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Beth B is probably reading. @beth4444.bsky.social · 06/07/2026

Accidentally adopted a medium to go with small and large, and this is our house now. (Reminder: I'm a cat lady). Welcome Gopher, a sweet baby, the nutella on our peanut butter and jelly sandwich.

Sweet Gopher lies in my arms like a baby. He's a lab, pittie, husky mix with very good button ears, guyliner, and a permanent smile.

My husband sits on the loveseat, completely overrun with 3 dogs. The smallest perches on the back of the couch, making an annoyed face. The largest claims him by standing over him like a conquering horse. The new baby medium dog rests in his lap, oblivious of this primal fight for claim to the Papa, but he'll learn. My husband, Andy, wears Andes mints socks. This is important.

Morning in the upstairs hallway. Teenager joins the pack on the floor. Small Fifi is haughty about it as the boys stretch out uncouthly on the floor.

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Beth B is probably reading. @beth4444.bsky.social · 11/05/2026

The very best Mother's Day celebration is a queer/non-binary drag show with your oldest 3, cheering on your young friend/performer in the best, cheekiest, most safe, loving, supportive, hilarious, joyful environment possible! Bonus points: hugs & affirmations for other mothers' kids who needed mine.

Me and my 3 gorgeous oldest kids at a tiny bar table in a packed, colorfully-lit club. Quill wears the vintage silk scarf I got them in Paris as a headwrap, Charlotte wears my ankh necklace from the 90s, and Ethan wears the shirt I found him at Goodwill. We are all 2 drinks in, and happy.

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Beth B is probably reading. @beth4444.bsky.social · 20/04/2026

After an hour with the metal comb, we have a lion. (The bestest and goodest boy, when annoyed or ouchy, reacts in the sweetest way, by slow-licking your comb-hand. Please beloved mama, no more please.) 💙🐕 #dogsky

Teddy the huge golden doodle is an absolute pouf of a himbo.

Magnificent lion dog perches in stately fashion on back step, floofily.

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Beth B is probably reading. @beth4444.bsky.social · 20/04/2026

Currently apoplectically scream-barking at the woodpecker sound in the nearby woods. 💙🐕 #dogsky

Fifi the beautiful little red Cavapoo with the white chin and curly chest senses an intruder!

Fifi's up! Go-get-em stance engaged! Intruders beware!

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Beth B is probably reading. @beth4444.bsky.social · 16/04/2026

HAHAHAHAAAAA having a soon-to-be Gopher is so much fun.

In a catalog image, a hyped woman and man side-hug in their HIDEOUS ketchup and mustard striped overalls - U of Minn colors - their outside arms raised high as they each point a single finger skyward. The U Minn overalls are labeled "gopheralls." I sent this photo to my 17 yr old senior, who has chosen U Minn for college.

The only response from him: "Disliked an image."

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Beth B is probably reading. @beth4444.bsky.social · 30/03/2026

Taking my son to visit U of Minnesota and U of Wisconsin (applied math) in a few days and we VERY much want him to be a gopher or a badger so what should I include in our whirlwind trips to Minneapolis and Madison that will snag him? #Minnesota #Wisconsin

Beautiful teenage boy with long brown curls sits sweetly next to me, bespectacled, black-cherry-haired mama in a vinyl-covered foam circle in the main Indianapolis library kids' section. The theme appears to be blue, red, and smiling with no teeth.

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Beth B is probably reading. @beth4444.bsky.social · 28/02/2026

He has always reminded me greatly of my 17 yr old. Their vibes are the same. Quietly clever and sly, deliberate? Amused by and tolerant of an emotional mama? Also lengthy.

Lanky teenager with long brown hair under a bike helmet rides a trail bike in the woods.

Already willowy teenager is absurdly lengthened by the camera angle on a street car in New Orleans as he smiles slightly, like usual.

In a photo that cracks me up, my sonand daughter sit stiffly on uncomfortable granite chairs in an outdoor sculpture park in New Orleans. They look like they are in trouble and having to listen to a lecture about their behavior from a grown-up who is no fun.

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Beth B is probably reading. @beth4444.bsky.social · 12/02/2026

Let's GOOOOOO!!!!! My beautiful, smart boyboy rules. Come on, U Chicago! Show us the $$$$!

Congratulatory letter from the National Merit Scholarship people telling Holland he's a finalist!

Teensy 7 year old Holland/Tiny Tim in a dressing room during "A Christmas Carol" stands on a chair to model The Ghost of Christmas Present's huge, green, fur-trimmed robe and ivy crown.

The Smoulder. Holland sits in our living room looking beautiful with his long brown wavy hair and perfect eyebrows (you're welcome, kid) and elegant piano fingers holding a pink bunny dog toy.

2 yr old Holland on some beach vacation in a blue and green union suit bathing costume sits in the sand playing with a truck, looking happy and darling with his heavy sun-kissed brown waves of hair.

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Beth B is probably reading. @beth4444.bsky.social · 25/01/2026

I went stress shopping at TJoe's last night and spent $200. That is a stupid full cart at TJoe's. So now we're ALL stress eating all the things.

Favorites: dark chocolate Mini Heart Cookies and the elite French Galettes Butter Cookies.

Hoooooly shiiiit this stuff. Chocolate Whipped Light Cream. Put it on everything. Make the dogs sad.

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Beth B is probably reading. @beth4444.bsky.social · 22/11/2025

My newly 21 yr old daughter at college. Enraging and heartbreaking.

Texts:
Daughter: I went out to the bars for Sofi's bday last night and a drunk pervert 51 year old groped me. I hate being a woman.
Me: Excuse me?! What the FUCK. What did you do? You need to tell the bartender that shit.
D: I teared up and froze then walked away.
M: Oh honey. You must tell your friends and all of your group can advocate for you.

Me: I'm so sorry that happened to you.
Daughter: I ate my feelings with a huge burrito.
M: Just to be clear, you are not to blame for any of that, not the event or your reaction. I would tell your friends so y'all have a mutually agreed action plan if that happens to ANY of you. So you know what to do and freezing is less likely, and you feel more empowered.

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Beth B is probably reading. @beth4444.bsky.social · 04/11/2025

Oh no! Friendly little snakes in the hair are so sweet!

Albino corn snake Monki likes to twirl in my space buns.

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Beth B is probably reading. @beth4444.bsky.social · 30/10/2025

My beloved NanNan's 1920 converted Baldwin player piano, kept from me by my uncle (has had issues with me since I was 12 & started calling him out on his misogyny and bigotry) arrived from Louisville yesterday and I sobbed so hard the movers hugged me. 1/2

A white upright converted 1920 Baldwin player piano with 2 black wrought iron fighting roosters on the mechanism sliding doors (attached by my grandfather, as they were symbols of the Kentucky democratic party) sits happily, finally, in MY living room and plays nicely off the black and white tiled fireplace. My grandmother's book of piano music, inscribed by my grandfather as a gift in 1942, sits on the rack.

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Beth B is probably reading. @beth4444.bsky.social · 16/10/2025

It occurs to me during these exciting soccer games leading up to state, that these anti-immigrant, white supremacist assholes have no idea about the true love and respect and teamwork happening on these beautifully diverse soccer teams in the HEARTLAND. 1/2

A proud Varsity soccer team in purple poses in the goal with their Sectional Award.

A thrilled varsity boys soccer team jumps and celebrates on the field jumps and claps and celebrates their first sectional title in 7 years.

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Beth B is probably reading. @beth4444.bsky.social · 08/10/2025

So this beautiful baby, Harry Styles-looking, National Merit Semi-Finalist boy of mine submitted the application to become a finalist and I am super proud but also I think the whole thing is a test to see who has the most stamina to complete all the forms, because DANG! So now... SHOW US THE MONEY!

5 yr old soccer boy smirks over his shoulder and the back of his jersey says Hollywood.

Winsome brown-eyed 1 yr old with copious brunette waves and curls looks at camera.

Harry Styles is on our sofa for some reason.

Supernaturally beautiful teenage boy with long brown curls smiles down at his homemade chocolate mixed-berry 17th birthday cake.

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Beth B is probably reading. @beth4444.bsky.social · 05/10/2025

I'm proud that I have the kind of relationship with my daughter that she texts me from the drag show on her 21st birthday out with friends, and calls me happy/tipsy with updates at 12:30am and to tell me she loves me.

Happy 21 yr old with friends in the red light of the club.

4 yr old little girl with her mama (me).

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Beth B is probably reading. @beth4444.bsky.social · 03/10/2025

Good morning from the dude in a dog suit, and pretty pretty princess! #dogsky

Enormous goldendoodle Teddy with wet chin, as uzh, reveals yet again that he is actually a person.

Fifi the cavapoo showcases yet again how pretty she is, with her cascading red waves and white chest markings, and deep brown eyes puppying right into your soul.

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Beth B is probably reading. @beth4444.bsky.social · 27/09/2025

In a first, I actually spent a gift card on *myself,* because the heart wants what it wants, especially when it's available for a limited time only.

Two boxes of the unparalleled Dark Coffee Scotchmallow, by See's Candies, as well as a bottle of Good Karma shower gel and a big ole tub of orange scented body scrub, from Lush. Arrayed on my desk at work.

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Beth B is probably reading. @beth4444.bsky.social · 15/09/2025

Girl do it. So much fun, even in anachronistic cat eye glasses! Also: take a set of amusing teenage girl twins that aren't yours.

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Beth B is probably reading. @beth4444.bsky.social · 11/09/2025

I love it. Everything is SO queenly and beautiful and I wish I'd been able to work with the accessorizers because yes, tasteful maximalism. I wanna swan around my castle in elegant caftans! I love the head flowers...but I've been having fun with that myself lately.

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Beth B is probably reading. @beth4444.bsky.social · 09/09/2025

Sitting in the tiny waiting area of the local mechanic getting a new battery, and I surprise-sneezed 3 times in rapid succession (like a good citizen, into my elbow) and this also-waiting manperson doesn't say, "Bless you," or, "Wo!" or "Ha, you sound like a cat," or ANYTHING. Boo! What a dickhead.

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Beth B is probably reading. @beth4444.bsky.social · 09/09/2025

Ginger was my first dog ever. As a cat person, a Chow mix was a good route in for me. She taught me about allowing the beings in my care to just go ahead and be fully who they are, even when they make mistakes. She also taught me about herding/supervising the unruly with a stern yet loving guidance

Black and white paint-by-number portrait of a sleeping Chow-Sheltie mix with one up ear and one down ear, hanging above an entryway closet. A tiny stuffed alien figure is poised above her, placed as an act of mischief she'd take issue with, by a sneaky 17 yr old boy. Visible in the room beyond is a goldendoodle looking to start some shit for fun.

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Beth B is probably reading. @beth4444.bsky.social · 27/08/2025

It's sweet when your gay son/coworker leaves you little notes.

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Beth B is probably reading. @beth4444.bsky.social · 19/08/2025

Do you have a gay kid? Highly recommend. 20/10.

Ethan and I doing some singing in the Red Rocks museum.

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Beth B is probably reading. @beth4444.bsky.social · 19/08/2025

My oldest kid, now 30, after so many heartbreaking years of mental health struggles and drug addiction, and several recent years of sobriety and healing, has auditioned and made it into the Indianapolis Symphonic Choir, and will be back in the land of his heart--serious SINGING. I weep & rejoice.

Precious peach of a placid baby, all cheeks.

Delicious toddler with blonde bowl haircut, yellow t-shirt, and blue plaid summer short overalls. Still much cheeks.

Halloween mama witch and 3 yr old skeleton in a front yard utterly filled with leaves.

Blonde 1st grade boy and his red-head mama with blonde streak touch foreheads, eyes closed, as usual.

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Beth B is probably reading. @beth4444.bsky.social · 17/08/2025

Monkey's exploration of the physics of glasses on faces ended up with a discovery about gravity.

Me with a pretty albino corn snake weaving her way from my shoulder, through my space bun, to the top of my head.

The snake has dropped down my forehead onto my glasses.

Blurry photo of me catching my falling glasses but not the snek.

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Beth B is probably reading. @beth4444.bsky.social · 09/08/2025

Sometimes the work conference swag just hits. Helps to be in the live events industry.

Me, red hair up in messy space buns, burgundy cat eye glasses, and a pale pink t-shirt that reads, "Get in Loser."

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Beth B is probably reading. @beth4444.bsky.social · 28/07/2025

It's so so hot. I hate it. Only low space buns will do.

Car selfie. Hey it's me! In all my 56 yr old summertime glory. Violent Femmes shirt I hacked the collar off of, burgundy tortoiseshell cat eye glasses, acid green magpie earrings, freshly re-redded hair in low, behind-the-ear messy space buns. Too much red lip gloss. Green eyes with metallic burgundy in the lower waterline. Surviving.

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Beth B is probably reading. @beth4444.bsky.social · 28/07/2025

These. Big bag of these. Not those dinky Sno-caps, either. The big old wagon wheel disks. Dark, not milk. Need now.

6 enormous dark chocolate nonpareil candies, crusted with the eeny teeny white balls. Old lady candy favorite of mine.

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Beth B is probably reading. @beth4444.bsky.social · 24/07/2025

One thing about having older kids is that they can do things. Like Quill making their brother Holland this beautiful chocolate cake with raspberry buttercream, dark chocolate ganache, and mixed berry compote filling for his 17th birthday.

A round layer cake on a crystal cake stand on a dining table with crimson striped tablecloth and gold runner. The cake has pink (raspberry) buttercream icing and a thick drip layer of chocolate ganache on the top, which is then completely covered with a beautiful circular mandala-ish design of raspberries, blueberries, blackberries and strawberries, which also run the perimeter of the base of the cake. There are red and blue birthday candles ready to be lit.

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Beth B is probably reading. @beth4444.bsky.social · 13/07/2025

My daughter sent me a photo of the cake from her bestie's 20th birthday party, and

Homemade birthday cake with orange icing, green rosettes around the perimeter, and blue lettering that reads, "Congrats on beating teen pregnancy." This is why our families are friends HA.

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Beth B is probably reading. @beth4444.bsky.social · 12/07/2025

And also: wtf. Tiny me would like a word.

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