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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @ask-aubry.com · 28/08/2025

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AIO? my boyfriend (33M) has decided to "optimize" our relationship, and I'm losing my mind

I (30F) have been dating him for eight months, and things were great until about three weeks ago, when he came back from a work training about "process efficiency" and decided to apply it to us. Now, every Sunday night, he schedules a "relationship debrief." He wants us to sit down and talk through what went well that week, what didn't, and how we can "improve outcomes."

At first, I thought it was kind of cute and harmless, but it's escalating. He tracks little things we do, like how often we text during the day or how many nights we have dinner together, and then brings them up in these sessions like they're performance reviews. He even made a small chart to "visualize trends."

Last night, I said I was too tired to do it, and he got frustrated and said I was "not engaging with the process." I told him I just want our relationship to feel natural, not like a work project, but he insists this will make us "stronger as a team." My friends think it's hilarious and tell me to play along, but honestly, it's starting to feel exhausting.

Am I overreacting for wanting him to stop turning our relationship into a weekly meeting? AlO?

Cam @tipsytarsier.bsky.social · 28/08/2025

Next thing you know, he'll make her read "Who Moved My Cheese?" 🙄

joules Pass The Equality Act! 🩷💜💙 @joules542.bsky.social · 29/08/2025

Then he'll make her re-enact it!🐭