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BDSMsocial 🔐 @bdsmsocial.bsky.social · 06/10/2026

I am Martin and this is BDSMsocial. Here I talk about power, consent and boundaries - and the conversations that make them work. My lenses: BDSM, polyamory and life as a gay man. Agreement is not required. Respect and curiosity are. #consent #communication #boundaries #polyamory #lgbtq

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BDSMsocial 🔐 @bdsmsocial.bsky.social · 03/10/2026

I know I know. But in order to get closer to my goal of longer term chastity, I've just ordered some ball weights. Maybe in one or two years my ball sack is large enough to fit comfortably into chastity cage devices...

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BDSMsocial 🔐 @bdsmsocial.bsky.social · 26/09/2026

With a little help from Mrs AI 😉🫣

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AZKinkyDom @azkinkydom.bsky.social · 26/09/2026

“I DON’T THINK THAT’S ALL OF IT” The twunk #AZBoy236 rides a double-ended dildo into #AZBoy317. It gets him so excited that he shoots 2X back-to-back (pun!) What you don’t see: the boys have the doubledildo up their holes. So when the top bounces on it, it fucks the bottom hard. #cum #gaykink

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𝖯𝗎𝗉 𝖥𝗅𝖾𝗍𝖼𝗁𝖾𝗋🏳️‍🌈🇦🇹🔐♤ @pupfletcher.bsky.social · 26/09/2026

Not just trying I am getting pleasure from it 😁 I am beyond the point where pleasure means having an orgasm. You can have great sex without cuming. The orgasm is just the tiny peak at the end. I care much more for everything that happens before 🥰

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BDSMsocial 🔐 @bdsmsocial.bsky.social · 25/09/2026

Hottest head harness/gag EVER. I already get horny when someone puts a regular gag in my mouth, but with this one, I think I would cum hands free in my pants...

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BDSMsocial 🔐 @bdsmsocial.bsky.social · 25/09/2026

Anyone in Frankfurt / passing through Frankfurt and in need of a CBT victim? DM me 😍😈

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BDSMsocial 🔐 @bdsmsocial.bsky.social · 18/09/2026

Connection is not a competition. An hour of total presence holds its own value, no matter what comes before or after. When a connection is real, your mind stops measuring and simply surrenders to the moment. Stop measuring. Start living it. ✨ #Kink #Polyamory #MindfulSex #Presence #BDSM

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BDSMsocial 🔐 @bdsmsocial.bsky.social · 16/09/2026

Just before the vacation. Off on Friday. 😃🤩

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BDSMsocial 🔐 @bdsmsocial.bsky.social · 15/09/2026

So horny when watching this. And so jealous. 😍😈

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rbbrnorthladuk.bsky.social @rbbrnorthladuk.bsky.social · 09/12/2024

Let’s wipe that mind, Slave. Edging drone hypno… helped with some poppers brain frying… then slowly teased… there was nothing I could do but accept and melt away… “Slave will obey. Slave will stay horny like this for hours. Slave is an obedient rubber drone. It will comply. It will not cum” 🫠🫠🤤🤤

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BDSMsocial 🔐 @bdsmsocial.bsky.social · 29/08/2026

"Monogamy doesn't work." "Open relationships never work." Both are the same move: turning what worked for you into a law for everyone. #polyamory #monogamy #bdsmsocial #relationships

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BDSMsocial 🔐 @bdsmsocial.bsky.social · 28/08/2026

Fcken. Schwnz. Eier. What makes us blush shifts over time, but hard conversations never get easier. My latest video shares how a TV show helped me talk to my husband about deep kink desires. Where is your comfort zone? What movie or book opened doors for you? #Relationships #Communication #Kink

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BDSMsocial 🔐 @bdsmsocial.bsky.social · 22/08/2026

Mmmmhhhh, sigh. So nice, so helpless, and yet so safe, treasured, accepted... 😍❤️

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BDSMsocial 🔐 @bdsmsocial.bsky.social · 19/08/2026

Hadn't noticed the beard yet. Looking good 👍👍👍

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BDSMsocial 🔐 @bdsmsocial.bsky.social · 15/08/2026

Meeting your boss's boss for the first time isn't about hierarchy. It's about missing ground rules - same as meeting a new Master before you've negotiated anything. Whatever power he holds, it doesn't touch who I am. #powerdynamics #consentculture #bdsmsocial #leadership

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BDSMsocial 🔐 @bdsmsocial.bsky.social · 14/08/2026

There's a script for birthdays: wait for the day, be the center of attention, collect gifts. I broke most of it on purpose - dinner the night before, no announcement, no gifts, I'm buying. Not rebellion. Just choosing what actually fits. #polyamory #chosenfamily #bdsmsocial

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Into Gimps 🇵🇱🇧🇪 @into-gimps.bsky.social · 28/07/2026

Breathing is a privilege and even the noisiest yelling will not change that 😎🤷🏼 But still, my dear rubber gimp, it doesn’t cost much to try, right? 😈

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BDSMsocial 🔐 @bdsmsocial.bsky.social · 09/08/2026

Imagine a blind date built on total mismatch. On Aug 30, #DeutschlandSpricht pairs opposites face-to-face. What would make you more uncomfortable: facing someone who hates your politics, or someone who rejects how you love? Let me know in the comments. #tolerance #kinkeducation

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SadisticEdgingCBT @sadisticedgingcbt.bsky.social · 08/08/2026

The formula for a good time: (Big tits + gentle clamps) × 10 minutes = A harder cock + a very happy sadist. Results may vary. (They won't.)

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BDSMsocial 🔐 @bdsmsocial.bsky.social · 07/08/2026

Four small things, one shape. What someone says about themselves, against what they actually do. I was on the wrong side of that in two of them. The video at the top is one. This thread is the rest.

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BDSMsocial 🔐 @bdsmsocial.bsky.social · 07/08/2026

And one more. I am submissive. A guy told me he had a little BDSM experience. We met, he had none at all. Submitting means someone else carries things for a while. When they cannot, you carry them and act like you are not. Two jobs. I would have said yes to teaching him, if he had asked.

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BDSMsocial 🔐 @bdsmsocial.bsky.social · 07/08/2026

Different story, same week. My dating app was dead for weeks, then suddenly five guys at once, all juggling parallel chats. My reaction was sheer overwhelm. Which surprised me - I am polyamorous and married. Managing multiple connections is my normal.

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BDSMsocial 🔐 @bdsmsocial.bsky.social · 07/08/2026

The worst part of being ghosted is not the missing evening. It is the missing reason. Tell me you met someone else. Tell me I am not your type. Tell me you have doubts. I can understand that and be done with it. Silence gives me nothing to close.

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BDSMsocial 🔐 @bdsmsocial.bsky.social · 07/08/2026

The easy line about him would be that nobody can commit anymore. I do not think that is it. Committing has not changed. Breaking it got cheap. Standing someone up used to cost you the bar you both drank in. Now it costs you a closed tab.

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BDSMsocial 🔐 @bdsmsocial.bsky.social · 07/08/2026

That video came out of one week of my life. The same week left me four more things that did not fit into it. The first two are still about the same guy.

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BDSMsocial 🔐 @bdsmsocial.bsky.social · 07/08/2026

I complained that a guy would not commit to a date. Then I read the chat again and found my own fingerprints on it. In kink I would never accept a yes I had to ask for three times. In a text message about a date, I called it being concrete. #BDSM #dating #bdsmsocial #consent

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BDSMsocial 🔐 @bdsmsocial.bsky.social · 02/08/2026

Work my nose in your crotch, Sir 😍

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BDSMsocial 🔐 @bdsmsocial.bsky.social · 31/07/2026

So I'm walking into this with butterflies, still not knowing how it goes, but as an equal. I won't walk in on my knees. Though maybe that will come later, Sir 😉😈

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BDSMsocial 🔐 @bdsmsocial.bsky.social · 31/07/2026

In kink, dynamic power gets negotiated on purpose. That's the whole point of it, we name it instead of pretending it isn't there. But human value isn't part of that negotiation. It's equal before either of us says a word.

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BDSMsocial 🔐 @bdsmsocial.bsky.social · 31/07/2026

The person I was measuring myself against wasn't him. It was a fantasy I built from a profile and some great conversations. The real him almost certainly has his own history, his own doubts, his own nerves about meeting someone new too.

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BDSMsocial 🔐 @bdsmsocial.bsky.social · 31/07/2026

I recorded a whole script about that. Edit done. Ready to upload. Then I sat with it for a few days, and the thing I thought was the insight turned out to be half of it.

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BDSMsocial 🔐 @bdsmsocial.bsky.social · 31/07/2026

The problem was never me falling short. The problem was the measuring stick itself. I had adjusted it based on that amazing person I was hoping to meet.

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BDSMsocial 🔐 @bdsmsocial.bsky.social · 31/07/2026

And an old habit kicked in. Doubt. Not about him, he'd given me zero reasons to doubt anything. The doubt was about me. Polished enough. Experienced enough. Measuring up to the image I'd built of him.

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BDSMsocial 🔐 @bdsmsocial.bsky.social · 31/07/2026

I connected with a Dominant online. Sharp, highly visible in the scene, incredible presence. We hit it off nicely, warm and playful, deeper than I expected. We're meeting in person in a couple of weeks.

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BDSMsocial 🔐 @bdsmsocial.bsky.social · 31/07/2026

I recorded a video a few days ago. I was ready to post it. Then I deleted it. And made a new one. Here's the whole story. #BDSM #PowerExchange #submission #SelfWorth

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