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AskCourtney / Trauma Counselor @askcourtney.bsky.social · 29/03/2025

QUESTION: do you think trauma causes cheating?

AskCourtney / Trauma Counselor @askcourtney.bsky.social · 27/01/2025

ICE was seen in my FRIEND’S neighborhood. “It looked like images from Nazi’s that I remember seeing as a child in a book.”

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AskCourtney / Trauma Counselor @askcourtney.bsky.social · 26/01/2025

THIS SHIT IS TRAUMATIC. How do we survive these years to come…

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AskCourtney / Trauma Counselor @askcourtney.bsky.social · 26/01/2025

Separating families might make headlines, but the lasting harm is real and doesn’t go away with a commercial break.

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AskCourtney / Trauma Counselor @askcourtney.bsky.social · 25/01/2025

FRIEND: Hey, going to @target tomorrow - need anything? ME: a new store to shop. They ended their DEI policy. FRIEND: I’m still going to target but now to FA and they will FO.

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AskCourtney / Trauma Counselor @askcourtney.bsky.social · 24/01/2025

It’s 3 weeks into January, and BURNOUT is here.

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AskCourtney / Trauma Counselor @askcourtney.bsky.social · 23/01/2025

“Why do you post about politics. You’re a therapist” “Therapy is political. To sit here and think that politics don’t shape the framework in which we navigate this world is Ignorant”

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AskCourtney / Trauma Counselor @askcourtney.bsky.social · 23/01/2025

Sounds like a safe space for women to elevate ❤️

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AskCourtney / Trauma Counselor @askcourtney.bsky.social · 23/01/2025

The DEEPEST form of trauma healing happens when you stop trying to outrun the pain and start letting it teach you something new.

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AskCourtney / Trauma Counselor @askcourtney.bsky.social · 23/01/2025

What is the algorithm over here? No one sees anything 😂

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AskCourtney / Trauma Counselor @askcourtney.bsky.social · 23/01/2025

WAIT A MINUTE...are we REALLY thinking that FASCISM and AUTISM are interchangeable? FULL STOP.

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AskCourtney / Trauma Counselor @askcourtney.bsky.social · 23/01/2025

TENNESSEE JUST HAD A SCHOOL SHOOTING…HERE TF WE ARE worrying about TIKTOK but we haven’t banned these weapons. ✨Josselin Corea Escalante✨

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AskCourtney / Trauma Counselor @askcourtney.bsky.social · 22/01/2025

HEALING TRAUMA is like learning to dance with your pain—sometimes you lead, sometimes it does, but you both move in harmony.

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AskCourtney / Trauma Counselor @askcourtney.bsky.social · 22/01/2025

HEALING TRAUMA is like learning to dance with your pain—sometimes you lead, sometimes it does, but you both move in harmony.

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AskCourtney / Trauma Counselor @askcourtney.bsky.social · 19/01/2025

TIKTOK WAS BANNED before CHILD SA VIDEOS (pornography For those who don’t know what I mean even though it isn’t considered porn but abuse), ASSAULT rifles, etc. It goes to show that if THEY WANTED to they WOULD.

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AskCourtney / Trauma Counselor @askcourtney.bsky.social · 17/01/2025

REDNOTE opinion: I can’t. It doesn’t feel right to go and invade an app full of cultural identity. I made an account and just sat there observing. People on threads seem to think I’m crazy - I’m choosing to listen to well-known Chinese bloggers who are frustrated. #rednote

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AskCourtney / Trauma Counselor @askcourtney.bsky.social · 16/01/2025

I am NOT responsible for the thoughts other people have about what I post. I CANNOT give every single angle under the SUN with 50 characters. ✋🛑 full stop. If someone wants to think I’m telling them something I’m not, that’s on them.

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AskCourtney / Trauma Counselor @askcourtney.bsky.social · 16/01/2025

BOX BREATHING will ACTIVATE your Parasympathetic Nervous System and get your body out of your Autonomic Nervous System. IT WORKS. BODY work is KEY to healing.

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AskCourtney / Trauma Counselor @askcourtney.bsky.social · 16/01/2025

THE more you try to ESCAPE the pain the DEEPER it becomes which is turn creates MORE pain. You cannot escape it but you can FACE IT.

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AskCourtney / Trauma Counselor @askcourtney.bsky.social · 15/01/2025

80% of women who have autoimmune diseases have TRAUMA.

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AskCourtney / Trauma Counselor @askcourtney.bsky.social · 15/01/2025

Stop calling yourself an ally if you aren’t willing to speak up when you see something that shouldn’t be happening. That’s being a quiet accomplice.

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AskCourtney / Trauma Counselor @askcourtney.bsky.social · 14/01/2025

I teach my clients that two things can be true at the same time and when we don’t honor or recognize that it can cause cognitive dissonance. ❤️

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AskCourtney / Trauma Counselor @askcourtney.bsky.social · 14/01/2025

STEPPING outside your comfort zone doesn’t mean allowing poor behavior because you need to “develop thick skin”. Know the difference.

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AskCourtney / Trauma Counselor @askcourtney.bsky.social · 14/01/2025

As we enter into the next four years with a convicted felon as president, we need to truly reflect on what message that is giving. The message that we give is, if you got enough money and power you cannot and will not be held responsible for your actions. That means that GREED will ooze.

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AskCourtney / Trauma Counselor @askcourtney.bsky.social · 13/01/2025

THERE IS THE WORD CARE in HEALTHCARE. That should mean something.

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AskCourtney / Trauma Counselor @askcourtney.bsky.social · 13/01/2025

The stigma surrounding trauma and mental health prevents not only the people who need it to seek it but the people who are in control of offering it to others to NOT prioritize getting it covered BECAUSE of the stigma.

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AskCourtney / Trauma Counselor @askcourtney.bsky.social · 13/01/2025

BEST HEALING ADVICE I ever got was to make sure I took PAUSE before saying YES to anyone. The people pleasing in me healed so much faster.

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AskCourtney / Trauma Counselor @askcourtney.bsky.social · 12/01/2025

If their apology and changed behavior doesn’t match the pain of what they did, your nervous system will definitely have trust issues.

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AskCourtney / Trauma Counselor @askcourtney.bsky.social · 11/01/2025

Just because your partner has changed their behavior doesn’t mean that your NERVOUS SYSTEM believes them. It took time to develop TRAUMA and it will take time to develop TRUST.

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AskCourtney / Trauma Counselor @askcourtney.bsky.social · 09/01/2025

You water down your value when you make yourself overly available.

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AskCourtney / Trauma Counselor @askcourtney.bsky.social · 08/01/2025

An apology won’t heal a nervous system and some people just don’t get that.

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AskCourtney / Trauma Counselor @askcourtney.bsky.social · 07/01/2025

IF you have stuck to your resolutions, COMMENT below ⬇️

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AskCourtney / Trauma Counselor @askcourtney.bsky.social · 02/01/2025

I keep forgetting this app even exist because I literally talk to myself.

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AskCourtney / Trauma Counselor @askcourtney.bsky.social · 22/12/2024

I keep forgetting this app exist. It may also be that I don’t get an ounce of Dopamine from it #adhd

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AskCourtney / Trauma Counselor @askcourtney.bsky.social · 18/12/2024

Self-care isn’t what you do at the end of the day when you got time. That’s after-care. Self-care is taking care of yourself before anyone else.

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AskCourtney / Trauma Counselor @askcourtney.bsky.social · 18/12/2024

HOW DO you let go? One way is to tell yourself outloud with emotion -“I choose to let this go” over and over until you feel a shift in your energy. Whenever I am stuck, I do that over and over throughout the day every time I think about it until it lessens. Then I focus on a logical task.

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AskCourtney / Trauma Counselor @askcourtney.bsky.social · 17/12/2024

Everyone hates you until everyone loves you then everyone hates you because you’re loved. JUST LOVE YOURSELF.

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AskCourtney / Trauma Counselor @askcourtney.bsky.social · 16/12/2024

BAWLING. My oldest, (28), just sent me a video of my son who will be 15 in under two weeks from when he was a baby. I CANNOT. This mama’s heart aches so deeply that I can’t find the words to express how I feel. I wish I had more time. ❤️

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AskCourtney / Trauma Counselor @askcourtney.bsky.social · 16/12/2024

Growing is such a journey and there’s no right or wrong way. There are just lessons. Some lessons are easy while others cause great pain. 💕

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AskCourtney / Trauma Counselor @askcourtney.bsky.social · 14/12/2024

10 year old: Mom...thank you. ME: For what, love? 10 year old: For really working on yourself and for keeping your energy calm. Me: *tears welling up... "You deserve the best of me" 10 year old: You deserve the best of you. I am DONE and crying...

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AskCourtney / Trauma Counselor @askcourtney.bsky.social · 13/12/2024

1. Giving context 🚫 gaslighting 5. Saying “you misunderstood me” or “I didn’t necessarily mean it like that” 🚫 gaslighting (in many cases/nuance here) 6. Remembering an event differently 🚫 gaslighting (nuance if it is intentional abuse). 7. Trying to get someone to see your viewpoint 🚫 gaslighting

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AskCourtney / Trauma Counselor @askcourtney.bsky.social · 12/12/2024

I NEED to hear something GOOD today ❤️ Share something because I could use some sunshine ☀️

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AskCourtney / Trauma Counselor @askcourtney.bsky.social · 09/12/2024

People CAN ONLY meet you at the depths they have met THEMSELVES.

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AskCourtney / Trauma Counselor @askcourtney.bsky.social · 08/12/2024

NO ONE will attack a mental health professional MORE than another Mental Health professional. That’s typically because one is intimated by the other and it shines a light on how LITTLE they know. When a MH professional attacks me, I can pinpoint EXACTLY why and I’ll let them know.

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