A good intense D/s dynamic often doesn't look like it behind the scenes. Behind the scenes everything gets communicated, everything gets clearly expanded on, and consent and communication are mission-critical.
You'll see me posting about my Master all the time, but what you don't see is the talking
If you saw behind the scenes between mutt and I, you would understand why mutt took me out of basically Domme retirement. I didn't want to take on a sub full time again because it's WORK.
But mutt is special. We communicate constantly. We have shifted and changed things when needed.