #ArtemisII crew woke up one day of their historic flight to the sounds of "Pink Pony Club" by Chappell Roan - a moment both small and big in nature.
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A Twinkle of Hope Found Amid the Artemis II Crew’s Playlist
Astronauts aboard the Orion spacecraft were awakened this week by Chappell Roan’s “Pink Pony Club” – a queer anthem by a queer artist. Dr. Sally Ride would have loved it.
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Candice Helfand-Rogers @candicehr.bsky.social · 03/04/2026
My implication in this op-ed for @thestoryexchange.bsky.social isn't that recent firings were motivated by gender. It's that these men – the ones women like Bondi, Noem and Leavitt defend… they don't care about “useful” women either, when it comes down to it: thestoryexchange.org/pam-bondi-re...
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Pam Bondi Reminds Us: Women Can’t Save Themselves By Selling Their Souls
The former AG’s ouster follows years of loyalty to Donald Trump – the latest example of how kowtowing to sexist leaders will only take women so far, Candice Helfand-Rogers writes.
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Candice Helfand-Rogers @candicehr.bsky.social · 19/03/2026
What we know so far about the distressing allegations against #CesarChavez - as well as brief thoughts on a culture that still tells women to be silent, instead of telling men to be better, and how women carry on anyway. Now live on @thestoryexchange.bsky.social: thestoryexchange.org/reports-cesa...
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Reports: Cesar Chavez Assaulted Dolores Huerta, Girls in Farmworkers’ Movement
The now-deceased labor leader has been accused of sexually abusing girls and women who worked with him in defense of farmworkers’ rights, including fellow leader Huerta.
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Candice Helfand-Rogers @candicehr.bsky.social · 12/03/2026
Psyched to say that my article on #women #singing the U.S. #resistance, originally on @thestoryexchange.bsky.social, has been republished by @19thnews.org! If you haven't gotten a chance to read it yet, here's the link on their site: 19thnews.org/2026/03/wome...
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Women are reviving a historic resistance tactic at protests: singing
In a return to form for U.S. social justice movements, organizers are turning to group singing to unite crowds and sustain demonstrations against Trump and ICE.
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Candice Helfand-Rogers @candicehr.bsky.social · 09/03/2026
Now live on @thestoryexchange.bsky.social: My project on #women #singing the #resistance. Their work is joyful, and it is vital - and I encourage everyone to read / share all about it. thestoryexchange.org/the-growing-...
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The Growing Chorus of Resistance, and The Women Holding the Baton
Protests against the Trump administration have been increasingly scored by voices joined in song. It’s a return to form for U.S. movements – and it’s largely women leading the way.
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Candice Helfand-Rogers @candicehr.bsky.social · 07/03/2026
A brief reminder that how we talk about things - even the seemingly less important things like #TimotheeChalamet and #KylieJenner - matters. Now live on the ol' Substack: stayoffmybeat.substack.com/p/what-if-no...
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What If... Not Everything is a Woman's Fault?
A 30-year-old man says something stupid - and the internet turns it into an excuse to blame and mock the woman in his life. Because, of course.
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Candice Helfand-Rogers @candicehr.bsky.social · 25/02/2026
Very much done with men's smiling quiet in the face of women's harm. Wrote about it in an op-ed on the #SOTU and #TeamUSA's men's hockey team for @thestoryexchange.bsky.social: thestoryexchange.org/the-u-s-mens...
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The U.S. Men’s Hockey Team Reminds Us How Complicit – and Lame – Men Can Be
President Donald Trump invited the team to appear as honored guests at this year’s State of the Union address. They accepted – and that’s the problem, Candice Helfand-Rogers writes.
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Candice Helfand-Rogers @candicehr.bsky.social · 12/02/2026
On people... and WiFi - now on my Substack (which you're forever welcome to subscribe to): stayoffmybeat.substack.com/p/automatic-...
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Automatic Reconnection
Thoughts and appreciation inspired by a bit of tech, and a bunch of people.
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The Story Exchange @thestoryexchange.bsky.social · 11/02/2026
In honor of International Day of Women and Girls in Science, we present our list of 11 Women to Watch in Science. Prepare to be inspired! #womeninscience
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Saving Nature: 11 Women to Watch in Science
These women are using their hard-earned knowledge to protect our planet already ravaged by brutal storms, epic floods and intense wildfires.
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Candice Helfand-Rogers @candicehr.bsky.social · 07/02/2026
I just need to note that this recent spate of extreme-weather days has resulted in a... rather character-revealing moment for New York City's dog owners. (I'm sure the folks I know aren't the ones getting all lawless, but... someone out there is. Because, damn.)
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Candice Helfand-Rogers @candicehr.bsky.social · 05/02/2026
Wrote an op-ed about #Trump's repeated attempts to evade questioning on the #Epsteinfiles by disrespecting women journalists - and the particularly insidious nature of his latest try - for @thestoryexchange.bsky.social: thestoryexchange.org/its-2026-and...
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It’s 2026, And The President is Telling Women to Smile – to Shut Them Up
It’s an age-old sexist refrain, and the Trump administration is using it to quiet women journalists who ask about the Epstein files, Candice Helfand-Rogers writes.
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