iiinova — where your digital self keeps evolving

Allison Whitney @allisonwhitney.bsky.social · 16h

They still sound like Robert Mitchum. His voice in that film is as haunting as anything.

110

Allison Whitney @allisonwhitney.bsky.social · 09/10/2026

Maybe but she nailed the effects of climate change and atomized community before anyone else did.

1100

Allison Whitney @allisonwhitney.bsky.social · 09/10/2026

Never liked Andy Dick even when he was popular so it’s good to feel perpetually vindicated.

060

Allison Whitney @allisonwhitney.bsky.social · 09/10/2026

Hope for all of us yearning lesbians everywhere. I just sacrificed three extra hours of sleep because a jaw-droppingly beautiful woman sat next to me as I was about to leave this lesbian bar and asked me about my job.

1130

Allison Whitney @allisonwhitney.bsky.social · 09/10/2026

99/100 critical score. Don’t think I’ve seen that yet.

010

Allison Whitney @allisonwhitney.bsky.social · 09/10/2026

If that’s not a Lesbian story, idk what the fuck is.

160

Allison Whitney @allisonwhitney.bsky.social · 08/10/2026

Gotta block “Bernard Berrian” from his search.

130

Allison Whitney @allisonwhitney.bsky.social · 08/10/2026

We have to recover our sense of differentiating between good and bad faith. It’s making people lose it.

142

Allison Whitney @allisonwhitney.bsky.social · 06/10/2026

From one of her songs... "They put up chain-link fences underneath the biggest bridges They pose in Christmas cards with guns as big as all their children They say that Jesus is the way, but then they gave him a white face So they don't have to pray to someone they deem lesser than them"

2383

Allison Whitney @allisonwhitney.bsky.social · 04/10/2026

Bottom line is the same with everything (and I’ve had this argument with pastoral colleagues too when they patronize/condescend houseless or impoverished people): a person’s dignity is their business. You love them for who they are. You don’t need to “validate“ them. No one needs that.

131

Allison Whitney @allisonwhitney.bsky.social · 02/10/2026

Nikki Dial. I see you are a person of culture as well.

110

Allison Whitney @allisonwhitney.bsky.social · 30/09/2026

Reed has a prominent place in trans journalism. That should be questioned. Can it be questioned without it being personal? Y'all need to remember that.

000

Allison Whitney @allisonwhitney.bsky.social · 30/09/2026

Y'all didn't learn much about Last Ditch, did ya? Queer community in-fighting packaged to draw yuk yuks and tut tuts from straight people. WTF do you think is gonna happen if this breaks contain? The Secretary of War just called us a slur in public and gets to keep his job.

100

Allison Whitney @allisonwhitney.bsky.social · 30/09/2026

I loved Carved Bark and it inspired me to seek out Kay Gabriel's work, which is amazing. Back in February, I started noticing getting attention from men and it left me with weird, contradictory feelings (still does but I at least understand them now). Both your piece and Kay's helped me a lot.

110

Allison Whitney @allisonwhitney.bsky.social · 29/09/2026

That makes four! I really want to write about it some day and talk about the trans somatic mysticism that I think is going on but I need to rewatch it.

010

Allison Whitney @allisonwhitney.bsky.social · 29/09/2026

She was amazing in Mother Mary, a movie only I and three other people love but we do so with our souls. She was enjoyable earnest in the otherwise forgettable Devil Wears Prada 2.

110

Allison Whitney @allisonwhitney.bsky.social · 26/09/2026

In my ignorance, I assumed pre-parenting that the carrier would be the easiest thing in the world and I, a cisman at the time and proud of my manly feminism, would be able to do it no problem. Whoops!

270

Allison Whitney @allisonwhitney.bsky.social · 26/09/2026

Exactly. There were plenty of times when my wife or I were like "I'll just do it" cuz it was easier to do the busy activity with it on rather than waste time un/re-strapping.

3970

Allison Whitney @allisonwhitney.bsky.social · 26/09/2026

The part about her taking him to the game because his friend just died…people seriously need to log tf off. Also, as someone who once wore a carrier, it’s often easier just to keep it on and run errands cuz the process of taking those off is cumbersome.

55750

Allison Whitney @allisonwhitney.bsky.social · 26/09/2026

This feels like it’s from a more innocent time. Now companies just cater to their asshat fanbois while doing an International Women’s Day post on social media and calling it equality.

0180

Allison Whitney @allisonwhitney.bsky.social · 26/09/2026

Aside from Esposito’s performance, the thing I think about when Breaking Bad (the number 1 show on the Times list) crosses my mind is Anna Gunn’s op-ed asking men to please not be misogynistic dickheads towards her character. web.archive.org/web/20140115...

web.archive.org

I Have a Character Issue

Why do people dislike my character on “Breaking Bad”?

3342

Allison Whitney @allisonwhitney.bsky.social · 25/09/2026

Anyway you should see Camp Miasma and read this. It’s on MUBI next Friday.

170

Allison Whitney @allisonwhitney.bsky.social · 25/09/2026

What I love about Talia’s writing the most, whether I agree or disagree, is she starts from the point of loving women. Loving womanhood. That love is my gender as much as it is my sex. This was almost as cathartic as the movie itself.

So I'm glad to see a love story between a woman and her mirror, for once. To let myself get lost in the primal, libidinal experience of admiring your own reflection, of liking what you see so much you can't help but want to sink into her. I love women, including myself, though I love the woman I see reflected in my lovers' eyes most of
all.
More of you should try it. It fucking rules.

2344

Allison Whitney @allisonwhitney.bsky.social · 25/09/2026

It’s why I do not apologize for crying every time I read sapphic fiction!!! It’s also why I think lesbians who constantly make “haha lesbian” jokes are doing more harm than good (hello W Massachusettes lez bar) but Another Story Another Day.

We still struggle with the idea that a woman who desires—let alone a woman who desires women—is gauche, bad, “cringe” to depict. Most critiques of romance books and “chicklit” such as Twilight or 50 Shades are less grounded in that genre’s unrepentant conservatism and more a misogynistic impulse to punish female expressions of sexuality. Even when they are perfectly clean-cut, hyperfeminine, heterosexual expressions. Wish fulfilment for women is invariably interpreted as writing about perfect individuals who desire us in exactly the ways we want, rather than being that individual expressing desire in harsh, uncompromising, imperfect ways.

Because if we do that, all we’re doing is “writing a man and changing the pronouns”—a strange charge, but one yet often levied.

120

Allison Whitney @allisonwhitney.bsky.social · 25/09/2026

There’s a reason why Brat cracked so many eggs.

Feminism's alleged fixation on policing desire is the result of the policing of women's desire as a whole, the result of women being equally envied and pathologized and celebrated and abhorred for being desired, being sexual, being sex. Put a mirror in her hand and call it "vanity" — but what is someone, who knows that the sum of her worth is in the eyes of others, supposed to be but vain? How is she to disentangle the Gordian knot, wade through the toxic miasma of wanting to be at once desired and freed from the shackles
of desire? What does it mean to want and be wanted in a world where wanting is anathema, and being wanted the very source of our Confinement?

130

Allison Whitney @allisonwhitney.bsky.social · 25/09/2026

I’m a femme4femme gal myself but this is an excellent point.

This is also a tension that seems to plague lesbians just as much as it does straight women, if not more. After all, the idea that sex between a masculine and a feminine woman-or sex between women that involves a strap-on, or involves any kind of penetration, even with tongues and fingers—isn't lesbian sex, didn't arise in a vacuum. It stems primarily from the psyche-splitting paradox that is, in and of itself, lesbian existence: sexuality void of men and manhood, the domain of men invoked and exercised in a realm free of men entirely. Is a butch not, fundamentally, a man? Is desire for the masculine by the feminine, even between masculine and feminine women, not inherently a
heterosexual desire?
And other assorted nonsense.

140

Allison Whitney @allisonwhitney.bsky.social · 25/09/2026

I wouldn’t have understood this feeling without estradiol!

To be a woman, a man, or neither, is to be caught between every contradictory maxim laid at our feet by an indifferent, unfeeling social order whose only concern is to reproduce itself. It cares not for the impossibility of desiring without wanting to be desired, for the contradiction that lays bare how wanting to be desired is, in itself, a desire-this is the script,
and these are our roles. Perform or perish.
Well, sometimes the little death is preferable.

1182

Allison Whitney @allisonwhitney.bsky.social · 25/09/2026

This isn't an excuse for Parker to post shitty stuff. It's not an excuse for me to be shitty either! But it's why I keep saying what I'm saying about trans people: leave us alone. Leave. Us. Alone. If one of us sucks online, block/mute and move tf on. If I can do it, you can do it.

030

Allison Whitney @allisonwhitney.bsky.social · 25/09/2026

My body has never responded well to testosterone. Even the methods to get my T back to the level of a functioning human still takes a lot out of me. I tried to stretch an estradiol patch last year and went an extra day by accident. I got stuck at a 3-hour church service and was MISERABLE. It sucks

130

Allison Whitney @allisonwhitney.bsky.social · 24/09/2026

The last night of the season was more wild than most playoff games.

100

Allison Whitney @allisonwhitney.bsky.social · 24/09/2026

As a native Baltimorean who thinks the term DMV should be abolished, I regret my error lol.

010

Allison Whitney @allisonwhitney.bsky.social · 24/09/2026

The eyes, love. Don't even need to see behind the sunglasses to see.

010

Allison Whitney @allisonwhitney.bsky.social · 24/09/2026

I think it’s taking a poorly mediated intra-community fight and blowing it up into a tabloid-shaped “look at these messy SJ warrior Lesbians” way for cishet consumption.

1150

Allison Whitney @allisonwhitney.bsky.social · 23/09/2026

Talented Mr. Ripley Single White Female

161

Allison Whitney @allisonwhitney.bsky.social · 23/09/2026

Like 90% of Martin Scorsese's body of work is how he secretly wishes he was a priest or a gangster.

1150

Allison Whitney @allisonwhitney.bsky.social · 23/09/2026

Yes and yes. Having been in a similar situation in a queer space, I find this all sadly familiar . Like...the impoverished bar owner living out of their vehicle is not your enemy, even if she didn't use the best language (I guess? I'm not gonna wade into Mask Discourse again, it's 20fucking26).

1130

Allison Whitney @allisonwhitney.bsky.social · 23/09/2026

I‘ve had the name of California’s governor muted since last July and the improvement to my mental health has been incalculable.

240

Allison Whitney @allisonwhitney.bsky.social · 21/09/2026

Yep. I often find the best way to support another trans person is to go “Huh…that’s a take.“ and move on.

030

Allison Whitney @allisonwhitney.bsky.social · 19/09/2026

Yeah I would really just want to pick your brain about transition, life, etc so coffee or drinks, what have you.

010

Allison Whitney @allisonwhitney.bsky.social · 19/09/2026

I was out earlier, love! You look great! 🔥🥵

100

Allison Whitney @allisonwhitney.bsky.social · 18/09/2026

Mike. three-syllable chants are nigh impossible unless the name has rhythm and Elias doesn‘t.

121

Allison Whitney @allisonwhitney.bsky.social · 18/09/2026

The solution to rape culture is never ever rape culture.

070

Allison Whitney @allisonwhitney.bsky.social · 18/09/2026

This is a “It’s the economy, stupid” election even more than most.

041

Allison Whitney @allisonwhitney.bsky.social · 18/09/2026

I agree with all your saying and also, for the love of God and to all the “politics is 3d chess” people: this isn’t a social issues election!!! People are fucking broke! If anything, this is the best time to support trans rights cuz you can yoke MAGA bigotry to economics.

171

Allison Whitney @allisonwhitney.bsky.social · 18/09/2026

For them yes. There are exceptions to be made.

020